Androphobia

Umxholo

• Yintoni i-androphobia?
• Zithini iimpawu zethrophobia?
• Yintoni ebangela ukuba umntu ahlakulele i-androphobia?
• Ngaba kufuneka uye kwagqirha?
• Inyangwa njani i-androphobia?
• Unyango lokubonisa
• Unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo (CBT)
• Amayeza
• Uyintoni umbono we-androphobia?

Yintoni i-androphobia?

I-Androphobia ichazwa njengokoyika abantu. Eli gama lavela ngaphakathi kwimibutho yabasetyhini kunye nabasetyhini abathandana nabasetyhini ukulinganisa igama elichaseneyo elithi "gynophobia," elithetha ukoyika abantu basetyhini.

I-Misandry, elinye igama elavela kwimibutho yabasetyhini kunye nabasetyhini, lichazwa njengokuzonda amadoda. Okuchasene nokungaziphathi kakuhle kukuziphatha gwenxa, okuthetha ukuthiya intokazi. Bobabini abesilisa nabasetyhini banokuchaphazeleka yi-androphobia.

Zithini iimpawu zethrophobia?

Iimpawu ze-androphobia zingabandakanya:

• ngephanyazo, uloyiko olukhulu, unxunguphalo okanye uvalo xa ubona okanye ucinga ngamadoda
• Ukwazi ukuba uloyiko lwakho lwamadoda alunangqondo okanye lunyuswe kodwa uziva ngathi awunakukulawula
• Ixhala eliba mandundu njengokuba indoda isondela kuwe emzimbeni
• ukuthintela okusebenzayo kwamadoda okanye iimeko apho unokuhlangana namadoda; okanye uzive uxhalabile kakhulu okanye uloyiko kwiimeko apho udibana namadoda
• unengxaki yokwenza imisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla kuba usoyika amadoda
• iimpendulo kuloloyiko lwakho ezibonakalisa ngokwasemzimbeni, njengokujuluka, ukubetha kwentliziyo okukhawulezayo, ukuqina kwesifuba, okanye ukungaphefumli
• isicaphucaphu, isiyezi, okanye isiqaqa xa usondele kufutshane namadoda okanye ucinga ngamadoda

Kubantwana, i-androphobia inokubonakalisa njengokubambelela ngokuncamathela, ukukhala, okanye ukwala ukushiya icala lomzali wabasetyhini okanye ukusondela kwindoda.

Yintoni ebangela ukuba umntu ahlakulele i-androphobia?

I-Androphobia ithathwa njenge-phobia ekhethekileyo kuba iyinto eyoyikisayo kunye nengenangqondo yento-kule meko, amadoda-angafani nobungozi bokwenyani kodwa abe nakho ukubangela ixhala kunye nokuziphatha kokuthintela. I-Androphobia, njengazo ezinye i-phobias ezithile, ihlala ixesha elide kwaye inokuchaphazela kakubi amandla akho okwenza imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla, njengomsebenzi, imfundo kunye nobudlelwane boluntu.

Isizathu ngqo se-androphobia asiqondwa kakuhle. Kodwa iingcali zithi ezinye zeendlela zibandakanya:

• amava amabi adlulileyo namadoda, anjengokudlwengulwa, ukubethwa emzimbeni, ukuphathwa gadalala ngokwasengqondweni okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, ukungakhathalelwa, okanye ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo
• Imfuza kunye nokusingqongileyo, ezinokubandakanya indlela yokuziphatha efundwayo
• utshintsho ekusebenzeni kwengqondo yakho

Abanye abantu basemngciphekweni we-androphobia kunabanye. Ezona zisengozini zibandakanya:

• abantwana (uninzi lwe-phobias- kubandakanya i-androphobia- yenzeka kwasekuqaleni kobuntwana, ihlala ineminyaka eli-10)
• izalamane ezine-phobias okanye uxinzelelo (oku kunokuba sisiphumo sokuziphatha njengelifa okanye ukufunda)
• ubuntununtunu obunobuthathaka, obunokuthintelwa, okanye obubi
• Amava amabi adlulileyo namadoda
• ukuziva ngokwakho ngamava amabi namadoda avela kumhlobo, ilungu losapho, okanye umntu ongamaziyo

Ngaba kufuneka uye kwagqirha?

I-Androphobia inokuqala ngaphandle kokucaphukisa okuncinci, kodwa inokukhula ibe ngumqobo omkhulu kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Kuya kufuneka ubone ugqirha wakho ukuba uxinzelelo olubangelwa yi-androphobia yakho yile:

• ochaphazela kakubi umsebenzi wakho okanye indlela oqhuba ngayo esikolweni
• ukonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho ekuhlaleni okanye amandla okuba sentlalontle
• ukuphazamisa imisebenzi yakho yemihla ngemihla

Ugqirha wakho angakuthumela kumboneleli wezempilo yengqondo.

