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Umxholo

• 1. Uziva ngathi uhlala "uyayenza"
• 2. Kufuneka ubonise ukuba uyasokola kwaye ufuna uncedo
• 3. Iintsuku ezilungileyo zi "ziqhelekile"
• 4. Kodwa iintsuku ezimbi azinyamezeleki
• 5. Ukugqitha kule mihla imbi kufuna isixa esikhulu samandla
• 6. Ungasokola ukugxila, kwaye uzive ngathi awenzi ngokusemandleni akho
• 7. Ukuphila noxinzelelo olusebenzayo kuyadinisa
• 8. Ukucela uncedo yeyona nto ingamandla onokuyenza

Nangona isenokungabonakali, ukufumana usuku kuyadinisa.

Sibona njani iimilo zehlabathi esizikhethele zona- kunye nokwabelana ngamava anyanzelisayo kunokubangela ukuba siphathane ngcono. Lo ngumbono onamandla.

Kunokuba nzima ukubona iimpawu zomntu onexinzelelo oluphezulu olusebenzayo. Kungenxa yokuba, ngaphandle, zihlala zibonakala zilunge ngokupheleleyo. Baya emsebenzini, bafeze imisebenzi yabo, kwaye baqhubeke nobudlelwane. Kwaye njengokuba behamba ngeendlela zokugcina ubomi babo bemihla ngemihla, ngaphakathi bayakhwaza.

"Wonke umntu uthetha ngokudakumba noxinzelelo, kwaye kuthetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo," utshilo uGqirha Carol A. Bernstein, Unjingalwazi wezifo zengqondo kunye nemithambo-luvo kwi-NYU Langone Health.

“Uxinzelelo olusebenzayo oluphezulu ayilulo udidi lokuqonda isifo ngokwembono yezonyango. Abantu banokuziva bedandathekile, kodwa umbuzo ngoxinzelelo kukude kangakanani, kwaye kuphazamisa kangakanani amandla ethu okuqhubeka nobomi [bethu]? ”

Akukho mahluko phakathi koxinzelelo kunye nokudakumba okuphezulu. Uluhlu loxinzelelo ukusuka kubumnene ukuya kumodareyitha ukuya kubunzima. Ngo-2016, malunga ne-16.2 yezigidi zabantu baseMelika babenesiqendu esinye soxinzelelo olukhulu.

"Abanye abantu abanexinzelelo abakwazi ukuya emsebenzini okanye esikolweni, okanye ukusebenza kwabo kubandezeleka kakhulu ngenxa yako," utshilo u-Ashley C. Smith, unontlalontle wezonyango onelayisensi. “Akunjalo kubantu abanexinzelelo oluphezulu. Banokusebenza ebomini, ubukhulu becala. ”

Kodwa ukukwazi ukugqitha emini akuthethi ukuba kulula. Nazi izinto ezisixhenxe ezazithethwe ngabantu malunga nokuba kunjani ukuhlala nokusebenza noxinzelelo olusebenzayo oluphezulu.

1. Uziva ngathi uhlala "uyayenza"

"Siva okuninzi ngoku malunga ne-imposter syndrome, apho abantu baziva ngathi 'bayayenza' kwaye abadibananga njengoko abantu becinga. Kukho ifom yale nto kwabo bajongana nokudakumba okukhulu kunye nezinye iindlela zokugula ngengqondo. Uba nobuchule 'ekuzidlaliseni,' udlala indima yesiqu sakho abantu abakungqongileyo abalindele ukukubona namava abo. ”

-UDaniel, intatheli, eMaldin

2. Kufuneka ubonise ukuba uyasokola kwaye ufuna uncedo

Ukuphila noxinzelelo olusebenzayo kunzima kakhulu. Nangona unokuhamba ngomsebenzi kunye nobomi kwaye ubukhulu becala wenze izinto zenziwe, awuzenzi ukuba zenziwe ngokusemandleni akho.

