Iingcebiso ezili-10 zokukunceda uyeke ukukhanyisa

Umxholo

• Yintoni ebangela ukukhanya?
• Iingcebiso zokujongana neengcinga ezikhanyayo
• 1. Ziphazamise
• 2. Cwangcisa ukuthatha amanyathelo
• 3. Thatha amanyathelo
• 4. Buza iingcinga zakho
• 5. Lungisa iinjongo zakho zobomi
• 6. Sebenzela ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho
• 7. Zama ukucamngca
• 8. Qonda izinto ozibangela ukuba ubangele
• 9. Thetha nomhlobo
• 10. Zama unyango
• Utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila
• Kuyenzeka ukuba uyeke ukukhanyisa

Yintoni rumum?

Ingaba intloko yakho igcwele ingcinga enye, okanye uthotho lweengcinga, ezihlala ziphindaphindeka… kwaye ziphinda… kwaye ziphinda-phinda?

Inkqubo yokuqhubeka nokucinga malunga neengcinga ezifanayo, ezihlala zibuhlungu okanye zimnyama, ibizwa ngokuba yirum.

Umkhwa wokuhleba unokuba yingozi kwimpilo yakho yengqondo, njengoko unokwandisa okanye uqinise ukudakumba kunye nokuphazamisa amandla akho okucinga kunye nokuqhubekeka neemvakalelo. Inokubangela ukuba uzive ulilolo kwaye, enyanisweni, ungabatyhalela kude abantu.

Yintoni ebangela ukukhanya?

Abantu bayakhanyisa ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo.Ngokwe-American Psychological Association, ezinye izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuqhuma zibandakanya:

• inkolelo yokuba ngokukhanyisa, uya kufumana ukuqonda ebomini bakho okanye ingxaki
• ukuba nembali yokwenzakala ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni
• Ukujongana noxinzelelo oluqhubekayo olungenakulawulwa

Ukukhanya kwakhona kuqhelekile kubantu abaneempawu ezithile zobuntu, ezibandakanya ukugqibelela, i-neuroticism, kunye nokugxila okugqithileyo kulwalamano lomntu nabanye.

Unokuba notyekelo lokugqitha ubudlelwane bakho nabanye kakhulu kangangokuba uya kuzincama kakhulu ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho, nokuba abakusebenzeli.

Iingcebiso zokujongana neengcinga ezikhanyayo

Nje ukuba ubambeke kumjikelo wokucinga oqaqambileyo, kunokuba nzima ukuphuma kuwo. Ukuba ungena kumjikelo wezo ngcinga, kubalulekile ukuba uzimise ngokukhawuleza ukubathintela bangangxami.

Njengokuba xa ibhola iqengqelekela ezantsi, kulula ukuyeka iingcinga ezikhanyayo xa ziqala ukuqengqeleka kwaye zinesantya esincinci kunangexa bebeqokelele isantya ngokuhamba kwexesha.

Ke, unokwenza ntoni ukunqanda ezi ngcinga zingafunekiyo ukuba ziqhubeke ngengqondo yakho?

Nazi iingcebiso ezili-10 zokuzama xa uqala ukufumana ingcinga efanayo, okanye useto lweengcinga, ujikeleza intloko yakho:

1. Ziphazamise

Xa uqaphela ukuba uqala ukukhanyisa, ukufumana ukuphazamiseka kunokuphula umjikelo wakho wokucinga. Jonga ngeenxa zonke kuwe, khawuleza ukhethe enye into yokwenza, kwaye unganiki ingcinga yesibini. Cinga ngoku:

• ukubiza umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho
• wenza imisebenzi ejikeleze indlu yakho
• ubukele imuvi
• ukuzoba umfanekiso
• ukufunda incwadi
• ujikeleze ubumelwane bakho

2. Cwangcisa ukuthatha amanyathelo

Endaweni yokuphinda-phinda loo ngcinga imbi, thabatha loo ngcinga kwaye wenze isicwangciso sokuthatha amanyathelo okuyisombulula.

Kwintloko yakho, cacisa inyathelo ngalinye ekufuneka ulithathile ukulungisa le ngxaki, okanye ubhale phantsi ephepheni. Yiba ngokungqalileyo kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwaye unokwenene ngokulindelekileyo.

Ukwenza oku kuya kuphazamisa amarhe akho. Iya kukunceda ukuba uqhubele phambili kumzamo wokufumana umbono ombi entlokweni yakho kube kanye.

3. Thatha amanyathelo

Nje ukuba uchaze isicwangciso samanyathelo ukulungisa iingcinga zakho ezikhanyayo, thatha inyathelo elinye lokujongana nomcimbi. Jonga isicwangciso osenzileyo ukusombulula ingxaki obusoloko ucinga ngayo.

Yiya phambili ngenyathelo ngalinye kancinci kancinci nangakumbi ngokokude ingqondo yakho ikhululeke.

4. Buza iingcinga zakho

Sidla ngokukhanyisa xa sicinga ukuba senze impazamo enkulu okanye xa kukho into ebuhlungu eyenzekileyo kuthi esiziva sinoxanduva lwayo.

Ukuba uqala ukukhanyisa kwingcamango ephazamisayo, zama ukubeka ingcamango yakho ephindaphindiweyo ngendlela efanelekileyo.

