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Umxholo

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Xa ndandineminyaka engama-29 ubudala, xa ndandineminyaka engama-30 ubudala, ndandisoyika. Ubunzima bam, umthombo oqhubekayo woxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kubomi bam bonke, wabetha ngalo lonke ixesha. Nangona ndandiphila ngamaphupha am njengombhali eManhattan à la Carrie Bradshaw, ndandibuhlungu. Izambatho zam zazingaphantsi "kwendlela yeenqwelo-moya" nangakumbi "indawo yokuvula indawo eLane Bryant." Khange ndibenaye "Mnumzana uBig" wokuthetha-nangona ndive abantu abaninzi abanokundijonga bebhekisa kum njengo "Nksz Big" phambi kwabo bonke kodwa banyamalala. Ndonwabe ngakumbi kubusuku bangoMgqibelo ndiphethe ipizza (ephakathi, ephakathi, eqhelekileyo ephuma kwiDominoes enepepperoni kunye nephayinapile, ukuba kuya kufuneka uyazi) kunokuzama ukucudisa kwindibano emnyama “ephumayo” endinethemba lokuba iya kuyifihla. Imiqolo yam etyebileyo ndihleli ekoneni ndibukele abahlobo bam ababhityileyo, abahle, nabonwabileyo behlaselwa kwaye ekugqibeleni bandishiya ndiyokufumana indlela eya ekhaya-apho ndingayalela khona ipitsa. (Kubalulekile: Kutheni uthando lwentshukumo yam yoMlo luxhobisa kangaka)

Malunga neenyanga ezintlanu ndade ndajika i-30, ndafika kwinqanaba lokuqhekeka. Andikwazanga ukuthatha ukhetho oluncinci lwewodrophu kwiivenkile ezimbini eziphethe ubungakanani bam kwizinto ezingaphandle kwe-muumus. Bendingazukuziva ndimfiliba ngekamva lam elibonakala limiselwe ukungabinandoda kwaye ndingenabantwana. Kwaye andikwazi ukuthatha inkungu, ukudumba, kunye nokuphefumla imini yonke.

Ke emva kweminyaka yokusilela kuko konke ukutya okutya phantsi kwelanga-sithetha abaJongi boBunzima, uJenny Craig, umjikelo weziyobisi ezimangalisayo u-Fen-Phen, Atkins, LA Weight Loss, Nutrisystem, "evunyiweyo ngokwenzululwazi" Iiplani endiziwele ngobusuku I-infomercials, ukutya kwesuphu, kunye neeplani ezingenakubalwa ezenziwe ngabadli bezondlo-ekugqibeleni ndavuma kum ukuba andinamandla ngaphezu kokutya (kungakhankanywa, ndandiza kuhamba ngenxa yokutya okungapheliyo ndaya "konke") kwaye ndajoyina Inkqubo yamanyathelo ali-12 yokulutha ukutya. Kwakugqithisile-bendinaye "umxhasi," ndingavumi kuwo wonke umgubo kunye neswekile, kwaye ndatya ezintathu zilinganisiwe ngononophelo kwaye ndalinganisa ukutya ngosuku. Yayiyinto enye yonke imihla: kwisidlo sakusasa, bendizakutya i-ounce ye-oatmeal ngokukhetha iziqhamo kunye nee-ounces ezi-6 zeyogathi ecacileyo kwisidlo sakusasa. Isidlo sasemini kunye nesangokuhlwa, yayizii-ounces ezine zeprotheyini engacacanga kunye nee-ounces ezisibhozo zesaladi, icephe elinamafutha kunye nee-ounces ezi-6 zemifuno ephekiweyo. Akukho kutya. Akukho dessert. Akukho ndlela. Ngapha koko, ntsasa nganye, kwakufuneka ndixelele umxhasi wam ngqo izinto endiza kuzitya imini yonke. Ukuba ndithe ndiza kuba nenkukhu kwisidlo sangokuhlwa, kodwa kamva ndagqiba kwi-salmon endaweni yoko, yayingafunwayo. Kwakunzima, yayisihogo, kwaye yayiluvavanyo lwamandla endandingazi nokuba ndinalo.

