Ungamnceda njani umntu onoxinzelelo

Umxholo

• 1. Khangela ulwazi malunga nokudakumba
• 2. Yenza enye intofontofo
• 3. Cebisa ukuba ufune ugqirha
• 4. Yenza izimemo ngeendlela zokuphumla
• 5. Khuthaza unyango ukuba luqhubeke
• 6. Yiba khona
• Xa ufuna uncedo lwezonyango

Xa umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho lijamelene nokudakumba, ukunceda kubalulekile ukuba wazi ngalo, wenze elinye likhululeke ukuthetha malunga nokuqhubekayo, unike inkxaso ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaye ucebise ukuba kufunwe uncedo lwengqondo okanye lwengqondo.

Unyango loxinzelelo xa lukhatshwa ngomnye waba baqeqeshi, kunye nenkxaso yosapho kunye nenethiwekhi yabahlobo, inokunceda omnye ukuba aligqibe eli xesha ngokukhawuleza, kuthintela ukuba imeko ingabi mandundu. Fumanisa ukuba lunyangwa njani uxinzelelo.

Ezinye izinto zinokunceda ukuhlala nomntu oxinezelekileyo, kwaye zimncede ajongane noxinzelelo, ezinje:

1. Khangela ulwazi malunga nokudakumba

Ukujonga ulwazi olunzulu nolugcweleyo malunga nokuba lunjani uxinzelelo, iintlobo ezikhoyo kunye neempawu ezinokubakho kwesi sifo, linyathelo lokuqala lokunceda umntu ofumana imeko yokudakumba, oko ke kuthintela isimilo esithile kunye neengxelo ezinokuthi ube yingozi kumntu oxinezelekileyo. Ukuqonda ngcono ukuba yintoni ukudakumba kwaye yintoni imiqondiso.

Kubalulekile ukufumana ulwazi kwimithombo esemthethweni, ngokunjalo nakwiingcali ngalo mbandela, ezinje ngeesayikholojisti okanye oogqirha bengqondo, ukuze ngale ndlela sibe nolwazi oluchanekileyo kwaye, ngenxa yoko, kunokwenzeka ukubonelela ngoncedo olukhulu kumntu ukudakumba.

Ukongeza, ukufuna ulwazi oluthe kratya kunokunceda ukucacisela umntu ukuba oko baziva benyangiwe kwaye kuphuculwe. Kubalulekile ukuba ungayamkeli indima yonyango, kuba oku kunokuba mandundu kwimeko yoxinzelelo, kwaye ke kuyacetyiswa ukuba uzilinganisele kulwazi malunga nokukhuselekileyo kwaye kufunyenwe kwimithombo ethembekileyo.

2. Yenza enye intofontofo

Ukuvumela omnye ukuba athethe okanye angathethi ngayo ngale meko, ukuyenza ibentle kubaluleke kakhulu xa kukho umnqweno wokunceda umntu ohamba nesiqendu esidandathekisayo. Kuqhelekile ukuvela kwamathandabuzo malunga nokuba izinto zenzeke njani kwaye kutheni zisenzeka, nangona kunjalo, umntu lowo unokuba neentloni ngezizathu ezibangele ukuphazamiseka, kodwa basenokungabi nayo impendulo yalo mbuzo.

Kubalulekile ukuba ungamnyanzeli umntu ukuba athethe okanye abuze imibuzo enokubenza bangakhululeki, kuba oku kungaphazamisa intembeko eyenziweyo.

3. Cebisa ukuba ufune ugqirha

Ukudakumba kukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, kodwa kunokulawulwa kwaye iimpawu kunye neempawu zayo zincitshiswe kude kube kuyanyamalala, kwaye oku kunokwenzeka kuphela ngonyango lwengqondo, nokuba yingcali yezengqondo okanye ugqirha wezifo zengqondo, oya kuyalela umntu onoxinzelelo ukuba aqonde ukuba yintoni eyenzekayo kunye nokujongana nengqiqo nokubandezeleka akuva kwesi sifo.

4. Yenza izimemo ngeendlela zokuphumla

Uninzi lweemeko zokudakumba zineqondo elithile loxinzelelo, nokuba iimpawu azibonakali, ke ukushiya isimemo esivulekileyo sokuziqhelanisa nendlela yokuphumla, edla ngokwenziwa ngababini, inokunceda umntu ohamba ngesiqendu esidakumbisayo, uzive ungcono, ukuba nje kukuncedisa kunyango oluboniswe yingcali.

Ukucamngca, i-yoga, unyango lomculo kunye ne-aromatherapy umzekelo, ziindlela zokuphumla ezinokunciphisa amanqanaba oxinzelelo emzimbeni, ukunciphisa iintlungu zemisipha kunye nokwandisa imveliso ye-serotonin, ihomoni ekwaziyo ukwenza impilo-ntle. Fumana ezinye iindlela ezinceda ukunyanga uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.

5. Khuthaza unyango ukuba luqhubeke

Nokuba sele uqalile kunyango, akunakwenzeka ukuba uqiniseke ukuba umntu uzokuziva ngcono kangakanani, kuba wonke umntu uneemfuno ezahlukileyo kunye namanqanaba oxinzelelo, enza ukuba umntu anyangwe azive engachukumiseki kwaye engafuni ukuqhubeka, ngenxa yokungaboni Iziphumo.

Kuxhomekeke kwabo bafuna ukunceda, zama ukwenza le meko ingakhululeki njengokuxhasa ukuba enye ilahlekile, ukuqinisa ukuba kungakanani na okufunekayo okanye ukunikezela ukukhapha omnye kunyango umzekelo.

6. Yiba khona

Nokuba umntu ochaphazeleke kukudakumba ufuna ukuzenza ikheswa kwaye aphephe lonke unxibelelwano, ukuyenza icace into yokuba uyafumaneka xa kukho imfuneko, ngaphandle koxinzelelo lokuseta usuku kunye nexesha, kunokwenza omnye azive ngathi akayedwa kwaye akhululeke ngakumbi ukubuza inkampani xa ucinga ukuba ingakulungela.

Xa ufuna uncedo lwezonyango

Kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo lonyango xa umntu ebonisa isimilo kunye neengcinga ezinokubusongela ubomi. Yiyo loo nto kucetyiswa ukuba kuvavanywe ugqirha wezifo zengqondo okanye ungenelelo esibhedlele kuboniswe xa umntu evakalisa imiba enxulumene nokufa, ukuzibulala okanye into yokuba akafuni kuzalwa, xa utywala kakhulu okanye iziyobisi ezingekho mthethweni iqinisekisiwe, utshintsho kwimikhwa yokulala kunye nokuziphatha okuyingozi njengokuqhuba ngesantya esiphezulu, umzekelo.