“Ngapha koko, akukho mntu ukholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba uyasokola kuba ubomi bakho abukahlukani okwangoku. Ndandizibulala kwaye ndisondele ekupheliseni konke eyunivesithi kwaye akukho mntu wayenokundikholelwa ngenxa yokuba ndingaphumeleli esikolweni okanye ndinxibe njengesiqhelo esipheleleyo. Emsebenzini, kuyafana. Kufuneka sibakholelwe abantu xa becela inkxaso.

“Okokugqibela, uninzi lweenkonzo zempilo yengqondo zineemfuno ezisekwe kwiimfuno, apho kuya kufuneka ubonakale umyinge othile woxinzelelo ukuze ufumane inkxaso. Nokuba imeko yam iphantsi kakhulu kwaye ndicinga ngokuzibulala, kufuneka ndixoke ngendlela endisebenza ngayo ukuze ndikwazi ukufikelela kwiinkonzo. ”

-U-Alicia, isithethi sempilo yengqondo / umbhali, eToronto

3. Iintsuku ezilungileyo zi "ziqhelekile"

“Usuku olumnandi kukuba ndikwazi ukuvuka ngaphambi okanye ekunene kwialarm yam, ndihlambe, ndize ndibeke ubuso bam. Ndiyakwazi ukutyhala ngokuba phakathi kwabantu, njengoko umsebenzi wam njengomqeqeshi wesoftware endibizela kuwo. Andikho crabby or ixhala-ridden. Ndingatyhala ngokuhlwa kwaye ndincokole nabantu endisebenza nabo ngaphandle kokuziva ndiphelelwe lithemba. Ngomhla olungileyo, ndiye ndagxila kunye nokucaca kwengqondo. Ndiziva ngathi ndingumntu onesidima, nonemveliso. ”

-UmKristu, umqeqeshi wesoftware, eDallas

4. Kodwa iintsuku ezimbi azinyamezeleki

“Ngoku usuku olubi… Ndizilwela ngokwam ukuze ndivuke kwaye kufuneka ndizihlaze ngokwam ngokuhlamba nangokuzihlanganisa. Ndafaka into yokuthambisa [ngoko andi] lumkisi abantu malunga nemiba yam yangaphakathi. Andifuni kuthetha okanye ndihlutshwe nangubani na. Ndiyazikhohlisa ngokuba ngumntu, njengoko ndinerhafu yokuhlawula kwaye andifuni ukubenza nzima ubomi bam nangaphezulu.

“Emva komsebenzi, ndifuna nje ukuya kwigumbi lam lasehotele kwaye ndikhangele ngaphandle kwengqondo kwi-Instagram okanye kuYouTube. Ndizakutya ukutya okungenamsoco, kwaye ndizive ngathi ndilahlekile ndizithobe.

"Ndineentsuku ezimbi ngaphezu kokulungileyo, kodwa ndifumene okuhle ekuzifakeleni ukuze abathengi bam bacinge ukuba ndingumqeshwa omkhulu. Ndihlala ndithunyelwa kudos ekusebenzeni kwam. Kodwa ngaphakathi, ndiyazi ukuba khange ndihambise kwinqanaba endikwaziyo. ”

- UmKristu

5. Ukugqitha kule mihla imbi kufuna isixa esikhulu samandla

“Kuyadinisa kakhulu ukufumana usuku olubi. Ndiyafumana umsebenzi wenziwe, kodwa ayisiyonto yam intle. Kuthatha ixesha elide ukufeza imisebenzi. Kuninzi ukujonga kwindawo, ukuzama ukubuyisela ulawulo lwengqondo yam.

“Ndizifumana ndikhathazeka msinya ngabantu endisebenza nabo, nangona ndiyazi ukuba akukho ndlela bayaziyo ukuba ndinosuku olunzima. Ngeentsuku ezimbi, ndizigxeka kakhulu kwaye andifuni ukubonisa umphathi wam nawuphi na umsebenzi wam kuba ndisoyika ukuba uyakucinga ukuba andinakulunga.

