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Umxholo

• Inyani malunga nexesha
• Yeyiphi Imibuzo Endinokuyilindela?
• Indlela Yokulungiselela Ezi Ncoko
• Unokulufumana phi uncedo
• Amanqaku okuthetha aphambili
• Kuthekani Ukuba Andikwazi Ukuphendula Umbuzo?
• Ukuthatha

Ngamanye amaxesha abizwa ngokuba "ziintaka neenyosi," uloyiko "lokuthetha ngesondo" nabantwana bakho ngokuqinisekileyo luya kwenzeka ngelinye ixesha.

Kodwa leliphi elona xesha lilungileyo lokuba nalo? Ngelixa unokuhendeka ukuba ulibazise ixesha elide kangangoko kunokwenzeka, ukuthetha nabantwana bakho kwangethuba kwaye ihlala iyeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuqinisekisa ukuba benza ukhetho olufanelekileyo malunga nokufikisa kunye nokwabelana ngesondo ngelixa bekhula.

Kubalulekile ukuba ukulungele ukuphendula imibuzo yabantwana bakho njengoko beza, kodwa akukho mfuneko yokufaka yonke into kwincoko enye. Incoko iya kuguquka njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula.

Inyani malunga nexesha

ISebe lezeMpilo laseMelika kunye neenkonzo zoLuntu lifumanisa ukuba akukaze kube semva kwexesha ukuqala ukuba nezi ntlobo zokuncokola nabantwana bakho.

Xa umntwana wakho emncinci, ungabona ukuba bahlala bechukumisa amalungu abo abucala. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba nomdla kwaye ayizizo ezesondo. Nangona kunjalo, unokufuna ukujongana nalo mbandela ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho akenzi esidlangalaleni. Unokufuna ukubhekisa ingqalelo yabo kwenye indawo, okanye uvume nje ukuba oku kuyimfihlo kwaye akufuneki kwenziwe esidlangalaleni. Sukungxolisa okanye ukohlwaye umntwana wakho omncinci ngezi zenzo. Oko kunokubenza bahlakulele ukugxila okwandisiweyo kwilungu labo langasese okanye baziva behlazo ekuthetheni ngesondo. Qiniseka ukuba ufundisa umntwana wakho omncinci igama elifanelekileyo ngamalungu abo abucala, ukuze bakwazi ukukuxelela ngokuchanekileyo ukuba kukho into ebakhathazayo okanye ebakhathazayo.

Ngokwe-Mayo Clinic, ukuba umntwana wakho uhlala ephulula amalungu esini okanye eziphatha, inokubonisa ingxaki. Basenokungafumani ngqwalaselo yaneleyo. Isenokuba luphawu lokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo. Qiniseka ukuba ufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba akukho mntu uvumelekile ukuba achukumise amalungu abo abucala ngaphandle kwemvume.

Ukuba umntwana wakho akakubuzi imibuzo ngesondo okanye ngamalungu omzimba wakhe, musa ukumlinda. Qiniseka ukuba uqala incoko nje ukuba bafikelele kwiminyaka yabo elishumi elinesibini. Ixesha eliphakathi kobuntwana kunye nokuba mdala kuthiwa kukufikisa. Umntwana wakho uyafikisa ngeli xesha kwaye umzimba wakhe utshintsha kakhulu. Kwahlukile kumantombazana namakhwenkwe.

• Amantombazana: Ukufikisa kuqala phakathi kweminyaka eli-9 ukuya kweli-13. Ngelixa uninzi lwamantombazana lufumana ithuba lokuya exesheni phakathi kweminyaka eli-12 neli-13, ingaqala kwangoko kwiminyaka eyi-9. Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bathethe neentombi zabo malunga nokuba sexesheni ngaphambi kokuba baye exesheni. Ukubona kwegazi kunokoyikisa kakhulu kwintombazana encinci.
• Amakhwenkwe: Ukufikisa kuqala phakathi kweminyaka eli-10 ukuya kweli-13. Thetha namakhwenkwe malunga nokuchama kwawo okuqala kule minyaka, nokuba ayibonakali ngathi bayadlula ebusheni.

