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Umxholo

• Yintoni?
• Ngaba yinto efanayo nokungatshati?
• Kuthekani ngokukhuphela ngaphandle?
• Ngaba ungazibandakanya nawo nawuphi na umsebenzi womzimba konke konke?
• Yintoni ongayenza neqabane lakho ngelixa ungafuni?
• Ukuphuza
• Intetho engcolileyo okanye iitekisi
• Ukuqhaqhaza okomileyo
• Ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokwahlukeneyo (kwezinye iinkcazo)
• Ukukhuthaza imanuwali (kwezinye iinkcazo)
• Ukwabelana ngesondo ngomlomo (kwezinye iinkcazo)
• Ukwabelana ngesondo ngesini (kwezinye iinkcazo)
• Ubeka njani imida kunye neqabane lakho?
• Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhulelwe?
• Ngaba Zikhona ii-STIs?
• Yintoni inqaku?
• Umgca wezantsi

Yintoni?

Ngeyona ndlela elula, ukungabinamdla sisigqibo sokungabelani ngesondo. Nangona kunjalo, kuthetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo.

Abanye abantu banokubona ukuyeka njengokuyeka nantoni na kunye nayo yonke imisebenzi yesondo. Abanye banokuzibandakanya kwi-outercourse, ukunqanda ukungena kwilungu lobufazi okanye elangeni.

Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba akukho ndlela "ilungileyo" yokuchaza ukuyeka.

Inkcazo yakho yobuqu yahlukile kuwe. Unokukhetha ukuziqhelanisa nokuziyeka nanini na xa ufuna-nokuba ukhe wabelana ngesondo ngaphambili. Nasi isizathu sokuba abantu benze, ukuba isebenza njani, kunye nokunye.

Ngaba yinto efanayo nokungatshati?

Ngelixa ukungabinamdla kunye nokungatshati kuhlala kusetyenziswa ngokungafaniyo, ukungatshati kuhlala kujongwa njengesigqibo sokuyeka isenzo sesondo ngenxa yezizathu zonqulo.

Umntu othathe isifungo sokungatshati ngu ukuziqhelisa. Kodwa kule meko, kuhlala kubonwa njengesigqibo sexesha elide.

Isigqibo sokungabambeki sihlala sithintelwe ixesha elithile. Umzekelo, omnye umntu unokuthatha isigqibo sokuziqhelanisa nokuziyeka de abe ubeneqabane elithandanayo ixesha elinikiweyo.

Kuthekani ngokukhuphela ngaphandle?

Njengokungakhathali, ukuthetha ngaphandle kuthetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo.

Kwabanye abantu, ukuzithiba kuthetha ukuyeka ukungena ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo.

Le nkcazo ishiya indawo yokuncanca, ukuthambisa iminqweno, kunye nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha.

Kwabanye, ukuyeka into enokuthi ibe sisigqibo sokuthintela nakweyiphi na imisebenzi yesondo-kubandakanya nesondo.

Ngaba ungazibandakanya nawo nawuphi na umsebenzi womzimba konke konke?

Ukunyaniseka, kuxhomekeke kwinkcazo yakho yobuqu yokuziyeka.

Ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba isini sikhona nasiphi na isenzo sokungena, unokuthatha inxaxheba kwezinye izinto zomzimba- njengokumanga, ukuwomisa ngokuomileyo, kunye nokuvuselela ngesandla-ngelixa ungazibandakanyi.

Yintoni ongayenza neqabane lakho ngelixa ungafuni?

Ngenxa yokuba inkcazo yokuziyeka ixhomekeke kumntu, izinto onokuzenza kunye neqabane lakho ngelixa uziqhelanisa nokuziyeka ziyahluka.

Kubalulekile ukuba uvuleke kwaye uthembeke kwiqabane lakho malunga noko ukhululekile kuko ukuze nihloniphane imida yomnye nomnye.

Kuxhomekeke kwinkcazo yakho yobuqu yokuziyeka, unokukwazi ukuthatha inxaxheba kwizinto ezinje:

Ukuphuza

Abaphandi kolunye uphando lwango-2013 bafumanisa ukuba izibini ezincamise ngaphezulu zichaze ukoneliseka okuphezulu kubudlelwane bazo.

