I-14-Inyanga-endala Ingahambi: Ngaba Ukhathazekile?

Umxholo

• Ushwankathelo
• Ngaba kufuneka ukhathazeke ukuba umntwana wakho akahambi?
• Iintsana zikufunda njani ukuhamba?
• Ungamnceda njani umntwana wakho ahambe
• Nini ukubona ugqirha

Ushwankathelo

Usana lwakho luya kubetha amanqanaba amaninzi ophuhliso kunyaka wokuqala wobomi. Oku kubandakanya ukufunda ukubamba ibhotile yabo, ukuziqengqa, ukukhasa, ukuhlala phezulu, kwaye ekugqibeleni bahambe ngaphandle koncedo.

Ukuba uzifundile iincwadi malunga nokukhula komntwana, okanye ukuba unabanye abantwana, unokulindela ukuba umntwana wakho athathe amanyathelo akhe kwindawo ethile phakathi kweenyanga ezili-10 nezili-12. Ke ukuba umntwana wakho akaqali ukuhamba ngeenyanga ezili-14, ungakhathazeka.

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba iintsana zikhula kwaye zifikelela kumanqanaba ngamanqanaba ahlukeneyo. Inyaniso yokuba umntwana wakho akahambi ngeenyanga ezili-14 ayisoloko ibonisa ingxaki.

Ngaba kufuneka ukhathazeke ukuba umntwana wakho akahambi?

Ukuba umntwana wakho akahambi ngeenyanga ezili-14, iinkxalabo zakho ziyaqondakala. Ufuna ukuba umntwana wakho afikelele kumanqwanqwa aphezulu, kwaye awufuni ukuba umntwana wakho asalele emva kwabanye abantwana abakwiminyaka efanayo. Kodwa usana olungakwazi ukuhamba kwiinyanga ezili-14 aluhlali lubonisa ingxaki. Ngelixa ezinye iintsana ziqala ukuhamba ngaphambi kweenyanga ezili-12, ezinye azihambi de kube ziinyanga ezili-16 okanye ezili-17.

Ukufumanisa ukuba ukungakwazi ukuhamba kosana lwakho kungunobangela wokukhathazeka, cinga ngomfanekiso omkhulu. Umzekelo, nangona usana lwakho lungakwazi ukuhamba ngeenyanga ezili-14, ungabona ukuba umntwana wakho uyakwazi ukwenza ezinye izakhono zemoto ngaphandle kwengxaki, njengokuma wedwa, ukutsala ifanitshala, kunye nokuhla unyuka.

Le yimiqondiso yokuba izakhono zemoto zosana lwakho ziyaphuhliswa. Ke ngoko, ungangqina amanyathelo abo okuqala kungekudala. Qhubeka ujonge inkqubela phambili yosana lwakho. Ukuba umntwana wakho akahambi ngeenyanga ezili-18, thetha nogqirha wakho.

Kuya kufuneka uthethe nogqirha wakho ukuba uziva ukuba izakhono zomntwana wakho azikhulisi kakuhle. Oku kunokuba njalo ukuba umntwana wakho oneenyanga ezili-14 akakwazi ukuma, ukunyusa, okanye ukubuyisa.

Kukwabalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ezinye iintsana ezizalwe ngaphambi kwexesha ziqala ukuhamba kamva kunabantwana abakwiminyaka efanayo. Ukuba usana lwakho belungaphambi kwexesha, sukuphakuzela ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuhamba. Sebenzisa iminyaka ehlengahlengisiweyo yomntwana wakho xa ulandela umkhondo wophuhliso. Iminyaka ehlengahlengisiweyo isekwe kumhla wokuqala womntwana wakho.

Ukuba uneenyanga ezili-14 ubudala, kodwa wazala iinyanga ezintathu kwangoko, iminyaka ehlengahlengisiweyo yosana lwakho ineenyanga ezili-11. Kule meko, kungathatha umntwana wakho iinyanga ezimbini ukuya kwezintathu ezongezelelweyo ukuba afunde ukulinganisela kunye nokuhamba, okuqhelekileyo. Sukuba nexhala. Kukho konke kunokwenzeka, umntwana wakho uya kubamba.

Iintsana zikufunda njani ukuhamba?

Iintsana zifunda ukuhamba ngokuthe chu xa zikhula kwaye izihlunu zemilenze yazo zisomelela. Ngenxa yezihlunu ezibuthathaka, imilenze yosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa ayikwazi ukuxhasa ubunzima bayo. Ngokwesiqhelo, iintsana ziqala ukukroba okanye ukukhasa zijikeleze iinyanga ezisi-7. Kuyo yonke le minyaka baye baqala nokuxhuzula bonyuke ngelixa bebanjwe kwindawo yokuma. Eli nyathelo linceda ukomeleza izihlunu zomlenze wosana lwakho ukulungiselela ukuthatha amanyathelo abo okuqala.

