Ndidinga Ngaphezu kweTheraphist Therapist enikezelwayo - Nantsi into endiyifumeneyo

Umxholo

• Kuqhelekile ukubuza
• Kulungile ukoyika
• Ungayifumana phi inkxaso
• Loluphi unyango lwesini
• Loluphi unyango lwesini olungelulo
• Ukuqonda idysphoria yesini
• Njengesifo
• Njengamava
• Ukuphononongwa kwesini, intetho, kunye nokuqinisekiswa
• Ungenelelo lwezonyango
• Ungenelelo ngoncedo
• Umahluko phakathi kokugcina isango kunye nemvume enolwazi
• Ungamfumana njani ugqirha wezesini
• Yintoni oza kuyibuza ukuba inyange
• Umgca wezantsi

Ukhethwe: Mere Abrams. Uyilo lweLauren Park

Kuqhelekile ukubuza

Nokuba ayifanelani nendima oyinikiweyo, uziva ungonwabanga ziindlela ezisoloko zisenziwa, okanye usokola namalungu omzimba wakho, abantu abaninzi bayasokolisana nomba othile wesini sabo.

Kwaye xa ndiqala ukuzibuza malunga neyam, bendinemibuzo engaphezulu kuneempendulo.

Kwiminyaka emi-2 endichithe ndijonga isini sam, ndacheba iinwele zam ezinde, ezigobileyo, ndaqala ukuthenga kuzo zombini iindawo zamadoda nezabafazi zokunxiba, kwaye ndaqala ukubopha isifuba sam ukuze sibonakale sicabalele.

Inyathelo ngalinye liqinisekisile ukuba ndingubani. Kodwa indlela endichonge ngayo kunye neelebheli ezichaze ngokuchanekileyo isini kunye nomzimba wam beziseyimfihlakalo kum.

Into endiyaziyo ngokuqinisekileyo kukuba andizichazanga kuphela isini endabelwe sona ekuzalweni. Kwakukho okungakumbi kwisini sam kunoko.

Kulungile ukoyika

Ingcinga yokutyhila imibuzo kunye neemvakalelo zam kubahlobo nakusapho ngaphandle kokuqonda ngokucacileyo okwam ndaziva ndisoyika kakhulu.

Kude kube lelo xesha, bendizamile ukuba ndichonge kwaye ndenze isini abantu abanxulumana nesini sam esabelweyo kunye nokwabelana ngesondo ngexesha lokuzalwa.

Kwaye nangona bendingasoloko ndonwabile okanye ndikhululekile kolo didi, ndiyenzile ukuba isebenze ngeendlela endaziyo ngazo.

Iminyaka endiyichithe ngokuhlala ngempumelelo njengomntu obhinqileyo kunye nendumiso endiyifumeneyo ngamaxesha endiqhuba kakuhle ngayo indibangele ukuba ndithandabuze imiba yesazisi sam.

Ndihlala ndizibuza ukuba kufanelekile na ukuba ndihlale kwisini endisinikiweyo endaweni yokuqhubeka nokufumanisa kunye nokuqinisekisa okwam.

Ixesha eligqithileyo lokudlula, kunye nokuziva ndikhululekile ngakumbi kwisiboniso sam sesini, ngakumbi izinto ezithile zomzimba wam zazibonakala ngathi zezona zinto zingonwabisiyo.

Umatshini wam wesifuba, umzekelo, wakhe waziva uqinisekisa amalungu am angengawo awamabhinqa ndifuna ukuwabeka emzimbeni kwaye ndibone kwabanye.

Kodwa yaba sisikhumbuzo semihla ngemihla sentlungu noxinzelelo endandilufumana; ukubonakala kwesifuba sam kwakungqubana nokuba ndingubani.

Ungayifumana phi inkxaso

Ixesha elingaphezulu, ndiye ndaqaphela ukuzixakekisa kwam ngesini kunye nesifuba saba nefuthe elibi kwimood yam, impilo yomzimba, kunye nokuba sempilweni ngokupheleleyo.

Ndiziva ndiphulukene nalapho ndiza kuqala khona - kodwa ndisazi ukuba andifuni ukuqhubeka nokuziva ngale ndlela- ndaqala ukufuna uncedo.

Kodwa andifuni nje inkxaso ngokubanzi ejikeleze impilo yam yengqondo. Ndidinga ukuthetha nomntu onoqeqesho kunye nobuchule kwisini.

Ndidinga unyango lwesini.

