Yiba ne-Orgasm emangalisayo: Yeka ukuzama ukuphuma

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Ngaba ndithatha ixesha elide? Kuthekani ukuba andinakukwazi ukwenza i-orgasm ngeli xesha? Ngaba uyadinwa? Ngaba ndiyifake? Uninzi lwethu mhlawumbi luye lwaba nezi ngcinga, okanye ezinye iinguqulelo zazo, ngexesha elinye okanye kwelinye. Ingxaki kukuba, olu hlobo lokuzijonga ngokwakho iluphu yengqondo ibangela uxinzelelo. Kwaye akukho ndlela iqinisekileyo yokuvala inkanuko yakho yokwabelana ngesondo kunoxinzelelo, utshilo umfundisi wezesondo uEmily Nagoski, Ph.D., umbhali wezifundo ngezesondo. Kulungile kwisikhokelo sokulala kwii-Orgasms zabasetyhini.

Kungenxa yoko le nto ecebisa ukuba wabelane ngesondo ngaphandle kwe-orgasm njengenjongo yakho yokugqibela. Iyanciphisa ixhala le-libido-crushing performance, ikushiya ukhululekile ukuba ukonwabele isondo.

Kwaye kwenzeka into ehlekisayo xa ususa i-orgasm yakho etafileni, yongeza uNagoski. "Inje: Nantoni na oyenzayo, sukucinga ngebhere enxibe itutu epinki. Kwenzeka ntoni?" Ufanekisa into enje, akunjalo? "Okona kunzima ukuba ungenzi nto, kokukhona ujonga kancinci kwingqondo yakho ukujonga ukuba uyayenza na inkqubela phambili, enokuthi ikwenze uvuswe ngakumbi." (Iindlela ezi-8 zokuBheda ziJonga njengePro ebhedini.)

Kodwa kunokuba nzima ukweyisela amanye amadoda ukuba awufuni ukuphuma kweli xesha: Abahlali beziva ngathi isondo lenziwe bade bafikelele esiphelweni, kwaye bacinga ukuba kunjalo nakubantu basetyhini. Ngaphezu koko, abanye abantu bayakubona ukukwazi kwabo ukukunika i-orgasm njengenyathelo lobudoda babo. (Izinto ezi-8 Amadoda anqwenela ukuba abantu basetyhini bazi ngezesondo.)

Ke xa uhambisa umxholo, zama ukuwubeka ngendlela efanelekileyo. "Mxelele ukuba ukuthanda kangakanani ukulala naye, kodwa mxelele ukuba uziva uxinzelelo olukhulu ukuba luzokufika, kwaye oko kwenza ukuba kube nzima ukuba yenzeke kuwe," ucebisa uNagoski. "Unokude uthethe into enje, 'Ukuba ndikhanyisile ukukhanya kwilungu lobudoda kwaye ndafuna ukuba ufumane ulwakhiwo ngoku, kunokuba nzima kuwe. Leyo yindlela endiziva ngayo." Emva koko uthi ufuna ukuba ukwabelana ngesondo ngaphandle kokucinga nokwenza i-orgasming ukuze uzonwabele ngokwenene.

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