Iindlela ezili-12 zoMhlobo wakho osenyongweni ziyakukhulisa impilo yakho

Umxholo

• Unceda Utye ngcono
• Wenza ukusebenza ngokuNwaba ngakumbi
• Uyakunceda Ngosuku Lomsebenzi.
• Ukunceda Uphile Ixesha Elide
• Utshintsha indlela ongena ngayo kuxinzelelo
• Unqanda iiSeli zoMhlaza ekukhuleni kumabele akho
• Uyakukhusela kuxinzelelo
• Uyakugcina ekuchitheni inkcitho
• Uthanda iifoto zakho kwi-Instagram
• Unceda iBond yakho nge S.O yakho.
• Uhlisa uxinzelelo lwegazi
• Uphengululo lwe

Amathuba kukuba, sele unolwazi ngezinye zeendlela abahlobo bakho abasenyongweni abachaphazela ngayo imeko yakho yengqondo. Xa iBFF yakho ikuthumelela ividiyo yenjana ethandekayo, imo yakho iyanyuka ngoko nangoko. Xa unosuku olubi lomsebenzi, i-pm yakho Isicwangciso seMargarita kunye ne-pALS yakho kuphela kwesizathu ekufuneka usidlulisile. Abahlobo bayakubhiyozela xa wonwabile kwaye bakunyuse xa ukhathazekile. Akukho nto iphantsi kwempembelelo yolonwabo abanayo kwiimvakalelo zakho. (Ngapha koko, ukubiza umhlobo yenye yeendlela ezingama-20 zokonwaba (phantse) kwangoko!)

Impembelelo enkulu kakhulu kunokuba unokucinga. Oososayensi kunye neengcali bahlala bezityhila izibonelelo zobuhlobo obomeleleyo kuxinzelelo lwegazi lakho, umgca wakho wesinqe, amandla akho, amandla akho okuphila, kwanomngcipheko wakho womhlaza wamabele. Funda ukuze ufumane incasa encinci yokuba abahlobo bakho bakunceda kangakanani-kwaye ucinga ngokuthumela inqaku lombulelo kubo bonke abo bantu bahle ebomini bakho. Bayakusindisa kumatyala anzima onyango.

Unceda Utye ngcono

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Uhlala phantsi uzokutya isidlo sangokuhlwa kwaye umhlobo wakho uodola isaladi. Ngequbuliso, kubonakala kubi kancinci ukuzibandakanya kwipasta enzima, ekhrimu obuyicwangcisa ngaphambili. Olo xinzelelo loontanga olungacacanga lunokuba yinto elungileyo, ukuba lukhokelela kukhetho olunempilo. Isifundo kwi Impembelelo yasekuhlaleni uhlalutye izifundo ezahlukeneyo ezingama-38 "kwimodeli yentlalontle" xa usitya, okanye indlela esixelisa ngayo abantu esitya nabo. Ukuba uzama ukuzigcina ukhanya ngokwakho, usabelana ngesidlo kunye, yithi, uGwyneth Paltrow (okanye i-BFF yakho esempilweni) uya kuwomeleza ngokulula amandla akho.

Wenza ukusebenza ngokuNwaba ngakumbi

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Ukubhalisela iklasi kunye nomhlobo akakubambeli uxanduva lokubonisa, okanye akutyhale ukuba uzame kancinane ukumchukumisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ezo luncedo oluhle, kodwa awuyicingi: Abahlobo bakho benza ukomelela kube mnandi ngakumbi. Kwisifundo, abathathi-nxaxheba bakonwabele ukusebenza kwabo ngakumbi kunye nomhlobo. (Funda ukuba kutheni ukuba noBuddy Fitness yeyona nto ibalaseleyo.)

Uyakunceda Ngosuku Lomsebenzi.

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Xa umfazi wakho wasemsebenzini esiya eholideyini iveki, ngequbuliso uyaqonda ukuba ukhohlakele kangakanani u-9-5 ngaphandle kwakhe. Uphando lukaGallup lubonise ukuba ubuhlobo obusondeleyo emsebenzini buphakamisa ukwaneliseka kwabasebenzi ngama-50 ekhulwini, kwaye abantu abane-bestie eofisini banethuba eliphindwe kasixhenxe lokuzibandakanya ngokunzulu emsebenzini wabo. Imvume yokuxelela umphathi wakho ukuba iiyure zokuzonwabisa zeveki zilungile kumgca wakho osezantsi onikiweyo.

Ukunceda Uphile Ixesha Elide

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Uhlolisiso oluphawulekayo olwenziwa e-Australia ngabantu abadala kwisithuba seminyaka elishumi lubonakalise ukuba abo banabahlobo abomeleleyo kunqabile ukuba bafe ngeepesenti ezingama-22. Dlala amakhadi akho obuhlobo ngokuchanekileyo, kwaye i-clique yakho inokuphelela ekubetheni iintaka zakuqala kunye kunye de ubethe ubume bamanani amathathu.

