Iingcebiso ezili-11 zokuphuma kwiRut

Umxholo

• 1. Yamkele imeko
• 2. Chonga unobangela
• Ukuya nzulu
• 3. Jonga ngakumbi iinjongo zakho
• 4. Yenza utshintsho oluncinci
• Ingcebiso yepro
• 5. Khumbula ukuzikhathalela
• 6. Nika ingqondo yakho ikhefu
• Ungaphumla njani
• 7. Kukungxama ngakumbi
• Thatha ulawulo
• 8. Sondela kwizinto ngendlela eyiyo
• 9. Yahlukana nokufuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo
• 10. Qaphela xa kungenjalo nje
• 11. Fumana inkxaso

Wakhe wayibamba imoto yakho emseleni? Mhlawumbi upake elunxwemeni kwaye xa uzama ukuhamba, waqonda ukuba ubanjiswe esantini kwaye awunakubuyela umva, phambili, okanye naphi na.

Uqaphele ngokukhawuleza ukujikeleza iivili zakho kukukhathaza ngakumbi. Ukhathazekile kwaye ungakwazi ukuhamba, kwafuneka uze nesicwangciso esahlukileyo.

Ukuxinana ngokweemvakalelo kunokwenzeka ngendlela efanayo. Uhamba ebomini, ulandela inkqubo yakho, usenza izinto ezifanayo yonke imihla. Awuqapheli ukuba kuza ntoni, kanye njengokuba ungakhange uqonde ukuba uya kubambeka entlabathini.

Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uyazi, ubomi buziva ngesiquphe blah kwaye bungenantsingiselo. Awuziva ukhuthazekile. Ubuchule kunye nenkuthazo ibalekile ehokweni. Umsebenzi uyafumba, kodwa awazi ukuba uqale ngaphi ukujongana nawo - kwaye ngekhe uzizise ekunyamekeleni.

Uyazi ukwenza into eyahlukileyo kunokunceda, kodwa uswele amandla okanye amandla okuzama ukwenza utshintsho.

Isandi esiqhelekileyo? Ukuba kunjalo, usenokuba uwele kumkhwa ombi. Kwaye njengemoto yakho, ukujikeleza ivili ngokungapheliyo akunakwenza lukhulu ukuphuma kwakho. Ukomba imoto yakho, kwafuneka uthathe inyathelo elithile, nokuba kukutsala isanti okanye ukubiza itrakhi yokutsala.

Ukunyuka kwengqondo engafunekiyo kufuna inyathelo, kodwa nazi iindaba ezimnandi: Awudingi ukuba ulinde omnye umntu ukuba akukhuphe ngaphandle kokuba ufuna uncedo olongezelelekileyo.

1. Yamkele imeko

Ke, ubambekile. Kulungile. Oku kuqhelekile, kwaye akuyi kuhlala ngonaphakade.

Kodwa ukukhanyela kunokukugcina ekwenzeni utshintsho oluncedo. Ukuba uhlamba i-ennui yakho ngokuzixelela, "Ndidiniwe nje" okanye "Ndiza kuziva ngathi nam ngomso," uya kuqhubeka ujikeleza kumjikelo ofanayo, ukwandisa ukungoneliseki kunye noxinzelelo.

Ukuqala ukulungisa le meko, yamkela imeko endaweni yoko. Kwaye ungalibali ukuba nemfesane ngokwakho - ukuzibek 'ityala ngekhe kukuncede uzive ungcono. Ke yeka isigqibo sakho kwaye ujonge amandla akho ekuphumeni nasekuphumeni.

2. Chonga unobangela

Ukuba unamathele kwislump, ukuvavanya ukuba kutheni kunokukunceda ukuba uqale uzitsale ngokwakho.

Ukuzihlola kancinci ngamanye amaxesha kuvelisa iimpendulo kwangoko. Mhlawumbi ulwalamano lwakho alukhange luqhubele phambili njengoko ubuzimisele okanye umsebenzi wakho uziva ngathi awuphelelanga. Okanye mhlawumbi inani loxinzelelo oluncinci luye lwanamathela kukushiya utyhafile ngokweemvakalelo.

Ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kunokuba nezizathu ezahlukeneyo, nangona kunjalo, ukulandelela okwakho kumthombo kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omncinci. Mhlawumbi inxulumene nemeko yethutyana engaphaya kolawulo lwakho, okanye into efuna ukukhangelwa komphefumlo kancinci kunokuba ulungele.

Ukuya nzulu

Ukuzibuza le mibuzo kunokunceda:

• Zeziphi izinto ebomini endizonwabisa ngazo?
• Yintoni endenza ndingonwabi okanye ndinestresi?
• Ngaba ndenza izinto kuba ndifuna okanye kuba ndicinga ukuba ndifanele?
• Ngaba ubudlelwane bam bunika intsingiselo kunye nokuzaliseka?
• Ngaba ndibambelela kuphela emsebenzini / kubudlelwane / kwiprojekthi kuba andifuni ukuchitha ixesha kunye nomzamo endiwutyalileyo?

3. Jonga ngakumbi iinjongo zakho

Ukusebenzela iinjongo ezithile kunokukukhuthaza kwaye kukunike ukuqonda kwenjongo. Nokuba injongo ilele kancinci ngaphandle kokufikelela ngoku, akukho nto iphosakeleyo kuloo nto. Ubomi buvumela indawo eninzi ukuba ikhule, kwaye unokufezekisa ezo njongo ngomsebenzi othile.

Xa uninzi lweenjongo zakho lungafikeleleki ukusuka kule ndawo ukuyo ngoku, nangona kunjalo, unokuqhubeka usilele ukufezekisa kwaye uphele uphazamisekile kuwe.

Endaweni yokuzibetha ngenxa yokungafezekisi izinto, zibuze ukuba ingaba iinjongo zakho ziyahambelana na noko unokukufezekisa. Ukuba impendulo yakho (ethembekileyo) ithi "hayi", thabatha iinjongo zakho phantsi nje kwenotshi kwaye ubone ukuba uphumelele ngakumbi.

Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokubuyisela umva umva, kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uzishiye iinjongo zakho eziphakamileyo ngokupheleleyo.

4. Yenza utshintsho oluncinci

Nje ukuba uqaphele ukuba ubambekile, unokuziva ulingeka ukuba uyilungise ngokupheleleyo imeko ngokwenza utshintsho olukhulu.

Kuvakala kukuhle kwithiyori, kodwa ukubuyisa yonke into ngaxeshanye rhoqo akuhambi njengoko bekucwangcisiwe. Ukuzama ukutshintsha imikhwa okanye iindlela zokuziphatha kwangaxeshanye kunokukhawuleza kwaye kube nzima ukunamathela kulo naluphi na utshintsho.

Ukusebenza kwinto enye okanye ezimbini ezincinci, ezinokulawulwa zingenza inkqubo yotshintsho ibe lula. Ukunciphisa umda kwiinguqu ozenzayo kunokukunceda uqaphele xa kukho into engasebenziyo, nto leyo eyenza kubelula ukwazi ukuba uqhubeke nini kwaye uzame enye into.

Ingcebiso yepro

Ukuba uyazi ukuba yintoni ebangela i-rut, jolisa utshintsho lwakho lokuqala apho.

Ukuba imizabalazo yakho inxulumene nomsebenzi, umzekelo, cinga ngalo naluphi na utshintsho onokulenza, nokuba kukutshintsha amasebe okanye ukucela uncedo malunga nendlela yokufumana incoko enzima (kodwa eyimfuneko) nomntu osebenza naye.

5. Khumbula ukuzikhathalela

Ukuba unengxaki yokuchonga into ekungenise engxakini, okanye uzive ungakhuthazekanga kwaphela ukuze uphume kuyo, yenza ukungena ngokukhawuleza ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ujonga impilo yakho.

