Buyintoni ubuntu bakho?

Umxholo

• Okokuqala, yintsomi
• Zithini iimpawu ekucingelwa ukuba ungumlutha?
• Kutheni le nto iyintsomi?
• Kutheni le nto uluvo lokuba ngumlutha luyingozi?
• Yintoni echaphazela umngcipheko womntu wokuba likhoboka?
• Amava obuntwana
• Izinto zebhayoloji
• Imeko yendalo esingqongileyo
• Iinkxalabo zempilo yengqondo
• Ndazi njani ukuba ndinomlutha?
• Ungamnceda njani umntu onokuthi ajongane neziyobisi
• Umgca wezantsi

Okokuqala, yintsomi

Umlutha ngumcimbi onzima wezempilo onokuchaphazela nabani na, nokuba bunjani ubuntu babo.

Abanye abantu basebenzisa utywala okanye iziyobisi ngamanye amaxesha, bonwabele iimpembelelo zabo kodwa bangazifuni rhoqo. Abanye banokuzama into kube kanye kwaye banqwenela ngakumbi phantse kwangoko. Kwaye kwabaninzi, ukuba likhoboka akubandakanyi zinto konke konke, njengokungcakaza.

Kodwa kutheni abanye abantu bekhula ukuba likhoboka lezinto ezithile okanye imisebenzi ngelixa abanye benokuthi bathathe nje kancinci ngaphambi kokuba baqhubeke?

Kukho intsomi ende yokuba abanye abantu banobuntu obuluthayo-uhlobo lomntu olonyusa umngcipheko wokuba likhoboka.

Iingcali ngokubanzi ziyavuma ukuba umlutha kukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, hayi umba wobuntu.

Zininzi izinto ezinokunyusa umngcipheko wokuba likhoboka, kodwa abukho ubungqina bokuba uhlobo oluthile lobuntu lubangela ukuba abantu bahlakulele umlutha wento ethile.

Zithini iimpawu ekucingelwa ukuba ungumlutha?

Akukho nkcazo isemgangathweni yokuba umntu olikhoboka ubandakanya ntoni. Kodwa abantu bahlala belisebenzisa eli gama ukubhekisa kwingqokelela yeempawu kunye nokuziphatha abanye abakholelwa ukuba bakwimeko yabantu abasemngciphekweni wokuba likhoboka.

Ezinye eziqhelekileyo ezixeliweyo zibandakanya:

• ukungxama, umngcipheko, okanye isimilo sokufuna uvuyo
• ukunganyaniseki okanye indlela yokukhohlisa abanye
• ukusilela ukuthatha uxanduva ngezenzo
• ukuzingca
• ukuzijongela phantsi
• ubunzima bokulawulwa kwempembelelo
• ukunqongophala kweenjongo zakho
• Ukutshintsha kwemood okanye ukucaphuka
• ukwahlulwa ekuhlaleni okanye ukungabikho kobuhlobo obuqinileyo

Kutheni le nto iyintsomi?

Akukho bungqina bokuba abantu abaneempawu ezichazwe apha ngasentla banomngcipheko ophezulu wokuba likhoboka.

Oko akutsho ukuba iimpawu ezithile zobuntu azihambelani nomlutha. Umzekelo, iimpawu ezinxulunyaniswa nomda kunye nokuphazamiseka kubuntu obunokungadibani namanqanaba aphezulu okulutha.

Nangona kunjalo, ubunjani beli khonkco bubumdaka. Umlutha unokubangela utshintsho kwingqondo. Njengokuba inqaku lophando elinye lika-2017 lisitsho, akusoloko kucacile ukuba uphawu lwaphuhliswa ngaphambi okanye emva kotywala.

Kutheni le nto uluvo lokuba ngumlutha luyingozi?

Ekuboneni kokuqala, umxholo wobuntu obusebenzayo ungabonakala njengesixhobo esihle sokuthintela umlutha.

Ukuba sinokuchonga abo banomngcipheko ophezulu, ngaba oko akunakwenza kube lula ukubanceda ngaphambili baba nesiyobisi?

