Amanyathelo ama-7 okwaphula i-'Ukugqibelela, ukuzibekel 'amangomso izinto, Ukukhubazeka' Umjikelo

Umxholo

• Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, kuza inqaku xa olo thintelo luqhubeke ixesha elide kakhulu-kwaye xa ilixesha lokuyidibanisa? Uba ngumkhenkce.
• 1. Ukuthoba isazela ngokuqonda
• 2. Gcina imisebenzi yakho ilingene
• 3. Landelela ixesha lakho
• 4. Zijikeleze ngenkxaso efanelekileyo
• Ziqhelise ukuthi 'hayi'
• 6. Sebenzisa inkqubo yomvuzo
• 7. Faka ukudibanisa
• Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule? AWUKHO wedwa.

Lixesha lokwehlisa ibar. Ezantsi… hayi, qhubeka. Pha.

Phakamisa isandla sakho ukuba oku kuvakala kuyinto eqhelekileyo: Uluhlu lwezinto eziza kujikeleza kwingqondo yakho. Uluhlu lude kakhulu kangangokuba owona msebenzi ulula uya kuba nzima kwaye utye konke.

Nangona ndihleli apha ndibhala eli nqaku, ndonganyelwe ngamanqaku endifuna ukuwenza kunye nendlela yokuwabiza.Iyandishiya ndifuna ukuphosa izandla zam kwaye ndijongane nayo kamva.

Ukwenza izinto okanye uyeke ukuzilungiselela xa usilwa noxinzelelo kunokuba nzima.

Yiyo le ngqondo yokongamela eyondla enye yeepateni eziqhelekileyo abantu abasokolayo nazo: umjikelezo wokufuna ukungafezeki-wokulibala

Kubantu abaninzi, umbono wokwenza umsebenzi ngendlela engagqibelelanga unokuba sisizathu esaneleyo sokuthi, "Khohlwa yinto yonke!"

Nokuba ukugqibelela kubangelwa luloyiko lomgwebo okanye ukugweba onakho ngokwakho, ixhala lithanda ukukuqinisekisa ukuba ukuba awukwazi ukwenza yonke into kwaye uyenze ngokugqibeleleyo? Ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe wenze nto.

Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, kuza inqaku xa olo thintelo luqhubeke ixesha elide kakhulu-kwaye xa ilixesha lokuyidibanisa? Uba ngumkhenkce.

Kwaye kuza nomhlobo osenyongweni wexhala: iintloni. Iintloni zifuna ukukukhumbuza rhoqo ukuba umsebenzi awuzange wenziwe, kodwa ukomeleza ukugqibelela kwakho ... kunye nokuqhubela phambili umjikelo.

Ukuzilungiselela ngoku akungomsebenzi omkhulu nje kuphela - ngoku yingxaki ekhoyo, njengoko uqala ukuzibuza ukuba ingaba yintoni "engalunganga" kuwe kangangokuba uqhubeke ubambeke.

Ndiyonqena nje? Ngaba ingqondo yam yaphukile? Kutheni ndisenza oku kum? Yintoni ingxaki ngam?

Qiniseka ukuba awuwedwa. Kwaye kukho iindlela ezisebenzayo zokoyisa ixhala ukuze lo mjikelo ungabi yinto onokuyilawula, kodwa yinto onokuyoyisa.

"Into elungileyo malunga nemijikelezo kukuba zinokubuyiselwa umva ngendlela efanayo," utshilo uGqirha Karen McDowell, umlawuli weklinikhi wee-AR Psychological Services.

Uthi: "Xa ujongana nemfezeko, akunakufane kwenzeke ukuba uzibekele amangomso," utshilo. "Xa uhlehlisa kancinci, awufumani luloyiko kunye nokukhubazeka, ke umsebenzi wakho uphela ujongeka kwaye uzive ungcono kunokuba bekunjalo."

Kodwa uza kuqala ngaphi? Ukophula umjikelo, landela la manyathelo asi-7:

1. Ukuthoba isazela ngokuqonda

Inyathelo lokuqala lokwaphula loo mjikelo kukuqonda ukuba amaxesha ngamaxesha, ukufezekisa imisebenzi yinkqubo ecothayo, kwaye engafezekanga kuloo nto- kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye kulungile ngokupheleleyo.

