Iimeko ezi-6 ezikukhathaza ngaphandle kodwa akufuneki

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Uxinezeleko, enoba uyathanda okanye akuthandi, luyinto eqhelekileyo ebomini. Wonke umntu uyahlangabezana nayo, kwaye ngelishwa ngamanye amaxesha inokuzibonakalisa ngawona maxesha angafanelekanga. Kodwa ngaba uyaqaphela ukuba imisebenzi ethile yemihla ngemihla iziva ixinzelelekile kunokuba kufanelekile? Ngaba uyasebenza ulinde emgceni kwivenkile yokutya? Ngaba uqala ukuba nexhala njengoko ubomi bebhetri kwiselfowuni yakho buqala ukuphuma?

UJonathan Alpert, ugqirha wezengqondo kunye noMbhali we-Manhattan, uthi: YOYIKA: Guqula uBomi bakho kwiintsuku ezingama-28. "Ingxaki kukuba sifuna izisombululo ngokudala iimeko ezahlukeneyo ezingqondweni zethu, eziqinisa kuphela uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo." Isitshixo, uAlpert uthi, kukugxila kwizisombululo. Funda kwiingcebiso zeengcali eziya kukhokelela kwimvakalelo yokuzola.

Imeko yoku-1: Ukuphuma endlini sele kuhlwile.br>Useta ialam yakho ngexesha elaneleyo lokulungela umsebenzi. Kwezinye iintsasa ude uzinike iiyure, kodwa uhlala ubaleka emva kwexesha. Kuhlala kukho into enye ekufuneka uyenzile ngokukhawuleza, ekwenza ukuba ungaphumi ngomnyango.

Isisombululo: Ukwabela ixesha elininzi lokuzilungiselela kusasa kunika ithuba elininzi lokuphambuka, kwaye iingcinga zethu zinokuqala ukubaleka phambi kwemizimba yethu. "Ixesha elincinci linokuvumela ukuba ugxile ngakumbi kwaye ubeke phambili," utshilo u-Alpert. "Yenza uluhlu okanye ukuzimisela kwinto ekufuneka yenziwe ekuseni kunye nento enokwenziwa kamva, kwaye unamathele kuyo." (Zinike ixesha elaneleyo lezinto ekufuneka uzenzile, nangona kunjalo-ungazenzi phantsi kwayo!) Gcina umabonwakude kunye nekhompyuter icinyiwe kwaye iselfowuni yakho ingafikeleleki kude kube lixesha lokuba uhambe.

Imeko yesi-2: Ukubambelela emgceni.

Ukumgca wokuphuma kwaye umntu ophambi kwakho wenza imbuyekezo ethatha oko kubonakala ngathi ngonaphakade. Njengoko besenza i-chitchat nge-cashier uqala ukuziva ungenamonde kwaye ucaphuka, kwaye ngequbuliso awukwazi ukuma ngxi.

Isisombululo: Xa izinto zisenzeka kancinci kunokuba bekulindelwe, oko kunokubangela ukuba abantu bazive bexinezelekile kwaye bangxamile. Unokuziva ubanjisiwe kwaye ungalawuleki, okunokukukhumbuza ngamanye amaxesha uziva ngale ndlela, utshilo uDenise Tordella, MA, ongumcebisi onelayisensi ogqwesileyo kunyango lwexhala, umothuko kunye nokuba likhoboka. "Thatha umoya omninzi, yiva iinyawo zakho emhlabeni phantsi kwakho, kwaye ujonge kwinto oyiphawulayo okujikelezile," utshilo uTordella. "Zikhumbuze ukuba abantu abaphambi kwakho abazami ukwenza ukuba ufike emva kwexesha, bonwabela umzuzu wonxibelelwano." Ukuphefumla kunye nokugxila kunokukunceda ulahle uxinzelelo.

Imeko 3: Iselfowuni yakho ibhetri iyafa.

Kudala ukwiselfowuni imini yonke kwaye ijusi ikhupha ngokukhawuleza.Awunayo itshaja yakho kuwe, kwaye akukho ndlela iya kuyenza ibe nde kakhulu.

