Ukuqonda ukudinwa kwesigqibo

Umxholo

• Ingaba isebenza kanjani
• Imizekelo yemihla ngemihla
• Ukucwangciswa kwesidlo
• Ukulawula izigqibo emsebenzini
• Indlela yokuyiqonda
• Iimpawu zokudinwa kwesigqibo
• Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo
• Gxila ekuzinyamekeleni
• Yenza uluhlu lwezona zigqibo zibaluleke kakhulu
• Yiba nefilosofi yobuqu yezigqibo ezinkulu
• Nciphisa izigqibo ezizezona ziphantsi
• Gcina iindlela ezingatshintshiyo
• Khetha ukutya okulula okusempilweni
• Vumela abanye bancede
• Gcina iithebhu kwimeko yakho yengqondo neyomzimba
• Bhiyozela izigqibo zakho ezilungileyo
• Umgca wezantsi

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Sijongene namakhulu okhetho lwemihla ngemihla-ukusuka kwinto yokutya isidlo sasemini (ipasta okanye isushi?) Ukuya kwizigqibo ezinzima ngakumbi ezibandakanya impilo-ntle yethu ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasezimalini nangokomzimba.

Nokuba womelele kangakanani, amandla akho okwenza ukhetho olugqityiweyo unokugqitywa ngenxa yokudinwa kwesigqibo. Elo ligama elisemthethweni lolo luvo xa uxinezeleke kakhulu linani elingenasiphelo lezigqibo ekufuneka uzenzile imini yonke.

"Ukuyiqonda kunokuba yinkohliso kuba iya kuhlala iziva ngathi iyindinisa," utsho umcebisi onelayisensi, uJoe Martino, ongeze ngelithi kusichaphazela ngakumbi kunokuba besicinga.

Ukufunda indlela yokulawula izigqibo zakho kunokukunceda ukuba ungaziva udiniwe kwaye ulondoloze amandla akho engqondo. Nantsi into ekufuneka uyazi.

Ingaba isebenza kanjani

Ihlanganiswe ngugqirha wezengqondo uRoy F. Baumeister, ukukhathala kwezigqibo kukuxinezeleka ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo ngenxa yomthwalo wokhetho.

"Xa abantu bexinezelekile, sikhawuleza okanye sivale ngokupheleleyo, kwaye uxinzelelo ludlala indima enkulu ekuziphatheni kwethu," kusho uTonya Hansel, PhD, umlawuli we-Doctorate of Social Work kwiYunivesithi yaseTulane.

Ucacisa ukuba olu hlobo lokudinwa lukhokelela kwiziphumo ezi-1 kwezimbini: ukuthatha izigqibo ezinobungozi okanye ukuthintela izigqibo.

Ngamanye amagama, xa amandla akho engqondo eqala ukusebenza phantsi, awunako ukugqitha kwiminqweno esisiseko kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba uye nakweyiphi na elula.

Imizekelo yemihla ngemihla

Ukudinwa kwesigqibo kunokubonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Nanku ukujonga iimeko ezi-2 eziqhelekileyo:

Ukucwangciswa kwesidlo

Zimbalwa izinto ezinoxinzelelo njengokucinga rhoqo ngento oza kuyitya yonke imihla. Oku kubangelwe linani elikhulu lezigqibo ezichaphazelekayo (enkosi, kwi-intanethi).

Umzekelo, mhlawumbi uskrolela kwiindlela ezininzi zokupheka, ulinde enye ukuba ibonakale. Ngaphandle… zonke zikhangeleka zilungile. Ukoyiswa, ukhetha ngokungakhethiyo ngaphandle kokujonga ngokuthe ngqo ukuba yintoni ebandakanyekayo.

Emva kokwenza uluhlu lwakho, usiya kwivenkile yokutya, kuphela ukuze ujonge ama-20 okanye ngaphezulu ukhetho lobisi kuphela.

Ufika ekhaya kwaye uyaqonda ukuba awuyi kuba nexesha lokufumana looresiphi kude kube yile mpelaveki. Nelo bisi ulithengileyo? Ayilulo uhlobo iresiphi eyabizwayo.

