Ngaba Ndiqhelekile? Imibuzo Yakho Ephezulu emi-6 yezesondo iphendulwe

Umxholo

• Ndaba neentlobano zesini ezingakhuselekanga. Ngoku ndiyoyika ndine-STD.
• Ndineminyaka engama-30, kwaye andikaze ndibelane ngesondo.
• Andinamdla wokuba neentlobano zesini njengoko isoka lam linjalo.
• Kubuhlungu xa ndilalana!
• Andikho kwisondo somlomo.
• Andizange ndibe ne-orgasm.
• Uphengululo lwe

Ukuncokola nge-orgasms, i-lagging libidos, okanye ii-STDs kunokoyikisa. Sangena ke senza lo mbuzo. Ukuqonda kwethu kweengcali kunokukuqinisekisa, kukumangalise, kwaye kukukhuthaze ukuba uvuse ubushushu kwiiseshoni zakho ezingxoweni.

Ndaba neentlobano zesini ezingakhuselekanga. Ngoku ndiyoyika ndine-STD.

Unesizathu esibambekayo sokuxhalaba: Izifo ezidluliselwa ngeentlobano zesini ziya zisanda, ngokutsho kwamaZiko oLawulo noThintelo lweZifo, kukho iimeko ezitsha ezizizigidi ezili-19 ezenzeka nyaka ngamnye.Ngelishwa, usulelo alufumaneki emzimbeni wakho kwangoko, ke kuya kufuneka ulinde iveki enexhala okanye ngaphambi kokuba ubone ugqirha wakho ukuze ahlolwe i-chlamydia kunye ne-gonorrhea, utshilo ugqirha wezifo zabasetyhini waseNew York uCarol Livoti, MD-kwaye emva koko ezinye iintsuku ezintathu ukuya kwezisixhenxe zeziphumo. “Unyango lokubulala iintsholongwane luya kuthi luthintele olu sulelo lwebhaktiriya,” utshilo uLivoti. "Kodwa ukuba ayiphathwanga, inokubangela umonakalo wexesha elide kwaye yenzakalise ukuzala kwakho." Kuya kufuneka ucwangcise ixesha lokuqeshwa emva kweenyanga ezintathu ukufumana uvavanyo lwe-hepatitis, igcushuwa kunye ne-HIV. "Oku kuthatha ixesha elide ukubonakala kwinkqubo yakho," uyacacisa. Inye kuphela into oza kuyilungisa kwangoko, ngaphandle kokuba usepilisi okanye usebenzisa i-IUD, kuya kufuneka uthathe ipilisi yakusasa (efumaneka kwikhawuntara) ASAP ukunqanda ukukhulelwa okungafunekiyo. “Ungaqalisa iPlan B ukuya kuthi ga kwiiyure ezingama-72 emva kokwabelana ngesondo ngokungakhuselekanga,” utshilo uLivoti, “kodwa isebenza kwangoko. Kwaye kwixesha elizayo, qokelela iikhondom ukuze uhlale unazo kwisipaji sakho kunye netafile esecaleni kwebhedi. [Cofa kuTwitter le ngcebiso!]

Ndineminyaka engama-30, kwaye andikaze ndibelane ngesondo.

Ngokuqinisekileyo ubumbalwa omncinci: NgokweSaveyi kaZwelonke yokuKhula koSapho, inye kuphela kwabasetyhini abangama-53 abaneminyaka engama-30 ukuya kwengama-34 eseyintombi. "Kodwa akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokulinda, ngakumbi ukuba uyayeka ngenxa yezizathu zonqulo okanye ude ufumane umntu olungileyo," utshilo uTammy Nelson, umbhali we-Get the Sex You Want. Ukuba ungathanda ukuba neentlobano zesini kwaye akunjalo, kodwa, lelo libali elahlukileyo. UNelson uthi: “Njengokuba abantu besetyhini bekhula, abaninzi baqala ukuphakuzela kwaye bazive bengekho mgaqweni noontanga babo ukuba abakakwenzi oku. "Ukuba uziva unexhala malunga nemeko yakho, cinga ngokubonana nengcali yonyango ukuze ufumanise ukuba yintoni enokubambela umva. Isenokuba luloyiko lokusondelelana, ukungazithembi, okanye umba osebuntwaneni bakho." Ukusebenza kwezi zithintelo kunokukunceda ufumane ukuzithemba ngakumbi, kunye nolonwabo kunye nokunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo okuvela kwisini.

Andinamdla wokuba neentlobano zesini njengoko isoka lam linjalo.