Ayisiyo kuphela ukwanga ukukhupha ezo "hormone zonwabileyo" ezikunceda uzimanye neqabane lakho, kunokuba nefuthe elimangalisayo kwimpilo yakho iyonke.

Intetho engcolileyo okanye iitekisi

Olunye uphononongo luka-2017 lubonisa ukuba unxibelelwano (ngomlomo okanye olungathethiyo) lunokunxulunyaniswa nokwoneliseka ngokwesondo. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuzibandakanya kwintetho encinci emdaka kunye neqabane lakho kunokuba yindlela yokuphonononga ukusondelelana ngelixa uziqhelanisa nokuziyeka.

Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba-ngelixa ukuthumela imiyalezo ngesondo kunokuba kukhulula ngokwesondo- kuya kufuneka uqhubeke ngononophelo. Ezinye iindlela zokuthumela imiyalezo engamanyala ngefowuni azikho semthethweni.

Ukuqhaqhaza okomileyo

I-humping eyomileyo akufuneki ibe nzima. Ngapha koko, inokuba yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwazi umzimba wakho. Musa ukoyika ukuzama kwizikhundla ezahlukeneyo, ubuchule, kwanento oyinxibileyo.

Khumbula nje ukuba nanini na xa udibana nolwelo lomzimba, izifo ezosulela ngokwabelana ngesondo zihlala zingumngcipheko. Ezinye ii-STIs zinokudluliselwa ngokudibana kolusu nolusu.

Ukuphulula amalungu esini ngokwahlukeneyo (kwezinye iinkcazo)

Akukho mthetho uthi ukuphulula amalungu esini kufuneka kube ngumsebenzi wedwa. Inokuba yindlela elungileyo yokunxibelelana neqabane lakho kwaye ufunde ukuba bathanda ntoni.

Kwaye ukuphulula amaphambili kunika izibonelelo ezimangalisayo kwimpilo yakho yasemzimbeni nasengqondweni.

Ukukhuthaza imanuwali (kwezinye iinkcazo)

Njengokuphulula amalungu esini, ukuvuselela ngesandla - ukusebenzisa izandla okanye iminwe ukonwabisa iqabane lakho- kunokuba yindlela entle yokukunceda ufikelele kwi-orgasm ngaphandle kokungena ngokwesondo.

Unokuzama ukusebenzisa iithoyi zesini okanye izinto zokuthambisa ukuze ukhuthazane.

Umngcipheko wakho wokukhulelwa kunye nee-STIs uyanda xa ulwelo lomzimba lubandakanyeka, ke qiniseka ukuthatha amanyathelo okhuseleko.

Ukwabelana ngesondo ngomlomo (kwezinye iinkcazo)

Xa kuziwa kulonwabo, zininzi iindlela onokukhetha kuzo zokusebenzisa umlomo wakho kwilungu lobufazi leqabane lakho nakweminye imimandla erogenous.

Nokuba uzama imisebenzi yempepho, i-cunnilingus, i-rim, okanye enye into, kubalulekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba usasebenzisa ukhuseleko kwii-STIs.

Ukwabelana ngesondo ngesini (kwezinye iinkcazo)

Ukwabelana ngesondo ngesondo kunokuba yinto enhle kubantu bonke besini. Ukungena kungenziwa ngeminwe, into yokudlala ngesondo, okanye ipenisi, ke sebenzisa eli thuba lokudlala ujonge imvakalelo ezahlukeneyo.

Ubeka njani imida kunye neqabane lakho?

Ukuthetha malunga nokwabelana ngesondo okanye ukuziyeka kunokuziva kunzima, kodwa akufuneki kube njalo.

Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nendlela yokuqalisa incoko, zama ukusondela kuyo ukusuka kwindawo yothando.

Wonke umntu ufuna ukonwaba. Injongo yakho kufuneka ingabi kukuxelela kuphela iqabane lakho ukuba yintoni wena bafuna, kodwa bafunde oko bafuna, nabo.

Zama ukungalindi de izinto zibe ngokwasemzimbeni- okanye emva kokuba ungonwabanga-ukuseta imida neqabane lakho.