Musa ukulinda ukuba ube nentetho enye enkulu. Ukuba neencoko ezininzi malunga nesondo kwenza amava kube lula ukuwaphatha kwaye kunika umntwana ithuba lokucinga ngengongoma nganye. Umntwana wakho unokoyika ukuthetha nawe malunga nokufikisa. Rhoqo lixesha lokudideka nelingaphaya kwamandla ebomini babo. Oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo.

Kuyanceda ukuqala incoko ngokubakhumbuza rhoqo ukuba izinto abahlangabezana nazo ziqhelekile kwaye ziyinxalenye yokukhula. Baxelele ukuba nawe ugqithile kuyo. Nje ukuba umntwana wakho aqhelane nokwabelana ngolu hlobo lolwazi kunye nezimvo nawe, kuya kuba lula kakhulu ukuba nobabini niqhubeke nokuthetha njengoko umntwana wakho ehamba kwinqanaba labo lokufikisa nangaphaya.

Yeyiphi Imibuzo Endinokuyilindela?

Akunakwenzeka ukuba wazi yonke into umntwana wakho anokuzibuza ngayo ngesondo kunye nobudlelwane. Nangona kunjalo, unokuzilungiselela eminye yemibuzo ebuzwa rhoqo.

• Zivela phi iintsana?
• Kutheni ndinamabele? Ziza kukhula nini?
• Kutheni unenwele phaya ezantsi?
• Kutheni ndingekafumani exesheni? Kutheni ndinalo ixesha? Kutheni abafana bengenaxesha?
• Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba li-gay okanye lesbian?
• Ngaba isondo lomlomo lithathwa njengesondo, nalo?
• Ndingazi njani ukuba ndine-STD?
• Ngaba ndingakhulelwa nje ngokukhohlisa?
• Umhlobo wam ukhulelwe, makenze ntoni?

Eminye yale mibuzo isenokubonakala inzima okanye kunzima ukuyiphendula. Zama nje ukuphendula umbuzo ngendlela ethe ngqo. Umntwana wakho uya kuthi aneliseke lulwazi nje oluncinci ngexesha.

Indlela Yokulungiselela Ezi Ncoko

Kuya kufuneka ulungiselele kwaye ulungele ukuphendula imibuzo eza kuvela. Uhlobo lwemibuzo ebuzwa ngumntwana wakho inokukunika umbono olungileyo malunga noko sele bekwazi. Ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo zinokukunceda uqalise.

• Yazi i-anatomy. Funda amagama afanelekileyo kwilungu ngalinye lomzimba. Oku kusebenza kuzo zombini iinkqubo zokuzala kwendoda neyomfazi.
• Nyaniseka. Musa ukoyika ukuvuma emntwaneni wakho ukuba uziva uneentloni ukuthetha ngayo nawe. Olu hlobo lovelwano lunokunceda umntwana wakho azive ekhululekile kwaye abuze imibuzo emininzi.
• Balisa. Balisa amabali ngamava akho ekukhuleni.
• Ukubonakala kweedilesi. Khupha i-acne, utshintsho lweemvakalelo, ukukhula kokukhula, kunye notshintsho lwehomoni kunye nendlela ezinokwenzeka ngayo ezi zinto ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo abantwana abahlukileyo kunye nendlela eqhelekileyo ngayo loo nto.
• Vula iindlebe zakho. Mamela ngenyameko kwaye umjonge emehlweni. Musa ukubuza imibuzo emininzi kwaye uyigcine ngokubanzi ukuba uyayenza.
• Yibanobubele. Ungaze uteketise, usole, okanye udelele iingcamango neemvakalelo zomntwana wakho.
• Yiba nembeko. Khetha indawo ethe cwaka, eyimfihlo oza kuyithetha. Hlonipha umnqweno wabo wokuthetha noMama okanye uTata kuphela malunga nezifundo ezithile.
• Nika izixhobo. Yenza uluhlu lwewebhusayithi kunye neencwadi ezinikezela ngolwazi malunga nesini ocinga ukuba zichanekile.

Unokulufumana phi uncedo

Kukho inani lewebhusayithi ezinokuthenjwa nezithembekileyo ezinikezela ngolwazi oluchanekileyo kwimpilo yezesondo kunye nophuhliso. Emva kokuthetha nomntwana wakho kwaye umazise ukuba ulapha ukuphendula nayiphi na imibuzo abanokuba nayo, ungabanika ngezi zibonelelo.