Loluphi unyango lwesini

Unyango lwesini lujolise kwiimfuno zentlalo, ezengqondo, ezemvakalelo nezomzimba zabo:

• babuza isini
• abonwabanga ngemiba yesini okanye yomzimba wabo
• bajongene nedysphoria yesini
• bafuna ungenelelo oluqinisekisa isini
• ungachongi kuphela isondo esichongiweyo xa uzalwa

Awunyanzelekanga ukuba uchonge njengenye into ngaphandle kwecisgender ukuze uzuze kunyango lwesini.

Inokuba luncedo kuye nabani na:

• Uziva evalelwe ngendima yesini ngokwesiko okanye kwiingcinga ezizezinye
• ufuna ukuphuhlisa ukuqonda okunzulu ukuba ngoobani
• ufuna ukuphuhlisa unxibelelwano olunzulu emzimbeni wabo

Nangona abanye abanyangi ngokubanzi benokufumana imfundo noqeqesho kwisini esisiseko, isenokungonelisi ukubonelela ngenkxaso eyoneleyo.

Abanyangi ngokwesini bafuna ukuqhubeka kwemfundo, uqeqesho, kunye nokubonisana ngobungcali ukuze ufunde okungakumbi malunga:

• isini
• iyantlukwano ngokwesini, kubandakanya nokuchonga okungafaniyo
• Isini sedysphoria
• Ungenelelo ngoncedo lokuqinisekisa ngesini
• amalungelo e-transgender
• ukuhamba ngesini kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi
• uphando olufanelekileyo kunye neendaba ngezi zihloko

Izidingo zomntu wonke zahlukile, ke unyango lwesini lulungiselelwe umntu ngamnye. Inokubandakanya izinto ze:

• Unyango ngengqondo
• ulawulo lwamatyala
• imfundo
• ukuxhasa
• ukubonisana nabanye ababoneleli

Iingcali zesini ezisebenzisa indlela yokuqinisekisa isini ziyaqonda ukuba iyantlukwano ngokwesini yinto eyenzeka ngokwendalo yokuba ngumntu kwaye ayibonisi ukugula kwengqondo.

Ukuba nembonakalo yesini engaguqukiyo okanye ukungaziwa kwe-cisgender, akuyomfuneko kunyango, kuvavanyo lwempilo yengqondo, okanye kunyango lwengqondo oluqhubekayo.

Loluphi unyango lwesini olungelulo

Ingcali yezesini akufuneki izame ukukuchonga ngenxa yesazisi sakho okanye uzame ukutshintsha ingqondo.

Awudingi imvume yonyango okanye imvume yokuba ungubani.

Ingcali yezesini kufanele ukubonelela ngolwazi kunye nenkxaso enokukunceda ukuba uqonde ngcono kwaye unxibelelane nemiba ephambili yesiqu sakho.

Iingcali zonyango azibhalisi kwingcinga yokuba kukho "indlela elungileyo" yokufumana amava, ukumilisela umzimba, okanye ukubonisa isini.

Akufanele banciphise okanye bacinge ukhetho okanye iinjongo ezisekelwe kwiileyibhile okanye ulwimi olusetyenziselwa ukuzichaza.

Unyango lwesini kufuneka lujolise ekuxhaseni amava akho kunye nobudlelwane nomzimba wakho.

Ingcali yezesini akufuneki igqibe isini sakho, ikunyanzele kwisini, okanye uzame ukukuqinisekisa ukuba awungowesini esithile.

Ukuqonda idysphoria yesini

Isini sedysphoria zombini kukuchongwa kwezonyango kunye nexesha elisetyenziswe ngokungekho sesikweni, ngokufana nokudakumba okanye uxinzelelo.

Kuyenzeka ukuba umntu abe neemvakalelo zedysphoric ngaphandle kwendlela yokuhlangana yokufumanisa isifo, ngendlela efanayo umntu anokufumana iimvakalelo zokudakumba ngaphandle kokuhlangabezana neendlela zeklinikhi zokudakumba.

Njengokuxilongwa kwezonyango, kubhekisa kukungaziphathi kakuhle okanye uxinzelelo olunokubangelwa kukungqubana phakathi kwesini esichongiweyo somntu ekuzalweni nakwisini.

Xa isetyenziswe ngokungekho sikweni, inokuchaza ukuhlangana, ukuqikelela, okanye iimpawu zomzimba ezingaziva ziqinisekisa okanye zibandakanya umntu ocacisiweyo okanye onamava ngokwesini.

