"UMongikazi Ohleliyo" Wabelane Ngesizathu sokuba Umzi mveliso wezempilo ufuna abantu abaninzi abafana naye

Umxholo

• Indlela yam eya kwiSikolo sabahlengikazi
• Ukufumana umsebenzi wokuba nguMongikazi
• Ukusebenza kwiiNdawo eziPhambili
• Into endinethemba lokuyibona iqhubela phambili
• Uphengululo lwe

Ndandineminyaka emi-5 ubudala xa kwafunyaniswa ukuba ndine-transverse myelitis. Imeko enqabileyo yemithambo-luvo ibangela ukuvuvukala kumacala omabini ecandelo lomqolo, konakalisa iifayibha zeseli zemithambo-luvo kunye nokuphazamisa imiyalezo ethunyelwe ivela kwimithambo-luvo yomqolo ukuya kuwo wonke umzimba njengesiphumo. Kwaye, oko kuguqulela kwiintlungu, ubuthathaka, ukukhubazeka, kunye neengxaki zengqondo, phakathi kweminye imiba.

Ukuxilongwa kwabutshintsha ubomi, kodwa ndandingumntwana omncinci ozimiseleyo owayefuna ukuziva "njengesiqhelo" ngangokunokwenzeka. Nangona ndandisezintlungwini kwaye kunzima ukuhamba, ndandizama ukuhamba kangangoko ndinako ndisebenzisa isihambahamba neentonga. Noko ke, xa ndandineminyaka eli-12 ubudala, isinqe sam sasibuthathaka yaye sibuhlungu. Kwanasemva kotyando olambalwa, oogqirha zange bakwazi ukubuyisa amandla am okuhamba.

Njengoko ndandisiya kwiminyaka yam yeshumi elivisayo, ndaqalisa ukusebenzisa isitulo esinamavili. Ndandikwintanga apho ndandizicingela ukuba ndingubani, kwaye into yokugqibela endandiyifuna kubhalwe "disabled." Emva phaya kwiminyaka yoo-2000s, elo gama lalineentsingiselo ezininzi ezimbi kangangokuba, nanjengoko ndandineminyaka eli-13 ubudala, ndandizazi kakuhle. Ukuba "ukhubazekile" kuthetha ukuba awukwazi, kwaye yindlela endandiziva ngayo abantu bandibona.

Ndandinethamsanqa lokuba nabazali ababengabaphambukeli besizukulwana sokuqala ababebone ubunzima obaneleyo ababesazi ukuba ukulwa yayikuphela kwendlela eya phambili. Abazange bandivumele ukuba ndizisizele. Bafuna ukuba ndenze ngokungathi ngekhe babekhona ukuze bandincede. Njengokuba bendibathiyile ngenxa yelo xesha, yandinika amandla okuzimela.

Kwasebuncinaneni bam, ndandingafuni mntu oza kundinceda ngesitulo sam esinamavili. Bendingafuni mntu ozokuphatha iibhegi zam okanye andincedise kwigumbi lokuhlambela. Ndazicingela ndedwa. Xa ndandingumfundi ophakamileyo kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, ndaqala ukusebenzisa indlela ehamba ngaphantsi komhlaba ndedwa ukuze ndifike esikolweni ndibuye ndize ndihlalisane ngaphandle kokuthembela kubazali bam. Ndide ndaba ngumvukeli, nditsibela iklasi ngamanye amaxesha kwaye ndingena engxakini yokungena kwaye ndiphazamise wonke umntu kwinto yokuba ndisebenzisa isitulo esinamavili. "

Ootitshala nabacebisi besikolo bandixelele ukuba ndingumntu "onogwayimbo" oluchasene nabo, oko kuthetha ukuba ekubeni ndimnyama, ndingumfazi, kwaye ndikhubazekile, ngekhe ndifumane ndawo emhlabeni.

