I-Gyno yasetyhini yandihlaza ngenxa yokuswela kwam iinwele zePubic-kwaye andindedwa

Umxholo

• Kwaye ayindim ndedwa
• Kutheni ingaphezulu kunento nje engaqhelekanga ukuyithetha
• Uphengululo lwe

Xa kufikwa kwizifo zabafazi, ndibenethamsanqa elihle. Ukuqala kwam ukulala ngesondo kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, ndafumana i-ob-gyn engummangaliso kwi-Planned Parenthood, kwaye xa ndisiya ekholejini, ndandinenye enkulu kwi-Planned Parenthood kufutshane nekhampasi. Kuzo zombini ezi meko, aba yayingabafazi endinokuthetha ngokulula kunye nabo kwaye ndingaphazanyiswa nabo, ke andizange ndizive ndigwetywe, nokuba ngowuphi umxholo wengxoxo. Ngabo bobabini aba bafazi, ndaziva ndikhululekile njengoko unokuziva unolwazi ngochwephesha osondela kufutshane kunye nolusu lwakho lobufazi. Isithuba abasidalileyo sasikhuselekile—yayilolu hlobo kanye lwamava olufunayo xa usiya kugqirha. Nditsho nasemva kokuba ndifudukele kwisiXeko saseNew York, bendizakwenza iipap smears zam zonyaka kunye nenye yezi ob-gyns eNew Hampshire, ndiceba ukudibana kwam ngeeholide okanye xa ndisazi ukuba ndiza kuba sedolophini ndindwendwela abazali bam.

Kodwa xa ndiqala ukuthandana nomntu kwaye ndifuna ukufikelela kulawulo lokuzalwa ASAP, bendingenabo ubunewunewu bokuya eNew Hampshire. Ngoko ndabuza abahlobo bam abangamabhinqa ukuba babeye kubo baza beva izinto ezintle ngekliniki yempilo yabasetyhini eSoho. Yayiyindawo egqibeleleyo, kanye ngaphaya kwesitrato ukusuka apho ndandisebenza khona ngelo xesha.

Ukuze ndingene kulawulo lokuzalwa, kuye kwafuneka ndenze uvavanyo lwe-pelvic ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into inyukile. Kanye emva kovavanyo, ugqirha wam wandixelela ukuba ndingahlala, emva koko wathetha into eyandothusa kakhulu: "Ukungabinazo iinwele ze-pubic kudlala kumzi mveliso we-porn kulindelwe ngabafazi." Andiqinisekanga ngento endisandul 'ukuyiva, ndabuza, "Yintoni?" Uphinde wathetha kwa into enye kodwa ngamagama ahlukeneyo. Ndiye ndaphendula ngendlela ekuphela kwayo kwaye ndathi, "Kulungile."

Undibhalele incwadi yoqingqo-nzala, wandithumela endleleni.

Ndathi ndisonyuka eBroadway, ndahlala ndicinga ngalento ayithethileyo. Ngaba ndimvile ngokungalunganga? Ngaba wayesenza isiqhulo esingaqhelekanga? Ebendigweba? Ngaba yayiyindlela yakhe yokuzama ukundixelela ukuba iinwele ze-pubic zikhona ngesizathu kwaye kufuneka ndibe nazo? Khange ndiyifumane. Amagqabantshintshi akaphumi kuphela kwicandelo lasekhohlo, kodwa kwakungeyomfuneko kwaphela. Ukuba intetho yakhe malunga nokusilela kwam kweenwele zasesidlangalaleni ibiyimpilo- okanye inxulumene nezonyango, bendinokuyiqonda, kodwa oku beku malunga nomzi mveliso we-porn kunye nezinto ezilindelweyo. Ndandididekile. Kwaye okukhona ndicinga ngako, ndaya ndicaphuka ngakumbi.

"Ndiyakrokrela ukuba inkcazo ye-gynecologist malunga nolindelo lweshishini le-porn kwabasetyhini yayiluluvo lomntu, olugwebayo, kwaye ayisiyiyo i-rhetoric yoluntu lwe-ob-gyn," utshilo u-Sheila Loanzon, MD, ibhodi eqinisekisiweyo ye-ob-gyn kunye nombhali we Ewe ndineHerpes. "Kuxhomekeke kwisigulane ukuba bafuna ukuphendula; nangona kunjalo, ndiyakrokrela ukuba nayiphi na impendulo ayinakutshintsha loo mbono ye-gynecologist ibe yinto evulekileyo."