Ayizukwenzeka ngexesha elinye. Kulungile ukuthatha ixesha lakho. Kulungile ukwenza iimpazamo (ungasoloko ubuyela umva uzilungisa kamva!).

Ngamanye amagama, kulungile ukuba ngumntu.

Kulula ukuyilibala le nto, nangona, xa uninzi lwezinto esizilindeleyo kuthi zihleli ngaphantsi komhlaba, zisenza sibe noxinzelelo.

Njengombhali, ngumsebenzi wam ukubhala yonke imihla. Elinye lawona macebiso mahle umntu andinike wona ibingu, “Khumbula, ayinguye wonke umntu iimfuno ukuba lilitye elinqabileyo. ” Intsingiselo, musa ukudubula amabhaso ePulitzer ngalo lonke ulwabiwo endinalo. Akukho nto inokuze yenziwe kwaye ndiza kuphakamisa umngeni wokuzixabisa kwam yonke imihla. Kuyadinisa oko!

Endaweni yoko, ndiye ndafunda ukwahlula ukuba yeyiphi imisebenzi efanele ixesha elininzi kunye nengqwalaselo, kwaye yeyiphi ekufanelekileyo ukuyenza lula. Oku akuthethi ukwamkela ubuvila! Kuthetha nje ukuqonda ukuba umsebenzi wenqanaba le-B ukude kakhulu ekusileleni- kunye nenxalenye eqhelekileyo yobomi.

Ngaphambi kokuntywila emsebenzini wakho, yenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo sokunciphisa ibar. Zikhulule kulindelo lokuba kuya kufuneka unike ikhulu leepesenti lakho kuyo yonke into oyenzayo.

2. Gcina imisebenzi yakho ilingene

UGqr. McDowell uthi: “Ukulwela ukugqibelela kufuna ukuba kuphazamisane nendlela ocinga ngayo okanye ongenanto kwaphela. Umzekelo, ukuba uzama ukwenza ukuba ibhokisi yakho engenayo ihlelwe, ayizukunceda ukuba ucinga ukuba ngumsebenzi omnye. Zibonele ukuba zeziphi izakhi zomsebenzi, kwaye uthabathe ngokomlinganiselo wokuluma. ”

Ukophula imisebenzi ube ngamaqhekeza amancinci ayenzi nje ukuba ilawuleke ngakumbi, kodwa ikhokelela kwiimvakalelo zokufezekisa rhoqo njengoko uwela nganye kuluhlu lwakho.

Makhe sijonge ngale ndlela: Kufuneka ucwangcise umtshato wakho. Ungahendeka ukuba ubhale "ufumane iintyatyambo" njengomsebenzi, umzekelo, kodwa oko kunokubangela iimvakalelo zokukhathazeka.

Ngamanye amaxesha isenzo sokuwela into ushiye uluhlu sibangela inkuthazo yokwenza ngakumbi. Kungenxa yoko le nto kungekho msebenzi mncinci kuluhlu lwakho! Kungalula njengokuthi, "I-Google florists kwindawo yam." Yinqamleze, uzive wonwabile ngokufezekisa into, kwaye uphinde ulwazelelelo.

Uloyiso oluncinci lwakha umfutho! Misela imisebenzi yakho ngokufanelekileyo.

3. Landelela ixesha lakho

Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba xa umsebenzi usisongele kwaye siye sawakhela ukuba ube ngumbhemu, sidla ngokujonga ixesha elithathayo ukuze siwugqibe. Xa ucinga ukuba umsebenzi ophembelela ukuxhalabisa uya kuthatha yonke imini, uya kuhlala ungacwangcisi naliphi na ixesha lokuzinakekela.

