Ewe, kuqhelekile ukuKhangeleka ukhulelwe emva kokubeleka

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Ngaphambi kokuba azale umntwana wakhe wokuqala, u-Elise Raquel wayecinga ukuba umzimba wakhe uza kubuyela emva nje kokuba efumene umntwana. Ngelishwa, wafunda kabuhlungu ukuba oku kwakungayi kuba njalo. Wazifumana esajonge iintsuku ezikhulelweyo emva kokubeleka, into eyenzekileyo xa ekhulelwe.

Ngexesha awayenomntwana wakhe wesithathu ngoJulayi, umama wase-UK wayecinga ukuba kubalulekile ukuba babelane ngeefoto zomzimba wakhe wasemva kokubeleka ukuze abanye abantu basetyhini bangeva uxinzelelo lokuba babuyele kwi-ASAP yabo yangaphambili (okanye ngonaphakade, ngalo mbandela). (Idibeneyo: Lo mama wee-IVF ezintathu zezahlulo zokuba kutheni emthanda umzimba wakhe wasemva kokubeleka)

Kwiiyure nje ezimbalwa emva kokubeleka, wayenomfoti wathatha ifoto yakhe ekwimeko yakhe ekrwada neyona isesichengeni kwaye wayithumela ku-Instagram. "Yimvakalelo engaqhelekanga ukujonga phantsi kwaye usabona iqhuma, nangona ubambe umntwana wakho ezandleni zakho, nasemva kokukwenza kathathu," ucacisile eposini. "Akukho lula ukugoduka nosana kwaye kusafuneka unxibe iimpahla zokubeleka. Ngeyokuqala, bendixakekile ndiza 'kubuyisa umva' ... Kodwa uyazi, andizange, andikaze ndibenayo "

U-Elise uqhubeke ngokuxelela abalandeli bakhe ukuba "babhiyozele imizimba yasemva kokubeleka kulo lonke uzuko lwabo." Kodwa kwezi nyanga zimbalwa zidlulileyo, abantu bazive benesidingo sokugxotha umama ngokuthumela izithonga zakhe "zobuqu" esidlangalaleni. Ke, ukulandela, kunye nokuvala abacaphukelayo kube kanye, u-Elise wabelane ngeminye ifoto yasemva kokukhulelwa kule veki ukucacisa ngakumbi ukuba kutheni ukubona ezi ntlobo zemifanekiso zinje. ke ibalulekile.

Wachaza ukuba ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwakhe kokuqala, akukho mntu wamxelela ukuba umzimba wakhe awuyi kubuya ubume bawo bokuqala. "Bendingayazi ukuba ungabonakala ukhulelwe nasemva kokubeleka, utshilo. "Ngoko xa ndiphuma esibhedlele iintsuku ezine emva kokubeleka, ndibonakala ndikhulelwe iinyanga ezintandathu, ndacinga ukuba ndenze into engalunganga." (Inxulumene: Umama we-CrossFit uRevie uJane Schulz ufuna ukuba uwuthande umzimba wakho wasemva kokubeleka kanye njengokuba unjalo)

“Ndayithumela loo foto kuba ndinqwenela ukuba umntu afake ifoto efana neyam ngoku ndandikhulelwe,” uqhube watsho. "Ndinqwenela ukuba umntu ebendixelele into enokwenzeka emzimbeni wam nasengqondweni yam. Ikota yesine sisihloko esingathandekiyo. Ndifuna nabanye oomama abahamba ngezihlangu zam bazi ukuba ababodwa."

Ukuziphatha kwebali? Wonke umama kufuneka azi ukuba umzimba wakhe uza kwahluka emva kokuba ezelwe umntwana. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba intwana yomonde incinci onokuthi uzinike yona emva kokunyamezela ubunzima obukhulu kunye namava amahle njengokuzala. Njengoko uElise ebeka: "Nokuba luphi na [uhambo] lwakho lwasemva kokubeleka, kulungile, kuyinto eqhelekileyo."

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