Ewe ndineminyaka engama-35 ubudala ndiphila nesifo samathambo

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Ndineminyaka engama-35 ubudala kwaye ndinesifo samathambo.

Kwakuyintsuku ezimbini ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwam kwe-30th, kwaye ndandisiya eChicago ukuya kubhiyoza kunye nabahlobo bam. Ndithe ndisahleli phakathi kwe traffic, yakhala phone yam. Yayingumongikazi wam.

Kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ngaphambili, wayeqhuba olunye uthotho lweemvavanyo ngethemba lokufumanisa ukuba kutheni ndigula kangaka. Ngaphezulu konyaka, bendiphulukana nobunzima (ndiyayikhumbula loo nxalenye), ndibuthathaka, ndibaleka phantsi, ndiphefumla kancinci, kwaye ndilala rhoqo. Isikhalazo sam kuphela esinxulumene ngokudibeneyo ngamanye amaxesha bendingenako ukuhambisa ingalo yam usuku. Zonke iimpawu zam bezingacacanga.

Ndathatha ifown. “Carrie, ndineziphumo zovavanyo zakho. Unesifo samathambo. ” Ugqirha wam ongumongikazi wayejikeleza malunga nendlela endandiza kuyifumana ngayo i-X-ray kuloo veki kwaye ndibone iingcali ngokukhawuleza, kodwa oku kwakungumbono ngelo xesha. Intloko yam yayijikeleza. Ndandisifumana njani isifo somntu omdala? Ndandingekabikho nama-30! Izandla zam bezibuhlungu ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye bendiziva ngathi ndihlala ndinomkhuhlane. Ndacinga ukuba umongikazi wam kufuneka engalunganga.

Emva kwaloo fowuni, ndiza kuchitha iiveki ezimbalwa ezizayo ndizisizela okanye ndikhanyele. Imifanekiso endandiyibonile kuthengiso lwamayeza lwabafazi abadala abanezandla ezikhubazekileyo zihlala zivela entlokweni yam. Xa ndiqala ukukhangela i-intanethi nge-glimmer yethemba, yayiyeyona ntshabalalo kunye nobumnyama. Amabali ngamalungu angalunganga, ukungahambi, kunye nelahleko yokusebenza kwemihla ngemihla zazikho kuyo yonke indawo. Oku kwakungeyena mna.

Bendigula, ewe. Kodwa kwakumnandi! Bendi bartending kwindawo yotywala, ndisenza iinwele kwimidlalo yeqonga lasekuhlaleni, kwaye sele ndiza kuqala kwisikolo sobugqirha.Ndazixelela, “Ayilothuba lokuba ndiyeke iIPAs ezimnandi kunye nezinto endizithandayo. Andimdala, ndimncinci kwaye ndigcwele ubomi. Andizukuvumela ukugula kwam kuthathe ulawulo. Ndim ophetheyo! ” Ukuzinikela kwethu ekuphileni ubomi obuqhelekileyo kwandinika amandla endandiwafuna kakhulu ukuze ndiqhubele phambili.

Ukuluma imbumbulu

Emva kokudibana ne-rheumatologist yam kunye nokufumana idosi ezinzileyo ye-steroids kunye ne-methotrexate kum, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndizame ukuba lilizwi kubafazi abancinci njengam. Ndifuna ukuba abantu basetyhini bazi ukuba izinto ziya kulunga: Onke amaphupha okanye ithemba onalo liyafezekiseka- kungafuneka uguqule izinto ezimbalwa. Ubomi bam butshintshe ngokupheleleyo kodwa ngandlel 'ithile bahlala bunjalo.

Ndisaphuma ndayosela iidrink kunye nabahlobo bam. Kodwa endaweni yokuhla ibhotile yonke yewayini, ndilinganisela ukusela kwam kwiglasi enye okanye ezimbini, ndisazi ukuba andizukuyihlawula kamva. Xa sisenza imisebenzi enje nge-kayaking, bendisazi ukuba izihlahla zam ziya kudinwa ngokukhawuleza. Ke ndiyakufumana imilambo enomsinga olawulayo okanye esonge izandla zam. Xa ndandihamba intaba, ndandinezinto zonke eziyimfuneko epakethini yam: i-capsaicin cream, ibuprofen, amanzi, ii-Ace ezisongelayo kunye nezihlangu ezingaphezulu. Ufunda ukuziqhelanisa ngokukhawuleza nokwenza izinto ozithandayo- kungenjalo, uxinzelelo lunokubamba.

Ufunda ukuba unokuhlala kwigumbi eligcwele abantu abaneentlungu ezidibeneyo, kwaye akukho mntu uya kwazi. Sigcina iintlungu zethu zisondele, njengoko beqonda kuphela abo banesigulo. Xa umntu esithi, "Awukhangeleki ugula," ndiye ndafunda ukuncuma nokubulela, kuba oko kukuncoma. Kuyadinisa ukuzama ukucacisa iintlungu ngezinye iintsuku, kwaye ukukhutyekiswa lelo gqabaza akusebenzi.

Ukuza ngokwemigaqo

Kwiminyaka emihlanu ndikunye neRA, ndiye ndaneenguqu ezininzi. Ukutya kwam kuye kwaphela ekutyeni nantoni na endifuna ukuyigcwalisa vegan. Ukutya i-vegan kundenze ndaziva ndonwabile, ngendlela! Ukuzilolonga kunokuba nzima, kodwa kubalulekile ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Ndemka emntwini owayehamba ngamanye amaxesha esenza i-kickboxing, spinning, kunye neyoga! Ufunda xa kufika imozulu ebandayo, ulungele. Ubusika obubandayo nobumanzi baseMidwest bukhohlakele kumalungu amadala. Ndifumene umthambo okufuphi kunye ne-infrared sauna kwezo ntsuku zibandayo zekrisimesi.

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Kuya kubakho imihla elungileyo neentsuku ezimbi. Ngezinye iintsuku ungavuka usentlungwini, kungekho silumkiso. Isenokuba kwangolo suku unemiboniso emsebenzini, abantwana bakho bayagula, okanye unoxanduva ongenakukutyhalela ecaleni. Le yimihla esinokuyenza enye into ngaphandle kokuphila, kodwa ngeentsuku ezithile kuko konke okubalulekileyo, ke yiba nobubele kuwe. Xa iintlungu zinyuka, nokudinwa kukutyisa, yazi ukuba iintsuku ezingcono zingaphambili, kwaye uyakuqhubeka uphila ubomi obukade ubufuna!