Malunga nobudala beenyanga ezisi-8 ukuya kwezi-9, usana lwakho lungaqala ukutsala izinto ezifana nezitulo kunye neetafile. Abanye abantwana bade baphakamise iinyawo zabo phezulu nasezantsi ngelixa bebambe into, ngokungathi sele beza kuhamba.

Ukuhamba kubandakanya ukulungelelana nokuzithemba. Umntwana wakho akafundi kuphela ukuma yedwa, kukwakho nocelomngeni lokufunda indlela yokulungelelanisa amanyathelo ngaphandle kokuwa. Oku kuthatha ixesha.

Kuba iintsana zikhula ukomelela emilenzeni kwiminyaka eyahlukeneyo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ezinye iintsana zikhawuleze ukuhamba kunabanye. Ezinye iintsana zithatha amanyathelo okuqala kwangoko kwiinyanga ezili-9 okanye ezili-10.

Ungamnceda njani umntwana wakho ahambe

Abanye abantwana abangaqali ukuhamba ngeenyanga ezili-14 bafuna ukuziqhelanisa ngakumbi. Ukunceda iintsana zithathe amanyathelo azo okuqala, abazali kunye nabanonopheli banokufika emgangathweni babambe izandla ngelixa bekwindawo yokuma. Cothisa umntwana kancinci emgangathweni. Lo msebenzi ufundisa abantwana ukuphakamisa imilenze yabo nokuhamba begumbini. Inceda neentsana ukuba zikhulise izihlunu zomlenze ezomeleleyo kunye nokuphucula ibhalansi yazo.

Njengomzali, unokuba nomnqweno wendalo wokubamba okanye wokuthwala umntwana wakho xa usekhaya. Kodwa ixesha elingaphezulu lomntwana wakho lifumana, kokukhona ithuba lokuba umntwana wakho ahambe kwaye ahambe ngokuzimeleyo. Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba akhawuleze, akhase, kwaye anyuse rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.

Ukuhamba kweentsana kuhlala kusetyenziswa njengesixhobo sokufundisa kwiintsana ezifunda ukuhamba. Kodwa olu ayilulo ukhetho olukhuselekileyo. Okumangalisa kukuba, ukuhamba kwabantwana kunokulibazisa ukuhamba kwiintsana. Abanye abantwana nabo bonzakele ngenxa yokuhamba. Unokucinga ngokusebenzisa ithoyizi yokudlala, kodwa kufuneka usoloko umjongile umntwana wakho ngezi zinto ukuze uqiniseke ukuba aziphosi.

Abanye abazali bacinga ukuba ukubeka izihlangu ezinyaweni zosana lwabo kunokubanceda ukuba bahambe ngokukhawuleza. Inyani yile, izihlangu zihlala zenza kube nzima ukuba iintsana zithathe amanyathelo azo okuqala. Kucetyiswa izihlangu ukuba uhambe ngaphandle, kodwa uninzi lweentsana lufunda ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza xa lungenazihlangu ngaphakathi ekhaya.

Njengoko unceda umntwana wakho ukuba afunde ukuhamba, qiniseka ukuba wenza indawo ekhuselekileyo ngaphakathi ekhaya. Oku kubandakanya ukususa iiragi ezinokukhubekisa umntwana wakho kwaye zibangele ukonzakala. Unako nokufaka amasango okhuseleko kufutshane nezinyuko, ususe iitafile okanye iishelfu ezinemiphetho ebukhali.

Nini ukubona ugqirha

Nangona ungoyiki ukuba umntwana wakho ulibazisekile ukuhamba, akukho bubi ekuthetheni nogqirha wakho ukuba umntwana wakho akahambi nge-1/2, okanye ngaphambili ukuba ukrokrela ingxaki. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukulibaziseka ukuhamba kubangelwa yingxaki yonyawo okanye umlenze njengokukhula kwe-hip dysplasia, ii-rickets (ukuthambisa okanye ukwenza buthathaka kwamathambo), okanye iimeko ezichaphazela ithoni yemisipha njenge-cerebral palsy kunye ne-muscular dystrophy. Jonga ugqirha wakho ukuba ngaba umntwana wakho ubonakala eqhwalela okanye ukuba imilenze ibonakala ibuthathaka okanye ingalingani.

Khumbula ukuba akukho bantwana babini bayafana, ngoko ke musa ukuthelekisa inkqubela yomntwana wakho nabanye abantwana, okanye ube noxinzelelo olugqithisileyo ukuba umntwana wakho akahambi ngeenyanga ezili-14. Xa kufikwa ekuhambeni, abanye abantwana bayacotha abafundi - kodwa abahlali mva kakhulu.