UAndrea Dalzell, RN

Nangona bendizanele, bendiziva ngathi abanye basandibona ngathi ndingaphantsi kunaye. Ndigqibe isikolo samabanga aphakamileyo nabafundi bendixelela ukuba andizukwenza nto. Ootitshala nabacebisi besikolo bandixelele ukuba ndingumntu "onogwayimbo kathathu" ngokuchasene nabo, okuthetha ukuba ekubeni ndimnyama, ndingumfazi, kwaye ndikhubazekile, andinakuze ndifumane ndawo emhlabeni. (Izinto ezinxibeleleneyo: Kufana njani nokuba nguMfazi omnyama, oyiGay eMelika)

Ngaphandle kokudilizwa, bendinombono wam. Ndandisazi ukuba ndifanelekile kwaye ndinako ukwenza nantoni na endiyibeke kuyo ingqondo yam—andizange ndikwazi ukunikezela.

Indlela yam eya kwiSikolo sabahlengikazi

Ndiqale ikholeji kwi2008, kwaye ibilidabi lokunyuka. Ndaziva ngathi kufuneka ndizibonakalise kwakhona. Wonke umntu ebesele ethathe isigqibo ngam ngoba bebengaboni mna—Babona isitulo esinamavili. Ndifuna nje ukufana naye wonke umntu, ke ndiye ndaqala ukwenza konke endinokukwenza ukuze ndingene. Oko kwakuthetha ukuya emathekweni, ukusela, ukuzihlaziya, ukuhlala kude kube sebusuku, nokwenza yonke into eyenziwa ngabantu abasandul 'ukufika ukuze ndibenako ukuba yinxalenye amava ekholeji. Inyaniso yokuba impilo yam yaqala ukuba nkenenkene yayingakhathali.

Bendigxile ekuzameni ukuba "sesiqhelo" kangangokuba ndizamile nokulibala ukuba ndinesifo esinganyangekiyo ngokupheleleyo. Kuqala ndayeka amayeza am, emva koko ndayeka ukuya kugqirha. Umzimba wam waba lukhuni, waqina, kwaye izihlunu zam bezisoloko zijikeleza, kodwa andifuni ukuvuma ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo. Ndaphela ndiyityeshela impilo yam de ndaya kufika esibhedlele ndinosulelo lomzimba olupheleleyo oluphantse lwabulala ubomi bam.

Ndandigula kakhulu kangangokuba kwafuneka ndiyeke isikolo ndaza ndafumana iindlela ezingaphezu kwama-20 zokulungisa umonakalo owawenzileyo. Inkqubo yam yokugqibela yayingo-2011, kodwa yandithatha eminye iminyaka emibini ukuba ndizive ndisempilweni kwakhona.

Andizange ndimbone umongikazi kwisitulo esinamavili—yaye leyo yindlela endazi ngayo ukuba lubizo lwam.

UAndrea Dalzell, R.N.

Kwi-2013, ndaphinda ndabhalisa kwikholeji. Ndaqala njengengcali kwibhayoloji nakwinzululwazi yemithambo-luvo, ndinosukelo lokuba ngugqirha. Kodwa kwiminyaka emibini kwinqanaba lam, ndiye ndaqonda ukuba oogqirha bayasinyanga esi sifo hayi isigulana. Ndandinomdla kakhulu ekusebenzeni ngezandla kunye nokukhathalela abantu, njengokuba abongikazi bam benza ubomi bam bonke. Abongikazi batshintsha ubomi bam xa ndigula. Bathathe indawo kamama xa engekho, kwaye bayayazi indlela yokundincumela naxa ndiziva ngathi ndingumntu onamatye. Kodwa andizange ndimbone umongikazi ehamba ngesitulo esinamavili — kwaye yindlela endazi ngayo ukuba yayilubizo lwam olo. (Eyeleleneyo: Ukomelela Busindise Ubomi Bam: Ukusuka kwi-Amputee ukuya kwi-Athlete ye-CrossFit)

Ke iminyaka emibini kwisidanga sam sokuqala, ndafaka isicelo sobugqirha kwaye ndangena.