"Ukulungelelanisa izinto eziphambili kubalulekile," utshilo uGqirha Supriya Blair, ugqirha wezengqondo onelayisensi. “Kungenxa yoko le nto sibandakanya ixesha lezinto zentlalo kunye nokuzikhathalela ngexesha lethu lemihla ngemihla kunye neveki. Ukuzigcina unoxanduva lokulandela umsebenzi kunye nezinto ezonwabisayo kufuna ukuziqhelanisa, umonde nokuzicingela. ”

Ixesha lokulandelela linokwenziwa lula ngokusebenzisa ubuchule be 'Pomodoro':

• Khetha umsebenzi ungathanda ukugqiba. Ayinamsebenzi nokuba yintoni, ukuba nje yinto efuna ingqalelo yakho epheleleyo.
• Setha isibali xesha semizuzu engama-25, wenza isifungo sokuba uyakuchitha imizuzu engama-25 (kunye nemizuzu engama-25 kuphela) kulo msebenzi.
• Sebenza de kube ixesha liphelile. Ukuba omnye umsebenzi uvela entlokweni yakho, bhala nje phantsi kwaye ubuyele kulo msebenzi uwenzileyo.
• Beka uphawu lokutshekisha ecaleni komsebenzi wakho emva kokuba ixesha liphelile (oku kuyakukunceda ukuba ulilinganise ixesha olichithe usebenza kwinto ethile!).
• Thatha ikhefu elifutshane (mfutshane, njengemizuzu emi-5 okanye njalo).
• Emva kwe-4 iPomodoros (iiyure ezi-2), thatha ikhefu elide malunga nemizuzu engama-20 okanye engama-30.

Ukusebenzisa le ndlela ixesha elingaphezulu kunceda ukuba uqaphele ukuba lingakanani na ixesha lomsebenzi elifuna ngokwenene, ukwakha ukuzithemba kumandla akho okugqiba umsebenzi wakho ngelixa unciphisa uphazamiseko.

Ikwenza indawo yokuzinakekela ngokukhumbuza ukuba, eneneni, unalo igumbi kwishedyuli yakho!

4. Zijikeleze ngenkxaso efanelekileyo

Amandla ngamanani! Ukujongana nantoni na iyodwa kunzima ngaphezu kokwenza njalo ngenkxaso.

Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokuzilungiselela xa unexhala kukudibana nomntu okuxhasayo, osebenza nzima, nokuba yeyiphi na ebalulekileyo kuwe, umhlobo, umzali, okanye umntwana. Unako ukufikelela kunyangi okanye kumqeqeshi wobomi ukuze ufumane umbono ofunekayo.

"AWUKHO wedwa. Kukho abantu phaya abanokunceda, utshilo u-Briana Mary Ann Hollis, i-LSW, kunye nomnini / umlawuli we-Learning To Free.

"Bhala into ofuna inkxaso kuyo ngoku, kwaye ecaleni kwayo bhala umntu omnye onokukunceda kulo msebenzi," utshilo. "Oku kuyakubonisa ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze yonke into wedwa."

Ziqhelise ukuthi 'hayi'

Akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu omnye azibophelele kuyo yonke into, kodwa sihlala siziva isidingo sokukholisa wonke umntu.

Ukuthatha uxanduva oluninzi yindlela eqinisekileyo yomlilo yokufumana umthwalo kwaye emva koko uwele kumjikelo wokuzilimaza ofanayo.

UAngela Ficken, ugqirha wezengqondo nojolise kwezonxunguphalo kunye ne-OCD uthi: “Cinga ngendawo onokuhlengahlengisa kuyo ishedyuli yakho, uthumele kwabanye, okanye ungavumi kwimicimbi nakwimisebenzi engxamisekileyo okanye engxamisekileyo.

“Umbono kukongeza imida kwishedyuli yakho. Ukwenza oku kunokuyicoca ingqondo yakho kunye nexesha lakho ukuze ukwazi ukwenza ezinye zezinto ezikonwabisa. Kulungile ukuthi hayi, utshilo.

Wazi njani ukuba yeyiphi imida yakho? Ngaba wakha wayiva intetho ethi, "Ukuba ayingo 'isihogo ewe, nguhayi'"? Ngelixa kukho ukungafani kuwo nawuphi na umthetho, le template elungileyo ekufuneka ilandelwe xa kufikwa ekuthatheni uxanduva.

