Yintoni Wonke Umfazi ekufuneka eyazi malunga nokuzithemba

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U-Lisa Leslie, intombazana eyabetha i-6-feet ubude kwibanga le-6, wayenxiba isihlangu se-12 xa wayeneminyaka eyi-12, kwaye wafumana isabelo sakhe "unjani umoya phaya phezulu?" iziqhulo bezinokuphela zingaphantsi kwesimo sokuzithemba. Kodwa u-Leslie uncoma ukuzithemba kwakhe ngomzimba-kunye nomnqweno wakhe wokubona onke amantombazana ekhula ngokwawo-kumama wakhe 6'3" (kunye notata 6'4" owathi, "sisikeleleke ngokwaneleyo ukuba sikhule ngaphakathi kwaye ngaphandle."

Sidibene nalo mdlali weXesha le-WNBA elixabisekileyo kangangezihlandlo ezi-4 kunye nembasa yegolide yeOlimpiki yamaxesha amane kwiNkomfa yaBasetyhini eCalifornia, emva nje kwephaneli ebibanjwe lihobe ngokuzithemba. Iingcebiso zakhe zokwakha ukuzithemba:

1. Dwelisa ii-asethi zakho-kwaye ukholelwe kuzo

"Abanye abantu banamazwi amnandi, kwaye andikwazi kucula kwaphela," utsho uLeslie. "Asiyotalente yam leyo." Ukuzixabisa kwindawo efanelekileyo, uthi, "kufuneka ubenakho ukufikelela koku unakho. Yazi ukuba unenwele ezithile, amehlo athile, imilebe ethile kwaye yile nto iyiyo." Fumana izinto ozithandayo. Sebenzisa imali enkulu ngazo. ULeslie wayenokuziva ehlekisa ngobude bakhe. Endaweni yoko, uthi, "lo mzimba undifumanele iindebe."

Kwiphaneli efanayo, uKatherine Schwarzenegger uchaze ukunyibilika phakathi "ndiyithiyile yonke into ngam" umzuzu kunye nento emkhupha kuyo. Umama kaKatherine okhawulezayo ukucinga, uMaria Shriver, wamenza ukuba enze uluhlu lwayo yonke into ayithandayo nangayithandiyo ngaye. "Ukuphela, uluhlu lwezinto ezithandwayo zazinde kunezo bangazithandiyo," utshilo. Unokuliva igumbi lenza amanqaku ukwenza uluhlu olufanayo ngokwabo, ishumi elinambini okanye hayi.

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2. Fumana umntu oza kukucebisa, nokuba sele ukubhalele incwadi

Ungathini ukuba usapho lwakho lungaxabisi into onayo, njengoLisa Leslie? "Amantombazana angenayo loo nkxaso ngokwenene ahlupheka ngenxa yothando. Kuloo mantombazana aselula, ndicinga ukuba ukufuna iincwadi zokuzinceda kunokunceda. Andizami ukumpompa umyeni wam [uMichael Lockwood], kodwa ungumbhali wencwadi ebizwa ngokuba Abafazi Banawo Onke Amandla, Kubi kakhulu Abayazi kwaye inceda abaselula baqonde amandla abo besebancinane. Enye into amantombazana anokuyenza kukufuna umcebisi koomama babanye abantu. "

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3. I-biggie: Zibekele iinjongo

"Isitshixo esindincedileyo kukuba ndaqala ukubhala phantsi iinjongo zam. Kwibanga le-9, ndaqala ukubhala iinjongo zexesha elifutshane endifuna ukuziphumeza kulo nyaka kwaye emva koko iinjongo zexesha elide, ezazizizo endifuna ukuzenza. kwiminyaka emi-5. " Kuluhlu olufutshane ngaloo nyaka: Ukufumana i-3.5 GPA kwaye ube ngumdlali obalaseleyo kwisizwe (enziwe, ngendlela). Ixesha elide? Ukumela i-USA kwiiOlimpiki. "Kuba bendinazo ezi zikhokelo bendigxile kuzo, ukuba ubuncinci babantu abathetha ngam bekubaluleke kakhulu ebomini bam. Bekufuneka ndigxile kwezinye izinto." Yena nomyeni wakhe basazibekela usukelo lwezezimali, usukelo lomntu ngamnye, iinjongo zesibini, kunye neenjongo zabantwana babo. Ukuya ngokulandelayo? Ukugqiba ezi zifundo zibini zokugqibela ze-MBA ngelixa esenza yonke enye into-kubandakanya ukufundisa abantwana bakhe ababini ukugcina ukuzithemba kwabo kuphezulu.

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