Amava ayenzima kakhulu kunokuba ndandilindele. Ayizizo zifundo ezazinomceli mngeni omkhulu, kodwa ndaye ndasokola ndaziva ngathi ndingowakhe. Ndingomnye wabathandathu abambalwa kwiqela labafundi abangama-90 kwaye inguye kuphela okhubazekileyo. Ndandijongana ne-microaggressions yonke imihla. Oonjingalwazi babenamathandabuzo kubuchule bam xa ndandihamba iiklinikhi ("in-the-field" chikamu sezikolo zabongikazi), kwaye ndajongwa ngaphezulu kwawo nawuphina omnye umfundi. Ebudeni bezifundo, oonjingalwazi babethetha ngokukhubazeka kunye nobuhlanga ngendlela endiye ndafumanisa ukuba iyakhubekisa, kodwa ndaziva ngathi andinakuthetha nto ngenxa yokoyika ukuba abayi kundivumela ukuba ndiphumelele ikhosi.

Ngaphandle kobu bunzima, ndiye ndaphumelela (kwaye ndabuyela umva ukuya kugqiba isidanga sam sesidanga), kwaye ndaba yiRN ekuqaleni kuka-2018.

Ukufumana umsebenzi wokuba nguMongikazi

Injongo yam emva kokuphumelela kwisikolo sabongikazi yayikukufumana ukhathalelo oluqatha, olunikezela unyango lwexeshana elifutshane kwizigulana ezonzakeleyo kakhulu okanye ezisongela ubomi, izigulo, kunye neengxaki zempilo yesiqhelo. Kodwa ukuze ndiye apho, ndandifuna amava.

Ndiqale umsebenzi wam wokuba ngumlawuli wezempilo kwinkampu ngaphambi kokuya kulawulo lwamatyala, endandilithiyile. Njengomphathi wamatyala, umsebenzi wam yayikukuvavanya iimfuno zezigulana kwaye ndisebenzise izixhobo zoncedo ukunceda ukuhlangabezana nazo ngeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, umsebenzi uhlala ubandakanya ukuxelela abantu abakhubazekileyo kunye nezinye iimfuno zonyango ukuba abanakufumana ukhathalelo kunye neenkonzo abazifunayo okanye abazifunayo. Kwakudinwa ngokweemvakalelo ukuvumela abantu ukuba behle imini nemini-ingakumbi xa kunikwa inyani yokuba ndinokunxibelelana nabo ngcono kunabanye abaqeqeshi bezempilo.

Ke, ndiye ndaqala ngokufaka isicelo esinamandla kwimisebenzi yokonga kwizibhedlele kwilizwe liphela apho ndinokwenza khona ukhathalelo olungakumbi. Ebudeni bonyaka, ndenza udliwano-ndlebe oluyi-76 nabaphathi bomongikazi—lonke olo lwaphela kukungafunwa. Ndandisele ndiphelelwe lithemba de kwafika i-coronavirus (COVID-19).

Zonganyelwe lutyando lwasekhaya kwiimeko ze-COVID-19, izibhedlele zaseNew York zakhupha umnxeba wabongikazi. Ndasabela ukuze ndibone ukuba akukho ndlela ndinokunceda ngayo, yaye ndafumana umnxeba kwakhona ovela kwenye kwiiyure nje ezimbalwa. Emva kokubuza imibuzo yokuqala, bandiqesha njengomongikazi wesivumelwano kwaye bandicela ukuba ndize ndizokuthatha iziqinisekiso zam ngosuku olulandelayo. Ndaziva ngathi ndiphumelele ngokusemthethweni.

