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Ngomhla wokuzalwa kukatata weminyaka engama-69, waquleka ekhaya waza wabalekiselwa esibhedlele. Izintso zakhe zazingasebenzi-ukuxilongwa ebesazi iminyaka kodwa engasixeleli. Utata ebesoloko engumntu wabucala kakhulu-mhlawumbi wayekwimeko yokukhanyela naye-kwaye kwaba buhlungu kum ukufunda ukuba ebethule ezamana ixesha elide. Ngaloo mini, waqala nge-dialysis-inkqubo awayeyidinga ukuqhubeka nobomi bakhe bonke ukuze aqhubeke ephila.

Oogqirha bacebisa ukuba angene kuluhlu lokufakelwa kwezintso, kodwa kum noodadewethu ababini nam yayingengombono: omnye wethu wayenokunikela ngezintso. Ngenkqubo yokuphelisa, ibindim oya kuyenza. Udadewethu uMichelle akanamntwana kwaye le nkqubo inokuchaphazela ukuzala kwakhe kwexesha elizayo, kwaye uKathy unamantombazana amabini amancinci. Unyana wam uJustin wayeneminyaka eli-18 kwaye ukhulile, ngoko ke ndandiyeyona ndlela ilungileyo. Ngethamsanqa, emva kovavanyo lwegazi ezimbalwa, ndabonwa njengomdlalo.

Ndingatsho ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba andizange ndithandabuze malunga nokunikela. Ndixelela abantu ukuba banethuba lokusindisa utata wabo, baya kuyenza nabo. Bendingaboni nobuzaza botyando. Ndiluhlobo lomntu ochitha iiyure ephanda zonke iiholide kunye nendawo yokutyela nganye, kodwa andizange ndisebenzise ukufakelwa kwezintso kwi-google-ingozi, iziphumo, njl.-ukwazi ukuba ulindele ntoni. Iintlanganiso zoogqirha kunye neengcebiso kwakunyanzelekile ngaphambi kotyando, kwaye ndaxelelwa umngcipheko-wosulelo, ukopha, kwaye, kwiimeko ezinqabileyo kakhulu, ukufa. Kodwa andijolisanga kuloo nto. Ndandiza kwenza oku ukuze ndincede utata, kwaye kwakungekho nto inokundinqanda.

Phambi kwenkqubo, oogqirha bacebisa ukuba sobabini sinciphise umzimba, kuba ukuba se-BMI esempilweni kwenza ukuba utyando lube yingozi kangako kubo bobabini abanikelayo kunye nabamkeli. Usinike iinyanga ezintathu zokuba sifike apho. Kwaye mandikuxelele, xa ubomi bakho buxhomekeke ekunciphiseni ubunzima, akukho sizathu sifana naso! Ndandibaleka yonke imihla mna nomyeni wam uDave sikhwele iibhayisekile sidlala intenetya. UDave wayehlekisa esithi kuya kufuneka "andikhohlise" ndenze umthambo kuba ndiyithiyile-andisayi kuphinda!

Ngenye intsasa, sasihlala endlwini yabazali bam, yaye ndandikwindawo yokunyathelisa kwigumbi labo elingaphantsi. Wehla utata, ndabe ndilila phakathi komkhondo. Ukumbona njengokuba iinyawo zam zibetha ezantsi ebhanteni kuyenze yafika kum: Ubomi bakhe-ukukwazi kwakhe ukuba lapha nabantwana bakhe nabazukulwana-yayisesona sizathu sokuba ndibaleke. Ayikho enye into ebalulekileyo.

Kwiinyanga ezintathu kamva, ndandineepawundi ezingama-30 kwaye utata wam wayelahlekelwe ngama-40. Kwaye ngoNovemba 5, 2013, sobabini sangena phantsi kwemela. Into yokugqibela endiyikhumbulayo yayiqhutywa ngamavili egumbini ngelixa umama nomyeni wam bewolana bethandaza. Bandinxibisa imaski, kwaye ngemizuzwana ndaba phantsi.

Kuyavunywa, utyando lwalunamandla kunokuba ndandilindele-yayiyinkqubo yeeyure ezimbini zeeparoscopic ezandikhupha kwikhomishini iiveki ezintathu. Kodwa ngokubanzi, yaba yimpumelelo enkulu! Umzimba katata watshintsha ngendlela awayelindele ngayo ugqirha, yaye ngoku usempilweni entle. Abatshana bam ababini bathiya izintso zethu ngokuba nguKimye intso yekarate (ekatata) noLarry intsalela (yeyam), kwaye basenzela izikipa esasizinxibe kwiNational Kidney Foundation Annual 5K Walk esiyenze kunye kwezi veki zimbini zidlulileyo. iminyaka.

Ngoku, mna nabazali bam sisondelelene ngakumbi kunangaphambili. Ndiyathanda ukucinga ukuba ukunikela ngezintso zam kwenzelwe yonke iminyaka yam yokuba sishumi elivisayo elinemvukelo, kwaye ndiyayazi indlela abalixabisa ngayo idini lam. Kwaye ndiyakuthanda ukusebenzisa isizathu sezintso esinye nangaliphi na ixesha andifuni kwenza nto. Oh, ufuna uncedo lokuvasa izitya? Thatha lula kum-ndinentso enye kuphela!

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