Ukuziqhelanisa nokuzinceda kukunceda uhlaziye ingqondo yakho kwaye umzimba. Banokunyusa amandla kunye nenkuthazo, bakushiye uzive ukwazi ngakumbi ukwenza umsebenzi wakho kwakhona ngezinye iindlela.

Awudingi ukuguqula indlela ophila ngayo, kodwa zama ukukrola ixesha lokunye koku kulandelayo:

• ukuphumla okungenangqondo
• ikhefu kwiiprojekthi ezinzima
• ixesha lokuphumla xa uziva udiniwe
• ukwenza umthambo rhoqo
• ixesha nabantu obathandayo
• ukutya okuthe rhoqo, okulinganiselayo
• ubuninzi bokulala okusemgangathweni

6. Nika ingqondo yakho ikhefu

Isiqhelo sinokuziva siqhelekile kwaye sithuthuzele, kwaye akukubi ukuba naso.

Ngaphandle kokwahluka, nangona kunjalo, ubomi bunokudika. Uqhubeka usenza izinto ezifanayo suku ngalunye kuba ukhule uziqhelile, kodwa ngequbuliso uqala ukuziva udiniwe kwaye udikiwe.

Ukushiya ngasekhohlo kwizixhobo zayo, inxenye yengqondo yakho-ngakumbi i-dorsolateral preortal cortex - iya kuzama ukusebenza ngeengxaki ngokusebenzisa iipateni okanye imigaqo oyifundileyo kumava akho angaphambili.

Xa ujongene nolunye uhlobo lomceli mngeni, ezi ndlela zinokungasebenzi kakuhle njengangaphambili. Oku kukushiya ungenasisombululo (kwaye ubambe).

Ngethamsanqa, unokuseta kwakhona eli candelo lobuchopho ngokungazixakekisi. Ingaziva iphikisana nokulahla ngabom umoya, kodwa ukwenza njalo kunokonyusa izakhono zakho zokusombulula iingxaki kwaye kukuncede uthathe iipateni kunye neendlela ezintsha.

Ungaphumla njani

Ukungaqwalaseli ingqondo yakho, zama:

• ukuvumela ingqondo yakho ibhadule
• ukuthatha uhambo olude
• ukuhlala ngokuzolileyo kwindalo
• doodling kwiphepha elingenanto
• ukuthatha isithongwana samandla

Isitshixo kukuzikhupha ngokwenyani ngaphandle kwesikhuthazo sangaphandle.

7. Kukungxama ngakumbi

Ukunyanzelwa kufumana igama elibi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ezinye izinto ezingxamisekileyo zithatha umngcipheko. Kodwa uninzi lwabo lukhuselekile ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye luncedo.

Ukwenza izigqibo ngokukhawuleza kunokunyusa ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye kunike ithuba lokuphonononga iindlela ezintsha ezongeza ukhuthazo kunye nokwahluka ebomini. Nokuba into elula njengokuhamba indlela ende egodukayo inokukwazisa kwizinto ongazange wazibona ngaphambili.

Ukusondela kwiingxaki ngekona ongakhange uziqwalasele ngaphambili nako kunokukunika ukuqonda okutsha okunokukunceda uphume ngaphandle komgaqo.

Thatha ulawulo

Ezinye zezinto ezisempilweni, ezingxamisekileyo zokwamkela:

• Yithi "ewe" kuloo mhla.
• Bhalisela elo thuba loqeqesho lwempelaveki.
• Ukutyelela eso sixeko owakha waphupha usibona.
• Amavolontiya ukukhokela iprojekthi yeqela.
• Jonga indawo entsha yobumelwane bakho.

8. Sondela kwizinto ngendlela eyiyo

Nokuba yeyiphi na ingxaki ojamelana nayo, ukucinga okuyinyani kunokukunceda ufumane iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuzisombulula.

Kuyaqondakala ukuba ufuna ukucofa ityala kwimithombo yangaphandle, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi, awunakutshintsha nto ngaphandle kwakho.

