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Yiba nomfanekiso ngqondweni: NguJanuwari 1, 2019. Unyaka wonke uphambi kwakho, kwaye olu lusuku lokuqala. Amathuba anokuphela. (Wonganyelwe ngawo onke loo mathuba? Ngokwendalo ngokupheleleyo. Nalu olunye uncedo: Uzibekela Njani Iinjongo kwaye Uzifezekise) Ngoko uhlala phantsi kwaye ukrwele izisombululo ezimbalwa kuba ubusazi okwethutyana ukuba kufuneka utye imifuno eninzi, cinezela ngaphakathi. ukuzilolonga okungaphezulu, okanye nantoni na eyenye ekuthintelayo ekubeni uzive ungcono. Kwaye ngelixa ezi njongo zinokuba sengqiqweni kuwe, kulula ukulibala ukuba ukufikelela kwezi njongo kuthatha ixesha-elininzi, ngesiqhelo. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba uzama ukutshintsha indlela ophila ngayo ngendlela enentsingiselo. Umphembeleli wase-Australia uLucy McConnell ulapha ukuza kukuxelela nje, kuba uyazi ngamava. (Idibeneyo: Isicwangciso seentsuku ezingama-40 sokuGxobha nayiphi na injongo, kunye noJen Widerstrom)

Kutshanje umqeqeshi buqu uthathe ku-Instagram ukuze abelane ngeefoto zakhe ezine, azithathe kule minyaka mine idlulileyo, ukubonisa ukuba uhambo oluya kwimpilo esempilweni luqheleke ngakumbi kunendlela enye.

"Ukuba bendikucela ukuba undixelele ukuba yeyiphi ifoto endibonakala ndisempilweni kakhulu...Ngokunyaniseka, mhlawumbi andikwazanga ukuphendula loo nto ngokwam," wabhala ecaleni kweefoto. "Ngapha koko, andicingi ukuba ndikhe ndafika kwinqanaba lokuba ndingoyena 'uphilileyo'. Ndisafunda ukuba injani."

UMcConnell uqhubeke ngokuchaza apho akhoyo, ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni kwifoto nganye. "Kwifoto yokuqala (ethathwe ngo-2014) indlela endandiphila ngayo yayizele kukuzinkcinkca ngotywala kunye nokutya," ubhale watsho. "Bendihlala ndingasebenzi kwaye ndibuyela ekutyeni ngamaxesha anzima kubomi bentsapho yam. Emva kokugqiba isikolo ndaye ndathwala ubunzima obuninzi ngendlela yam entsha yokuhlala phantsi kunye nokongeza ubusuku bokuselwa. Ndandingasempilweni engqondweni nasemoyeni. ngokwasemzimbeni. "

Gqithisela phambili ku-2017 kwaye uMcConnell ulahlekelwe ngumzimba, kodwa uthi kuninzi kakhulu okwenzekayo kunokudibana neliso. "Ifoto ezimbini zinokujongeka njengomfanekiso wempilo, nangona kunjalo, eli yayilixesha lokulahleka kwam," ubhale watsho. "Ndandingenayo ixesha elide. Xa ndidibene nempilo yam yengqondo yabandezeleka ngenxa yokuba ndixakeke ngokupheleleyo ekulandeleni yonke iqhekeza lokutya endikutyileyo, kunye nokunyanzelisa ukuba ndingaphoswa ngumthambo omnye." (Idibeneyo: 10 Oonobangela bamaXesha aRhoqo)

NgoJuni walo nyaka, uMcConnell wabelane ukuba woyise i-amenorrhea (xa ungalifumani ixesha lakho ixesha elide). “Bendityhala iikhalori ezingama-3000 ngosuku ndingazilolongi ngokusesikweni,” ubhale watsho. "Kungekudala emva kwesi sithombe, ndafumana ixesha lam lokuqala kwiminyaka emininzi. Ngaphandle kwempilo yam yomzimba ijonge phezulu, intloko yam yayiyindawo engathandekiyo ngokupheleleyo kwimbonakalo yam. Ndaziva ngathi ndihlala emzimbeni womnye umntu." (Eyeleleneyo: Ukuqhekeka kwamathumbu am kwandinyanzela ukuba ndijongane nomzimba wam iDysmorphia)

Namhlanje, uMcConnell uthi wenza ngcono kakhulu kwaye uziva engcono kunayo yonke iminyaka. "Ifoto yokugqibela yeyona yakutshanje," ubhale watsho. “Ndiyazilolonga kwaye nditye kakuhle, bendimane ndifumana iiperiods nangona azikaqheleki, intloko yam ikwindawo engcono kakhulu, kodwa kuninzi ekusafuneka ndikulungise ekuphuculeni ubudlelwane bam nokutya. Ndiziva ndikhululekile kwaye ndinebhongo ngendlela umzimba wam okhangeleka ngayo. Ndenze ifoto kulomzimba, kwaye ndaziva ndimangalisa kwaphela.

Konke oku kukhula kwangaphakathi kuye kwavumela uMcConnell ukuba aqaphele into yokuba angajongi kwaye azive njengoko esenza ngoku, ngonaphakade. "Imizimba kufuneka itshintshe," wabhala. "Ubomi bunamaxesha onyaka, izinto eziphambili ziyatshintsha kwaye imizimba ayijongeka ngokufanayo kuyo yonke loo nto. Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo, bubomi nje obo." (Inxulumene: Indlela yokuncamathela kwizigqibo zakho xa ukusilela kubonakala kusondele)

Kwabo banokuqala kuhambo lwabo lwempilo, uMcConnell uthi: "Yiba mnene kuwe." Khumbula ukuba njengoko uthatha izisombululo kunyaka omtsha, okanye ujongana noluhlu olude lwemihla ngemihla lwezinto oza kuzenza.

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