Ukonwaba kwakho kunokunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lwabahlobo bakho

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Ngaba unexhala lokuba ukuhlala nomhlobo wakho uDebby Downer kuya kuwonakalisa umoya wakho? Uphando olutsha oluphuma eNgilane lulapha ukugcina ubuhlobo bakho: Uxinzelelo alusuleli- kodwa ulonwabo lusitsho, Iinkqubo zeRoyal Society B.

Ukugxininisa kwiingcinga zoxinzelelo kunye nokubonisa amandla obuhlobo, abaphandi bafumanise ukuba olona nyango lusebenzayo kwisifo sengqondo lusenokungabikho kude kunoluhlu lwabafowunelwa kwifowuni yakho. (Ngaphezu koko, ufumana ezi Ndlela ezili-12 uMhlobo wakho osenyongweni wokuphucula impilo yakho.)

Ukuhlola indlela iimvakalelo zabahlobo eziphembelela ngayo abanye, izazinzulu zeYunivesithi yaseManchester naseWarwick zafunda abafundi besikolo samabanga aphakamileyo abangama-2 000 eU.S., zisebenzisa imifuziselo yekhompyutha ukulandelela iimvakalelo zabo. Abaphandi bafumanisa ukuba ngokuchasene nenkolelo edumileyo, iimeko zokudakumba azihambi zisuka komnye umntu ziye komnye. Kwaye ukufumba kwiziphumo ezikhuthazayo, bafumanise ukuba ii-moods ezonwabileyo enyanisweni yenza.

Inyaniso yokuba unokuvuyisa umhlobo ophantsi ayimangalisi kangako, watsho umbhali wokufunda uThomas House, Ph.D., umhlohli ophezulu kwimathematika esetyenzisiweyo evela kwiYunivesithi yaseManchester, kwi-press release. "Siyazazi izinto zentlalo-umzekelo, ukuhlala wedwa okanye ukuphathwa gadalala kwimpembelelo yobuntwana nokuba umntu uxinezelekile. Siyazi nokuba inkxaso kwezentlalo ibalulekile ekuphulukaneni nokudakumba, umzekelo, ukuba nabantu oza kuthetha nabo," ucacisile. (Funda ngakumbi malunga noBuchopho Bakho: Uxinzelelo.)

Yaye umphumo womhlobo onenyameko ekudandathekeni kukabani wawuphawuleka kakhulu. Ngelixa uphando lwangaphambili lufumanise ukuba amayeza anceda kuphela umntu omnye kwabathathu abadandathekileyo, olu phononongo lufumene "inqanaba lokunyanga" leepesenti ezingama-50 phakathi kwabantu abadandathekileyo abanenkxaso eyomeleleyo kwezentlalo. Esi siphumo sikhulu, i-House ithi, singasathethi ke ukuba inethiwekhi yoluntu eyomeleleyo lukhetho lonyango oluphantsi.

Ezi ayizondaba zimnandi nje kuDebbie Downers, kodwa nakubantu abazithandayo. Ayisiyiyo kuphela into yokuba ukhathazeke "ngokubamba" ukudakumba kumhlobo, kodwa ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo-okanye naluphi na uhlobo lomhlobo ngalo mbandela-unokuxhamla. wena ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba ngokunjalo. Uphononongo olwenziwe ngo-2013 liQela lezeMpilo eManyeneyo lafumanisa ukuba iipesenti ezingama-76 zabantu abadala base-US abachitha ixesha benceda abanye baxele ukuba ukwenza oko kubenze bazive besempilweni, kwaye iipesenti ezingama-78 zinamanqanaba asezantsi oxinzelelo kunabantu abadala abangawenzi nzame wokunceda abanye . Kwaye uphononongo olupapashwe yiAmerican Psychological Association lufumanise ukuba abo benza konke okusemandleni abo ukunceda abanye rhoqo banomngcipheko omncinci wokudakumba kwaye baphila ixesha elide. (Ungaze uzibuze ukuba kutheni Kunzima Kangaka Ukwenza Abahlobo Njengabantu Abadala? Sineengcebiso zokukunceda!)

Ke kwixesha elizayo xa ubona umhlobo wakho ecula "Ndililifu elincinane elimnyama lemvula," fikelela kubo-kungekudala Zombini ubethela umlozi omnandi.

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