Iintsomi ezi-5 zokulala kwabantwana zigcina wena ebusuku

Umxholo

• Intsomi: Umntu olalayo ‘olungileyo’ ngumntwana ongavukiyo ukuba atye
• Intsomi: Umntwana wakho kufuneka ‘akhale’ ukuze afunde ukulala yedwa
• Inkolelo: Umntwana wakho kufuneka abe kwishedyuli yokulala engqongqo
• Inkolelo: Umntwana wakho kufuneka alale kwisibhedlele sakhe sokulala xa ufuna ukuba alale ubusuku bonke
• Inkolelo: Umntwana wakho kufuneka abe neminyaka ethile ukuze afunde ukulala kakuhle

Kuyenzeka ukuba ulale kakuhle ebusuku nabantwana abancinci endlini. Emva kokusebenza namakhulu eentsapho, ndiyazi ukuba unokuba ngumzali ophumle kamnandi, naye.

Ukuba ungumzali omtsha, kusenokwenzeka ukuba unengxaki ethile yokulala komntwana wakho. Usana lwakho lusenokuba nobunzima bokulala- okanye lusenokuba nobunzima ukuhlala ndilele. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho omncinci uthatha nje ikhefu elifutshane okanye ufumana uninzi lokuvuka ebusuku.

Usenokungazithembi ukuba bafumana ukulala abakudingayo. Ngokufanayo, usenokungalali ngokwaneleyo ukuze usebenze kwaye uzive ungumntu.

Ukulala ngumnqweno omkhulu kum. Ndincede amakhulu eentsapho ukuba ziphumle ngakumbi kule minyaka kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba ndinokukunceda, nam.

Apha ngezantsi nditshabalalisa ezinye zeentsomi ezonakalisayo kunye noloyiko malunga nokulala kweentsana, ukuze ufumane okona kulala kubhetele wena nosana lwakho.

Intsomi: Umntu olalayo ‘olungileyo’ ngumntwana ongavukiyo ukuba atye

Ngaba ukhe wayiva le? Yinto doozy, kwaye mhlawumbi leyo ndihlala ndiva rhoqo. Kunzima kakhulu ukusuka kwinto yakho yangaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana-ulale ubusuku kwaye uvuke uhlaziyekile-ukuba nosana olufuna ukutya ubusuku bonke.

Olu tshintsho luthetha ukuba nguwe ndingasalali ubusuku obugcweleyo kwakhona. Kodwa inyani yile: Iintsana zivuka zilambile ubusuku bonke.

Awenzi nto iphosakeleyo ngokondla umntwana wakho ubusuku bonke. Kuqhelekile ukuba iintsana zidinge ukutya ngexesha leeyure zobusuku kunyaka wokuqala wobomi.

Kuyinyani ukuba okunye ukuvuka akunyanzelekanga ukuba kulambe. Umzekelo, ezinye iintsana ziyavuka ngokwenene rhoqo, qho ngeyure eziyi-1 ukuya kwezi-2 ubusuku bonke busuku ngabunye. Ewe kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa, oku kunokuba yinto efanelekileyo kangangeeveki ezimbalwa de ukudideka kwemini / nobusuku kusonjululwe.

Nangona kunjalo, emva kweeveki zokuqala ezimbalwa zexabiso, usenokuzibuza ukuba basadinga ukutya kakhulu ngobusuku obunye. Soloko ujonge ugqirha wosana lwakho malunga nokuba kufuneka badle kangakanani ubusuku bonke kuba baya kuba nolwazi olungcono malunga nempilo yomntwana wakho kunye nenqanaba lokukhula komjikelo.

Jonga indlela oziphethe ngayo umntwana wakho ukuze ufumane imikhondo malunga nokuba babelambile okanye bevukile ngenxa yesinye isizathu. Ngokubanzi, siyazi ukuba umntwana ubelambile ubusuku bonke ukuba batye ukutya okupheleleyo kwaye bahlala phantsi ukuze balale ngokulula nangokukhawuleza. Ukuba bebenxiba nje okanye bethatha ukutya okuncinci kwaye babenengxaki yokuphinda balale, ngekhe balambe.