Isisombululo: Iiselfowuni zinika imvakalelo yokhuseleko kwabanye abantu, kodwa ziyindlela yokuphila kwabanye. "Buyela umva uzibuze, 'Masithi ibhetri iyafa, yeyiphi eyona nto imbi inokwenzeka?' Utshilo uAlpert. Undoqo kukucwangcisa kwangaphambili kwaye ube nobuchule. Bhala inombolo onokuyidinga ngaphambi kokuba ifowuni yakho ivale kwaye uboleke iselfowuni yomnye umntu ukuba ufuna ukufowuna. Khumbula ukuba kwakukho ixesha apho iiselfowuni zazingekho kwaye abantu babesebenza kakuhle ngaphandle kwazo. Zikhumbuze ukuba iyakuba lixesha elifutshane kuphela de ube nakho ukuyihlawula kwakhona.

Imeko yesi-4: Isidlo obufuna uku-odola sithengisiwe.

Kudala ulindile kwaye ucinga ngokutya oku kutya imini yonke. Ukuba ulinganiselwe kukungabikho komzimba okanye ukuthintelwa kukutya, oku kunokuziva kukudanisa ngakumbi kunye noxinzelelo-ngakumbi xa ulambile.

Isisombululo: Qaphela inxalenye yakho eziva udanile kwaye uyivume. Emva koko zama ukuhambisa ujoliso lwakho. "Isidlo besiya kuba silungile, ewe, kodwa jonga oku njengethuba lokufumana ezinye izidlo ezilungileyo," utshilo u-Alpert. Yiba nomdla ekutyeni kwakho kwaye ukuba unazo naziphi na izithintelo kwindlela otya ngayo, soloko unesicwangciso B. Qaphela ukuba unamandla okuqhubeka nokudana kwakho, utshilo uTordella, kwaye uthathe inyathelo lokutshintsha indlela oziva ngayo. Khetha esinye isidlo kwaye ubuze umlungiseleli malunga nokwenza utshintsho kuso ukuze kube sekunokutya okufanelekileyo.

Imeko yesi-5: Ukubaleka emva kweshedyuli xa udibana nomntu.

Uyazazi ezi zicwangciso imini yonke, mhlawumbi nayo yonke inyanga, kwaye kunjalo, ngandlela thile akubonakali ngathi unexesha elaneleyo. Amaxesha ambalwa olungeleyo, uya kuba yimbovane ulinde ujikeleze kwaye uqale ukwenza ezinye izinto.

Isisombululo: Ixesha libonakala lisuka kuwe kuba uphulukana nengqwalaselo yakho kwinto ekufanele ukuba uyayenza. Yeka ukubukela umabonwakude okanye ukuthumela ii-imeyile ukuya kumzuzu omele uhambe ngawo. Endaweni yoko, khokela ulwazi lwakho apha kwaye ngoku, ucebisa uTordella. "Zibuze, 'Yintoni elandelayo ekufuneka ndiyenzile ukuzilungiselela,' kwaye 'Ndizokwenza njani,' utshilo. Ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ulungele kwangethuba kwaye uqale ukuziva unexhala lokulinda, zama ukuphefumla kancinci, ukuphinda uqinisekiso, okanye umamele umculo ozolileyo.

Imeko yesi-6: Ukujula nokujika ubusuku bonke.

Uhlala uzulazula kwaye uyaqala ukukucaphukisa. Uyazi ukuba uya kulala kancinci ngoku kwaye nangona umzimba wakho uziva udiniwe, ingqondo yakho ayizukuvalwa.

Isisombululo: Vala amehlo akho kwaye uzifanekisele kwindawo enoxolo, njengolwandle okanye intaba egqunywe likhephu, uTordella ucebisa. "Njengokuba ulele ebhedini yakho, uva ubunzima bakho ebhedini, yiva izandi ezivela kuloo ndawo kwaye uve umoya kulusu lwakho. Qhubeka uphefumla ngokunzulu kwisithambiso sakho kwaye wandise ubude bomphunga wakho njengoko ukhupha nayiphi na ingxaki onokuba yiyo ukubamba, utshilo. Ukuba awukalali kwimizuzu engama-20, vuka uzame ukwenza ikomityi yeti ene-decaffeine okanye ityiwa encinci yokukhuthaza ubuthongo. Kusenokukunceda ukubhala phantsi iingcinga zakho ephepheni okanye kwijenali ukuba unayo. "Ukuba ubuyela ebhedini kwaye iingcinga ziyaqhubeka, zikhumbuze ukuba zibhaliwe kwaye ucinge ukuba zidada njengoko ubuyisela ulwazi lwakho ekuphefumleni kwakho."

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