Kodwa ukubilisa umba ontsokothileyo wobukhoboka kunokuba yingozi ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi:

• Ingakhokelela ekubeni abantu bakholelwe ngobuxoki ukuba abekho emngciphekweni kuba abanabo "ubuntu obulungileyo" bokuba likhoboka.
• Ingenza abantu abanomlutha bacinge ukuba abakwazi ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo ukuba umlutha "unzima" ekubeni ungobani.
• Icebisa ukuba abantu abahlangabezana neziyobisi babonisa iimpawu ezijongwa njengezimbi, njengokuxoka nokukhohlisa abanye.

Ngokwenyani, nabani na unokufumana umlutha-kubandakanya abantu abajolise kwiinjongo abanenethiwekhi enkulu yabahlobo, ukuzithemba okukhulu kunye nodumo lokunyaniseka.

Yintoni echaphazela umngcipheko womntu wokuba likhoboka?

Iingcali zichonge inani lezinto ezinokuthi zonyuse umngcipheko womntu wokuba likhoboka.

Amava obuntwana

Ukukhula ngabazali abangakhathalelwanga okanye abangabandakanyekanga banokunyusa umngcipheko womntu wokusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi kunye neziyobisi.

Ukufumana ukuxhatshazwa okanye olunye uhlobo lokonzakala njengomntwana nako kunokunyusa umngcipheko womntu wokuqalisa ukusebenzisa izinto ngaphambili ebomini.

Izinto zebhayoloji

Imfuza inokuba noxanduva malunga neepesenti ezingama-40 ukuya kuma-60 zomngcipheko womntu wokuba likhoboka.

Ubudala bunokudlala indima. Abakwishumi elivisayo, umzekelo, banomngcipheko ophezulu wokusebenzisa gwenxa iziyobisi kunye neziyobisi kunokuba kunjalo kubantu abadala.

Imeko yendalo esingqongileyo

Ukuba ubona abantu besebenzisa kakubi iziyobisi okanye utywala xa ukhula, kunokwenzeka ukuba usebenzise iziyobisi okanye utywala ngokwakho.

Enye into yokusingqongileyo kukuchazwa kwangoko kwizinto. Ukufikelela ngokulula kwezinto esikolweni okanye ebumelwaneni kwandisa umngcipheko wakho wokulutha.

Iinkxalabo zempilo yengqondo

Ukuba nemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo enje ngoxinzelelo okanye unxunguphalo (kubandakanya ukungakhathali okungafunekiyo) kunokunyusa umngcipheko wokulutha. Kunjalo ke nokuba ne-bipolar okanye ezinye iingxaki zobuntu ezibonakaliswa kukungxamiseka.

Ukuba zombini imeko yempilo yengqondo kunye nokuphazamiseka kokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi kuyaziwa njengokuxilongwa kabini. Ngokwezibalo ezivela kuVavanyo lukaZwelonke luka-2014 lokuSebenzisa iziyobisi kunye nezeMpilo, malunga neepesenti ezi-3.3 zabantu abadala eUnited States babene-diagnostic ezimbini ngo-2014.

Akukho nanye into okanye uphawu lomntu olwaziyo ukubangela umlutha. Ngelixa unokukhetha ukusela utywala, ukuzama iziyobisi, okanye ukungcakaza, awukhethi ukuba likhoboka.

Ndazi njani ukuba ndinomlutha?

Ngokubanzi, umlutha ubangela abantu ukuba babe nomnqweno onamandla wento okanye indlela yokuziphatha. Banokuzifumana behlala becinga ngento okanye isimilo, nokuba abafuni.

Umntu onengxaki yokuba likhoboka unokuqala ngokuxhomekeka kwinto okanye isimilo ukuze ajongane nemiceli mngeni okanye imeko zoxinzelelo. Kodwa ekugqibeleni, banokufuna ukusebenzisa into okanye benze isimilo sokufikelela kusuku ngalunye.