Intsomi: Umntwana wakho kufuneka ‘akhale’ ukuze afunde ukulala yedwa

Ndibetha ukuba uyivile le. Yenye yeentsomi ezonakalisayo ngakumbi phaya.

Kuyandikhathaza kakhulu ukuba abazali bashiywe becinga ukuba kufuneka bahlale bengalali ngokwaneleyo, okanye kufuneka benze into echasene ngokupheleleyo nomoya wabo wobuzali.

Ngapha koko, zininzi iindlela onokukhetha kuzo phakathi. Kukho ngokoqobo amakhulu eendlela zokunceda umntwana wakho afunde ukulala eyedwa.

Ngoku, masibuyele apha kancinci kwaye sijongane nokuba kutheni sithetha ngokunceda omncinci ukuba afunde ukulala yedwa. Kutheni le nto singade sikuthathele ingqalelo ukwenza oku?

Ewe, unokumangaliswa kukufumanisa ukuba kukho izizathu zesayensi ezisekwe kwingcinga ebizwa ngokuba yimijikelezo yokulala. Umjikelo wokuvuka lokulala lixesha apho usana lwakho lulala khona ngokukhanya kunye nezigaba ezinzulu.

Kwiminyaka ethile (ihlala iinyanga ezi-3 ukuya kwezi-4 ubudala), le mijikelo iqala ukulinganisa ukuba injani imijikelezo yabantu abadala yokulala. Ekupheleni komjikelo ngamnye wokuvuka, iintsana ziqikelela kwinqanaba lokulala elilula kakhulu.

Ukuba umntwana wakho omncinci wayefuna into kuwe ukuba alale ekuqaleni komjikelo wokulala, emva koko banokufuna ukuba uphinde iimeko ezifanayo phakathi kwemijikelezo ukugcina ukulala kwabo.

Oku kunokujongeka njengokuvuka rhoqo kwimizuzu engama-20 ukuya kwengama-40 yokuphumla, kunye nayo yonke imizuzu engama-45 ukuya kwengama-90 ngobusuku. Abanye abantwana banokuzimela ngokuzimeleyo kwimijikelo yokulala rhoqo eyenzeka kwinxalenye yokuqala yobusuku kodwa kube nzima ukwenza okufanayo ngexesha lokukhanya okuqhelekileyo okwenzeka njengoko ubusuku buqhubeka.

Ke ngoko, isizathu sokuba sicinge ngokudala inkululeko engakumbi ekuqaleni komjikelo wokulala (umzekelo, ngexesha lokulala) kukunceda incinci yakho ikhonkco kuyo yonke imijikelo elandelayo.

Oko kwathiwa, awunayo unayo ukufundisa inkululeko. Kukhetho, njengalo lonke ukhetho lwabazali oya kuthi ulwenze.

Unokulandela ukhokelo lomncinci wakho, ubanike into abayifunayo de ekugqibeleni babone indlela yokulala bebodwa.

Uninzi lwabantwana lufika apho ekugqibeleni, ngamanye amaxesha phakathi kweminyaka emi-3 ukuya kwe-6 ubudala ngokwe-avareji. Kodwa iintsapho ezininzi azizimiselanga kulinda ixesha elide, kwaye nasiphi na isizathu sokuba ufuna ukuphucula ubuthongo sisemthethweni.

Wena unako Yakha inkululeko ngokuzimela ngokulandela ubukrelekrele bakho bokuba ngumzali, ukuhamba kancinci, kancinci, okanye ngokukhawuleza (nokuba ukhetha ntoni) kulalwe ngcono usapho lonke.

Inkolelo: Umntwana wakho kufuneka abe kwishedyuli yokulala engqongqo

Ndiyazi ukuba ukhe wazibona ezi ndidi zeeshedyuli ngaphambili: ezo zithi kufuneka uhlelise umntwana wakho ngamaxesha athile emini xa uza kulala, kwaye ubanyanzele ukuba balale ixesha elithile.

