Ukuzibophelela ngokwakho kukwenza ukuba unqwenele utshintsho olukhulu kubomi, kodwa ngaba kufuneka ulandele?

Umxholo

• Ilungiselelwe iNyathelo
• Yilinganise
• Dlala iJaji kunye neJury
• Musa ukuwela "UkuFika kweFallacy"
• Cinga Ngexesha Elide
• Okokugqibela, jonga kwiXabiso lokuNgasebenzi
• Uphengululo lwe

Amathuba kukuba, ngoku ucinga ukuba kunokuba kuhle kangakanani ukungena kwindlu enkulu enezindlu ezintle ezingasemva. Okanye ukuphupha malunga nokulahla umsebenzi wakho ukuze uzalisekise ngakumbi. Okanye ucinga ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bunokusebenzisa i-revamp. Kuba ukuba kukho into enye eyenza abantu bafune ukwenza intshukumo, nayiphi na intshukumo, ibanjwe endaweni. Kwaye inkwenkwe, uninzi lwabantu lubambekile.

Kunyaka onesiqingatha uphelileyo, iintsuku zakho ziye zaba yinto engapheliyo, i-loop engapheliyo yokusebenza, ukupheka, ukucoca, kunye nokukhathalela abantwana bakho okanye izilwanyana zasekhaya. Ikhosi eguqukayo iqala ukuziva ingathi kuphela kwento enokukugcina usempilweni. Iyavakala loo nto, utshilo uJacqueline K. Gollan, Ph.D., unjingalwazi wezifundo zengqondo kunye nokuziphatha kwiFeinberg School of Medicine kwiYunivesithi yaseNyakatho-ntshona, ofunda ukuthatha izigqibo. “Utshintsho lumema ubutsha kubomi bethu kwaye lunokuphelisa ukudinwa,” utshilo.

Abantu abaninzi baye benza utshintsho oluthile lwenyikima. Phantse zizigidi ezili-9 zabantu abafudukayo ngo-2020, ngokwe-National Association of Realtors. Amashumi amahlanu anesibini eepesenti abasebenzi athathela ingqalelo ukutshintshwa kwemisebenzi, kwaye iipesenti ezingama-44 banezicwangciso zokuyenza, ngokutsho kutshanje Inkampani ekhawulezayo-Iphepha leHarris. Ubudlelwane buqala kwaye buphela. Iifololi zifuna uthando (umlinganiso womsebenzi womsebenzisi weDating.com unyuse iipesenti ezingama-88 ukusukela oko kwaqala ubhubhane), besenza izicwangciso zokutshata (iingcwecwe kwilizwe lonke zinika ingxelo yokuba ukuthengiswa kweeringi zokuzibandakanya kuyanda), kwaye ukubiza kuyeke (iipesenti ezingama-67 Abasebenzisi be-Dating.com bathi bahamba ngokuhlukana kunyaka ophelileyo).

Ngokwenene eli ibe lixesha lokuziphendulela, utshilo uMelody Wilding, unjingalwazi wendlela yokuziphatha kwabantu, umqeqeshi olawulayo, kunye nombhali wencwadi entsha. Zithembe (Thenga, $ 34, amazon.com), ophawula ukuba iipesenti ezingama-80 zabaxumi bakhe benza utshintsho kubomi babo. Ubhubhani wenze ukuba abantu abaninzi babuze, 'Ngaba ndenza le nto ndifuna ukuyenza kwaye ndichitha ixesha lam ngendlela eyanelisayo?' "Enye into, sinexesha elininzi lokucamngca xa sisekhaya. Ngaphezu koko, ubunzima bemeko bukhombisile ukuba buthathaka kangakanani ubomi kwaye nexesha lethu lilinganiselwe. Oko kusinike imeko yongxamiseko kwaye kwasenza khangela intsingiselo engakumbi."

Ilungiselelwe iNyathelo

Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ayizizo zonke iinguqu ngeli xesha ezenziwe ngokhetho. I-COVID-19 yayisisiphazamiso sokugqibela. Abantu baphulukene nemisebenzi kunye nabantu ababathandayo. Uxinzelelo lwezezimali lwanyanzela abanye ukuba bafuduke. Izigidi zabasetyhini zashiya abasebenzi ukuze zikhathalele abantwana bazo ngexesha lokuvala. Kodwa kwabo babenethamsanqa lokuzama ngokuzithandela into eyahlukileyo, umnqweno wokwenza oko wawumkhulu.

Kukho izizathu zebhayiloji zoko, iingcali zithi: Ukuhlala unganyangeki akukho kwindalo yethu. “Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu banotyekelo lokuthatha amanyathelo, nokuba loo nto ayimlungelanga,” utshilo uGollan. "Sivame ukucinga malunga nento esinokuyenza ukuphucula ubomi bethu." Ukwenza intshukumo kuya kukhethwa ukuba ungenzi nto konke konke, utshilo, nangona ukungasebenzi ngamanye amaxesha lolona khetho lubhetele.

