Omele ukwenze ukulwa nesizungu

Umxholo

• 1. Yamkela ukuba into ifuna ukutshintsha
• 2. Musa ukunikezela kwixesha elidlulileyo kunye nosizi
• 3. Yiba ngumntu oqinisekileyo
• 4. Musa ukuzahlula kwabanye
• 5. Fumana umdlalo
• 6. Bhalisa kwikhosi
• 7. Funa uncedo kwiingcali
• Ungabuphepha njani ubulolo ebudaleni

Ubulolo benzeka xa umntu ekho okanye eziva elilolo, ekhokelela kwiimvakalelo ezingalunganga kunye nemvakalelo yokuziva ulilize. Ukulwa le meko, kubalulekile ukuba abantu bamkele ukuba abekho kumkhondo olungileyo, kwaye baqwalasele amanyathelo kunye nezimo zengqondo ezinokuthathwa ukutshintsha lo mzuzu ebomini.

Ukongeza, kubalulekile ukuba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwaye emva koko uqalise ukuba nemikhwa evumela abantu ukuba basondele, njengokuya kwizifundo okanye kumaqela apho kuncokolwa khona, ezemidlalo okanye izinto ezinxulumene nazo. Ezinye izinto ezinokuthathwa zezi:

1. Yamkela ukuba into ifuna ukutshintsha

Ukuba kukho imvakalelo yokuba lilolo, nokuba kungenxa yokunqongophala kwabahlobo, okanye ukunqongophala kokusondelelana nabantu abakungqongileyo, kubalulekile ukucinga ukuba le meko ayonelanga kwaye uzame ukufumana ukuba yintoni enokuthi ingekho emgceni.

Umthambo olungileyo kukubhala ephepheni izizathu zokuba kutheni ucinga ukuba uwedwa, njengomntu oneentloni, unengxaki yokunxibelelana, okanye abahlobo bafudukile emva koko babhale phantsi into enokwenziwa ukusombulula imeko nganye.

Ke ngoko, kufanele ukuba kukhunjulwe ukuba inyathelo lokuqala lokulungisa ukuba into ayilunganga kukuthatha nokwamkela ukuba ingxaki ikhona kwaye ujonge ezinye iindlela, ngaloo ndlela uthintela indima yexhoba.

2. Musa ukunikezela kwixesha elidlulileyo kunye nosizi

Iziganeko ezininzi zinokuba nefuthe kumzuzwana wangoku wesizungu, nangona kunjalo, akuncedi ukuhlala kwixesha elidlulileyo ukuba okwangoku kuyafumaneka ukuthatha inyathelo eliya phambili. Ukuma okutsha kufuneka kuthathwe, kwaye kufuneka kwenziwe amathuba amatsha kunye nezinto ezinokwenzeka ukuze emva koko, uphilele okwangoku kunye nekamva, hayi okwenzekileyo.

3. Yiba ngumntu oqinisekileyo

Yiyeke imeko engeyiyo yakho kunye neemeko, kwaye uqalise ukuba nesimo sengqondo sokukhanya, ngokugxeka okuncinci kunye nokusola. Ukusoloko ulinde ukwaliwa kuya kukusa kude ebantwini, ke soloko ulindele okona kulungileyo ebantwini nakwiimeko.

Ukongeza, ukoyisa isizungu, kubalulekile ukuphucula ukuzithemba, ukuvumela ukuzithemba okukhulu kuwe.

4. Musa ukuzahlula kwabanye

Zama ukuthetha nabantu ngakumbi okanye, ukuba oku kunzima, zibonise uvulelekile kwincoko, ugcine uncumo kwaye ujonge phambili, endaweni yokujonga phantsi okanye iingalo ezinqamlezileyo. Ke, vumela ukuba wenze abahlobo abatsha, kodwa oku kuya kwenzeka kuphela xa unesimo sengqondo sokuhambahamba okanye ukuncokola nabantu abatsha.

Enye indlela elungileyo yokwenza abahlobo kukujoyina amaqela eendaba ezentlalo anomdla ofanayo. Kodwa, kufuneka unonophelo lokungazibandakanyi nabantu abangalunganga, kuba ukwenza abahlobo ababi kunokuba kubi kakhulu, kwaye kuzise iziphumo ezibi ebomini bakho.