Iishedyuli zokulala ezingqongqo zenza hayi sebenza, ngakumbi kunyaka wokuqala womntwana wakho. Kuyinto eqhelekileyo kakhulu ukuba ubude bomntwana wakho bokulala buye buguqule ngokubonakalayo.

Ngokukodwa kwiinyanga ezi-6 zokuqala zobomi, xa imijikelo yokuvuka komntwana wakho engekakhuli ngokupheleleyo, i-naps inokuba mfutshane ngokwenene okanye inde kakhulu okanye naphi na phakathi.

Ukulala ngaphambi kweenyanga ezi-6 kunokujongeka kwahlukile kwixesha lokulala ukuya kwixesha lokulala, kwaye kwahlukile mihla le. Ubude be-Nap buchatshazelwa kukukhuthaza, imisebenzi engaphandle kwendlu, ukutya, ukugula, iimeko kunye nemeko yokulala, nokunye okuninzi.

Esinye isizathu sokuba iishedyuli zokulala ezingqongqo zingasebenzi kukuba aziphenduli ukuba umntwana wakho uvukile ixesha elingakanani. Le yeresiphi yosana olugqithileyo. Iintsana ezigqithisileyo ziyayenza hayi lala kamnandi.

Ndikucebisa ukuba ulihloniphe ixesha elisebenza kakuhle kakhulu kumncinci wakho usebenzisa indlela ebhetyebhetye yokulandela iminyaka efanelekileyo yeewindows zakhe. Iifestile ezivusayo lixesha elinokuthi umntwana wakho alichithe evukile kwindawo enye ngaphambi kokuba badinwe.

Ezi festile zigcina kakhulu kwinyanga yokuqala yobomi, kuphela malunga nemizuzu engama-45 ukuya kwengama-60. Njengokuba umntwana ekhula kwaye ekhula, banokuphatha malunga nemizuzu eli-10 ukuya kweli-15 ngaphezulu ngenyanga bade bakwazi ukusingatha malunga neeyure ezi-3 ukuya kwezi-4 zokuvuka kwelinye icala ngokuzalwa kwabo kokuqala.

Inkolelo: Umntwana wakho kufuneka alale kwisibhedlele sakhe sokulala xa ufuna ukuba alale ubusuku bonke

Ngokuqinisekileyo ndayiwela le xa ndandisengumama omtsha. Ndacinga ukuba kufuneka ukuba ndenza into engalunganga ukuba usana lwam lufuna ukulala kum kuphela ukuze lungalali kwaye alunakuphupha ngokulala ebhedini yakhe okanye kwi-bassinet yolala.

Ngoku ndiyayazi inyaniso. Yile nto ilungiselelwe nje abantwana bethu intambo ukwenza.

Xa ndisebenza neentsapho ukuphucula ukulala ebusuku, sisebenza ekunikezeni abantwana ulungelelwaniso, ukuphumla okuhle emini besebenzisa ixesha elifanelekileyo kunye neemeko ezifanelekileyo. Kodwa akukho mfuneko yokuba balale ebhedini yabo okanye kwi-bassinet.

Ukufumana ixesha elifanelekileyo lokulala emini kubaluleke ngakumbi kunalapho balala khona emini.

Isixa kunye nomgangatho wokulala emini uyakunyanzela ukuba umntwana wakho afunde ngokukhawuleza kangakanani ukuzimela, imikhwa yokulala esempilweni ebusuku. Ndicebisa abazali ukuba bagxile ekusekeni iipateni zokulala ebusuku ngaphambi kokuba banyanzelise ukuba abantwana babo balale ebhedini ngexesha lokulala emini.