Kubaluleke ngakumbi ukujongana nawaphi na amatyala akrokrelwayo e-androphobia ebantwaneni. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana bayaluphelisa uloyiko abanalo. Kodwa i-androphobia inokuchaphazela kakhulu amandla omntwana okusebenza eluntwini. Uloyiko lwabo kufuneka luqwalaselwe ngoncedo lwezonyango.

Ukuba ucela ugqirha wakho ukuba ahlolwe i-androphobia, baya kuthi baxoxe ngeempawu zakho kunye nonyango, unyango lwengqondo kunye nembali yentlalo nawe. Ugqirha wakho uya kwenza uvavanyo lomzimba ukuze akhuphe iingxaki zomzimba ezinokubangela uxinzelelo. Ukuba ugqirha wakho ukrokrela ukuba une-androphobia okanye ezinye iingxaki zoxinzelelo, baya kukucebisa kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo ukuba ikunikeze unyango olukhethekileyo.

Inyangwa njani i-androphobia?

Uninzi lwabantu abane-androphobia banokuchacha kwiiseshoni zonyango. Unyango oluphambili lwe-androphobia yonyango lwengqondo, ekwabizwa ngokuba lunyango lokuthetha. Ezona ndlela zimbini ziqhelekileyo zonyango lwengqondo ezisetyenziselwa ukunyanga i-androphobia lunyango lokuvezwa kunye nonyango lokuziphatha. Ngamanye amaxesha, amayeza asetyenziswa njengenxalenye yesicwangciso sonyango.

Unyango lokubonisa

Unyango lokubonisa luyilelwe ukutshintsha indlela ophendula ngayo emadodeni. Uya kutyhilwa ngokuthe chu kwaye uphindaphindwe kwizinto ozidibanisa namadoda. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, uya kutyhilwa kwindoda yokwenyani okanye emadodeni. Ixesha elingaphezulu, oku kuvezwa ngokuthe ngcembe kufuneka kukuncede ulawule iingcinga, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ezinxulumene nokoyika kwakho amadoda. Umzekelo, ugqirha wakho unokuqala akubonise iifoto zamadoda, emva koko akwenze umamele ukurekhodwa kwelizwi kwamadoda. Emva koko, ugqirha wakho uya kuthi ubukele iividiyo zamadoda, emva koko uye ngokuthe chu usondele kwindoda yokwenyani.

Unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo (CBT)

Ukunyanga ngokuziphatha kwengqondo kubonakalisa ukuvezwa kudityaniswe nezinye iindlela zonyango ukukufundisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokujonga kunye nokujongana noloyiko lwakho lwamadoda. Umgqirha wakho uya kukufundisa ukuba:

• jonga uloyiko lwakho ngendlela eyahlukileyo
• jongana neemvakalelo zomzimba ezinxulumene noloyiko lwakho
• jongana ngokweemvakalelo nefuthe lokoyika kwakho kubomi bakho

Iiseshoni ze-CBT ziya kukunceda ufumane ukuzithemba okanye ukulawula iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho endaweni yokuziva ungaphaya kwamandla abo.

Amayeza

I-Psychotherapy ihlala iphumelela kakhulu kunyango lwe-androphobia. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kuyanceda ukusebenzisa amayeza anokunciphisa iimvakalelo zoxinzelelo okanye uhlaselo loloyiko olunxulunyaniswa ne-androphobia. La mayeza kufuneka asetyenziswe ekuqaleni kwonyango ukunceda ukuqhuba kwakhona.

Olunye usetyenziso olufanelekileyo kukufumana rhoqo, iimeko zexesha elifutshane apho uxinzelelo lwakho lukuthintela ekwenzeni into eyimfuneko, njengokufuna unyango kwindoda okanye ukuya kwigumbi likaxakeka.

Amayeza aqhelekileyo asetyenziselwa ukunyanga i-androphobia aquka:

• Ibhlokhi yeBetaI-Beta blockers ilawula iimpembelelo zoxinzelelo lwe-adrenaline emzimbeni. I-Adrenaline inokubangela ukungonwabi, ngamanye amaxesha kuyingozi, iimpawu zomzimba kubandakanya ukonyuka kwentliziyo kunye noxinzelelo lwegazi, ukubetha kwentliziyo, kunye nelizwi elingcangcazelayo
• Ukuhlala: I-Benzodiazepines ikunceda uzive uzolile ngokunciphisa uxinzelelo lwakho. La machiza kufuneka asetyenziswe ngononophelo kuba anokulikhoboka. Ukuba unembali edlulileyo yotywala okanye yokusebenzisa iziyobisi, kunqande ukuthatha i-benzodiazepines.

Uyintoni umbono we-androphobia?

I-Androphobia inokuchaphazela kakubi umgangatho wobomi bakho. Iingxaki ezinokubakho zibandakanya ukuzihlukanisa ngokwasentlalweni, ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo, ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi, kunye neengcinga zokuzibulala okanye iinzame.

Kubalulekile ukuba ufune uncedo ukuba uyalufuna, ngakumbi ukuba unabantwana abachaphazeleka, okanye abanokuchaphazeleka. Ngonyango unokunciphisa uxinzelelo lwakho kwaye uphile ubomi bakho ngokupheleleyo.