Ukulawula izigqibo emsebenzini

UHansel uthi: “Ukufuna iimpendulo kunokutshintsha indlela elula yokwenza izigqibo.

Masithi udliwanondlebe nabantu ukuze ugcwalise indima entsha. Ufumana itoni yabagqatswa abafanelekileyo kwaye uzifumana usokola ukunciphisa uluhlu lube linani elinokulawuleka.

Ekupheleni kosuku, ngekhe ubagcine ngokuthe tye kwaye ukhethe nje abafaki-zicelo aba-3 amagama abo uwakhumbulayo kudliwanondlebe. Ukwenza ukhetho lwakho ngale ndlela, unokujonga abanye babagqatswa abomeleleyo.

Indlela yokuyiqonda

Khumbula, ukudinwa kwesigqibo akusoloko kulula ukusibona. Kodwa uHansel unikezela ngemiqondiso exela ukuba unokuya kudinwa.

Iimpawu zokudinwa kwesigqibo

Iimpawu zakudala zesigqibo sokudinwa kubandakanya:

• Ukucinga ngaphambi kokuba usebenze. "Ndiza kuyenza le nto kamva."
• Ukunyanzelwa. “Yithi, meeny, miny, moe…”
• Ukuphepha. "Andikwazi ukujongana nale nto ngoku."
• Ukungazithembi. Xa ndithandabuza, ndithi 'hayi.' ”

Ixesha elingaphezulu, olu hlobo loxinzelelo lunokukhokelela ekucaphukeni, uxinzelelo olonyukayo, uxinzelelo, kunye nefuthe lomzimba, ezinje ngeentloko zentloko kunye nemicimbi yokwetyisa.

Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo

Eyona ndlela yokuthintela ukukhathala kwesigqibo sokudinwa kwamandla kukuqondisa iingcinga kunye nezenzo zakho.

Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokuba uqalise:

Gxila ekuzinyamekeleni

"Njengayo nayiphi na impendulo yoxinzelelo, xa inkqubo yomntu irhafiswa kakhulu, ukuzikhathalela kubaluleke kakhulu," utshilo uHansel.

Thatha ixesha lokuphumla ngokubekela bucala imizuzu eli-10 yekhefu phakathi kwemisebenzi imini yonke.

Ukuchacha kwakhona kuthetha ukuba uqinisekisa ukulala ngokwaneleyo ebusuku, uqinisekisa ukuba ufumana isondlo ekutyeni kwakho, kwaye ujonge ukuselwa kotywala.

Yenza uluhlu lwezona zigqibo zibaluleke kakhulu

Nciphisa ukuthatha izigqibo ngokungeyomfuneko ngokubhala ezona zinto ziphambili ngokubaluleka zosuku kwaye uqinisekise ukuba uzenza kuqala. Ngale ndlela, izigqibo zakho ezibaluleke kakhulu zenziwa xa amandla akho ephezulu.

Yiba nefilosofi yobuqu yezigqibo ezinkulu

NgokukaMartino, umthetho olungileyo wesithupha xa ujongene nezigqibo eziphambili kukuzibuza ukuba udiniwe kangakanani kwimeko yangoku. Ngaba usenza isigqibo sokusombulula into ephambi kwakho?

"Ndicinga ukuba owona mbuzo ubalulekileyo ngulo: Siya kuba negalelo elingakanani ebomini bam kwesi sigqibo?" uthi.

Ukuba impendulo kukuba iya kuba nefuthe eliphezulu, phuhlisa ifilosofi yokwenza izigqibo ekuvumela kuphela ukuba wenze ezo zigqibo xa unayo ukuzenza okanye xa uziva uhlaziyekile.

Oku kunokuthetha ukubekela ecaleni ibhloko yexesha kwinyanga nganye yokuvavanya iingenelo kunye neengozi ezinxulumene nezigqibo ezinkulu.

Nciphisa izigqibo ezizezona ziphantsi

Ukunciphisa isigqibo sokucwangcisa ngokucwangcisa kwangaphambili kwaye uthathe izigqibo ezincinci kwi-equation. Umzekelo, thatha isidlo sakho sasemini uye emsebenzini ukunqanda ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi na iodolo oza kuyala kuyo. Okanye wandlala iimpahla zakho zomsebenzi phezolo.