Ingxaki ye-COVID ikwasebenza njengesiqalo sokuqala sokuhamba kwabantu ebesele becinga ngako. "Kukho izigaba zotshintsho," utshilo uWilding. "Eyokuqala kukucamngca kwangaphambili - xa ungazimiselanga kuyenza. Emva koko kuza ukucamngca, xa uqala ukucinga nzulu ngotshintsho. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ubhubhane ubuyinto ebesusa abantu kula manqanaba okuqala apho bebekulungele kwaye bezibophelele khona ukuthatha amanyathelo." (Eyeleleneyo: Indlela ukuvalelwa okunokuthi kuyichaphazele ngayo impilo yakho yengqondo-engcono)

Oko kunokuba kuhle - kwaye kubi. Xa lwenziwe ngezizathu ezifanelekileyo, utshintsho lunokukwenza wonwabe kwaye ube sempilweni. Ikubeka kwindawo engcono kwaye "ingqina into okwaziyo ukuyenza," utshilo uWilding. Ubuqhetseba kukugqiba ukuba zeziphi iintshukumo eziza kuhlawula kwaye zeziphi ezinokuthi zirhoxe. "Sithanda ukucinga ukuba utshintsho luzakwenza ngcono izinto kwaye lusombulule iingxaki zethu," utshilo uWilding. "Kodwa akusoloko kunjalo." Nantsi indlela yokwazi ixesha lokutsiba.

Yilinganise

Ukuchonga ukuba ngaba utshintsho lufanelekile, qala ngokubeka izinto ezilungileyo nezingalunganga zokwenza utshintsho kwaye wenze okufanayo ngokungalwenzi, utshilo uGollan. "Ukuba ucinga ngokutshintsha imisebenzi, umthetho olula wesithupha wokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ixesha lilungile na xa inani leentsuku ezimbi lidlula inani lezinto ezilungileyo," utshilo uWilding.

Olunye uphawu: Ukuba ukhe wazama ukuphucula le meko- mhlawumbi uthethile nomphathi wakho okanye wazivolontiya ukuthatha uxanduva olutsha ukuphucula izakhono zakho- kodwa awuzange ufike ndawo. "Ukuba awusakhuli kwindima yakho kwaye alikho ithuba lokwenyani lokwenza njalo, lixesha elifanelekileyo lokwenza utshintsho," utshilo uWilding.

Dlala iJaji kunye neJury

Oku kuluncedo ngakumbi kwizigqibo ezinkulu. Masithi ucinga ngokuzincothula ngokwakho kunye nokufudukela kwindawo efudumeleyo yelanga enelanga. Ngaphambi kokwenza into enzima kangaka, "yisa isigqibo enkundleni," utsho uGollan. Fumana idatha eninzi ngangokunokwenzeka malunga nokuhamba-indleko yezindlu kwindawo entsha, amathuba emisebenzi apho, iintlobo zamathuba oza kudibana nabantu kunye nokwenza abahlobo abatsha- kwaye uphinde uphonononge omabini amacala e-equation, ngokungathi ungumgwebi, ngelixa uzama ukuyenzela ityala. Oku kuya kukunika umfanekiso opheleleyo kwaye kukuncede ubone imeko kuwo onke ama-engile, utshilo. (Uya kufuna ukuhamba ngenkqubo enye ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokujoyina intshukumo ye- # VanLife.)

Musa ukuwela "UkuFika kweFallacy"

Ukutshintsha imeko ayizukuphucula ubomi bakho ngomlingo. "Abantu bacinga nje ukuba bafike kwinto entsha [oko iingcali zikubiza ngokuba kukufika okungeyonyani], baya konwaba ngokuzenzekelayo ngenxa yoko. Kodwa oko kukucinga," utshilo uWilding. "Unokuba uzama ukunqanda iingxaki oza kuphinda uhlangane nazo ngaxa lithile." Endaweni yoko, sebenzela ekuphuhliseni izakhono ozidingayo ukusombulula lo mba, utshilo. “Qinisekisa ukuba ubalekela ithuba kunokuba usuke engxakini,” utshilo. (Eyeleleneyo: Ungabutshintsha njani uBomi bakho ukuba bubengcono-Ngaphandle Kokuqhatha Ngalo)

Cinga Ngexesha Elide

Ngokuqinisekileyo, laa moto intsha ivakala kakuhle namhlanje. Kodwa kuthekani malunga neenyanga ezintandathu ukusukela ngoku, xa iintlawulo kunye neebhendi zeinshurensi zisiba ninzi? Okanye mhlawumbi awuyi kuphelisa ukuyiqhuba njengoko ubuya kucinga. Phambi kokwenza utshintsho, zibuze: "Kuza kwenzeka ntoni amanyathelo amathathu emgceni? Ngaba ndikulungele oku?" utsho uGollan.(Idibeneyo: Amanyathelo ama-2 ekufuneka uwathathe ukuba ufuna ukwenza utshintsho olukhulu kubomi)

Okokugqibela, jonga kwiXabiso lokuNgasebenzi

Ukungenzi utshintsho kunokubangela umngcipheko, utshilo uWilding. Unokucinga: Sele ndibeke ixesha elininzi kulo msebenzi okanye kobu budlelwane, ke andinakutshintsha izinto ngoku.

"Kodwa ixabiso lokuhlala endaweni linokuba lulonwabo lwakho kunye nokuba sempilweni. Kwaye leyo yindleko ephezulu kakhulu," utshilo. "Cinga ngenene ukuba ukungathathi ntweni kuya kuthetha ntoni kuwe."

Uphengululo lwe