Kakhulu Kunokudinwa: Iindlela ezi-3 zokuchaza ukuba kukudinwa okungapheliyo

Umxholo

• Ukubaluleka kokuziva uqondwa
• 1. Ivakala ingathi ngulomboniso 'kwiNkosazana enguMtshakazi'
• 2. Ingathi ndibona yonke into evela phantsi kwamanzi
• 3. Ingathi ndijonge incwadi enee-3-D ngaphandle kweiglasi ezi-3-D

Ayifani nokuziva udiniwe xa usempilweni.

Impilo kunye nokuphila kakuhle kuchaphazela ngamnye wethu ngokwahlukileyo. Eli libali lomntu omnye.

“Sonke siyadinwa. Akwaba nam bendikwazi ukulala qho emva kwemini! ”

Igqwetha lam elikhubazekileyo landibuza ukuba zeziphi iimpawu zam ezingapheliyo (i-CFS) ezichaphazela ubomi bam bemihla ngemihla. Emva kokuba ndimxelele ukuba kukudinwa kwam, leyo yaba yimpendulo yakhe.

I-CFS, ngamanye amaxesha ebizwa ngokuba yi-myalgic encephalomyelitis, ihlala iqondwa phosakeleyo ngabantu abangahlali nayo. Ndiqhele ukufumana iimpendulo ezifana negqwetha lam xa ndizama ukuthetha ngeempawu zam.

Inyaniso kukuba, nangona kunjalo, iCFS ingaphezulu "kokudinwa nje." Sisifo esichaphazela amalungu amaninzi omzimba wakho kwaye sibangela ukudinwa okwenza buthathaka kangangokuba abaninzi abaneCFS balaliswa ngokupheleleyo ebudeni bexesha elingafaniyo.

I-CFS ikwabangela iintlungu zemisipha kunye nokudibana, imiba yokuqonda, kwaye ikwenze uvakalelo kukhuthazo lwangaphandle, njengokukhanya, isandi, kunye nokuchukumisa. Uphawu oluphawuleka ngale meko kukungasebenzi kakuhle komzimba, kuxa umntu athe waphazamiseka emzimbeni iiyure, iintsuku, okanye iinyanga emva kokuxakekisa umzimba.

Ukubaluleka kokuziva uqondwa

Ndikwazile ukuyibamba kunye ngelixa ndikwiofisi yegqwetha lam, kodwa ndakuba ngaphandle ndavele ndalila.

Ngaphandle kwento yokuba ndiqhele iimpendulo ezinje ngo "Ndidiniwe nam" kwaye "Ndinqwenela ukuba ndilale lonke ixesha njengawe," kusakhathaza xa ndisiva.

Ukujongana nesifo esinganyangekiyo kunye nokukhubazeka sele kungamava onesizungu kunye nokuzahlula, kwaye ukungaqondwa kakuhle kukonyusa ezo mvakalelo. Ngaphandle koko, xa ababoneleli bezonyango okanye abanye abaneendima eziphambili kwimpilo yethu kunye nokuba sempilweni bengasiqondi, kunokuba nefuthe kumgangatho wokhathalelo esilufumanayo.

Kwakubonakala kubaluleke kakhulu kum ukufumana iindlela zobuchule zokuchaza ubunzima endaba nabo neCFS ukuze abanye abantu bayiqonde ngcono into endandihamba nayo.

Kodwa ungayichaza njani into xa omnye umntu engenaso isalathiso sayo?

Ufumana ukufana nemeko yakho kwizinto abantu abaziqondayo kunye namava ngokuthe ngqo ngazo. Nazi iindlela ezintathu endichaza ukuhlala neCFS endiyifumene iluncedo ngokukodwa.

1. Ivakala ingathi ngulomboniso 'kwiNkosazana enguMtshakazi'

Ngaba ukhe wayibona imovie “Umtshakazi weNkosazana”? Kule filimu yakudala yowe-1987, omnye wabalinganiswa abakhohlakeleyo, u-Count Rugen, wasungula isixhobo sokungcungcuthekisa esibizwa ngokuba “nguMatshini” sokufunxa ubomi unyaka nonyaka wabantu.

Xa iimpawu zam zeCFS zimbi, ndiziva ngathi ndibotshelelwe kweso sixhobo sokuhlukumeza kunye no-Count Rugen ehleka njengoko ejika ucofa phezulu nangaphezulu. Emva kokususwa kuMatshini, iqhawe lemuvi, uWesley, alinakushukuma okanye lisebenze. Kwangokunjalo, ikundithatha yonke into endinayo ukwenza nantoni na engaphaya kokulala ngokupheleleyo.

Izikhombisi zenkcubeko kunye ne-analogies zingqineke ziyindlela esebenzayo yokuchaza iimpawu zam kwabo basondele kum. Banika isakhelo sesalathiso kwiimpawu zam, ezenza ukuba zithandeke kwaye zingabikho kwamanye amazwe. Into ehlekisayo kwizalathiso ezinje ngezi ikwanceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo oluhlala lukhona xa uthetha ngokugula kunye nokukhubazeka nabo bangazifumaniyo.

2. Ingathi ndibona yonke into evela phantsi kwamanzi

Enye into endiyifumene iluncedo ekuchazeni iimpawu zam kwabanye kukusetyenziswa kwezafobe ezisekwe kwindalo. Umzekelo, ndingaxelela umntu ukuba intlungu yam yovalo ibingathi ngumlilo wasendle utsiba usuka kwelinye ilungu uye kwelinye. Okanye ndingachaza ukuba ubunzima bokuqonda endikufumanayo bungathi ndibona yonke into evela phantsi kwamanzi, ihamba kancinci kwaye ingafikeleleki.

Njengengxenye echazayo kwinoveli, ezi zifaniso zivumela abantu ukuba babone into endihamba nayo, ngaphandle kokufumana amava.

3. Ingathi ndijonge incwadi enee-3-D ngaphandle kweiglasi ezi-3-D

Xa ndandisengumntwana, ndandizithanda iincwadi eziza neiglasi ezi-3-D. Ndandinomdla ngokujonga ezincwadini ngaphandle kweiglasi, ndibona iindlela ii-inki eziluhlaza kunye nobomvu ezigqume ngokungaphelelanga kodwa hayi ngokupheleleyo. Ngamanye amaxesha, xa ndifumana ukudinwa okukhulu, yile ndlela ndicinga ngayo umzimba wam: njengamalungu agqithisileyo angadibani ncam, enza ukuba amava am abe mfiliba. Umzimba nengqondo yam azivumelani.

Sebenzisa amava apheleleyo okanye emihla ngemihla umntu anokuhlangana nawo ebomini babo yindlela eluncedo yokuchaza iimpawu.Ndifumanise ukuba ukuba umntu unamava afanayo, kunokwenzeka ukuba aziqonde iimpawu zam- ubuncinci.

Ukuza nezi ndlela zokuhambisa amava am kwabanye kuye kwandinceda ndaziva ndindodwa. Kukwavumelekile abo ndibakhathaleleyo ukuba baqonde ukuba ukudinwa kwam kungaphezulu kokudinwa.

Ukuba unomntu ebomini bakho onesifo esinganyangekiyo esiqondakalayo, ungamxhasa ngokumamela, umkholelwe kwaye uzame ukuqonda.

Njengoko sivula iingqondo neentliziyo zethu kwizinto esingaziqondiyo, siya kuba nakho ukunxibelelana ngakumbi omnye nomnye, silwe nesizungu kunye nokuba sodwa, kwaye sakhe ubudlelwane.

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