Indlela yokuchonga ixoki

Umxholo

• 1. Jonga kakuhle ebusweni
• 2. Qaphela yonke intshukumo yomzimba
• 3. Bukela izandla zakho
• Mamela yonke into ngenyameko enkulu
• 5. Nikela ingqalelo emehlweni akho

Kukho imiqondiso enokunceda ekuchongeni xa umntu exoka, kuba xa kuxokwa ubuxoki umzimba ubonakalisa iimpawu ezincinci ekunzima ukuziphepha, nakwimeko yamaxoki anamava.

Ke, ukwazi ukuba umntu uyaxoka, kubalulekile ukuba unike ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha ezahlukeneyo emehlweni, ebusweni, ekuphefumleni nakwizandla okanye iingalo. Oku kulandelayo zezinye iindlela zokufumanisa ukuba umntu ukuxelela ubuxoki:

1. Jonga kakuhle ebusweni

Nangona uncumo lunokunceda lula ukufihla ubuxoki, kukho imbonakalo yobuso encinci enokubonisa ukuba umntu uyaxoka. Umzekelo, xa izidlele ziba bomvu ngexesha lencoko, luphawu lokuba umntu uxhalabile kwaye oku kunokuba luphawu lokuba uxela into engeyonyani okanye emenza angakhululeki ukuthetha ngayo.

Ukongeza, eminye imiqondiso enje ngokuthomalalisa iimpumlo zakho ngelixa uphefumla, uphefumla ngokunzulu, ukuluma imilebe okanye ucwayiza ngamehlo ngokukhawuleza kunokubonisa ukuba ingqondo yakho isebenza nzima kakhulu ukwakha ibali elingeyonyani.

2. Qaphela yonke intshukumo yomzimba

Eli lelinye lawona manyathelo abalulekileyo okufumanisa ukuba umntu uxoka nini kwaye isetyenziswa ziingcali zokufumanisa ubuxoki. Ngokwesiqhelo, xa sinyanisekile umzimba wonke uhamba ngendlela ehambelanayo, kodwa xa sizama ukukhohlisa umntu kuqhelekile ukuba into ethile ayivumelani. Umzekelo, umntu usenokuba uthetha ngokuzithemba okukhulu, kodwa umzimba wakhe urhoxisiwe, uphikisana nemvakalelo eboniswa lilizwi.

Olona tshintsho luqhelekileyo kulwimi lomzimba olubonisa ukuba ubuxoki buxelwa kubandakanya ukuthula kakhulu ngexesha lencoko, ukunqumla iingalo kunye nokugcina izandla zakho ngasemva.

3. Bukela izandla zakho

Eyona nto iqinisekileyo kukujonga umzimba uphela ukuze wazi xa umntu exoka, kodwa intshukumo yezandla inokwanela ukufumanisa ixoki. Kungenxa yokuba ngalo mzuzu xa uzama ukuthetha ubuxoki, ingqondo ichaphazelekayo ngokugcina ukushukuma komzimba kusondele kwindalo, kodwa intshukumo yezandla kunzima kakhulu ukuyikopa.

Ke, ukuhamba kwezandla kunokubonisa:

• Izandla zivaliwe: inokuba luphawu lokunganyaniseki okanye uxinzelelo olugqithisileyo;
• Izandla ezichukumisa iimpahla: ibonisa ukuba umntu akonwabanga kwaye unexhala;
• Hambisa izandla zakho kakhulu ngaphandle kokufuna: yintshukumo edla ngokwenziwa ngumntu oqhele ukuxoka;
• Beka izandla zakho emva kwentamo okanye entanyeni. ubonakalisa ixhala nokungonwabi ngalento uthetha ngayo.

Ukongeza, ukubeka izinto phambi komntu othetha naye kungangumqondiso wokuba uyaxoka, njengoko kubonisa umnqweno wokwenza umgama, oqhele ukwenzeka xa sixelela into esenza sibe novalo kwaye singakhululeki.

Mamela yonke into ngenyameko enkulu

Utshintsho kwilizwi linokuchonga ixoki ngokukhawuleza, ngakumbi xa kukho utshintsho olukhawulezileyo kwithoni yelizwi, njengokuthetha ngelizwi elingqindilili kwaye uqale ukuthetha ngelizwi elincinci. Kodwa kwezinye iimeko, olu tshintsho lunokuba nzima ngakumbi ukuluqaphela kwaye, ke ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba utshintsho oluninzi kwisantya lwenzeka ngelixa uthetha.

5. Nikela ingqalelo emehlweni akho

Kuyenzeka ukuba wazi okuninzi ngeemvakalelo zomntu ngamehlo abo kuphela. Oku kunokwenzeka kuba uninzi lwabantu lwenzelwe ukuba lujonge kwicala elithile ngokwendlela abacinga ngayo okanye abavakalelwa ngayo.

Iindidi zeembonakalo zihlala zihambelana nobuxoki zibandakanya:

• Jonga phezulu ngasekhohlo: kwenzeka xa ucinga ubuxoki ukuthetha;
• Jonga ngasekhohlo: iqheleka ngakumbi xa uzama ukwakha ubuxoki ngelixa uthetha;
• Jonga ezantsi ngasekhohlo: kubonisa ukuba umntu ucinga ngento eyenziweyo.

Eminye imiqondiso enokuhanjiswa ngamehlo kwaye inokubonisa ubuxoki kubandakanya ukujonga ngqo emehlweni uninzi lwencoko kunye nokuqhwanyaza rhoqo kunesiqhelo.