Njengesifo

Kwi-2013, itshintshile imeko yokuchongwa kwezonyango ukusuka kwisifo sokuchaphazeleka kwesini ukuya kwidysphoria yesini.

Olu tshintsho luye lwanceda ekulweni ukubekwa ibala, ukungaqondani, kunye nocalucalulo olubangelwa kukuchazwa gwenxa njengokugula ngengqondo kwinto esiyaziyo ngoku ukuba yinto yendalo kwaye isempilweni yesazisi.

Ilebheli ehlaziyiweyo ishenxisa ukugxila kokuchongwa kubuni besini ukuya kuxinzelelo, ukungonwabi, kunye neengxaki ezisebenza kubomi bemihla ngemihla ezixhumene nesini.

Njengamava

Indlela idysphoria ebonakala ngayo kwaye ibonakalisa ngayo inokutshintsha ukusuka emntwini iye kumntu, ilungu lomzimba liye kwilungu lomzimba, kunye nexesha elingaphezulu.

Inokuba namava ngokunxulumene nembonakalo yakho, umzimba, kunye nendlela abanye abantu abayibona ngayo kwaye banxibelelana ngayo nesini sakho.

Unyango lwesini lunokukunceda uqonde, ulawule, kwaye unciphise idysphoria okanye ezinye iimvakalelo zokungonwabi ezinxulumene nesazisi kunye nokuthetha.

Ukuphononongwa kwesini, intetho, kunye nokuqinisekiswa

Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba abantu bafuna unyango lwesini ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo.

Oku kubandakanya:

• ukuphonononga ukuqonda kwakho kokwaziwa kwesini
• ukuxhasa umntu omthandayo ohamba ngesini
• ukufikelela kumangenelelo aqinisekisa isini
• ukujongana nedysphoria yesini
• Ukulawula inkxalabo yezempilo yengqondo ngokubanzi

Amanyathelo athathiweyo ukuphonononga, ukuzimisela ngokwakho, kunye nokuqinisekisa isini sakho okanye omnye umntu zihlala zibhekiswa njengongenelelo okanye isenzo sokuqinisekisa.

Amaxesha amaninzi, amajelo osasazo kunye nezinye iindawo ekugxilwe kuzo ziindlela abantu abaqinisekisa isini sabo okanye idilesi yedysphoria basebenzisa amayeza notyando.

Nangona kunjalo, zininzi ezinye iindlela zokunceda abantu baphonononge, bavakalise, kwaye baqinisekise le nxalenye ukuba bangobani.

Nazi ezinye iindlela zongenelelo zonyango eziqhelekileyo kunye nezonyango kunye nezenzo abaziqhelileyo abanyangi ngokwesini.

Ungenelelo lwezonyango

• Unyango lwehomoni, kubandakanya iibhlokhi zokufikisa, iibhloko ze testosterone, inaliti ye-estrogen, kunye neenaliti ze testosterone
• uqhaqho lwesifuba, ekwabizwa ngokuba lutyando oluphezulu, kubandakanya ukuqaqanjelwa sisifuba, ubufazi besifuba, kunye nokwandiswa kwebele
• utyando olusezantsi, ekubhekiselwa kulo njengotyando olusezantsi, kubandakanya i-vaginoplasty, i-phalloplasty, kunye ne-metoidioplasty
• utyando lwentambo yezwi
• utyando ebusweni, kubandakanya ubufazi bobuso kunye nobuso besilisa
• chondrolaryngoplasty, ekwabizwa ngokuba kukucheba iitracheal
• ukonakala komzimba
• ukususwa kweenwele

Ungenelelo ngoncedo

• ulwimi okanye iileyibhile yotshintsho
• igama loluntu utshintsho
• Ukutshintsha kwegama elisemthethweni
• utshintsho kumakishi wesini ngokusemthethweni
• Ukutshintsha kwesimelabizo
• ukubopha isifuba okanye ukucofa
• ukucoca
• Utshintsho lwezinwele
• utshintsho kwimpahla kunye nesitayile
• ukufikelela
• utshintsho lwezinto
• utshintsho lomzimba, kubandakanya iifom zebele kunye neempahla zokumila
• ilizwi kunye nonxibelelwano utshintsho okanye unyango
• ukususwa kweenwele
• Umvambo
• umthambo kunye nokuphakamisa iintsimbi

Umahluko phakathi kokugcina isango kunye nemvume enolwazi

Iingcali zesini kunye neengcali zempilo yengqondo zihlala zinikwe uxanduva lokukhokela abantu ukuba bazibonele ngokwabo amanyathelo kunye nezicwangciso eziya kubanceda bazive benxibelelana ngakumbi nesini kunye nomzimba wabo.