Ukucinga ngakumbi malunga nokuba ingcinga yakho ekhathazayo isenokungachaneki njani kunokukunceda uyeke ukukhanyisa kuba uyaqonda ukuba ingcinga ayinangqondo.

5. Lungisa iinjongo zakho zobomi

Ukufuna ukwenza izinto ngendlela egqibeleleyo kunye nokuzibekela iinjongo ezingafezekanga kunokukhokelela kwirum. Ukuba uzibekela iinjongo ezingenangqondo, ungaqala ukugxila ekubeni kutheni kwaye ungafezekisanga njongo, okanye into ebimele ukuba uyenzile ukuyifumana.

Ukubeka iinjongo ezingakumbi onokukwazi ukuziphumeza kunokunciphisa umngcipheko wokucinga nzulu ngezenzo zakho.

6. Sebenzela ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho

Uninzi lwabantu abakhanyayo baxela ubunzima ngokuzithemba. Ngapha koko, ukuswela ukuzithemba kunokunxulunyaniswa nokunyusa irumum. Ikwanxulunyaniswa nokwanda komngcipheko woxinzelelo.

Ukuphucula ukuzithemba kunokufezekiswa ngeendlela ezininzi. Umzekelo, ukwakha kumandla akhoyo kunokongeza kubuchule bokusebenza, obunokuphucula ukuzithemba.

Abanye abantu banokukhetha ukusebenza kuphuculo lokuzithemba kunyango lwengqondo. Njengoko uphucula ukuzithemba kwakho, ukusebenza kwakho ngokwakho kunokuphuculwa. Ungafumanisa ukuba uyakwazi ngcono ukulawula amarhewu.

7. Zama ukucamngca

Ukucamngca kunokunciphisa ukurhabaxa kuba kubandakanya ukucoca ingqondo yakho ukuze ufike kwimeko ezolileyo ngokweemvakalelo.

Xa uzifumana uphinda-phinda weengcinga engqondweni yakho, khangela indawo ethe cwaka. Hlala phantsi, phefumla ngokunzulu, kwaye ungagxili kwinto ngaphandle kokuphefumla.

8. Qonda izinto ozibangela ukuba ubangele

Ngalo lonke ixesha ufumanisa ukuba uyakhazimla, yenza inowuthi yengqondo ngale meko ukuyo. Oku kubandakanya ukuba uphi, liphi ixesha losuku, ngubani okujikelezileyo (ukuba ukhona), nento obuyenza ngala mini.

Ukuphuhlisa iindlela zokuphepha okanye zokulawula ezi zinto zinganciphisa ukurhabaxa kwakho.

9. Thetha nomhlobo

Iingcinga ezakhayo zinokukwenza uzive ulilolo. Ukuthetha malunga neengcinga zakho nomhlobo onokubonelela ngombono wangaphandle kunokunceda ukuphula umjikelo.

Qiniseka ukuba uthetha nomhlobo onokukunika loo mbono kunokukhanyisa nawe.

10. Zama unyango

Ukuba iingcinga zakho ezikhanyayo zithatha ubomi bakho, unokufuna ukujonga unyango. Ingcali inokukunceda uchonge ukuba kutheni ukhanyisa kwaye ujongana njani neengxaki ezingundoqo.

Utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila

Ukuba ulixesha elide ukukhanyisa elifuna ukuphelisa ukuphinda-phinda iingcinga zakho ezimbi, nazi iinguqulelo ezilula onokuzenza ebomini bakho ezinokukunceda wenze kanye le nto:

• Sebenza ngokuzama ukusombulula iingxaki zakho. Kuqala chonga iingxaki ebomini bakho emva koko uqale ukuthatha amanyathelo okusombulula iingxaki zakho, inyathelo elinye ngexesha
• Cwangcisa ulindelo lwakho. Iingcamango ezingakhanyisiyo zinokungena xa sithandabuza ukuzixabisa kwethu. Zidumise ngempumelelo yakho kwaye uzixolele ngeempazamo zakho. Qhubeka usebenza ekwakheni ukuzithemba kwakho ngokuzikhathalela nokwenza izinto ozonwabelayo kunye nezibalaseleyo.
• Yenza inkqubo yenkxaso. Ukuba nabahlobo kunye namalungu osapho, kwaye mhlawumbi nonyango, nokuba ngubani onokutsalela kuye uncedo xa kukho into engahambi kakuhle okanye xa unosuku olubi, kubaluleke kakhulu. Aba bantu bakhethekileyo banokukuphazamisa kwiingcinga zakho ezikhanyayo kwaye banokubangela ukuba uzithemba.

Kuyenzeka ukuba uyeke ukukhanyisa

Ukuba uyi-ruminator, kubalulekile ukwazi ezinye iingcebiso ezinokukunceda umise umjikelo wakho wokucinga kwiindlela zawo ngaphambi kokuba uphume ngaphandle kolawulo.

Kukwabalulekile ukuba usebenze kwaye uthathe amanyathelo okuzikhusela ekukhanyeni kwindawo yokuqala.

Ngokwazisa kunye notshintsho oluthile kwindlela yokuphila, kunokwenzeka ukuba uzikhulule kwiingcinga ezikhanyayo. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba awukwazi ukusebenzisa ezi ngcebiso ukunceda ukunyuka kwakho, kuya kufuneka unxibelelane nengcali yezempilo yengqondo ukuze ufumane uncedo.