Kwaye kuyasebenza. Ngomhla wam wokuzalwa wama-30, ndandiphulukene neeponti ezingama-40. Ekupheleni kwaloo nyaka, ndandisele ndiphulukene neeponti ezingama-70, ndinxibe ubungakanani 2 (ezantsi ukusuka kubukhulu obungu-16/18), ndithandana nesiqhwithi kwaye ndithanda ikwayara rhoqo "ujongeka ungakholeki" ukunconywa ngabahlobo, usapho kunye nabantu osebenza nabo .

Kodwa oko kwakuphantse kube yi-10 leminyaka eyadlulayo kwaye ngoku, ndineenyanga ezilithoba kude nomhla wam wokuzalwa wama-40. Kwaye iminyaka eli-10 emva kokuba ndithathe elo nyathelo lokutshintsha ubomi bam kunye nomzimba wam ngowona mlinganiselo ugqithileyo wobomi bam bonke, imbali yobuchwephesha bokutya iyaphinda-phinda. (Jonga kwakhona: Kutheni le nto ukuFikelela kwiSigqibo sam kundenze ndonwaba kancinci)

Ewe, uhlobo.

Ndiye ndazuza ubukhulu bobu bunzima kwakhona. Kwaye ngoku, njengoko ndijonge ezona zine-o (ngoSeptemba 18, 2017, lusuku), kwakhona ndingathanda ukunciphisa umzimba, kwaye ndingathanda ukuziva ndisempilweni. Kodwa iinjongo zam zahlukile ngeli xesha. Andisazami ukudibana nabafana kwiiklabhu. Ndinomyeni ongumlingane wam womphefumlo, intombi entle eza kuguqula i-2, imali ebhankini, ubomi obunokuthula emadlelweni, kunye nolawulo lomsebenzi wam ophumeleleyo. Andizimiselanga ukubeka ukutya kunye nokutya kumbindi wehlabathi lam kwakhona- kulapho intombi yam ikhoyo.

Okwangoku, ndiyazi ukuba ukutya kunamandla kakhulu kunam-kuhlala kunjalo-kwaye kuyandiphika ukuthanda nokuxabisa konke endikubonakalisileyo kum kule minyaka ili-10 idlulileyo. Ndingaya kanjani phambili xa ndigqibile ukucinga, "Ngaba ndikhangeleka ndityebile?" "Ngaba ubomi bam bebuya kuba ngcono ukuba bendibhityile kwakhona?" "Ndifuna ipitsa." "Akufunekanga ndifune ipizza." "Ngaba namhlanje iya kuba yimini endivuka ngayo ndibhityile?" Olo hlobo lweengcinga zihlala zijikeleza entlokweni yam, oko kuthetha ukuba kunzima ukuhlala ndikhona kwaye kunzima ukubasusa kude kwaye bacinge ngezinto ezinje ngebali elikhulu elilandelayo endifuna ukulifaka okanye ndonwabele nje ubusuku bosuku nomyeni wam ngoxolo.

Oko akutsho ukuba andizange ndizame-kwaye ndiphumelele-ukufumana izinto phantsi kolawulo ukususela ekubeni ubunzima buqale ukukrakra emva koko kwandula emva kokuba intombi yam izalwe. Ndincame kwiprogram ye-12-step kuba kwakunzima ukuyigcina, kodwa ndazama phantse yonke enye into. Ndahamba ndingenayo i-gluten-free, ndaya ePaleo, ndazama eminye imijikelo emithathu yaBalindi boBunzima, kwaye ndazibophelela ekujikelezeni iintsuku ezintlanu ngeveki. Ndizamile ukwenza iacupuncture.

