Ukuba ngumlimi wemifuno kumfana wam yayisesona sigqibo sakha sasibi

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Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokulandela ukutya kwemifuno, kodwa ucace gca ngoba wenza utshintsho ngundoqo. Ngaba yinto oyifuna ngokwenene, okanye ngaba iqhutywa ngumnqweno wokufuna ukufikelela imilinganiselo yomnye umntu? Iwela phi kuluhlu lwakho lwezinto eziphambili?

Ukuqala kwam utya imifuno, khange ndizibuze le mibuzo, kwaye khange ndiqikelele kwimiceli mngeni endiza kujongana nayo. Kwiminyaka engama-22 ubudala ndandingekafundi indlela yokuba nemfesane kum-okanye ngomzimba wam-kwaye ndandisokola ukuziva ndilufanele uthando. Ubudlelwane bezothando babenomngeni, kodwa kwisiqingatha sokugqibela sam sekholeji, ndazifumana ndithandana nomfana oneminyaka embalwa emdala kunam.Ndiza kumazi ngezihlobo ezifanayo (kunye nemiyalezo ye-MySpace, kuba abantu bahlala njani benxibelelana kwiXesha Lobumnyama). Xa wayesuka eBoston esiya eNew York, ndawayeka amalungiselelo am emva kokuphumelela kwam ukuze ndifumane umsebenzi eMassachusetts, apho inkoliso yabahlobo bam noosomashishini babekho, ndaza ndafudukela eBrooklyn. Andisenzeli esi sigqibo somfana nje, ndazixelela-kusengqiqweni, kuba usapho lwam lwaluseNew Jersey, kuba ndifumene i-internship ehlawulwayo kunye nomsebenzi wesingxungxo wokundifumana de ndifumane "umsebenzi wokwenene." Yonke into yayiza kwenzeka kulungile.

Kwisithuba esingangenyanga emva kokufuduka kwam, mna naye sagqiba kwelokuba siye etyotyombeni. Irente ebizayo inendlela yokukhawulezisa izigqibo zobomi, ngakumbi xa usiya kwisixeko esitsha apho ungazi mntu kwaye ungacingi ukuba ungadibana njani nabani na kulwandle olukhulu lwabantu ongabaziyo. Ngapha koko, ndandineminyaka engama-22 ubudala yaye ndandicinga ukuba ndisemathandweni. Mhlawumbi bendinjalo. (Izinto ezihambelanayo: Ngaba ukunxulumana kunye kuya konakalisa uBudlelwane bakho?)

Ukwabelana ngobomi bakho nomntu kuzisa zonke iintlobo zemingeni, iyantlukwano ekutyeni phakathi kwabo. Kwenzeka ukuba ndibenomnqweno wokunqwenela i-steak kwaye ndithande iwhiskey. (Heyi, wonke umntu unezinto azithandayo "ezixolisayo, angaxoli"). Yena, kwelinye icala, wayengumntu othanda imifuno. Ndikhumbula ndincoma uqeqesho kunye nokuzinikela kwakhe, kwaye ndandifuna ukuba yintombi elungileyo, exhasayo. Ukungagcini utywala kwigumbi kwakungeyongxaki kwaphela. Ewe ndiyayithanda incasa yewhisky, kodwa nkqu ngokungekho semthethweni, Ndandikucaphukela ukuziva ndinxilile, ngenxa yoko ndandiye ndibambelele eku-odoleni isiselo ngelixa ndiphumile.