Utshintsha indlela ongena ngayo kuxinzelelo

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Impendulo yokulwa okanye yokubaleka kuxinzelelo inokuba yenye yezinto ezimbalwa ozikhumbulayo kwiklasi yebhayoloji kwisikolo esiphakamileyo. Kodwa uphononongo lwe-UCLA lubonisa ukuba abasetyhini banempembelelo engakumbi yehomoni kunaleyo (cue duhs). Oososayensi bafumanise ukuba xa i-oxytocin yaziswa ngexesha loxinzelelo, abasetyhini banokuthomalalisa isidingo sokulwa okanye ukubhabha, ngelixa amadoda engenako. Ukuba ungeze abafazi abaninzi kwimeko yoxinzelelo, i-oxytocin eninzi yaveliswa kubathathi-nxaxheba besifazane-kwaye kwakhona, kungekhona kakhulu kumadoda. Ke ayisiyiyo kuphela into yokuba abantu basetyhini bajongane noxinzelelo ngokwahlukileyo, baziva bebhetele xa abanye abantu basetyhini bekhona. Ngokukrakra.

Unqanda iiSeli zoMhlaza ekukhuleni kumabele akho

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Oososayensi baye babuyela emva naphambili malunga neziphumo ezibonakalayo zobuhlobo okanye unyango lweqela kwizigulana ezinomhlaza. Kodwa isifundo esinomdla wokwenyani seqela elincinci labasetyhini eChicago safumanisa ukuba ukukhutshwa kwecortisol ngenxa yoxinzelelo lokwahlulwa ekuhlaleni kuncedisiwe ekukhuleni kweeseli zebele. Ubulolo bawukhawulezisa ngokwenene umhlaza wabo.

Uyakukhusela kuxinzelelo

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Kuphononongo lwaseKhanada, amantombazana aneminyaka eli-10 ubudala anemfuza enokuthambekela ekudandathekeni ayengenakufane abe nesigulo sengqondo ukuba abe nomhlobo omnye osondeleyo. Ulwalamano lwalubonakala lubakhusela ngokoqobo kwingozi. Kwavela ukuba umhlobo wakho wobuntwana wayeligorha elibalaseleyo!

Uyakugcina ekuchitheni inkcitho

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Ingcinga yonyango lokuthengisa ayisiyonto nje abathe bafika ngayo abathengisi ukwenza uzive ngcono ngokuthenga. Kuyavela ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba uthathe imingcipheko emikhulu yezemali xa uziva ulilolo okanye ulahliwe-njengaxa uthenga inqwelomoya eya eParis ukuthomalalisa umphefumlo wakho emva kokwahlukana. Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo bukugcina ukwimeko efanayo. Banjengokonwaba ngakumbi 401 (k)!

Uthanda iifoto zakho kwi-Instagram

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Siyazi, abantu bachitha ixesha elininzi bejonga iifowuni zabo kunokuba benxibelelana nabantu kwezi ntsuku. Kodwa kuvavanyo lwamva nje oluvela kwiZiko loPhando lwePew lufumanise ukuba abasetyhini abasebenzisa i-Twitter amatyeli aliqela ngosuku, bathumela okanye bafumana ii-imeyile ezingama-25 ngosuku (ngubani ongasebenzisiyo?), Kwaye babelane ngemifanekiso emibini yedijithali kwifowuni yakhe yonke imihla, bafumana amanqaku angama-21 eepesenti ezantsi umlinganiselo woxinzelelo lwabo kunabafazi abathi musa sebenzisa ezo teknoloji. Ewe, i-Twitter ilungile ngokwenene kumphefumlo wakho! (Funda ngakumbi malunga nokuba kutheni iMithombo yeendaba yeNtlalo yehlisa uxinzelelo lwaBasetyhini.)

Unceda iBond yakho nge S.O yakho.

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Imihla ephindwe kabini inokunceda ubudlelwane bakho. Kuphononongo lwakutsha nje kwijenali Ubudlelwane bobuqu, Izibini ezibini zivakalise ukukhuthazeka "kuthando olunamandla" emva kokuthatha inxaxheba kwimisebenzi nezinye izibini. Ke qhubeka uyeke iPDA yabo ichaphazele eyakho.

Uhlisa uxinzelelo lwegazi

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Yithathe njengenye imveliso yabahlobo bakho abakupholisayo. Uphononongo luka-2010 lufumanise ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba abanesithukuthezi banokunyuka kwamanqaku ali-14 kuxinzelelo lwegazi xa kuthelekiswa nezoluntu. Ubuhlobo babo babungumbono ophambili woxinzelelo lwegazi kunobunzima, ukutshaya, okanye utywala.

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