"Into abantu abangayiqondiyo kukuba izinto ezinefuthe elincinci kakhulu kubomi bethu zinokuthatha amandla amaninzi esigqibo," ucacisa uMartino. "Zama ukunciphisa abo bantu ngokubakhetha kubusuku obungaphambili."

Gcina iindlela ezingatshintshiyo

Cwangcisa usuku lwakho ukuze wenze ifayile ye mbalwa izigqibo ezinokwenzeka.

Oku kuthetha ukuba nemithetho engqongqo necacileyo malunga nezinto ezithile, ezinje:

• xa uza kulala
• iintsuku ezithile uza kubetha umthambo
• uyokuthenga ezivenkileni

Khetha ukutya okulula okusempilweni

Ukuba nesondlo esifanelekileyo kunokunceda ukugcina amandla akho. Uphando lubonisa ukuba ukutya ukutya okuneglucose ngokukhawuleza kuphucula ukuzithiba kwaye kugcina iswekile yegazi lakho lingangxoli.

Andiqinisekanga ukuba ungatya ntoni? Nazi iinketho ezingama-33 zokuhamba.

Vumela abanye bancede

Ukwabelana ngomthwalo wengqondo wokuthatha izigqibo kunokunceda ukunqanda ukuziva ungonwabi.

Nantsi imizekelo embalwa yento onokuthi uyinike abanye:

• Ukuba unocwangciso olunzima lokutya, vumela iqabane lakho okanye umntu ohlala naye ukuba eze nemenyu. Unokunceda ngokuthenga.
• Cela umhlobo osondeleyo akuncede uthathe isigqibo sokuba yeyiphi na itywina oza kuyitsalela umnxeba.
• Vumela umntu osebenza naye ukuba akhethe imifanekiso aza kuyisebenzisa kwintetho yakho elandelayo yomsebenzi.

Gcina iithebhu kwimeko yakho yengqondo neyomzimba

UHansel uthi: “Uqonde ukuba wonke umntu uyazikhathaza ngezigqibo azenzayo. Nika ingqalelo iimpendulo zakho ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni.

Ngaba wenza izigqibo eziphosakeleyo kuba uziva ukhathazekile? Ngaba ufumanisa ukuba wenza umkhwa wokutya ukutya okungenamsoco ukunqanda ukwenza izigqibo malunga nesidlo sangokuhlwa?

Ukugcina umkhondo wempendulo yakho kunokukunceda uqonde ukuba yeyiphi imikhwa efuna ukuphucula.

Bhiyozela izigqibo zakho ezilungileyo

Uthatha izigqibo ezincinci emini ungazi nokuziqonda. Kwaye ingaphezulu kwazo zonke ezinkulu, ezibonakalayo.

UHansel ucebisa ngenjongo yokubhiyozela umsebenzi wokwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo okanye esifanelekileyo.

Ukuba ubethelele intetho yakho okanye wakwazi ukuyilungisa itephu evuzayo, zibambe emqolo kwaye ubhiyozele amandla akho okusombulula ingxaki kwaye wenze phantsi koxinzelelo. Intloko yekhaya imizuzu eli-15 kwangoko okanye zivumele ixesha elongezelelweyo lokuphumla xa ufika ekhaya.

Umgca wezantsi

Ukuba uziva ucaphukile, ukhathazekile, okanye ungenamandla, unokuba ujongene nokudinwa kwesigqibo.

Jonga zonke izigqibo ezinkulu nezincinci ozenzayo yonke imihla kwaye ucinge ngendlela onokuzikhupha ngayo kwi-equation.

Ngokutshintsha imikhwa yakho kunye nokucwangcisa iindlela ezifanelekileyo, unokunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye ugcine amandla akho kwizigqibo ezibaluleke kakhulu.

USindi Lamothe yintatheli ezizimeleyo eseGuatemala. Ubhala rhoqo malunga nongenelelo phakathi kwempilo, impilo, kunye nesayensi yokuziphatha komntu. Ubhalelwe iAtlantic, iNew York Magazine, iTeen Vogue, iQuartz, iWashington Post, nezinye ezininzi. Mfumene kwi-cindylamothe.com.