Into yenyama yajika yaba yinxalenye enzima. EBoston, bendihlala ndedwa kwaye bendikhe ndaziqhekeza ukuziphekela nantoni na endiyifunayo, nokuba oko kuthetha ukolula ukutya kwaseTshayina okushiyekileyo ngamaqanda othosiweyo kunye nemifuno efriziwe okanye ukuthunga iihagu zenyama yehagu kunye nokuzama ukosa amagqabi eroma kwiGeorge Foreman. Wathi esaqala ukuya eNew York ndabe ndisagqibezela isikolo, ndandisitya imifuno xa ndimbona kuba ndandisazi ukuba ndingatya inyama emva kokuba sivalelise. Into endingazange ndayiqonda kukuba bendizakuseta ipateni: Wayeqhela kum ukutya ngendlela yakhe kuba ndandiyigcina kuye indlela yam yokutya yokwenyani kuye nakubudlelwane bethu. (Jonga kwakhona: Izibonelelo zokutya okuneFlexitarian)

Kwakucace kwangoko ukuba xa sihlala kunye wayelindele into enye. Ngokobuchwephesha wayenemifuno ye-lacto-ovo (osadla amaqanda kunye nezobisi) kodwa wayezonda amaqanda nangona kunjalo, ke andivunyelwanga ukuba ndipheke nawo. Amaxesha ambalwa bendibatya ndijikeleze nesithandwa sam, wenza isandi sokuphinda enze into enjengomntwana omncinci anokuyenza kwi-broccoli. Ndandizama ukuzalisa ngenyama nentlanzi xa siye kukutya isidlo sangokuhlwa nentsapho yam, kodwa xa yayisithi sobabini, wayedla ngokusinyanzela ukuba singenise imali ukuze songe imali, yaye yayisoloko isitya imifuno. Ukuba imenyu ayinazo iindlela ezininzi zokukhetha ubungakanani be-veg, enye i-rant ibiya kulandela malunga nokuba abantu abangaxatyiswanga kakuhle abatya inyama kuluntu.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, akazange athi "hamba imifuno, okanye kungenjalo," kodwa akazange afune-kwacaca ukuba isoka lam alivumelani neendlela zam ze-omnivorous. Wayenemibono eyomeleleyo malunga nokutya okwakungekho kwaye "kunganyanisekanga" kwaye kwamkelekile. Nangona kunokwenzeka ukuhlalisana ngoxolo nomntu onemikhwa eyahlukeneyo yokutya, oku kufezwa ngcono ngokungakhathali ngento ocinga ukuba ilungile. Ndifuna ukuphepha ungquzulwano, ke ndazama ukufumana iiresiphi zemifuno ezinokundanelisa kunye nesisu sam esihlabayo. Kwakulula kunokulwa. Umama wam waqala ngovuyo ukupheka ulungelelwaniso lwemifuno yokuthanda usapho ngeeholide ukuze azive amkelekile kwaye ke andizukuziva ngathi kufuneka ndikhethe phakathi kwakhe okanye kubo.

Ngelixa abahlobo bam bebephaya bethandana kwaye behamba kunye nokuhamba ubomi be-post-college, ndandifunda indlela yokubeka uhlobo olufanelekileyo lokutya kwitafile. Usapho lwam nabahlobo bam babecinga ukuba ndonwabile, kodwa ndandiyifihla into yokuba ndandisoloko ndikhala mihla le yaye ndandisenza izigqibo ezingakumbi ngokusekelwe ekubeni ndandicinga ukuba uza kundigxeka na. Kwakungekuko malunga nokutya, nokuba-yayiyimpahla yam, uburharha obomileyo, umdla wam kukuvumisa ngeenkwenkwezi. Yayilubhalo lwam kunye nento endandifuna ukuyenza ngobomi bam. Yonke into ngam yayixhomekeke kwiingxoxo malunga nendlela endinokuphucula ngayo.

“Ndiyakugxeka kuba ndikhathalele,” watsho.

Ndaziva ndingumntu owahlukileyo. Umzimba wam wawuva ukrwada, kwaye nengqondo yam yayisiba nenkungu. Bendilambile Konke. Inkqubo ye-. Ixesha. Xa ndikhangela emva, ndandingondlekanga kakuhle ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Masingathethi nokuba yeyiphi na into engondlekanga eyenzayo kwi-libido yakho. Ukubona imifanekiso ukususela ngelo xesha ebomini bam kundenza buhlungu. Iinwele zam zishwabene kwaye zomile, kwaye namehlo am anezi zinto zidiniweyo, ezingafaniyo.