Izikhokelo zonyango zangoku kunye nemigaqo-nkqubo yeinshurensi rhoqo (kodwa hayi rhoqo) ifuna ileta evela kwilayisenisi yezempilo yengqondo ukuze ifikelele kwiibhlokhi zokufikisa, iihomoni, okanye utyando.

Olu lwakhiwo luthintelo lwamandla-lusekwe liziko lonyango kwaye luxhaswe yimibutho ethile yobungcali- kubhekiswa kulo njengokugcina isango.

Ukugcinwa kwamasango kwenzeka xa ugqirha wezempilo yengqondo, umboneleli wezonyango, okanye iziko lidala imiqobo engeyomfuneko ukuba umntu oyise ngaphambi kokuba afikelele kunyango oluyimfuneko lokuqinisekisa ngokwesini.

Ukugcinwa kwamasango kugxekwa kakhulu luluntu oluninzi kunye noncwadi lwezifundo. Ikhankanyiwe njengeyona nto iphambili ekubekweni amabala kunye nocalucalulo kubantu abaninzi abadlulayo, nabangengabo ababhinqileyo, kunye nesini esingahambelaniyo.

Ukugcinwa kwamasango nako kunokuphazamisa inkqubo yonyango lwesini ngokudala iimeko ezinokubatyhafisa abantu ekubeni beze nemibuzo yesini.

Oku kungabeka uxinzelelo olungafunekiyo emntwini ukuba athethe "into elungileyo" ukuze anikwe ukufikelela kukhathalelo abaludingayo.

Imodeli yokuvuma enolwazi yokhathalelo yenziwe ngeenzame zokuhambisa icandelo lezempilo lesini liye phambili.

Iyaqonda ukuba abantu bazo zonke izazisi ngokwesini kufuneka babe nelungelo lokuzenzela izigqibo malunga neemfuno zokhathalelo lwempilo ngokwesini.

Iimodeli zokuvuma ezinolwazi zonyango lwesini kunye nokunakekelwa kwempilo ye-transgender kugxile kwiarhente yomntu kunye nokuzimela ngokuchasene nokulungela kunye nokufaneleka.

Iingcali zesini ezisebenzisa le modeli zifundisa abathengi malunga noluhlu olupheleleyo lwezinto abanokuzenza ukuze bathathe izigqibo ezizizo malunga nokhathalelo lwabo.

Ziyanda iiklinikhi zesini, ababoneleli bezonyango, kunye nemigaqo-nkqubo yeinshurensi yezempilo baqala ukuxhasa iimodeli zemvume enolwazi yokunyamekela iibhlokhi zokufikisa kunye nehomoni.

Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwezinto ezisenziwayo zisafuna uvavanyo okanye ileta evela ubuncinci kwimpilo enye enengcali kwezempilo yengqondo yoqhaqho oluqinisekisa isini.

Ungamfumana njani ugqirha wezesini

Ukufumana ugqirha wesini kunokuba ngumceli mngeni, kokubini ngokusebenza kunye nangokweemvakalelo.

Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba noloyiko kunye neenkxalabo malunga nokufumana i-Therapist esebenza njengomgcini-sango, unolwazi olulinganiselweyo, okanye u-transphobic.

Ukwenza le nkqubo ibe lula, ezinye iirejista zonyango (ezinje nge Psychology Namhlanje) zikuvumela ukuba ucofe ngokukhethekileyo.

Oku kunokuba luncedo kakhulu ekufumaneni iingcali ezinamava okanye ezivulekileyo ekusebenzeni nabathengi be-LGBTQ +.

Nangona kunjalo, akuqinisekisi ukuba i-Therapist iqhubekile noqeqesho okanye amava kunyango lwesini kunye nokuqinisekisa ukhathalelo lwempilo.

Umbutho weHlabathi wezoBunjineli kwiMpilo yeTransgender ngumbutho ozibandakanya phakathi kwezobugcisa kunye nemfundo ezinikele kwimpilo ye-transgender.

Ungasebenzisa isikhombisi sabo ukufumana umboneleli oqinisekisa ngesini.

Unokukufumanisa kuluncedo ukufikelela kwezona ndawo zikufutshane ze-LGBT, isahluko se-PFLAG, okanye iklinikhi yesini kwaye ubuze ngonyango lwesini kwindawo yakho.