Oko kwathiwa, uluvo olunjalo alunakuqinisekiswa okanye lwamkelekile, uyavuma uDkt Loanzon. "Kuya kufana nomboneleli ochazayo malunga nokukhethwa komntu kwempahla, umbala weenwele, imoto abayiqhubayo, kunye nokuba yintoni ezo zikhetho zidlulisela kwabanye. Ingayingxelo leyo eqinisekisiweyo kwezonyango. "

Kodwa xa ndicinga ukuba bendikho nje ukufumana iipilisi zokuthintela inzala kwaye ndingenayo imicimbi yezonyango kwilungu lobufazi okanye ubufazi, amagqabantshintshi akhe ebengeyomfuneko; yayikukugweba nje nokuhlazeka. Ukuya kuthi ga ngoku ndixhalabileyo, wayengenguye ondiphoxayo, kodwa wayehlazisa abasetyhini kwishishini le-porn nayo-imboni, ndingongeza, eneentlobo ngeentlobo zeenwele ze-pubic okanye ukungabikho kwayo.

UGqr Loanzon uthi: "Iinwele zePubic zisebenza njengesithintelo sokukhusela kwiibhaktheriya kunye nezinye izinto ezicaphukisayo ezinokuthi ziphazamise i-mucus membranes yelungu lobufazi," kufana nendlela amashiya akho akhusela ngayo amehlo akho, utsho uDkt. Ukuba unosulelo olungapheliyo lobufazi, ngoko unokufuna ukucinga ngokukhusela "ulusu lwangaphakathi lwe-vaginal ngokugcina iinwele ze-pubic zikhoyo ukukhusela usulelo; nangona kunjalo, akunyanzelekanga," utshilo. "Ukususwa kweenwele ze-pubic kuye kwaba yinto eqhelekileyo ngenxa yenkcubeko ye-pop kwaye ekugqibeleni lukhetho lomntu." (Idibeneyo: UBillie Ufuna ukuba ucoce iinwele zakho ze-Pubic kweli hlobo)

Kwaye ayindim ndedwa

Ngenye imini ndayeka ukuziva ngathi bendikwisiqendu esingaqhelekanga Isini kunye neSixeko, Ndibhalele abahlobo abambalwa. Ngelixa uninzi lwabo lungazange lufumane isigwebo koogqirha babo kukhetho lwabo lweenwele ze-pubic-nokuba bambalwa ababecebise le kliniki ithile kum-kwakukho umhlobo omnye owayekhe wafumana into efanayo. Kwimeko yakhe, waye waqeshwa kwi-ofisi yakhe kagqirha apho wayehlala khona iminyaka kwaye umongikazi omtsha owayeqhuba uvavanyo wathi emva koko, "Yinto elungileyo ukuba ungachebeki okanye uthambe iinwele zakho zasesidlangalaleni kakhulu . Ndibona amabhinqa aselula amaninzi angena apha exhuzule kwi-pubic bone yonke kwaye akulunganga."

Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho mntu ufuna i-abrasions kwi-vulva yabo (okanye naphi na ngaloo nto), kodwa umhlobo wam wayengekho ngenxa ye-vulva abrasions; wayekhona kuvavanyo lonyaka lwe-pap smear kunye ne-pelvic. Kutheni le nto ingcali ithetha into enjalo? Kwaye bangaphi abanye ababelapho? Ndifuna ukwazi, ndaqhubeka ndibuza ngeenxa zonke.

Omnye umfazi, u-Emma, ​​32, wangena kwi-colonoscopy kwaye waxelelwa yi-ob-gyn yakhe ukuba ayeke ukucheba kuba ibangela iinwele ezingaphakathi kunye namanye amaqhuma. “Akufani nokuba bendingazi ukuba iinwele zingene—ndikhetha iinwele ezincinci,” utshilo. Elinye ibhinqa, u-Ali, oneminyaka engama-23 ubudala, wayenonxibelelwano olungakumbi nangakumbi xa wayefunyaniswa ene-chlamydia, nanjengoko ugqirha wakhe wayeka ukwenza inqaku kwitshathi yakhe, wathi, "Iinwele zePubic zinceda ukuthintela ukusasazeka nokusasazeka kwezifo ezingumvuka wokwabelana ngesondo into ekufuneka uyiqwalasele.

"Khange andijonge nakukuyithetha, utshilo u-Ali. "Ndaziva ngathi wayesithi ukuxilongwa kwam kunento yokwenza nokungabikho kweenwele zasesidlangalaleni kunayo nantoni na. Ngalo mzuzu, ndandifuna ukuva malunga nokuchongwa kwam kwaye ndiza kulususa njani usulelo. ndinike i-af * ck malunga nendima yam yeenwele ze-pubic ukuba ndiyifumane."

Ewe, kule meko, uluvo lwakhe lufanelekile ngokwezonyango (olunye uphando lubonisa ukuba iinwele ze-pubic-okanye ukususwa kwazo-zidlala indima ekusasazekeni kwe-STIs; nangona kunjalo, ayizizo zonke iingcali ezivumayo). Kungakhathaliseki, ukuba isigulane sisanda kufunyaniswa ukuba sine-STI, incoko evulekileyo nefundisayo kufuneka ilandele, kungekhona inkcazo enye.