Xa ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndibuyele esikolweni ndineminyaka engama-23 ndiyokufumana inkosi yam kwisondlo ndize ndibe yingcungela yokutya, wazama ukundithetha, ndinomsindo andizange ndithethe naye ngaphambi kokufaka isicelo kwaye ndibuza ukuba ingaba bendisenzela abazali na imvume (into mna, ngcono okanye embi, andizange ndikhathazeke ngayo). Into ebendisoyika ukuyikhafula kukuba le mfundo ibimele (ibiza kakhulu) inkululeko ekubuzweni kwakhe rhoqo.

Andiqinisekanga ukuba yintoni eyenze ukuba ndiyimele le nto xa ndandingakwazi nokuthenga ibhokisi yobisi lwe-soy ngaphandle kokunyibilika kufutshane (Ngaba ibilungile ubisi lwe-soy? Ngaba angathi ndifumene uphawu olungelulo?) . Okwangoku, ndathumela kwisheke yam yokuqala yokufunda ndaze ndatshintsha amaphepha am ukuqala isemester ngaphambili kunokuba bekulindelwe. Andizange ndikwazi ukulinda ukuba ndiqale ukufunda isayensi emva kwendlela ukutya okuchaphazela ngayo ingqondo nomzimba, kuba ngokuqinisekileyo yayinendlela yokuchaphazela ukuzithemba kwam kunye nobudlelwane bam.

Xa ndandineminyaka engama-24 kwaye malunga nonyaka kwinkqubo yam yesondlo, ndaya kubona ugqirha wam ngenxa yeentlungu ezibuhlungu endandiziva kwiingalo zombini. Ubize "indlela yokusabela ngoxinzelelo," eyona nto ikukuphulukana noxinzelelo loxinzelelo. Kodwa kutheni? Ukusuka entwenini? Iintlungu zazisenza ukuba kube nzima ukulala, kwaye ndandingakwazi nokubamba usiba, olwaluthi, njengombhali, luzive ngathi sisiphelo sehlabathi. Ndizobuyela nini kwijenali? Ukusonga imela yompheki kwiklasi yam yokuvelisa ukutya ehlotyeni kwakuthobisa. Ndingaze ndenze iyoga kwakhona?

Ndahlala ndizama ukususa ukwenzakala, kodwa busuku ngabunye ndandilala ndilele kubushushu baseNew York (inkwenkwe eyayisithiyile i-air conditioning) ndizigxeka ngokungalumkanga. Emazantsi entliziyo yam, ndandisazi ukuba inento yokwenza nokutya kwam, kodwa ndandisoyika ukuzikhupha ngokupheleleyo ezo ngcinga. Oko kuyakuthetha ukuphazamisa uxolo ebendikhe ndalwenza nzima ukuze ndilufezekise kulwalamano lwam.

Ukusuka kwisikolo sam sesondlo, bendisazi ukuba kufuneka ndibambe iprotein, calcium, kunye nevithamin D ukulungisa amathambo, kodwa bekunzima kakhulu ukusebenzisa olo lwazi. Ndinqwenela ukuba ndizive ndinamandla okumelana neemfuno zam endaweni yokuqhubeka nokulandela imigaqo yendlu engenanyama. Ndingathengisa ubuncinci, yithi, umgubo weprotein okanye iyogathi yamaGrike endaweni yesiqhelo (eshibhile) "esamkelweyo" iyogathi. Ndirhalela inkukhu kunye namaqanda kunye nentlanzi efana nokuphambana kwaye ndade ndazicenga ukuba ndizithengise ngelixa ndizotya nabahlobo okanye nosapho, kodwa bendihlala ndisiva ilizwi lakhe ngalo lonke ixesha.