Ngokubanzi, abantu abafumana ukuba likhoboka kunzima ukubambelela kuzo naziphi na iinjongo zobuqu zokungasebenzisi into okanye ukuzibandakanya kwindlela ethile yokuziphatha. Oku kunokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo zokuziva unetyala kunye noxinzelelo, ezonyusa kuphela umnqweno wokwenza iziyobisi.

Eminye imiqondiso enokubonisa ukuba likhoboka ibandakanya:

• Ukuqhubeka nokusetyenziswa kwento ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwimpilo okanye kwezentlalo
• ukunyamezeleka okwandisiweyo kwinto leyo
• iimpawu zokurhoxa xa ungasebenzisi le nto
• Umdla omncinci okanye awunamdla kwimisebenzi yakho yesiqhelo yemihla ngemihla kunye nezinto ozithandayo
• ndiziva ndingalawuleki
• ubunzima esikolweni okanye emsebenzini
• ukunqanda usapho, izihlobo, okanye iminyhadala

Ukuba uyayiqonda eminye yale miqondiso kuwe, lukhona uncedo olufumanekayo. Cinga ngokutsalela umnxeba iZiko leNyango yokuThunyelwa kuNyango kaZwelonke yokuSebenzisa iziyobisi ku-800-662-HELP.

Ungamnceda njani umntu onokuthi ajongane neziyobisi

Umlutha kunokuba nzima ukuthetha ngawo. Ukuba ukhathazekile ukuba umntu osondeleyo kuwe ufuna uncedo, Nazi ezinye izikhombisi ezinokukunceda:

• Fumana ulwazi oluthe kratya malunga nokusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi kunye neziyobisi. Oku kunokukunika umbono ongcono wento abajongana nayo kunye nohlobo loncedo olunokubakho. Umzekelo, ngaba unyango luya kufuneka luqale nge-detoxification phantsi kolawulo lwezonyango?
• Bonisa inkxaso. Oku kunokuba lula njengokuxelela ukuba uyabakhathalela kwaye ukhathazekile kwaye ufuna ukuba bafumane uncedo. Ukuba uyakwazi, cinga ngokuzinikela ukuhamba nabo ukuya kugqirha okanye kumcebisi.
• Hlala ubandakanyeka kwinkqubo yonyango. Buza ukuba baqhuba njani, okanye unikezele ngokuchitha ixesha kunye nabo ukuba banosuku olunzima. Bazise ukuba uyafumaneka ukuba bazifumana bekwindawo embi.
• Wuphephe umgwebo. Sele kukho amabala amaninzi malunga nokulutha. Inokwenza abanye abantu babe madolw 'anzima ukufumana uncedo. Baqinisekise ukuba amava abo okulutha akwenzi ukuba ucinge nangaphantsi kwabo.

Zama ukungathathi buqu ukuba umntu omthandayo akafuni ncedo okanye akakakulungeli ukuqala unyango. Ukuba abayifuni, akukho nto ingako onokuyenza ukutshintsha iingqondo zabo. Oku kunokuba nzima ukwamkela, ngakumbi ukuba usondele kakhulu kubo.

Cinga ngokufikelela kunyangi ukuze ufumane inkxaso. Unokulahla ngentlanganiso yeNar-Anon okanye yeAl-Anon kwindawo yakho. Ezi ntlanganiso zinika ithuba lokunxibelelana nabanye banomntu omthandayo ofumana umlutha.

Umgca wezantsi

Iziyobisi yimeko yobuchopho enzima enokuthi ichaphazele nawuphina umntu, nokuba ungubani na.

Ngelixa iimpawu ezithile zobuntu unamandla inxulunyaniswa nomngcipheko okhulayo wokuba likhoboka, akucaci ukuba ngaba ezi mpawu zichaphazela ngqo umngcipheko womntu wokuba likhoboka.

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo ujongene nokulutha, zama ukukhumbula ukuba umlutha awuyiyo imbonakalo yomlingiswa. Ngumba wezempilo ontsonkothileyo iingcali ezingaziqondi ngokupheleleyo.