Ndinomhlaza - Ewe Ndidandathekile. Ke kutheni Ubona iTherapist?

Unyango lunokunceda nabani na. Kodwa isigqibo sokuyilandela sixhomekeke kuwe.

Umbuzo: Oko ndafunyaniswa ndinomhlaza wamabele, bendinemicimbi emininzi yoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. Ngamanye amaxesha ndilila ngaphandle kwesizathu, kwaye ndiphelelwe ngumdla kwizinto ezininzi ebendikade ndizithanda. Ndinamaxesha apho ndothuke kwaye ndingayeki ukucinga malunga nokuza kwenzeka ukuba unyango alusebenzi, okanye ukuba luyabuya, okanye naliphi na inani lezinye iimeko ezimbi.

Abahlobo bam kunye nosapho bahlala bendixelela ukuba ndibone i-Therapist, kodwa andicingi ukuba ikhona into "engalunganga" ngam. I-WHO ngekhe ukuba noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo ukuba babenayo f cking umhlaza? Umgqirha akazukuyilungisa loo nto.

Ndiyakubona, sihlobo. Zonke iimpendulo zakho zivakala zilindelwe kwaye ziqhelekile- {textend} nantoni na "eqhelekileyo" nokuba ithetha ntoni kwimeko enje.

Uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo bobabini phakathi kwabantu abanomhlaza. Olunye uphononongo luye lwabonisa ukuba abantu abanomhlaza wamabele (kunye nabo banesifo somhlaza esiswini) banokudakumba noxinzelelo kwizigulana ezinomhlaza. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba ukugula ngengqondo kusabekwa amabala, amanani-manani malunga nawo athanda ukukujongela phantsi ukuxhaphaka okuyinyani.

Ukuba noxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo akuthethi ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngawe, nokuba unomdlavuza okanye awunayo. Rhoqo, ezi ziimpendulo eziqondakalayo kwizinto eziqhubeka kubomi babantu: uxinzelelo, isizungu, ukuxhatshazwa, imicimbi yezopolitiko, ukudinwa, kunye nalo naliphi na inani lezinye izinto ezibangela oko.

Ngokuqinisekileyo ulungile ukuba ugqirha akanakunyanga umhlaza wakho. Kodwa banokukunceda uphile kwaye uphumelele ngezinye iindlela.

Enye yezona zinto zinzima kwaye zodwa ezahlukileyo malunga nokunyanga yindlela ekunzima ngayo kuthi uninzi lwethu ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zethu zoloyiko kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba kwabo sibathandayo, abasoloko belwa nala mvakalelo inye. Umgqirha wenza indawo yokuba uvumele ezo mvakalelo ziphume ngaphandle kokukhathazeka malunga nokuba ziya kumchaphazela njani omnye umntu.

Unyango lunokukunceda ukuba ufumane kwaye ubambelele kwezo pokotho zincinci zovuyo kunye nolwaneliseko olusekhona ebomini bakho. Ngelixa uchanekile ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo ngokwendalo luza kubantu abaninzi abanomhlaza, oko akuthethi ukuba abanakuphepheka, okanye kufuneka ubenamandla nje ngabo.

Ukuya kunyango akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ugqibelele ekujongeni kwaye uhlala ujonge kwicala eliqaqambileyo ™. Akukho mntu ulindele loo nto. Awunatyala nakubani na.

Uya kuba neentsuku ezimbi nokuba zithini. Ngokuqinisekileyo ndenzile. Ndikhumbula elinye idinga ngexesha le-chemo xa i-oncologist ibuza malunga nomoya wam. Ndimxelele ukuba bendisandula ukuya eBarnes & Noble kwaye andinakukuvuyela oko. ("Ewe, ngoku ndiyazi ukuba kukho ingxaki enkulu," waqhula, ekugqibeleni ezisa uncumo ebusweni bam.)

Kodwa unyango lunokukunika izixhobo zokuhamba ngezo ntsuku zimbi kwaye uqiniseke ukuba unezona zilungileyo njengoko unakho. Ukufanele oko.

Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuzama unyango, ndicebisa ukuba ubuze iqela lakho lonyango ukuba lithumele. Kukho uninzi lweengcali ezigqwesileyo nezifanelekileyo ezijolise ekusebenzeni nabasindileyo bomhlaza.

Kwaye ukuba ekugqibeleni ugqibe kwelokuba unyango ayilolwakho, lukhetho olufanelekileyo olo. Uyingcali kwinto oyifunayo ngoku. Uvumelekile ukuba uxelele abantu obathandayo ukuba, "Ndiyakuva, kodwa ndinayo le nto."

Ikwayinto oyifumanayo ukutshintsha ingqondo yakho ngalo naliphi na ixesha. Unokuziva ukhululekile ngaphandle konyango ngoku kwaye kamva uthathe isigqibo sokuba ungangcono ngayo. Kulungile.

Ndiqaphele ukuba kukho amaxesha amathathu anzima kubantu abanomhlaza: phakathi kokuchongwa kunye nokuqala konyango, kanye emva kokuba unyango luphelile, kunye nokuhlolwa okujongwa kwixesha elizayo. Ukuphela konyango kunokuba yinto engaqhelekanga kunye nokuphazamiseka. Ukuhlolwa konyaka kuya kuvelisa zonke iintlobo zeemvakalelo ezothusayo, nkqu neminyaka ngaphandle.

Ukuba oko kuyenzeka kuwe, khumbula ukuba ezi zizizathu ezifanelekileyo zokufuna unyango.

Nantoni na okhetha ukuyenza, yazi ukuba kukho abantu abakhathalayo nabanobuchule apha phandle abanokwenza izinto zifunxe kancinci.

Ozinzileyo,

UMiri

UMiri Mogilevsky ngumbhali, utitshala, kunye nonyango olusebenza eColumbus, eOhio. Babambe i-BA kwisayikholoji kwiYunivesithi yaseNyakatho-ntshona kunye nenkosi kwimisebenzi yezentlalo evela kwiYunivesithi yaseColumbia. Bafunyaniswe benesigaba 2a somhlaza webele ngo-Okthobha u-2017 kwaye bagqibe unyango ngentwasahlobo ka-2018. UMiri ungumnini malunga neewigi ezingama-25 ezahlukeneyo ukusuka kwiintsuku zabo ze-chemo kwaye uyakonwabela ukuzisebenzisa ngobuchule. Ngaphandle komhlaza, bakwabhala ngempilo yengqondo, ubungqingqwa besini, isondo elikhuselekileyo kunye nemvume, kunye negadi.