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• Umzali ocwangcisiweyo

Amanqaku okuthetha aphambili

Abantwana baya kuba nemibuzo eyahlukeneyo kunye neenkxalabo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo, ukufikisa, kunye nokutshintsha kwemizimba yabo njengoko bekhula. Yenza iimpendulo zakho kwimibuzo ethile ebuzayo, kodwa qi ni sekise oku kulandelayo ukuba kufanelekile ukwenza njalo ngelo xesha kwingxoxo.

• Xa umntwana wakho esemncinci kwaye eqala ukuqonda ukuba bane "ndawo zangasese," qiniseka ukuphinda uthi akukho namnye, nokuba ngumhlobo okanye ilungu losapho, onelungelo lokuchukumisa le mimandla.
• Ulwazi malunga nokukhulelwa kunye nee-STD (izifo ezidluliselwa ngeentlobano zesini), ezinjenge-gonorrhea, i-HIV / AIDS, kunye neherpes, nokuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho akalali.
• Ulwazi malunga nendlela yokuzikhusela kwii-STD kunye nendlela yokuphepha ukukhulelwa.
• Ungalusebenzisa njani ukhuselo (njengeikhondom) xa usabelana ngesondo kwaye ungazithenga phi.
• Yintoni onokuyilindela malunga notshintsho lomzimba, njengeenwele zasesidlangalaleni kunye naphantsi kwekhwapha, utshintsho kwilizwi (amakhwenkwe), kunye notshintsho lwebele (amantombazana).
• Nini kunye nendlela yokusebenzisa i-deodorant.
• Yintoni onokuyilindela kubudlelwane kunye nokuba ujonge ntoni kwiqabane elithandanayo. Ungaseta imigaqo malunga nokuba kulungile nini ukuqala ukuthandana. Qiniseka ukuba umntwana wakho ubeka ulindelo olusengqiqweni kubudlelwane babo bokuqala.
• Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa beziva benyanzelekile ukuba babelane ngesondo ngaphambi kokuba bakulungele.
• Ngamantombazana, kufuneka benze ntoni okokuqala xa befumana ixesha, kubandakanya indlela yokusebenzisa iphedi kunye netampon kunye nokuba ulindele ntoni ngokweentlungu.
• Kubafana, benzani ukuba bathambisa okanye banephupha elimanzi.
• Ngaphezulu kwako konke, yacaca ukuba akukho nto ibaluleke ngakumbi kuwe ukhuseleko kunye nokuba sempilweni.

Kuthekani Ukuba Andikwazi Ukuphendula Umbuzo?

Ukuba wena nomntwana wakho ninengxaki yokunxibelelana, cela ugqirha wabantwana ukuba akukhokele. Banokwazi ukuthetha nomntwana wakho ngokuthe ngqo, okanye banokukuthumela kumcebisi wosapho ojolise kwezi ntlobo zeengxaki. Umntwana wakho unokungakhuseleki malunga ne-acne kunye nolunye utshintsho kwiimbonakalo zabo. Bathabathe baye kugqirha wesikhumba, umchebi weenwele, okanye ugqirha wamazinyo ukuba baqala ukukhathazeka kakhulu malunga nendlela abakhangeleka ngayo.

Zininzi neencwadi ezilungileyo ezikhoyo ezijongana nokwabelana ngesondo kwinqanaba elifanelekileyo kubudala bomntwana wakho. Buza isikolo somntwana wakho malunga nekharityhulamu yabo kwimfundo yesondo ukuze uzivavanye ngokwakho kwaye ulungele ukuthetha ngayo ekhaya.

Ukuthatha

Khumbula ukuba akukaze kube kudala okanye emva kwexesha kakhulu ukuqala ezi ngxoxo. Ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho engabuzi okanye azise ngokuthe ngqo kuwe akuthethi ukuba sele ezazi iimpendulo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazenzi. Okanye banokufumana ulwazi olungachanekanga kubahlobo babo. Ukubazisa nje ukuba uyafumaneka ukuba ungathetha ngalo naliphi na ixesha kunokwanela ukuba incoko iqhubeke.

Okokugqibela, zama ukungabaniki ulwazi oluninzi ngaxeshanye. Nje ukuba umxholo ubesengqondweni yabo kwaye baqala ukuziva bekhululekile ukuthetha nawe ngayo, banokubuya kamva benemibuzo emininzi.