Sukusebenzisa abazali babantu abakhubazekileyo njengeeNgcali zakho

Umxholo

• Xa ndifunda ngemicimbi echaphazela uluntu lwe-autism, ndifuna ukuva kubantu abanengqondo
• Sithi thina bantu siluqondayo uluntu lwethu, ukufikelela kwethu kwiimfuno, indawo esihlala kuyo kunye nenkcubeko yethu eyona ilungileyo - {textend} kodwa sihlala sicinga emva kweencoko malunga nokukhubazeka.
• Abazali babantwana abakhubazekileyo babalulekile, nabo, kwaye ndiyasiqonda isidingo semithombo ethile kubo
• Ukusebenzisa abantu abakhubazekileyo njengengcali kubomi bethu kunye namava kukwaguqula indlela esijonga ngayo ukukhubazeka

Sibona njani iimilo zehlabathi esikhetha ukuba zizo - {textend} kunye nokwabelana ngamava anyanzelisayo anokuyila indlela esiphathana ngayo, ukuba ngcono. Lo ngumbono onamandla.

Ndingu-autistic - {textend} kwaye ukunyaniseka, ndidiniwe ngabazali babantwana be-autistic abalawula incoko malunga nokukhuthaza i-autism.

Ungandivi kakubi. Ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo kuba ndikhule ndinabazali ababini abathi kwangaxeshanye bandixelele kwaye bandifundisa ukuzimela.

Into edanisayo kuxa abantu abafana nabazali bam - {textend} abakhulisa abantwana abane-autistic nabakhubazekileyo, kodwa abangakhubazekanga ngokwabo- {textend} bahlala beziingcali kuphela, ngaphezulu kwabantu abakhe bahlala ukukhubazeka.

Xa ndifunda ngemicimbi echaphazela uluntu lwe-autism, ndifuna ukuva kubantu abanengqondo

Ndifuna umbono womntu o-autistic ngendlela yokunyusa indawo yokuhlala emsebenzini, okanye ukuba kujongeka njani njengokuhamba iiklasi zekholeji njengomfundi.

Ukuba bendifunda ibali ngendlela abantu abazenzekelayo abanokwenza ngayo iishedyuli zeklasi ezifikelelekayo, bendiya kufuna ukuva kuqala nokuphambili kwabafundi bekholeji yangoku. Yintoni ababetsala nzima nayo? Zeziphi izixhobo abazisebenzisileyo? Waba yintoni umphumo?

Ndiya kulunga ukuba ibali libandakanya nemithombo efana nomcebisi wokwamkelwa ekholejini, umntu osebenza kwiofisi yeenkonzo zokukhubazeka ekholejini, okanye unjingalwazi. Banokuligqibela ibali ngokunikezela ngombono wangaphakathi kwinto enokulindelwa ngabafundi be-autistic kunye nendlela esinokukwazi ngayo ukukhuthaza iimfuno zethu.

Kodwa kunqabile ukubona ibali elinje. Ubungcali babantu abakhubazekileyo kubomi bethu buhlala butyeshelwa kwaye bujongelwa phantsi, nangona sichithe iminyaka- {textend} kwaye kwezinye iimeko ubomi bethu bonke - {textend} sikhubazekile.

Sithi thina bantu siluqondayo uluntu lwethu, ukufikelela kwethu kwiimfuno, indawo esihlala kuyo kunye nenkcubeko yethu eyona ilungileyo - {textend} kodwa sihlala sicinga emva kweencoko malunga nokukhubazeka.

Xa ndibhalayo malunga nokuba novelwano kakhulu njengomntu one-autistic, ndaye ndadlan 'indlebe nabantu abadala abane-autistic abafuna ukuphelisa intsomi yokuba abantu abanesifo se-autistic abanakuba novelwano. Ndisebenzise amava am endihleliyo, kunye namava abanye abantu abadala abanesifo sengqondo, ukuphula umthetho wokuba kutheni abantu abaninzi be-autistic baphazama njengabangenalo uvakalelo kunye nokuswela uvelwano.

Yayingamava amangalisayo.

Abantu abane-Autistic abakwiminyaka yama-30 nama-40 baye bafikelela kum besithi le yayilixesha lokuqala ukuba bafunde nantoni na malunga ne-autism kunye novelwano oluthathe le ndlela, okanye yabhalwa ngumntu one-autism endaweni yomzali okanye umphandi.

Oku akufuneki kuphume kwesiqhelo. Nangona kunjalo rhoqo, abantu abane-autistic abamenywanga ukuba babelane ngobungcali babo.

Abazali babantwana abakhubazekileyo babalulekile, nabo, kwaye ndiyasiqonda isidingo semithombo ethile kubo

Kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ukufunda ngeendlela ezilungileyo zokunceda umntwana wakho ukuba ahambe kwilizwe ngokukhubazeka kwabo. Ndiyathanda nje ezo zixhobo kanjalo kubandakanya amagama akhubazekileyo.

Kodwa ngekhe ibe yinto engakholelekiyo ukuba isikhokelo sokusebenza kwimisebenzi yasekhaya kunye nomntwana wakho one-ADHD uneengcebiso ngokukodwa kubantu abadala abane-ADHD, abaziyo nabayiqondayo ukuba kwakunjani ukuba ngumntwana osokola ukukhumbula ukuba kufuneka bahlambe izitya kabini ngeveki?

Abantu abadala abane-ADHD baneengcebiso- {textend} kumava obomi kunye nonyango kunye noochwephesha babo - {textend} kwaye bayazi ukuba yintoni enokuthi isebenze okanye ingasebenzi ngendlela umzali ongenayo i-ADHD angayiyo.

Ekupheleni kosuku, xa sixhobisa abantu ukuba babelane ngamazwi abo kunye namava, wonke umntu uyaphumelela.

Ukusebenzisa abantu abakhubazekileyo njengengcali kubomi bethu kunye namava kukwaguqula indlela esijonga ngayo ukukhubazeka

Endaweni yokubeka abantu abakhubazekileyo njengabantu abafuna uncedo, nabazali njengeengcali ezinokusinceda, isibeka njengabameli abakuqondayo ukukhubazeka kwethu kunye nezona mfuno zintle.

Isimisela njengabantu abanokuthatha izigqibo ezisebenzayo kunokuba izigqibo zabo zenzelwa thina. Isinika indima yokuzibandakanya kubomi bethu kunye nendlela amabali akhubazekileyo (kunye nemeko yethu ethile) aboniswa ngayo.

Nokuba sihlala sikhubazekile ubomi bethu bonke okanye sisandula ukubufumana, abantu abakhubazekileyo bayayazi ukuba kunjani ukuhlala ezingqondweni nasemizimbeni yethu.

Sinokuqonda okunzulu malunga nendlela ekubonakala ngathi kuhambahamba kwihlabathi, ukuzimela ngokwethu, ukufuna ukufikelela, ukwenza ukubandakanywa.

Yiloo nto esenza sibe ziincutshe - {textend} kwaye lixesha lokuba ubungcali bethu buxabiswe.

UAlaina Leary ungumhleli, umphathi weendaba zosasazo kunye nombhali waseBoston, eMassachusetts. Okwangoku ungumncedisi womhleli we-Equally Wed Magazine kunye nomhleli weendaba zosasazo ezingenzi-nzuzo Sifuna iincwadi ezahlukeneyo.