Ngaloo Septemba, ekugqibeleni ndambona ugqirha wam malunga nentlungu ebuhlungu ngoku esasazeke kwaye ingcangcazela emzimbeni wam wonke, oye weza ugcwele yintloko, intloko ebuhlungu, kunye nemvakalelo eqhelekileyo yokuziva ngathi zonke iifowuni zijikisiwe. Umfana wam wandixelela ukuba kungcono ndingabuyi "nokuxilongwa, njenge-fibromyalgia, okanye into." Iziphumo zelebhu zabuya ngokukhawuleza-bendinevithamini B12 kunye nevithamin D-ukusilela okuqhelekileyo ngezidlo ezisekwe kwizityalo. Ugqirha wam uqinisekisile ukuba ukusilela kusenokuba negalelo ekwenzakaleni kwengalo yam. Izincedisi zincedile, kodwa khange ziwulungise umba osisiseko: Oku kutya okanye olu lwalamano lwalunempilo kum.

Yayilusuku lwam lokuzalwa lwama-25 xa ekugqibeleni ndagqiba ekubeni ndenze utshintsho. Ndihlekisa ngoku amaqanda ebesisiqalo sesiphelo. Isiqingatha seshumi elinambini elinamahloni-uhlobo losuku lokuzalwa kum-luza kuthatha indawo encinci efrijini, kodwa kuya kufuneka ndiyithathile ndibeke ibhokisi phantsi izihlandlo ezili-10 ngaphambi kokuyifaka kwibhasikithi yam ndisiya kwirejista. Wayeza kuthini? Ngelo xesha, ndazixelela nje ukuba ngobuchwephesha, amaqanda ayesenobubele bemifuno kwaye ngekhe atshintshe nantoni na.

Kodwa izinto zitshintshile, hayi ngenxa yamaqanda kuphela. Saqala ukukhula ngokwahlukeneyo, kwaye ukunyaniseka, ndicinga ukuba ukuya kwimitshato esibhozo ngelo hlobo kwasityhala sobabini ukuba sibuze ngekamva lethu kunye. Sasitshintshile sobabini. Kwaye kwakungabonakali ngathi yinto eyenzekileyo ukuba ngcono ndaziva, ulwalamano lwethu lwaba lubi. Ngaphantsi nje konyaka emva "kwamaqanda," waphuma.

Ndandilindele ukuba buhlungu, kodwa ndaziva ndichulumancile. Ngokuqinisekileyo, indlu yam yavakala kwaye kwafuneka ndifumane itoni yemisebenzi engaqhelekanga yokuzibandakanya kwinxalenye yerenti, kodwa ndaziva ... ndikhululekile, ndinethemba lokulumka emzimbeni wam endaweni yeentlungu ezinzulu ndibambene nonyaka ngaphambili. Kwandithatha iinyanga ukuba ndizive ndikhululekile ukupheka inyama kwakhona, kwaye ilizwi lakhe lahlala entlokweni yam xa ndihlola iileyibhile kunye neemenyu, kodwa ukucinga ngokugqithiseleyo kwaphela ngokuthe ngcembe.

Ngoku ndinandipha ukutya okusempilweni okubandakanya inyama, intlanzi, amaqanda, kunye nobisi kunye nokutya okuninzi okungenanyama. Ndaye ndafumana uthando lwePilates ngonyango lomzimba, kwaye ekugqibeleni ndabuyela kwi-yoga kunye noqeqesho lwamandla, ndibabona njengokuzikhathalela kunokuzilolonga ngoku. Ndiziva ndizolile, ndicacile, kwaye ndomelele.

Kungenxa yokuba ndinamava amabi oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kuba njalo ukuba wena neqabane lakho ninemikhwa yokutya eyahlukileyo. Abantu abanezidlo ezahlukeneyo abahlala phantsi kophahla olunye unako yenze isebenze-ifuna nje unxibelelwano, ukwamkelwa, kunye nobuchule bokupheka. Fumana indawo yakho efanayo kwaye usebenze ukusuka apho. Kukwabalulekile ukuba ungene kunye nawe ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ubudlelwane, njengokutya kwakho, bulungile. Kwaye f * * *, ukuba isipho sakho esithi "Happy Milestone Birthday to Me" sithenga amaqanda amathandathu, ke into ayilunganga. Umntu olungele wena uya kufuna ukuba uzive ungoyena mntu wakho, nokuba ukhetha ukubeka ntoni kwipleyiti yakho.

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