Sonke sixakekile kwaye sonke sinezibophelelo, ke ukuba awunjalo unayo ukuthatha iprojekthi okanye ukufumana olo lwazi kwikholeji ongakhange uthethe kuyo kwiminyaka eyi-14, emva koko ungaziva unetyala ngokuthi hayi.

6. Sebenzisa inkqubo yomvuzo

Awusoze umdala kakhulu ukuba ungazivuza, kwaye ukuseta imivuzo emincinci kunokuba yenye yezona ndlela zisebenzayo zokuzikhuthaza ukuba wenze imisebenzi yombutho.

"Gxila kwindlela oza kuvakalelwa ngayo xa ikhaya lakho lihlelekile kwaye licocekile, nokuba kungonwabisa kwaye kumnandi kangakanani ukucwangcisa umtshato wakho, ukuba uza kuziva uxanduva kangakanani xa ugqiba iirhafu zakho," utshilo uGqirha Nancy Irwin, ugqirha wengqondo kwiSeasons Malibu.

Emva koko zivuze ngomsebenzi owenze kakuhle. Ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo kuqinisekisa ukuba iprojekthi elandelayo inokuhamba kakuhle kwaye ikwazise ukuba umkhulu kunexhala, utshilo.

Yonke imihla, ndenza uluhlu lwezabelo kunye nemisebenzi yasendlwini endifuna ukuyenza. Baqhelekile nje ngokuba "bakhuphe inkunkuma" kwizinto ezibalulekileyo ezinje ngo "hlelo olupheleleyo "okanye" ngenisa i-invoyisi. "

Nokuba ungakanani na umsebenzi, emva kwento nganye ndiyaziphatha. Ndiyahamba ndibethwa ngumoya, okanye ndizivumele ndibukele imizuzu engama-30 kamabonwakude. Ukugqiba kwam uluhlu ndinokuba neglasi yewayini.

Ndizinika olu lonwabo lumnandi ukujonga phambili kolwaphula usuku, kwaye lujika uluhlu lwam olunzima kakhulu lokwenza into yomdlalo!

7. Faka ukudibanisa

Ukuhlala uhambelana nomzimba wakho kunye nengqondo njengoko uqhuba ngokwaphula iipateni kunokuba luncedo kakhulu.

Ukuzihlola kubalulekile, ngakumbi ukuba unomdla wokunxibelelana neenkcukacha ezincinci. Ukuthintela ukuziva uxakekile, kubalulekile ukuthatha inyathelo ubuye ukuze uzinike ikhefu kunye nezikhumbuzo.

UFicken uthi: “Ukucinga kubalulekile. “Isakhono sokucinga ngokulula kukuthatha phandle uhambe okanye uhambe phantsi. Ukuphuma kwizinto zinokuba yinto ebonakalayo ebonakalayo kunye nemvakalelo yokuzifaka kumzuzu wangoku. ”

Ukugcina umhlaba kubaluleke kakhulu ekugcineni uxinzelelo lwakho lukhangele. Unganqikazi ukuthatha i-breather xa uziva uxhala lwakho lokwakha-umzimba wakho kunye nengqondo iya kukubulela kamva!

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule? AWUKHO wedwa.

Ngapha koko, ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo sesona sifo sokugula ngengqondo siqhelekileyo e-U.S., Sichaphazela abantu abadala abazizigidi ezingama-40 ngonyaka.

Ukuba ixhala lakho lakha iindonga xa kuziwa ekuhleleni ubomi bakho okanye imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla, qiniseka ukuba kukho izigidi phaya ezilwa nemicimbi efanayo.

Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo kuyanyangeka kakhulu, kwaye iipateni ezikugcina kwisithuba esibi ziyaphuka. Inyathelo lokuqala kukuthatha isigqibo sokuba kulungile ukuzisika kancinci.

Unayo le!

UMeagan Drillinger ngumbhali wokuhamba kunye nokuba sempilweni. Ujoliso lwakhe kukwenza uninzi lokuhamba ngamava ngelixa ugcina indlela yokuphila esempilweni. Ukubhala kwakhe kuvele kwiThrillist, iMpilo yaMadoda, ukuhamba ngeVeki, kunye neTime Out New York, phakathi kwabanye. Ndwendwela ibhlog yakhe okanye i-Instagram.