Indlela uFatphobia andithintele ngayo ekufumaneni uNcedo lokuPhazamiseka kwindlela yokutya

Umxholo

• Ukususela ebuntwaneni, ndafunda ubungakanani bam kuthetha ukufikelela kumda kunyango
• Ngokungatyi ndandizenzakalisa - {textend} kodwa uluntu lwalundixelela ngokwahlukileyo
• Nangona ndandisondela ekufumaneni unyango oluchanekileyo, ndaye ndadibana ne-fatphobia evela kubaboneleli bezempilo
• Ukufumana unyango olulungileyo kwakuthetha ukuba ndizive ndikhuselekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndingondla umzimba wam

Ucalucalulo kwinkqubo yezempilo lwaluthetha ukuba ndizabalazela ukufumana uncedo.

Sibona njani iimilo zehlabathi esikhetha ukuba zizo - {textend} kunye nokwabelana ngamava anyanzelisayo anokuyila indlela esiphathana ngayo, ukuba ngcono. Lo ngumbono onamandla.

Nangona ingxaki yam yokutya yaqala xa ndandineminyaka eyi-10, kwathatha iminyaka emine ngaphambi kokuba nabani na akholelwe ukuba ndinayo- {textend} iziphumo zokungabi bunzima bomzimba obuhlala bunxulunyaniswa nokuphazamiseka kwindlela otya ngayo.

Ngaphambi kokuba ndixilongwe, ndathunyelwa kwinkqubo yabalindi abasindayo. Njengoko kuvela, oku kuya kuba sisiseko sokulwa kwam iminyaka engama-20 kunye ne-bulimia, kwaye ekugqibeleni i-anorexia nervosa.

Ndilandele ukutya malunga neeveki ezimbini kwaye ngaphezulu kwenyanga malunga nokunciphisa umzimba. Kodwa emva kweeveki ezimbini kwakungathi olu tshintshi luvuliwe. Ngokukhawuleza, andizange ndiyeke ukuzinkcinkca ngotywala.

Kwaye ndothuka.

Andizange ndiqonde ukuba kutheni ndinolawulo oluncinci xa ndifuna ngamandla ukunciphisa umzimba kunayo nantoni na emhlabeni.

Ndaye ndafunda kwangethuba ukuba ukubhitya kwakuza kuthandwa kusapho lwam, kwaye ekugqibeleni, ndaqala ukucoca yonke imihla. Ndikhumbula ngokucacileyo ndixelela umcebisi wesikolo eneminyaka eyi-12 ngento endiyenzayo. Ndaziva ndinentloni yokwabelana naye ngale nto.

Xa wayexela kubazali bam, babengakholelwa ukuba iyinyani ngenxa yomzimba wam.

Ukuba ingxaki yokutya ibhaqiwe kwaye inyangwa, iziphumo zonyango zingcono. Kodwa ngenxa yobukhulu bomzimba wam, kwade kwaba kukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwindlela enditya ngayo xa ndandineminyaka eyi-14, nalapho usapho lwam lwalungasenakuphika ukuba ndinengxaki.

Kodwa nasemva kokuba kufunyaniswe ukuba ndifumene ubunzima, ubunzima bam babuthetha ukufikelela unyango olufanelekileyo.

Ukususela ebuntwaneni, ndafunda ubungakanani bam kuthetha ukufikelela kumda kunyango

Ukusukela ngala mhla wokuqala ndafumana izithintelo kwikona nganye xa kufikwa ekufumaneni uncedo endiludingayo- {textend} phantse ngalo lonke ixesha ngenxa yobunzima bam. Ngexesha lokuqala lokufumana unyango, ndikhumbula ndingatyi kwaye ugqirha wam ewadini waye wandivuyisela ngokunciphisa umzimba.

“Uphulukene nobunzima bakho kule veki! Jonga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni xa uyeka ukuzinkcinkca nokuzinkcunkca! ” uphawule.