5. Fumana umdlalo

Fumanisa umdlalo owuthandayo okanye owuthandayo, eyindlela elungileyo yokuhlangana okanye ukusondela ebantwini. Kukho iindlela zokukhetha iinkonzo zasekuhlaleni okanye amaqela eentlanganiso veki nganye, ekunokuqhagamshelwana nawo kwiklinikhi yempilo yosapho ekufuphi. Olunye ukhetho kukuziqhelanisa nemidlalo kwiqela, okanye ukujoyina iqela lokufunda, umzekelo.

Ukongeza, kukho imisebenzi enceda ukuba nolwazi ngakumbi ngokwakho kunye nokuqonda iimvakalelo, ezinje ngamayeza kunye neyoga, umzekelo, enceda ukuqonda ngcono imida kunye namandla akho, ukongeza kufezekiso lokuzibamba.

6. Bhalisa kwikhosi

Jonga imisebenzi emitsha kwaye unike intsingiselo entsha ebomini, ufumane ulwazi olutsha, kwaye ngaphezulu koko, uqinisekise isangqa esitsha sabahlobo abanokubakho. Ke, uphando malunga nezifundo ongathanda ukuzithatha, ezinje ngolwimi olutsha, ukuphuculwa kobungcali okanye ukuzonwabisa, njengesixhobo okanye igadi, umzekelo.

7. Funa uncedo kwiingcali

Isayikholojisti okanye ugqirha wengqondo ngamahlakani afanelekileyo okufumana iindlela zokoyisa imiqobo ebangela ukuba ube lilolo, ukongeza ekuncedeni ukoyisa iimvakalelo ezingalunganga. Ukuba imvakalelo yokuziva ulilolo ikhatshwa zezinye iimpawu, ezinje ngokudakumba, ukuphelelwa ngumnqweno, kunye notshintsho lokutya, umzekelo, kubalulekile ukubonisana nogqirha wengqondo, ukuphanda ezinye izinto ezibangela iimpawu ezingalunganga, ezinje ngoxinzelelo.

Ungabuphepha njani ubulolo ebudaleni

Isizungu sabantu abadala sinokuba nzima ngakumbi ukusiphepha, kuba ngeli xesha lobomi isangqa sabahlobo sithanda ukunciphisa, njengoko abantwana banokuba kude nekhaya, kukho ukulahleka kwamalungu osapho, weqabane, ukongeza ukusikelwa umda kubangelwe bubunzima bokwenza imisebenzi kunye nokushiya indlu.

Ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthatha amanyathelo okuthintela isizungu kubantu abadala, kuba banokuba neziphumo ezibi kwezempilo kwaye baququzelele ukukhula kwezifo, ezinje ngoxinzelelo. Funda ngakumbi malunga neziphumo zesizungu.

Ukulwa nesizungu kubantu abadala, kuyacetyiswa:

• Ukuziqhelanisa nomsebenzi womzimba, onceda ukuphucula imeko yempilo kunye nokuba sempilweni;
• Cebisa iintlanganiso ngamaxesha athile kunye namalungu osapho, njengesidlo sasemini qho ngeentsuku ezili-15, umzekelo;
• Amavolontiya, anokongeza ekuphuculeni ubomi boluntu, anokusebenzisa izakhono zokuthunga okanye anakekele izityalo, umzekelo;
• Bhalisa kwikhosi, enokunceda wenze izihlobo, ukongeza ekuhlaleni ingqondo kunye nokunika intsingiselo entsha ebomini;
• Ukufunda imisebenzi emitsha, njengokusebenzisa ikhompyuter kunye ne-intanethi kunokuvumela abantu abadala ukuba banxibelelane ngakumbi nabanye abantu kunye neendaba;
• Ukwamkela isilwanyana sasekhaya kunokunceda ekukhanyeni kwemihla ngemihla kwaye kunike ukhuthazo emntwini.

Kukwabalulekile ukuba abantu abadala balandelele ugqirha wosapho okanye ugqirha wezonyango, ukufumana unyango oluchanekileyo okanye ukuchonga kwangoko utshintsho kwezempilo, ukuqinisekisa iminyaka engakumbi yobomi, ukomelela kunye nokuziphatha.