Kuqhelekile ukuba umntu omnye kubudlelwane afune ukulala ngesondo ngaphezulu komnye ngamanye amaxesha, utshilo uNelson. Kwaye umnqweno wabasetyhini uqhutywa ngakumbi ngokweemvakalelo kunamadoda, wongeza, "ke uxinzelelo lomsebenzi okanye imicimbi yobuqu inokuthatha umthwalo." Sesinye sezizathu zokuba i-9 pesenti yabasetyhini abaneminyaka eyi-18 ukuya kwengama-44 bavume ukuba bane-libido ephantsi nangaliphi na ixesha, bathi abaphandi baseMassachusetts General Hospital. Kodwa ukuba i-sex drive yakho ilahlekile iinyanga, unobangela unokuba ngowasemzimbeni. UNelson uthi: "Amayeza amaninzi, afana neyeza lokuthomalalisa uxinzelelo, iipilisi zokuthintela inzala, kunye ne antihistamines. Ungafuna ukutshintshela kolunye uhlobo lwechiza. Ukuba awukho kwi-Rx, jonga amanqanaba akho ehomoni, anokuguqulwa sisifo seswekile, uxinzelelo lwegazi, kunye nezinye iingxaki; ukusebenzisa i-estrogen okanye i-testosterone cream kunokunceda. Nje ukuba ugqirha wakho achonge okanye akhuphe izizathu, sebenzela ukuphakamisa idrayivu yakho ngokwemvelo. Ukuzivocavoca kunye nokutya ngokufanelekileyo kunokunceda ngokuphucula umfanekiso womzimba kunye nokunyusa amandla akho-kwaye ke unokusuka nje uye kuyo. Isini sonyusa iihormoni ezikhuthaza umnqweno, utshilo uNelson. "Yeyona aphrodisiac ilungileyo phaya."

Kubuhlungu xa ndilalana!

Joyina iklabhu: Uninzi lweepesenti ze-60 zabasetyhini baye bafumana iintlungu ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, ngokutsho kophando kwiphephancwadi I-Obstetrics & Gynecology. "Kwiimeko ezininzi kukusilela kokuthambisa," utshilo uLivoti. Iipilisi zolawulo lokuzalwa, ii-antihistamines, kunye nezinye iindlela zonyango zinokuba negalelo kukoma kwilungu lobufazi, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi akukho sizathu sonyango. Kwaye ingenzeka nakweyiphi na iminyaka. "Kwaye, ukungqubana ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo kunokusebenzisa ukuthambisa kwakho kwendalo," wongeze watsho uDebby Herbenick, Ph.D., isazinzulu sophando kwiYunivesithi yaseIndiana kunye nombhali ngoba Iyaziva ilungile. Gcina ityhubhu yelube ngokusekwe emanzini akho kokona kulungileyo kuba ayimdaka, iyahambelana nelatex kunye nesilicone, kwaye ifumaneka lula. Kodwa ukuba ukungonwabi kuyaqhubeka emva kweempompo ezimbalwa, okanye ukuba isisa sikhatshwa ngumkhuhlane okanye ukopha, kubalulekile ukuba ubonane nogqirha wakho. "Ukucaphuka ekuvuleni kwilungu lobufazi kungabonisa ukusuleleka kwintsholongwane, isinyi, okanye usulelo lomchamo olufuna amayeza," utshilo uLivoti. "Kwaye iintlungu ezibangelwa kukugxotha okunzulu kunokuba sisiphumo se-ovarian cyst."

Andikho kwisondo somlomo.

Kukho izizathu ezibini zokuba kutheni abantu basetyhini bengakuthandi ukwamkela umlomo, utshilo umqeqeshi wesini saseNew York u-Amy Levine: Iqabane labo alinabuchule, okanye bayazazi ukuba abanavumba okanye incasa elungileyo. Kwinqaku lokuqala, khomba umntu wakho kwicala elifanelekileyo ngokuthi, "Ndiyayithanda xa u..." Okwesibini, ukuhlamba kukulungisa ngokukhawuleza. Ngokuphathelele ukunikela ngomlomo, uNelson uthi ngoxa abanye abafazi besithi bakufumanisa kuthoba isidima, “abaninzi bavakalelwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo: Ukonwabisa amaqabane abo kubenza bazive benamandla.” Nangona kunjalo, khumbula ukuba unokwenza isivumelwano se-STD njenge-herpes okanye i-HPV kwisini somlomo, ke yiba nentetho ethembekileyo neqabane lakho kuqala.

Andizange ndibe ne-orgasm.

Iipesenti ezilishumi zabasetyhini basezihlangu zakho, ngokukaRachel Needle, ugqirha wezengqondo kwiziko lezeMpilo eMtshatweni nakwezeSondo eMzantsi Florida. Ukuziyeka uhambe kungoyikisa, "yatsho inaliti. "Kwaye okukhona uxinezeleka malunga nayo, kokukhona kunzima ukugxila kuvuthondaba." Kodwa kufanelekile umgudu: Ayisiva nje kuphela ukuba ilungile, uphando lubonisa ukuba ii-orgasms zinokunciphisa uxinzelelo, zinciphise iintlungu kunye neempawu ze-PMS, kwaye zinokukunceda uphile ixesha elide. Akukho mephu yendalo iphela "eya phaya" kuba wonke umntu wahlukile; ukufunda ngomzimba wakho kubalulekile. "Ukuphulula amalungu esini yeyona ndlela yokwenza oku," utshilo uLevine. Emva kokuba wenze i-orgasm ngokwakho, uya kukwazi ukukhokela iqabane lakho. Amaxesha amaninzi ukuba neentlobano zesini kuphela akwanelanga ukuvuselela, wongeza uNelson, ke ngoko zama ukusebenzisa izandla zakho nokuzama iindawo ezahlukeneyo. Sukuba nexhala lokuba kungathatha ixesha elingakanani-ukusuka kwimizuzu esixhenxe ukuya kwengama-30 kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Lala nje kwaye wonwabe.

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