Unokuphinda ubuze abantu abangenabo i-cisgender ebomini bakho ukuba bayazazi naziphi na izixhobo zasekhaya, okanye ukuba banokukuthumela kunyango lwesini.

Ukuba unayo i-inshurensi yezempilo, ungatsalela umnxeba umphathi wakho ukuba ufumanise ukuba ngaba kukho nabanikezeli bezempilo yengqondo abakwi-network abagxile kukhathalelo lwe-transgender.

Ukuba awuhlali kufutshane neenkonzo ze-LGBTQ +, unemiceli mngeni ekufikeleleni kwezothutho, okanye unokukhetha ukubona ugqirha ovela kwintuthuzelo yekhaya, i-telehealth inokukhetha.

Yintoni oza kuyibuza ukuba inyange

Soloko ubuza ngoqeqesho lwabo lobungcali kunye namava okusebenza kunye nabathengi abadlulayo, abangahambelaniyo, ukungahambelani ngokwesini, kunye nemibuzo yesini.

Oku kunceda ekuqinisekiseni ukuba umntu oza kuba ngugqirha wakho ulugqibile uqeqesho oluyimfuneko.

Ikwalawula nabani na onokuthi azithengise njengengcali eqinisekisa isini okanye ingcali yesini ngenxa yokuba bayamkela i-LGBTQ + okanye abantu abadlulayo.

Nantsi imibuzo yesampulu onokuyibuza ukunceda ukufumanisa ukuba ngaba umntu onokubakho kwisini uya kulunga:

• Uhlala usebenza kangakanani kunye ne-transgender, nonbinary, kunye nabathengi ababuza isini?
• Uyifumene phi imfundo noqeqesho malunga nesini, impilo ye-transgender, kunye nokubonelela ngonyango lwesini?
• Ithini inkqubo kunye nendlela yokubonelela ngeeleta zokuxhasa ungenelelo oluqinisekisa isini?
• Ngaba ufuna inani elithile leeseshoni ngaphambi kokubhala ileta yenkxaso yokungenelela kwezonyango?
• Ngaba ubiza imali engaphezulu kwileta yenkxaso, okanye ngaba ifakiwe kumrhumo weyure?
• Ngaba kufuneka ndizibophelele kwiiseshoni eziqhubekayo zeveki nganye?
• Ngaba unika iiseshoni ezikude usebenzisa i-telehealth?
• Ngaba uqhelene kangakanani nezixhobo ze-trans kunye ne-LGBTQ + kunye nababoneleli bezonyango kwindawo yam?

Ukuba abanalo uqeqesho okanye umzabalazo wokuphendula imibuzo yakho malunga noqeqesho lwabo ngokwesini, inokuba luphawu lokuba kuya kufuneka uphonononge ezinye iindlela okanye utshintshe okulindeleyo.

Umgca wezantsi

Nangona kunokuba nzima ukufumana unyango lwesini kwaye uqale unyango lwesini, abantu abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba kuluncedo kwaye kunomvuzo ekuhambeni kwexesha.

Ukuba unomdla malunga nesini kodwa ungakulungelanga ukufikelela kugqirha, ungasoloko uqala ngokufumana oontanga kunye noluntu kwi-intanethi okanye kubomi bokwenyani.

Ukuba nabantu abakwenza uzive ukhuselekile kwaye wamkelwe ukuba ubize kubo kunokuba yinto exabiseke kakhulu- nokuba ungaphi kwinkqubo yokuhlola isini okanye inkqubo yonyango.

Wonke umntu kufanelekile ukuba azive ekwazi ukuqonda kunye nokuthuthuzela kwisini nakwimizimba yakhe.

UMere Abrams ngumphandi, umbhali, utitshala, umcebisi, kunye nonontlalontle onikwe ilayisensi kwezonyango ofikelela abaphulaphuli kwihlabathi liphela ngokuthetha esidlangalaleni, ngokushicilela, ngemidiya yoluntu (@meretheir), kunye nonyango lwesini kunye neenkonzo zenkxaso kwi-intanethi online. IMere isebenzisa amava abo kunye nemvelaphi eyahlukeneyo yobungcali ukuxhasa abantu abaphonononga isini kunye nokunceda amaziko, imibutho, kunye namashishini ukwandisa ulwazi lokufunda ngokwesini kunye nokuchonga amathuba okubonisa ukubandakanywa kwesini kwiimveliso, iinkonzo, iinkqubo, iiprojekthi kunye nomxholo.