Ndifunde ngokukhawuleza ukuba ngenxa yokuba bendingatyebanga kakhulu, ukutya bekunganyanzelekanga- {textend} nangona ndinengxaki yokutya. Ndingadunyiswa ngendlela efanayo yokuziphatha ebixhalabisa umntu othile emzimbeni omncinci.

Ukwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi, i-inshurensi yam yaqinisekisa ukuba ubunzima bam benza ukuba ingxaki yam yokutya ingabi nanto Ndaye ke ndagoduswa emva kweentsuku ezintandathu kuphela zonyango.

Kwaye sisiqalo nje esi.

Ndiza kuqhubeka ndichitha uninzi lolutsha lwam kunye nee-20s zokuqala kunye nokuphuma kunyango lwe-bulimia yam. Kwaye ngexa ndandine-inshurensi enkulu, umama wayeza kuchitha loo minyaka elwa nenkampani yeinshurensi yam, ezama ukulwa ukuze andifumane ubude bonyango endilifunayo.

Ukwenza izinto zibe mbi nangakumbi, umyalezo oqhubekayo endawunikwa ngabo bakwezonyango kukuba yonke into endiyifunayo yayikukuzilawula kunye nolawulo ngakumbi ukufezekisa umzimba omncinci endandiwufuna ngamandla. Ndihlala ndiziva ngathi ndisilele kwaye ndikholelwa ukuba ndibuthathaka kwaye ndiyanyanyeka.

Inani lokuzicaphukela kunye neentloni endaziva ngalo xa ndandikwishumi elivisayo alichazeki.

Ngokungatyi ndandizenzakalisa - {textend} kodwa uluntu lwalundixelela ngokwahlukileyo

Ekugqibeleni, ingxaki yam yokutya yajika yaya kwi-anorexia (kuyinto eqhelekileyo ekuphazamiseni ukutya ukutshintsha kuyo yonke iminyaka).

Kwaba kubi kakhulu kangangokuba ilungu losapho lakanye landicenga ukuba nditye. Ndikhumbula ndisiva isiqabu kuba, okwesihlandlo sokuqala ebomini bam, ndanikwa imvume endiyifunayo ukuze ndibandakanyeke kwinto efunekayo ukuze umzimba wam uphile.

Kwakungekho ngo-2018, nangona kunjalo, apho ndafunyanwa ngokusemthethweni ukuba ndine-anorexia liqela lam lonyango. Nangona kunjalo, nangona usapho lwam, abahlobo, kunye nababoneleli ngonyango babekhathazekile ngesithintelo sam esiqatha, inyani yokuba ubunzima bam babungekho phantsi ngokwaneleyo kwakuthetha ukuba ukhetho lokufumana uncedo lwalulinganiselwe.

Ngelixa ndandibona i-therapist kunye ne-dietitian ngeveki, ndandingondleki kangangokuba unyango lwam lwangaphandle lwalungenakukunceda ukuba ndilawule indlela enditya ngayo.

Kodwa emva kokucenga okuninzi kwisazi sam sokutya, ndavuma ukuya kwinkqubo yokunyanga abaguli. Njengokuba bekusenzeka njalo kuhambo lwam lokhathalelo, inkqubo ibingayi kundamkela kuba ubunzima bam bebungekho sezantsi ngokwaneleyo. Ndikhumbula ukuxhoma umnxeba ndixelele ugqirha wam otya ukutya ngokucacileyo ukuba ingxaki yam yokutya ayinakuba mbi kangako.

Okwangoku bendiphuma ngaphandle rhoqo, kodwa inkqubo yezigulana ezindigulisayo ziye zondondla ngqo ekubeni ndikhanyele ubungqongqo besifo sam.

