Ukuqina ngokweemvakalelo: Into eyiyo kunye nendlela yokuyohlula

Umxholo

• Iimpawu zoxinzelelo lweemvakalelo
• Yintoni ebangela ukwahlulwa ngokweemvakalelo?
• Ngokukhetha
• Ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa
• Ezinye iimeko
• Iyeza
• Ungaluqonda njani ulwalamano ngokweemvakalelo
• Ngaba lukhona unyango lokwahlulwa ngokweemvakalelo?
• Ithini imbonakalo yabantu abaziva bengaziva ngokwasemoyeni?
• Ukuthatha

Ukuncitshiswa ngokweemvakalelo kukungakwazi okanye ukungafuni ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu kwinqanaba leemvakalelo. Abanye abantu, ukunxulunyaniswa ngokweemvakalelo kuyabakhusela kwidrama engafunekiyo, unxunguphalo, okanye uxinzelelo.

Kwabanye, iqela alihlali ngokuzithandela. Endaweni yoko sisiphumo seziganeko ezenza ukuba umntu angakwazi ukuvuleka kwaye anyaniseke malunga neemvakalelo zabo.

Ukuqina ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba luncedo ukuba uyisebenzisa ngenjongo. Unokubeka imida nabantu abathile okanye amaqela. Kuyanceda ukuba uhlale kwindawo yengalo kubantu abafuna uninzi lweemvakalelo zakho.

Kodwa ukwahluka ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba yingozi xa ungakwazi ukuyilawula. Ungaziva u "ndindisholo" okanye "uthulisiwe." Oku kwaziwa njengokuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye ngesiqhelo luphawu okanye umba ekufuneka ujongiwe ngumboneleli wezempilo yengqondo.

Apha ngezantsi uzakufunda malunga neentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuzimela ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ufunde xa kuyinto elungileyo kwaye xa inokuba yinkxalabo.

Iimpawu zoxinzelelo lweemvakalelo

Abantu abazimeleyo ngokwasemoyeni okanye abasusiweyo banokubonisa ngolu hlobo:

• kunzima ukudala okanye ukugcina ubudlelwane bobuntu
• ukungabikho kwengqwalaselo, okanye ukubonakala uxakekile xa ujikeleze abanye
• kunzima ukuthanda okanye ukuthandana nelungu losapho
• ukunqanda abantu, imisebenzi, okanye iindawo kuba zinxulunyaniswa nokwenzakala okudlulileyo okanye umsitho
• ukunciphisa amandla okubonisa imvakalelo
• ubunzima bokuvelana neemvakalelo zomnye umntu
• ukungabelani ngokulula ngeemvakalelo okanye iimvakalelo
• kunzima ukuzibophelela komnye umntu okanye kubudlelwane
• ukungamenzi omnye umntu abe kwindawo ephambili xa kufanelekile

Yintoni ebangela ukwahlulwa ngokweemvakalelo?

Ukuzinza ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba kukuzithandela. Abanye abantu banokukhetha ukuhlala bekhutshiwe ngokweemvakalelo emntwini okanye kwimeko.

Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuzimela ngokweemvakalelo sisiphumo sengozi, ukuxhatshazwa, okanye ukudibana kwangaphambili. Kwezi meko, iminyhadala eyadlulayo inokwenza kube nzima ukuvuleka kunye nokunyaniseka kumhlobo, umntu omthandayo, okanye enye ebalulekileyo.

Ngokukhetha

Abanye abantu bakhetha ukuzisusa ngokwabo kwimeko yeemvakalelo.

Oku kunokuba yinto onokukhetha kuyo ukuba unelungu losapho okanye umntu osebenza naye owaziyo ukuba uyakucaphukisa. Unokukhetha ukungazibandakanyi nomntu okanye abantu. Oku kuya kukunceda uhlale upholile kwaye ugcine ukuzola.

Kwiimeko ezinje ngale, ukuxhotyiswa ngokweemvakalelo kufana nenqanaba lokukhusela. Inceda ukuba ulungiselele iimeko ezinokuthi ziqhele ukufumana okuhle kuwe.

Ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa

Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuzimela ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba sisiphumo sezehlo ezibi, njengokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana okanye ukungakhathalelwa. Abantwana abaphethwe gadalala okanye abangahoywanga njengendlela yokuphila.

Abantwana bafuna unxibelelwano olukhulu lweemvakalelo kubazali babo okanye kubakhathaleli. Ukuba ayizukuvela, abantwana banokuyeka ukuyilindela. Xa oko kusenzeka, banokuqalisa ukucima i-receptors yabo yeemvakalelo.

Oko kungakhokelela kukudakumba, ukungakwazi ukubonisa okanye ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo, kunye neengxaki zokuziphatha.

Ngaphezu koko, abantwana abaphethwe gadalala okanye abangakhathalelwanga besengumntwana, okanye nabo bakhuliswa nje kuhlobo oluthile lwasekhaya olungqongqo, banokuba nzima nokusamkela iimvakalelo zabanye abantu. Basenokungazi ukuba mabaphendule njani kwenye ebalulekileyo ngexesha loxinzelelo oluphezulu kunye neemvakalelo.