Kuwo onke la matyala, abafazi babegwetywa, nangona abanye bengaphezulu kunabanye, ngenxa yento enkulu ngakumbi kuneenwele zasebudongeni: Bagwetywa ngenxa yokhetho abalwenzile ngemizimba yabo. Njengokulwela ukuzimela kwabafazi akukho nzima ngokwaneleyo njengoko kunjalo, ubuncinci ubunokuba nethemba lokuba iofisi ye-ob-gyn yindawo ekhuselekileyo.

Kutheni ingaphezulu kunento nje engaqhelekanga ukuyithetha

Uluntu lwanamhlanje luzama rhoqo ukuyalela abantu basetyhini ukuba bajongeke njani, kufuneka benze njani, kwaye yintoni "elungileyo" kunye "engalunganga" kubo. Akukho lungu lomzimba womfazi likhuselekile ekugwetyweni. Kwizihlandlo ezimbalwa, bendikunye namadoda athe aphawula ngam ukuba andinazo iinwele ezaneleyo ze-pubic okanye ndininzi kakhulu. Ngelixa lisikizi kwaye lingafanelekanga, eso sigwebo asindothusi — ngelishwa, la madoda ambalwa ziimveliso zoluntu lwawo. Ayikuko ukuba ndibanika ukupasa simahla nangayiphi na indlela, kodwa xa kufikwa ku ugqirha wezifo zabasetyhini Ukuhlomla kwiinwele zam ze-pubic (okanye naziphi na iinwele ze-pubic), zichanekile ngokuthe ngqo. Ngoko damn wrong.

Kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukungena kwiofisi ye-ob-gyn kwaye uzive ukhululekile. Kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukuziva ngathi umzimba wakho, imibuzo, uloyiko, kunye nempilo yezesondo, ngokubanzi, ayinasigwebo. Abanye abantu basetyhini banexesha elinzima ngokwaneleyo njengoko livulekile koogqirha babo besini malunga nokuba kuqhubeka ntoni ngempilo yabo yokuzala. Ukugweba ekugqibeleni kulihlazo, kwaye umntu oziva ehlazekile akanakukwazi ukuza malunga nemiba yakhe yezonyango. Kungalusizi kangakanani ukuba owasetyhini angafumana iintlungu ixesha elide (yithi, ngenxa yesini esibuhlungu) okanye agqibe ngemeko embi kakhulu kuba evakalelwa kukuba akanakubekwa phambili kwaye athembeke kwi-ob-gyn yakhe?

Ukuza kuthi ga kulo mhla, ndinqwenela ukuba ngendandiphendule ngendlela ebeya kwenza ukuba ugqirha aqonde kungekuphela nje indlela ebengafanelekanga ngayo amagqabaza akhe kodwa kwanendlela ebekuchase ngayo ukuchasa kwabasetyhini, kananjalo. Kwiiveki ezimbalwa emva koko, ndiqhubekile le meko ngokuphindaphindiweyo entlokweni yam ngobuninzi bokubuya okumangalisayo endingasoze ndilifumane ithuba lokuthetha. Ndide ndaxoxa ngokumtsalela umnxeba ndimazisa ukuba amazwi akhe andichaphazele ngokunzulu kangakanani, ngethemba lokuba angacinga kabini phambi kokuba aphinde athethe into elolo hlobo. Kodwa, njengoko uGqirha Loanzon watshoyo, ayinamsebenzi nokuba bendinokuthini; Bendingazomtshintsha ingqondo. Unelungelo kuluvo lwakhe, njengoko sonke sinjalo. Kodwa ukwakwindawo apho kufanelekileyo ukuba angabelani nolu luvo emngciphekweni wokwahlula isigulana okanye, okubi nangakumbi, kubenza bazive ukuba indawo ayisekho kwindawo ekhuselekileyo yengxoxo ethembekileyo nenemveliso. (Izinto eziNxulumeneyo: Iintsomi ezi-4 ze-Vagina eziqhelekileyo iGyno yakho ifuna ukuba uyeke ukukholelwa)

Ndiyathandabuza ukuba ndisisigulana sokuqala okanye sokugqibela ugqirha enze loo magqabantshintshi (okanye afanayo), kwaye ndiyakufumanisa kungothusi oko. Kwakhona ndiyathandabuza, njengoko kungqinwa ngamava angasentla, ukuba nguye kuphela ugqirha owenza oku, naye. Ndiyathemba ukuba esinye sezo zigulana — endaweni yokuba wothuke kwaye bothuke, njengam-uyakwazi ukubhengeza impendulo ehambisa kugqirha wabo ukuba eyona nto intle abanokuyenza abafazi kukuxhasa ukhetho lwabo, nokuba awukho ngokobuqu ebhodini kunye nolo khetho. (Kwaye, ewe, ubaxhobise ngalo lonke ulwazi olubalulekileyo abaludingayo ukwenza ukhetho kakuhle.)

Ngandlel’ ithile, loo nto iya kusisondeza kutshintsho oluhle eluntwini—utshintsho olunokuthi ekugqibeleni lubangele abantu baqonde ukuba abanalungelo lokuxelela ibhinqa into elifanele liyenze okanye angafanele liyenze ngomzimba walo.

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