Um, Kutheni abantu befumana 'ukufa kweDoulas' kunye nokuthetha malunga 'nokuPhila ngokuFa?'

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Makhe sithethe ngokufa. Kuvakala ngathi kukubi, akunjalo? Ubuncinci, sisihloko esingathandekiyo, kwaye eso uninzi lwethu siluphepha ngokupheleleyo de sinyanzeleke ukuba sijongane nalo (BTW, nantsi isizathu sokuba sithathe ukufa kwabantu abadumileyo). Indlela yokuphila esempilweni izama ukutshintsha loo nto.

Ibizwa ngokuba "yintshukumo yokufa" okanye "impilo yokufa," kwaye ngokulula, iqala ngokwamkela ukuba ukufa kuyinto eqhelekileyo ebomini.

"Ukuzibandakanya nokufa kubonisa umdla wendalo malunga nento esinokuthi sijongane nayo sonke ebomini bethu, utshilo uSarah Chavez, umlawuli olawulayo wombutho obizwa ngokuba yi-Order of the Good Death kunye nomseki-mbutho we-Death & the Maiden, iqonga labasetyhini ukuxoxa ngokufa.

Abantu abakhokele le ntshukumo abayithatheli ngakwicala lobumnyama; enyanisweni, kuchasene noko.

"Sithetha kakhulu ngokufa," utshilo uChavez, "kodwa ngendlela eyothusayo, ayisiyiyo le nto yokufa, kodwa ingokuphucula umgangatho wobomi bethu."

Iziko leGlobal Wellness libandakanya ingxelo epheleleyo enesihloko esithi "Dying Well" kuthotho lweGlobal Wellness Trends ka-2019, ekhutshwe ekuqaleni kwalo nyaka. Ikwathi, ukucinga ngokufa yindlela yokutshintsha indlela esicinga ngayo ngobomi. (Idibeneyo: Ingozi yeMoto eTshintshe indlela endicinga ngayo ngoJanuwari)

UBeth McGroarty, umlawuli wophando lwe-GWI kunye nombhali wengxelo, walatha kwizinto ezimbalwa eziphembelela intshukumo yempilo-ntle yokufa. Phakathi kwazo: ukunyuka kwamasiko amatsha malunga nokufa njengoko abantu abaninzi bechonga "njengezomoya" kunokuba "inkolo;" unyango kunye nesizungu sokufa ezibhedlele nakumakhaya abantu abalupheleyo; kunye ne-Baby Boomers ejongene nokufa kwabo kwaye besala amava amabi obomi.

UMcGroarty uthi ayisiyiyo enye indlela eza kuza idlule. "Amajelo osasazo angathetha ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuba" ukufa kushushu ngoku, "kodwa sibona iimpawu zokuvuka okufunayo malunga nokuba ukuthula okujikeleze ukufa kubenzakalisa njani ubomi bethu kunye nehlabathi lethu-kwaye singasebenza njani ukubuyisela ubuntu, ubungcwele kunye nemilinganiselo yethu kumava okufa, ”ubhale kwingxelo.

Enoba ukhe wacinga okanye akunjalo, inyaniso eyothusayo yeyokuba wonk’ ubani uyafa—yaye wonk’ ubani uya kufelwa ngabantu abathandayo nentlungu emva koko. "Ngokwenene kukungafuni kwethu ukujongana okanye ukuthetha ngokuvulekileyo malunga nokufa okuncede ekwenzeni ishishini lokungcwaba elingadingi iimfuno zabantu," utshilo uChavez.

Esinye isizathu sokuba singakuxubushi ukufa sisenokumangalisa. “Uninzi lwethu luneenkolelo okanye iinkolelo ezibonakala zibubudenge kumphezulu,” utshilo uChavez. "Kuyamangalisa kum ukuba bangaphi abantu abakholelwa ngokwenene ukuba awuthethi okanye ukhankanya ukufa kuba ngandlela-thile kuya kuzisa ukufa kuwe."

Kunye nentshukumo elungileyo yokufa, kuye kwakho ukunyuka kokufa kweedoulas. Aba ngabantu abakukhokelayo ekucwangcisweni kobomi bokugqibela (phakathi kwezinye izinto) -kuthetha ukuba bakunceda ukuba wenze uxwebhu lokwenyani, ephepheni, olubonisa ukuba ufuna ukujongana njani nemiba ethile yokusweleka kwakho. Oku kubandakanya izinto ezinje ngenkxaso yobomi, ukuthatha isigqibo malunga nobomi, nokuba uyafuna na okanye awufuni mngcwabo, ufuna ukukhathalelwa njani, nalapho imali yakho kunye nezinto onazo ziya kuya khona. Yikholwe okanye ungakholelwa, ayisiyo yabazali bakho kuphela notatomkhulu noomakhulu bakho.

"Nanini na xa ufumanisa ukuba ngenye imini ubomi bakho buza kuphela, lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuqhagamshelana ne-doula yokufa," kusho u-Alua Arthur, igqwetha elijika-ukufa kunye nomseki weGoing with Grace. "Ekubeni kungekho namnye kuthi owaziyo ukuba siza kufa nini, kusemva kwexesha ukuba ungalinda ude ugule."

Ukusukela oko uArthur waqalisa iinkonzo zakhe kwiminyaka emithandathu eyadlulayo-emva kokuphela kwendima yakhe njengomgcini womlamu wakhe, owaswelekayo- uthi "ngokuqinisekileyo" ubone ukwanda kwabantu abaninzi abafikelela kuye bobabini ngeenkonzo kunye noqeqesho (uqhuba nenkqubo yokufundisa abanye ukuba babe kukufa njani). Nangona inkampani yakhe izinze eLos Angeles, wenza uthethathethwano oluninzi kwi-Intanethi. Uninzi lwabaxumi bakhe ngabantu abancinci, abasempilweni, utshilo. "Abantu besiva malunga nengcinga [yokufa kwedoula] kwaye bayaliqonda ixabiso layo."

Nokuba awukonwabanga ngengcinga yokuxoxa ngokufa kwakho, ukuzisa ukufa ekuhleni-nokuba uthetha ngako malunga nezilwanyana zasekhaya, abazali bakho, umakhulu notatomkhulu wakho- yindlela yokuhlangana nawe. Ukubhubha kwakhe, utshilo uChavez. (Eyeleleneyo: Lo Myaleli weBhayisekile Wahamba ngeNgxwaleko emva kokuphulukana noMama wakhe kwi-ALS)

Ke konke oku kunxulumene njani nokuba sempilweni, kunjalo? Kukho okunene ukungqinelana okuphambili. Uninzi lwethu luzama ukwenza ukhetho olufanelekileyo malunga nokukhathalela imizimba yethu ebomini, "kodwa uninzi lwethu aluqondi ukuba kufuneka sikhusele nokukhetha ukufa," utshilo uChavez. Intshukumo yezempilo yokufa ngokwenene imalunga nokukhuthaza abantu ukuba benze ukhetho kwangethuba-njengokukhetha umngcwabo oluhlaza, okanye ukunikela ngomzimba wakho kwisayensi-ukuze ukufa kwakho kuqinise oko bekubalulekile kuwe ebomini.

"Sithatha ixesha elininzi sicwangcisela ukuzalwa komntwana, okanye umtshato, okanye iholide, kodwa kuncinci kakhulu ukucwangcisa okanye ukuvuma malunga nokufa," utshilo uChavez. "Ukufikelela kwiinjongo onazo, okanye ufuna umgangatho othile wobomi kuyo yonke inkqubo yokufa, [kufuneka] ulungiselele kwaye ube nezincoko malunga noku."

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