Kodwa ukuba ushushu ixesha kwaye ufuna ukuphinda uqinisekise imida, unganqikazi ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho.

Khumbula, imvume iyimfuneko kwaye iyangena. Uvumelekile ukuba utshintshe ingqondo okanye izinto ozikhethayo nangaliphi na ixesha.

Ungaze uziva uxinzelelo-okanye uxinzelelo kwiqabane lakho- ukwenza into omnye wenu angakhululekanga ngayo.

Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhulelwe?

Ukuziyeka kuphela kwendlela yolawulo lokuzalwa eyi-100 yeepesenti esebenzayo, kodwa isebenza kuphela ukuba awunalo kwaphela iipesenti ezili-100 zexesha.

Kuthatha kuphela ukuba neentlobano zesini sangasese ezingakhuselekanga kube kanye-okanye isidoda singena kwilungu lobufazi ngenye indlela yesenzo sokwabelana ngesondo-ukuze kwenzeke ukukhulelwa.

Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nikulungele ukwabelana ngesondo, qiniseka ukuba uthetha ngeekhondom kunye nezinye iindlela zolawulo lokuzalwa.

Nokuba awuqinisekanga nokuba uyafuna ukulala ngesondo, ukuthatha ipilisi yolawulo lokuzalwa okanye ukuba neekhondom ezandleni zakho kuya kukunceda ukuba uzilungiselele ukuba utshintsha ingqondo.

Ngaba Zikhona ii-STIs?

Nokuba uzilolonga, ii-STIs zinokubakho. Ezinye ii-STIs zinokudluliselwa kulwelo lomzimba. Abanye banokuhambisa ngokudibana kolusu nolusu.

Oku kuthetha ukuba unokuba semngciphekweni nangaliphi na ixesha xa ungazikhuselanga ngesondo ngomlomo, ngesondo ezimpundu, wabelane ngezinto zokudlala zokwabelana ngesondo, okanye wenze ezinye izinto ezibonakalayo apho unxibelelwano lolusu nolusu lunokudlulisa ulwelo lomzimba.

Sebenzisa iikhondom kunye namadamu wamazinyo kunokunceda ukunciphisa umngcipheko.

Kukwabalulekile ukuba uvavanyelwe ii-STIs ekuqaleni kobudlelwane obutsha - ngaphambi kokuba ubelane ngesondo neqabane lakho - okanye ukuba ucinga ngokungazisebenzisi iikhondom.

Yintoni inqaku?

Abantu abohlukeneyo banezizathu ezahlukeneyo zokungabinanto. Akukho mpendulo "ilungileyo".

Kubalulekile ukuba wenze okona kulungileyo kuwe, kwaye - ukuba iqabane lakho lelona linqwenela ukungabinako ukuhlala - lihloniphe imida emiselweyo.

Nazi ezinye zezizathu zokuba umntu akhethe ukungafuni:

• Ufuna ukuphonononga ezinye iindlela zokusondelelana.
• Wena okanye iqabane lakho aninomdla okanye nilungele ukulala ngesondo.
• Sele ulala ngesondo, kodwa uthathe isigqibo sokuba awukulungelanga ukuphinda ubenakho.
• Ufuna ukwandisa ulonwabo ngokwesondo ngaphandle kokwabelana ngesondo.
• Awuziva ukhululekile ukulala ngesondo, uneentlungu ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, okanye uyachacha kwintlungu.
• Awunakho ukufikelela kwezinye iindlela zolawulo lokuzalwa, ezinje ngeepilisi zolawulo lokuzalwa okanye iikhondom.

Umgca wezantsi

Uvumelekile ukuba ukhethe ukungabinanto nanini na nangasiphi na isizathu.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubelane ngesondo ukuze ube yinxalenye yolwalamano olunothando nolusenyongweni. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba wenza oko kukwenza ukhululeke.

Kwaye ngaphandle kwezizathu zakho zokuziqhelanisa, ukuziyeka kunokuba yindlela emnandi yokuzama izinto ezintsha. Ukuphonononga iziyolo ezahlukeneyo kunokukunceda ubone ukuba kuthetha ntoni na kuwe.