Nangona ndandisondela ekufumaneni unyango oluchanekileyo, ndaye ndadibana ne-fatphobia evela kubaboneleli bezempilo

Kwangoko kulo nyaka ndaqala ukubona ugqirha otya ukutya okutsha kwaye ndaba nethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo lokufumana isibonelelo sokuhlala esibhedlele. Oku kuthetha ukuba ndinofikelelo kunyango olunokungavunyelwa yinkampani yeinshurensi ngenxa yesisindo sam.

Nangona ndaye ndasondela ekufumaneni uncedo endandilufuna kakhulu, ndaye ndadibana nabanikezeli bezempilo abatyhala ingxelo ebalisa abantu.

Ndikhe ndanomongikazi endixelela kaninzi ukuba bekungafanelekanga ukuba nditye konke ukutya ebendikuyo ngexesha lokuchacha kwam. Undixelele ukuba zikhona ezinye iindlela zokulawula "ukutya okukhoyo" kwaye ndingayeka kumaqela athile okutya xa ndishiya unyango.

Iingozi zokuthintelwa kokutya Ukunciphisa onke amaqela okutya kuyo nayiphi na ingxaki yokutya kuyingxaki enkulu njenge-anorexia amanosa, i-bulimia, kunye nokuphazamiseka kokutya okukutya kakhulu kuhlala kuhlala kumiliselwe kuthintelo, okanye ukuziva unetyala okanye uloyiko malunga nokutya. Ukuyeka amaqela okutya kukushiya uzive ngathi awunakulawula malunga nokutya okanye ufuna ukukuthintela ngokupheleleyo.

Ukundixelela ukuba ndiyeke ukutya xa ndinoloyiko lokutya kwakunzima, nakum. Kodwa ingqondo yam yokutya engalunganga yayisebenzisa njengezixhobo zokulinganisa ukuba umzimba wam awudingi kutya.

Ukufumana unyango olulungileyo kwakuthetha ukuba ndizive ndikhuselekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndingondla umzimba wam

Ngombulelo, kwezi nyanga zimbalwa zidlulileyo, iingcali zam zokutya zazijonga ukuthintelwa kokutya njengengxaki enkulu.

Idlale indima enkulu kumandla am okuhambelana nonyango, kuba bendikwazi ukuziva ndikhuselekile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndingatya kwaye ndondle umzimba wam. Ndafunda ndisemncinci ukuba ukutya kunye nokufuna ukutya kwakulihlazo kwaye kuphosakele. Kodwa yayilixesha lokuqala ndinikwa imvume yokutya kangangoko ndandifuna.

Ngelixa ndisavuselelayo, ndisebenza yonke imizuzu yemihla ngemihla ukwenza ukhetho olungcono.

Kwaye ngelixa ndiqhubeka nokusebenza ngokwam, ndiyathemba ukuba inkqubo yethu yezonyango iqala ukuqonda ukuba i-fatphobia ayinandawo kwezempilo, kwaye iingxaki zokutya azicaluli - {textend} oku kubandakanya phakathi kweentlobo zomzimba.

Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba unengxaki yokutya, kodwa ungaziva ngathi ababoneleli bakho bezempilo ngoku banikezela unyango olulungele wena, yazi ukuba awuwedwa. Cinga ngokufuna uncedo kubaqeqeshi bokutya abasebenza kwisakhelo se-HAES. Kukho inani lezixhobo zokutya eziphazamisayo apha, apha, kwaye apha.

UShira Rosenbluth, LCSW, ngunontlalontle weklinikhi onelayisensi kwiSixeko saseNew York. Unomdla wokunceda abantu bazive benako konke emzimbeni wabo nakweyiphi na ubungakanani kwaye egxile kunyango lokutya okungalunganga, ukuphazamiseka kwindlela yokutya, kunye nokungoneliseki komzimba womzimba usebenzisa indlela yokungathathi cala. Ukwangumbhali we I-Shira Rose, ibhlog yesitayile esithandwayo esidumileyo esiboniswe kwiMagazini yeVeri, iThe Everygirl, iGlam, kunye ne-laurenconrad.com. Ungamfumana kwi-Instagram.