Ukukhanyisa ngezinto ongenakukwazi ukuzilawula akuncedi. Kwaye ukuwela iminwe yakho, unethemba lokufumana okona kulungileyo, okanye ukuhlala phantsi ulinde izinto ukuba ziphucuke ngomlingo.

Endaweni yoko, jonga izinto ngokwembono eyiyo. Ungayihoyi imiba yangaphandle kwaye ujonge yeyiphi eyakho iintshukumo (okanye ukungabikho kwentshukumo) kube negalelo.

Ezo zizinto ofuna ukuzilungisa kwaye ujonge amandla akho kuzo.

9. Yahlukana nokufuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo

Ukugqibelela kunokuba yinjongo yezempilo kwabanye abantu, kodwa kuninzi lwabantu, kukhokelela nje ekuzenzakaliseni.

Xa unemigangatho ephezulu, mhlawumbi uchitha ixesha elide uqinisekisa ukuba umsebenzi wakho uhlala uhlangana nawo. Naxa usenza umsebenzi omkhulu, unokukholelwa ukuba awonelanga kwaye uqhubeke nokusebenza kuwo.

Umsebenzi oqinileyo wokuziphatha luphawu oluthandekayo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ukwenza iimpazamo kuyinto eqhelekileyo, ebalulekileyo ekukhuleni.

Ukuzama ukuthintela impazamo enye kunokukuthintela ekwenzeni izinto. Kwaye kunokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo zoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo xa ungaphumelelanga ngokugqibeleleyo.

Gxila endaweni yokubeka umzamo wakho kunye nokubona iiprojekthi zigqityiwe, nokuba ayisiyiyo iphuzu elifanelekileyo osele ucinga ngalo. Nje ukuba ugqibe into, qhubela phambili.

10. Qaphela xa kungenjalo nje

Ngamanye amaxesha i-rut yinto nje-imeko yethutyana onokusebenzela ukuyiphucula. Ingabonisa into ebaluleke ngakumbi, nangona kunjalo.

Ukuhlala nesifo sokudakumba okungapheliyo, okanye i-dysthymia, unokuziva ngathi ubanjiswe kumgaqo ongenakubaleka kuwo. I-Dysthymia ihlala ingaziwa ngenxa yokuba ayinabunzima kangako kunokudakumba, nangona ineempawu ezifanayo.

Oku kubandakanya:

• amandla aphantsi okanye ukudinwa okuphakathi
• Umdla omncinci kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla
• i-anhedonia, okanye ubunzima bokufumana uyolo ebomini
• Ukuphulukana nenkuthazo okanye imveliso
• iimvakalelo zokungafaneleki okanye ukuzithemba okuphantsi

Ezi mpawu zinokubuchaphazela ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, kodwa zihlala zihlala zinobulali. Usenokungaziqondi are iimpawu kuba usenako ukuqhubeka nezinto oqhele ukuzenza.

Kodwa ubomi abunyanzelekanga ukuba uzive ukude okanye uthulisiwe. Ukuba awukwazi ukubonakala ushukumisa imvakalelo yokuba ubambekile, unokhetho lwenkxaso, olusizisa kwincam yethu yokugqibela.

11. Fumana inkxaso

Unyango yindlela elungileyo yokufumana inkxaso encinci xa uziva unamathele, nokuba unayo nayiphi na impawu yempilo yengqondo okanye hayi.

Kubantu abaninzi, unyango lusebenza nje njengendawo ekhuselekileyo yokujonga ukhetho lwangaphambili kunye nezinto onokukhetha kuzo kwikamva.

Ugqirha unokubonelela ngovelwano, ngaphandle komgwebo kunye nenkxaso njengoko usebenza ku:

• jonga iindawo zobomi bakho ezingonelisiyo kwaphela
• chonga amacebo akhoyo okanye imikhwa engasebenziyo
• jonga iindlela ezintle zokwenza utshintsho

Isikhokelo sethu kunyango olufikelelekayo sinokukunceda ukuba uqalise.

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