Ngemini elandelayo, ndahamba kwi-orientation ngaphambi kokuba ndabelwe kwiyunithi endandiza kusebenza nayo ngobusuku. Izinto bezihamba kamnandi de ndazibonakalisa kwishifti yam yokuqala. Ngemizuzwana embalwa yokuzazisa, umlawuli ongumongikazi weyunithi wanditsalela ecaleni wandixelela ukuba akacingi ukuba ndingakwazi ukumelana nento ekufuneka yenziwe. Ngombulelo, ndafika ndizilungiselele kwaye ndambuza ukuba uyandicalula ngenxa yesihlalo sam. Ndimxelele ukuba akukho ngqiqweni ukuba ndikwazi ukufikelela kwi-HR, okwangoku yena ndaziva ngathi andikufanelanga ukuba lapho. Ndamkhumbuza kwakhona ngomgaqo-nkqubo we-Equal Employment Opportunity (EEO) wesibhedlele owawuchaza ngokucacileyo ukuba wayengenakundivimba amalungelo omsebenzi ngenxa yokukhubazeka kwam.

Emva kokuba ndimile, ilizwi lakhe latshintsha. Ndamxelela ukuba athembele kubuchule bam bokuba ngumongikazi aze andihlonele njengomntu—yaye oko kwasebenza.

Ukusebenza kwiiNdawo eziPhambili

Kwiveki yam yokuqala ndisebenza ngoAprili, ndabelwa ukuba ndibe ngumongikazi owayeqeshwe kwicandelo elicocekileyo. Ndisebenze kwizigulana ezingezizo i-COVID-19 kunye nabo babekhutshelwe ngaphandle ngenxa yokuba ne-COVID-19. Ngaloo veki, amatyala eNew York aqhushumba kwaye indawo yethu yothuka. Iingcali zokuphefumla bezisokola ukukhathalela zombini izigulana ezingezizo i-COVID kwii-ventilators kwaye inani labantu ababenengxaki yokuphefumla ngenxa yale ntsholongwane. (Eyeleleneyo: Yintoni uDokotela we-ER afuna uyazi malunga nokuya eSibhedlele seCoronavirus)

Yayiyinto yonke esesandleni. Kuba mna, njengabahlengikazi abaliqela, bendinamava ngee-ventilators kunye neziqinisekiso kwinkxaso ye-cardiac life advanced (ACLS), ndaqala ukunceda abaguli be-ICU abangosulelwanga. Wonke umntu onezi zakhono wayeyimfuneko.

Ndaye ndanceda abanye abongikazi ukuba baqonde useto kumatshini wokuphefumla nokuba zithini na ii-alam ezahlukeneyo, kunye nendlela yokukhathalela abaguli abakwi-ventilator.

Njengoko imeko ye-coronavirus yayisonyuka, abantu abaninzi abanamava okuphefumla kwakufuneka. Ke, ndatshintshwa ndaya kwicandelo le-COVID-19 apho umsebenzi wam ekuphela kwawo yayikukujonga impilo kunye nezibalulekileyo zabaguli.

Abanye abantu bachacha. Uninzi aluzange lukwenze oko. Ukujongana nenani lokufa kwabantu yayiyinto enye, kodwa ukubukela abantu besifa bodwa, ngaphandle kwabathandekayo babo ukuba bababambe, yayilinye irhamncwa. Njengomongikazi, ndaziva ngathi olo xanduva luye phezu kwam. Abanye abongikazi kunye nam kuye kwafuneka ukuba bodwa abakhathalela abaguli bethu kwaye babanike inkxaso yeemvakalelo abayidingayo. Oko kwakuthetha ukujongwa ngamalungu osapho lwabo xa babuthathaka kakhulu ukuba bangazenza ngokwabo okanye babacenge ukuba bahlale benethemba xa iziphumo zikhangeleka zibuhlungu-kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, bebambe isandla sabo njengoko bephefumla okokugqibela. (Eyeleleneyo: Kutheni le nto lo Mongikazi-uJikiweyo-iModeli wazimanya noMda oPhambili we-COVID-19 Pandemic)

Umsebenzi wawunzima, kodwa ndandingenakuba nebhongo ngokuba ngumongikazi. Njengoko iimeko zaziqala ukuncipha eNew York, umlawuli womongikazi, owayekhe wandithandabuza, wandixelela ukuba mandicinge ngokujoyina iqela ixesha elizeleyo. Nangona kungekho enye into endiyithandayo, oko kunokuba lula xa kuthethwa ngaphandle kokwenza ucalucalulo endijongene nalo-kwaye ndingaqhubeka ukujamelana nalo-ngalo lonke ixesha lomsebenzi wam.