Ezinye iimeko

Ukuqina ngokweemvakalelo okanye "ukuphazamiseka" kuhlala kuyimpawu yezinye iimeko. Unokuziva ukude kwiimvakalelo zakho ngamanye amaxesha ukuba:

• Uxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo
• ukuxhuzula
• Ukudakumba okukhulu
• ukuphazamiseka kubuntu

Iyeza

I-serotonin reuptake inhibitors ekhethiweyo (i-SSRIs) luhlobo lwe-antidepressant. abathatha olu hlobo lweziyobisi banokuba namava obutofotofo beemvakalelo, okanye indawo yezimvo ecinyiwe.

Eli xesha lokuzimela ngokweemvakalelo kunokuhlala ixesha elide ukuba ukule mithi. Oogqirha banokukunceda ufumane enye indlela ukuba ichiza likuchaphazela ngale ndlela.

Ungaluqonda njani ulwalamano ngokweemvakalelo

Ukuncitshiswa ngokweemvakalelo ayisiyo imeko esemthethweni enjengokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okanye uxinzelelo. Endaweni yoko, ihlala ithathwa njengenye yento imeko enkulu yonyango.

Ezi meko zinokubandakanya ukuphazamiseka kobuntu, i-Asperger's syndrome, kunye nengxaki yokuncamathisela.

Ukuchaphazeleka ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba sisiphumo sengozi okanye yokuxhatshazwa. Abantu abangakhathalelwanga okanye abaphethwe gadalala banokuphuhlisa oku njengesixhobo sokulwa.

Umboneleli wezempilo unokukwazi ukubona xa ungafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo kwabanye. Banokuthetha nawe, ilungu losapho, okanye enye ebalulekileyo malunga nokuziphatha kwakho.

Ukuqonda indlela oziva ngayo kunye nokwenza kwakho kunokunceda umboneleli abone ipateni enokucebisa ngalo mbandela weemvakalelo.

Ngaba lukhona unyango lokwahlulwa ngokweemvakalelo?

Unyango lokwahlulwa ngokweemvakalelo luxhomekeke kwisizathu esenzeka ngaso.

Ukuba umboneleli wakho wezempilo ukholelwa ukuba unengxaki yokuncamathisela ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokuvuleleka ngenxa yenye imeko, banokucebisa ukuba unyange kuqala.

Ezi meko zinokubandakanya ukudakumba, i-PTSD, okanye ukuphazamiseka komda wobuntu. Amayeza nonyango ziluncedo kwezi meko.

Ukuba imiba yeemvakalelo isisiphumo sengozi, ugqirha wakho unokucebisa unyango lwengqondo okanye unyango lwentetho. Olu nyango lunokukunceda ufunde ukoyisa iimpembelelo zoxhatshazo. Ukwafunda iindlela ezintsha zokwenza amava kunye noxinzelelo oluye lakucaphukisa ngaphambili kwaye lakhokelela kukonwaba ngokweemvakalelo.

Abanye abantu, nangona kunjalo, umgama weemvakalelo awuyongxaki. Kwimeko apho, akunakufuneka ufune naluphi na uhlobo lonyango.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba unemicimbi kubomi bakho kuba ukude ngokweemvakalelo, unokufuna inkxaso. Umgqirha okanye omnye umboneleli wezempilo yengqondo uya kuba sisibonelelo esihle.

Ithini imbonakalo yabantu abaziva bengaziva ngokwasemoyeni?

Abanye abantu, ukuzimela ngokweemvakalelo yindlela yokujongana nabantu abangaphaya kwamandla okanye imisebenzi. Ngale ndlela, kunokuba sempilweni. Ukhetha ixesha lokubandakanyeka kwaye uphume nini.

Kwezinye iimeko, nangona kunjalo, ukuzibamba kwiimvakalelo nakwiimvakalelo kusenokungabi sempilweni. Ewe, rhoqo "ukucima" iimvakalelo zakho kunokukhokelela ekuziphatheni okungenampilo. Oku kubandakanya ukungakwazi ukubonisa uvelwano okanye ukoyika ukuzibophelela.

Ngapha koko, abantu abasokolayo ukubonisa iimvakalelo okanye bazicwangcise ngendlela esempilweni banokufuna ezinye iindawo zokufumana ezo mvakalelo. Oku kunokubandakanya iziyobisi, utywala, okanye isimilo esigwenxa. Oku akuyiyo indawo yokuqhubekeka ngokweemvakalelo, kodwa banokuziva ngathi yindlela yokuwakhulula loo mandla.

Ukuthatha

Iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ziyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yonxibelelwano lomntu.

Abanye abantu bayakwazi ukuzicima iimvakalelo zabo ukuze bazikhusele. Kwabanye, ukukhathazeka ngokweemvakalelo akulindelekanga. Isenokuba yinxalenye yomcimbi omkhulu, njengoxinzelelo okanye ukuphazamiseka kubuntu.

Ukuba unengxaki yokulungisa iimvakalelo okanye uhlala nomntu okwenzayo, kubalulekile ukuba ufune uncedo kumboneleli wezempilo yengqondo. Ezi ngcali ziqeqeshelwe ukukunceda uqonde ukuba kutheni uphendula ngale ndlela kwiimvakalelo. Banokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngaloo ndlela yokuziphatha ngendlela esempilweni kwaye uzame ukuyilungisa.