Enye yezona zinto ziluncedo endizenzayo ngeentsuku ezimbi kukubeka phambili imisebenzi yam. Ndiyazi ukuba kunzima ukuzityhala, kokukhona ndiyakudleka, ngoko ke ndiyaqinisekisa ukuba ndenza izinto ezinzima xa ndinamandla kakhulu. ”

-I-Courtney, ingcali yentengiso, North Carolina

6. Ungasokola ukugxila, kwaye uzive ngathi awenzi ngokusemandleni akho

Ngamanye amaxesha, akukho nto iyenziwayo. Ndingaba kukude ndikhuphe idaze yonke imini, okanye kuthatha yonke imini ukugqiba izinto ezimbalwa. Kuba ndisebenzisana noluntu kwaye ndisebenza nabantu kunye neenkampani ezikhuthaza injongo enkulu, edla ngokutsala iintliziyo zabantu, umsebenzi wam ungandifaka kuxinzelelo olunzulu.

“Ndingasebenza kwibali, kwaye ngelixa ndichwetheza ndineenyembezi ebusweni bam. Oko kunokuba kuncede umthengi wam kuba ndinentliziyo eninzi kunye nomnqweno malunga namabali anentsingiselo, kodwa kuyothusa kuba iimvakalelo zibaleka nzulu.

-Tonya, intatheli, eCalifornia

7. Ukuphila noxinzelelo olusebenzayo kuyadinisa

Kumava am, ukuhlala noxinzelelo olusebenzayo kuyadinisa. Kukuchitha usuku uncumile kwaye unyanzele ukuhleka xa ukhathazwa yimvakalelo yokuba abantu onxibelelana nabo bayakunyamezela nje kunye nobukho bakho emhlabeni.

“Kukwazi ukuba awunamsebenzi kwaye uyinkcitha-mpilo ye-oksijini… kwaye wenza konke okusemandleni akho ukubonisa ukuba akulunganga ngokuba ungoyena mfundi ubalaseleyo, oyintombi ebalaseleyo, oyena mqeshwa ungcono. Iya ngaphezulu nangaphaya kwemini yonke imihla ngethemba lokuba ungamenza umntu azive ukuba ulifanele ixesha lakhe, kuba awuziva unjalo. "

-Meaghan, umfundi wezomthetho, eNew York

8. Ukucela uncedo yeyona nto ingamandla onokuyenza

“Ukucela uncedo akukwenzi ube ngumntu obuthathaka. Ngapha koko, ikwenza uchasane ngqo. Ukudakumba kwam kubonakalise ngokuthatha kakhulu ukusela. Kubaluleke kakhulu, enyanisweni, ndichithe iiveki ezintandathu kwi-rehab kwi-2017. Ndinentloni nje kwiinyanga ezili-17 zokungazibambi.

"Wonke umntu unokuba nolwakhe uluvo, kodwa omathathu amacala kanxantathu wempilo yam yengqondo - ukuyeka ukusela, ukuthetha unyango, kunye namayeza - zibalulekile. Ngokukodwa, iyeza lindinceda ukugcina imeko kwinqanaba lemihla ngemihla kwaye ibiyinto entsonkothileyo ekuphuculeni kwam. ”

-Kate, iarhente yokuhamba, eNew York

“Ukuba ukudakumba kuyabuchaphazela kakhulu ubomi bakho, ukuba ucinga ukuba ungaziva ubhetele, funa uncedo. Jonga ugqirha wakho oyintloko malunga nayo-uninzi luqeqeshelwe ukujongana nokudakumba- kwaye ufune ukuthunyelwa kunyango.

“Ngelixa kusekho ibala elibonakalayo lokuba unengxaki yokugula ngengqondo, ndingathi siyaqala, kancinci, ukubona ukuba ibala liyancipha. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuvuma ukuba unengxaki kwaye unokusebenzisa uncedo. "

- UDaniyeli

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