Nangona ezi ndlela zokutya zingazange zisebenze, inyani kukuba ndinguye iqhele uku ukuba kukutya. Ziqhelekileyo kum. Bandinika imvakalelo yokuzola kunye nethemba lokuba ndiza kuvuka ndibhitye. Baxelela umhlaba "Ndiyazi ukuba ndifuna ukunciphisa umzimba, kodwa ndenza konke okusemandleni am." Ukuzibophelela kwisicwangciso sokutya kundenza ndizive ndilawula, kodwa nabo baziva benetyala, ngokungathi ndingumntwana odelelayo oza kuzenzela ukutya iicarbs. Ngamanye amaxesha, bandenza ndizive ndingumkhohlisi, ngathi ndisilele. Kodwa inyani kukuba, izidlo bezisilela mna. Ungaphumelela kuphela ekutyeni ixesha elide de ijike kuwe.

Kungenxa yoko ndilapha ukuza kuthi ndlela-ntle ekudleni okufanelekileyo njengoko ndiqala indlela yam eya kuma-40. Ukutya kundenza ndithethe igama elithi "ngekhe" kakhulu. Kwaye kuninzi ukungakhathaleli ukuba kubekwe emhlabeni. Rhoqo ndithetha izinto ezinje "andinakutya sonka" okanye "andinakutya kuloo restyu" okanye "andinakuphuma ngoba andinakusela" zinxiba kum kwaye indenza ndizive ndililolo. Okubi nakakhulu, bayanditya kwaye bazalise ingqondo yam "ngencoko" engenamsebenzi. Ndihlala ndizibuza ukuba nditye into enamanqaku amaninzi kunokuba bendiwabele imini yonke okanye ukuba kufuneka ndibethe iivenkile ezintathu zegrosari ukuze ndifumane yonke into ekhethekileyo kuluhlu lwam. Ayichasani kuba ukutya ukutya kundenza ndicinge ngokutya ngakumbi kunangaphambi kokuba ndingatyi. Isebenza ingqondo yam kwi-overdrive kwaye indikhokelela ekubeni ndigxininise kuyo yonke into ukusuka ekubeni zingaphi iikuki endinokuhamba nazo ukuya ekulungiseni oko abanye abantu bakucingayo ngomzimba wam. Ngamafutshane, indithumela ukuba ndiphume ngaphandle kolawulo kwaye ndiye ngqo efrijini.

Ke, njengoko ndijika i-40, lixesha lokuba ndibuyele kulawulo kwakhona. Lixesha lokuba ndifunde ukuzithemba kwaye ndithembe umzimba wam. Bendingazi ukuba umzimba wam unamandla angakanani emva kwamashumi amabini. Kodwa ukususela ngoko, ndazisa ubomi emhlabeni. Ndabeleka kwangalo mzimba shame ndiwuncamile. Ifanele ngaphezu koko. Mna bafanelwe ngaphezulu koko.

Ukuba ndifuna ukujika iminyaka engama-40 ndiziva ndisempilweni, ndomelele, kwaye ndizithembile-kufuneka ndenze izinto ezindenza ndizive kakuhle, usempilweni, womelele kwaye uyazithemba. Ndidinga ukuseta iinjongo ezindenza ndizive ndiphumelele, hayi njengokusilela okanye ukukhohlisa. Ngoku, endaweni yokubala iikhalori, ndiza kuzinyanzela ukuba ndiye kwi-yoga okanye ndicamngce. Kwaye endaweni yokusika zonke ii-carbs okanye yonke iswekile, ndiyakucinga ukuba ndinento enee-carbs kwisidlo sakusasa zokutya ii-carbs ezimbalwa ngexesha lesidlo sasemini. Ezi ziinjongo endinokunamathela kuzo.

Sala kakuhle, ukutya. Emva kokuphila iminyaka engama-40 kulo mhlaba-kwaye sichitha engama-30 kubo besitya ukutya-lixesha lokuba sohlukane. Kwaye ngeli xesha, ndiyazi ukuba ayindim. Ngokuqinisekileyo wena.

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