Xa ukulala kwabo ebusuku kuphuculwe, emva koko sinokuqala ukudala inkululeko engakumbi yolo suku nasemini. Okanye, ungonwabela nje ubhetyebhetye kwi-the-go-naps okanye ii-cuddles ezongezelelweyo ngemini. Iintsana azidideki yile nto.

Ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba alale embhedeni akufuneki abe yiyo yonke okanye angabi yiyo. Umzekelo, usana lwakho lunokwamkela ukulala kanye ngemini kwindawo yabo yokulala okanye kwi-bassinet kwaye unokuqhubeka nokuziqhelanisa nayo de ube ukulungele ukusebenza kwii-naps ezingaphezulu kwindawo yazo.

Qiniseka ukuba kuqhelekile kwaye kuhambelana nophuhliso lweentsana ukuba umntwana wakho afune ukubambeka. Amaxesha amaninzi baya kulala ngcono kwaye bade ngaloo ndlela, nabo.

Ndiyathembisa ukuba ayizukuhlala naphakade - kwaye zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukutshintsha oku xa sele ukulungele ukwenza olo tshintsho. Okwangoku, awenzanga nto iphosakeleyo ukuba umntwana wakho ulale kakuhle kumphathi emini.

Inkolelo: Umntwana wakho kufuneka abe neminyaka ethile ukuze afunde ukulala kakuhle

Baninzi kakhulu abazali abaxelelwa ukuba akukho nto unokuyenza malunga nokulala kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala, ke benza nje nantoni na ekufuneka beyenzile ukuze baphile. Okwangoku, abazali bayasokola ngenxa yokungalali nto leyo iba mbi ngakumbi ngelixa bekhathazeka kwaye bengenathemba.

Umnqophiso wam kukufumana igama: Kuyenzeka ukuba kusekwe imikhwa yokulala esempilweni, nokuzimela besebancinci. Ndiyakuthanda ukusebenza neentsana! Kuninzi kakhulu esinokukwenza kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala zobomi ukuseta ubuthongo obukhulu ixesha elide.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ulinde nje, ugqume amehlo, ngelixesha lokulala elinothusayo wonke umntu athanda ukukoyikisa ngalo: igama elidumileyo nelingalunganga elibizwa ngokuba yi "4-month regression sleep." Eli xesha linzima lokulala malunga neenyanga ezi-4 ubudala lutshintsho nje lwebhayoloji kwiipateni zokulala eziya kwenzeka ngokuqinisekileyo kulo lonke usana.

Ikwayitshintsho esisigxina. Akukho nto ininzi esinokuyenza malunga nale nguqu yeenyanga ezi-4 yakuba yenzekile, kwaye ayisiyiyo into yokuba izinto ziya kubuyela kwindlela ebeziyiyo ngaphambili. Ngapha koko, besingayi kufuna izinto zibuyele kwindlela ebeziyiyo ngaphambili. Amanqaku eenyanga ezi-4 yinkqubela phambili yophuhliso efuna ukubhiyozelwa.

Ngexesha elifanayo, ukuba ungathanda ukunciphisa ukuphazamiseka kokulala okunokwenzeka ngeli xesha, unokwenza utshintsho kwixesha elisandul 'ukuzalwa ukuze uhambe phambili.

Olona tshintsho lunesiqhamo onokuthi ulwenze kwinqanaba elisandul 'ukuzalwa lilandela iifestile ezifanelekileyo zokuvusa ubudala, ukufumana umntwana wakho ukuba aziqhelanise nendawo yabo yokulala rhoqo nasekuqaleni, kwaye uziqhelanise nokubabeka phantsi.

Iintsapho ezisekela imikhwa yokulala esempilweni, nokuzimela ngaphambi kokuba izive inqwenela ukwenza njalo zifumanisa ukuba ziya kuba bhetele, zilale ngokungaguquguqukiyo ekuhambeni kwexesha.

Kwelinye icala, ayisayi kuba lide kakhulu ixesha lokuphucula ubuthongo. Kuhlala njalo malunga nokufumana ixesha xa uziva ulungile ngokwenyani.

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