Into endinethemba lokuyibona iqhubela phambili

Ngoku ukuba izibhedlele eNew York zinemeko ye-coronavirus ephantsi kolawulo, uninzi luyekelela konke ukuqeshwa kwabo. Ikhontrakthi yam iphela ngoJulayi, kwaye nangona ndibuze malunga nokusisigxina, bendiqala ukufumana ithuba.

Ngelixa ngelishwa ukuba kuye kwathatha ingxaki yezempilo kwihlabathi lonke ukufumana eli thuba, kwabonisa ukuba ndinakho okufunekayo ukuze ndisebenze kwimeko yokunyamekela. Umzi mveliso wezononophelo lwempilo usenokungakulungeli ukuwamkela.

Ndikude lee kuye kuphela umntu onamava kolu hlobo lokucalucalulo kwicandelo lokhathalelo lwempilo. Ukusukela oko ndaqala ukwabelana ngamava am nge-Instagram, ndivile amabali angenakubalwa abahlengikazi abakhubazekileyo abakwenze oko esikolweni kodwa abakwazi ukufumana indawo. Uninzi luxelelwe ukuba lufumane omnye umsebenzi. Akwaziwa ngokuthe ngqo ukuba bangaphi abongikazi abasebenzayo abanokukhubazeka ngokomzimba, kodwa yintoni ngu Kucacile ukuba kukho imfuneko yotshintsho kwimbono nakunyango lwabongikazi abakhubazekileyo.

Olu calulo lubangela ilahleko enkulu kumzi mveliso wezempilo. Ayikokumelwa kuphela; ikwajongana nokunyamekela isigulana. Ukhathalelo lwempilo kufuneka lube ngaphezulu kokunyanga isifo. Kukwafuneka ibe malunga nokubonelela izigulana ngowona mgangatho wobomi uphezulu.

Ndiyaqonda ukuba ukutshintsha inkqubo yokhathalelo lwempilo ukwamkela ngakumbi ngumsebenzi omkhulu. Kodwa kufuneka siqale sithethe ngale miba. Kufuneka sithethe ngazo de sibe luhlaza ebusweni.

UAndrea Dalzell, R.N.

Njengomntu okhe wakhubazeka ngaphambi kokuba angene kuklinikhi, ndisebenze nemibutho eye yanceda uluntu lwethu. Ndiyazi malunga nezixhobo ezinokudingwa ngumntu onesiphene ukuze asebenze kakuhle kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ndenze unxibelelwano kubo bonke ubomi bam endivumela ukuba ndihlale ndinolwazi malunga nezixhobo zamva nje kunye netekhnoloji phaya yabasebenzisi besitulo esinamavili kunye nabantu abalwa nezifo ezingapheliyo. Uninzi loogqirha, abongikazi, kunye neengcali zeklinikhi abazi nje ngezi zixhobo kuba abaqeqeshwanga. Ukuba nabasebenzi bezempilo abakhubazekileyo kuya kunceda ukuvala lo msantsa; bafuna nje ithuba lokuhlala kule ndawo. (Eyeleleneyo: Uyenza njani iNdawo eBandakanyiweyo kwiNdawo yokuPhila)

Ndiyaqonda ukuba ukutshintsha inkqubo yokhathalelo lwempilo ukwamkela ngakumbi ngumsebenzi omkhulu. Kodwa thina babe ukuqala ukuthetha ngale micimbi. Kufuneka sithethe ngazo de sibe blue ebusweni. Yindlela esiza kuyitshintsha ngayo imeko ekhoyo. Sikwafuna abantu abaninzi ukuba balwele amaphupha abo kwaye singavumeli abantu abagxekayo babathintele ekukhetheni imisebenzi abayifunayo. Singenza nantoni na eyomeleleyo onokuyenza abantu-ukusukela ngokuhlala phantsi.

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