Nceda! Usana lwam aluyi kuyeka ukulila

Umxholo

• Nini ukufuna uncedo olungxamisekileyo
• Yintoni i-colic?
• Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokulila
• Kwiintsana iinyanga ezintathu nangaphantsi
• Kwiintsana ngaphezulu kweenyanga ezintathu
• Ungakhulula njani ukukhala komntwana wakho
• Yondle umntwana wakho
• Chonga ukukhala komntwana wakho
• Qaphela ukuba 'uxelele' umntwana wakho
• Zibeke kwimeko yabo
• Cinga ngezinye iindlela zokunceda
• Yenza into ibe nye ngexesha
• Idilesi yecolic
• Bayeke bakhale (ngaphakathi kwesizathu)
• Ukuthatha

Amathuba kukuba, umqondiso wokuqala owufumeneyo wokuba usana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa lufikile yayikukukhala. Nokuba kungangumsindo ogcwele umqala, ukubetha kamnandi, okanye uthotho lwezikhalo ezingxamisekileyo - kwakuluvuyo ukuva, kwaye wakwamkela ngeendlebe ezivulekileyo.

Ngoku, iintsuku okanye iiveki (okanye iinyanga) kamva, ufikelela kwii-earplugs. Ngaba umntwana wakho uyakuthanda ngonaphakade uyeke ukulila?

Kulindeleke ukuba abazali balindele ukuba usana lwabo luya kuxokozela kwaye lukhale, kodwa akukho nto ikulungiselela oko kubonakala ngathi kukukhala okungapheliyo. Masingene kule nto ithethwa kukukhala kweentsana zakho kunye nokukhala kwazo - kunye nendlela yokunciphisa ukuze wonke umntu onwabele uxolo olumfaneleyo.

Nini ukufuna uncedo olungxamisekileyo

Ukuba ufunda le nto, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ujongana nosana oluthandayo-kwaye uyazibuza ukuba ngaba ukunxibelelana nogqirha wabantwana kulungile. Makhe sihlolisise ngaphambili xa umnxeba kwangoko okanye undwendwelo lufanelekile.

Shayela ugqirha wakho ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntwana wakho:

• mncinci kuneenyanga ezintathu ubudala kwaye unefiva (nokuba inqanaba eliphantsi)
• ngequbuliso ukhala ngokungathuthuzelekiyo emva kokuba ethe cwaka kwinyanga (yokuqala) yobomi, enezinto ezimbalwa zokulila imihla ngemihla (oku kunokuba yinto ekhathazayo, kodwa inokuba yinto ebaluleke ngakumbi)
• uyakhala kwaye unendawo ethambileyo ekhulayo, ukugabha, ubuthathaka, okanye ukungahambi.
• ngekhe usele okanye usele kancinci kakhulu ngaphezulu kweeyure eziyi-8
• Awunakho ukuzoliswa nangona uzama yonke into- ukondla, ukunyikimisa, ukungagungqi, ukucula, ukuthula, ukutshintsha ilweyile emdaka, njl.

Kubonakala ngathi ukukhala okungapheliyo kunokuba ne-colic, kodwa kungcono wazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo.

Yintoni i-colic?

I-Colic ichazwa njengokukhala okuphezulu okwenzeka "kumgaqo we-3's" -3 okanye iiyure ezingaphezulu zokulila ngemini, iintsuku ezi-3 okanye ngaphezulu ngeveki, iiveki ezi-3 okanye nangaphezulu-kwaye ngokubanzi unepateni, efana nayo yonke imihla emva kwemini okanye ngorhatya.

Nokuba ukukhala kuyahambelana nephethini ye-colic, ukunxibelelana nodokotela wabantwana kububulumko, njengoko baya kuba nakho ukukuxelela ukuba ngaba i-colic ngoyena nobangela.

Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokulila

Kwiintsana iinyanga ezintathu nangaphantsi

Iintsana azinazinto zininzi kwezixhobo zokusenza sikwazi ukuphendula kwiimfuno zabo, utshilo uGqirha David L. Hill, i-FAAP, umhleli wezonyango onxulumene "nokukhathalela usana lwakho nomntwana oselula, 7^thUHlelo, Ukuzalwa ukuya kubudala be-5.” Omnye ukhangeleka emhle, omnye uyalila. Ezi zixhobo zilinganiselwe kububanzi, kodwa azikhawulwanga kumandla. Sizimisele ukuphendula iintsana ezililayo. ”

Usana lwakho lunezinto ezininzi ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka lukuxelele zona. Kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi, banokuba bekhala kuba:

• balambile
• yi-diaper emanzi okanye engcolileyo
• ndiyozela okanye ndidinwe
• unesithukuthezi okanye uyadika
• Ugqithisiwe (kubangela isisu esikhukhulayo)
• kufuneka ugqume
• kuyabanda kakhulu okanye kushushu kakhulu
• ufuna intuthuzelo okanye uthando
• zigqithisiwe kwingxolo okanye kwimisebenzi
• bacatshukiswa zizinto ezikrwada okanye ithegi
• kufuneka inyikitywe okanye isongelwe
• Zisentlungwini okanye ziyagula

Yothuswa kukuba igesi yamathumbu ayikho kuluhlu? NgokweAmerican Academy of Pediatrics, irhasi edlula kwinkqubo yokugaya ukutya esezantsi yosana ayibuhlungu. Unokucinga ukuba sesona sizathu sokubandezeleka kwabo kuba bekhupha igesi eninzi ngexesha lokulila, kodwa kuyintsomi ukuba igesi ibambeke emathunjini kwaye ibangele iintlungu.

Kuba zininzi izizathu zokulila, kunokuba nzima ukubonisa ingxaki. Intaba icebisa ukuba noluhlu lokutshekisha, ngakumbi ezinzulwini zobusuku. Xa ukhubeka ngokungalali kakuhle, yindlela elungileyo yokuqiniseka ukuba uqwalasela zonke izinto ezinokubangela isikhubekiso, kwaye ufumane umntwana wakho - kunye nawe - isiqabu.

Kwiintsana ngaphezulu kweenyanga ezintathu

Ukulila usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa kunesiseko somzimba, njengendlala, kwaye iintsana ezi zincinci zixhomekeke kumzali ukuba azithobe, uyachaza uPatti Ideran, OTR / L CEIM, Ingcali yezemisebenzi egxile kunyango lweentsana nge-colic, ukukhala, kunye nokulala okanye ubunzima bokondla.

Iintsana ezindala ngaphezulu kweenyanga ezi-3 okanye ezi-4 ubudala zinokuthi zikulungele ukuzithobisa, ngokusebenzisa ubhontsi, inqindi, okanye ipacifier. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba abanalo ixesha labo lokuthetha. Banokudideka, babe lusizi, babe nomsindo, okanye babe nexhala lokwahlukana (ngakumbi ebusuku) kwaye basebenzise ukukhala njengendlela yokudlulisa ezo mvakalelo.

Ukuqaqanjelwa ngamazinyo sisizathu esikhulu sokukhala kwiintsana ezindala. Uninzi lweentsana luhluma izinyo lokuqala phakathi kweenyanga ezintandathu ukuya kwezili-12. Ukongeza kwi-fussiness kunye nokulila, iintsini zosana lwakho lunokudumba kwaye lithambe, kwaye zinokuvuza ngaphezulu kunesiqhelo.

Ukuthomalalisa ukungonwabi okwenzekileyo, nikeza umntwana wakho ilaphu elicocekileyo elinomkhenkce okanye umanzi oringe iringi eqinileyo. Ukuba ukukhala kuyaqhubeka, thetha nogqirha wabantwana bakho malunga nokunika idosi efanelekileyo ye-acetaminophen (iTylenol). Unokunika ibuprofen (Advil) ukuba umntwana wakho mdala kuneenyanga ezi-6.

Ungakhulula njani ukukhala komntwana wakho

Nazi izinto oza kuzizama ukuba unayo encinci engathuthuzelekiyo:

Yondle umntwana wakho

Uya kufuna ukuba nesandulela esincinci nale. Xa umntwana wakho eqala ukulila, inokuba yinto yokuqala le uyenzileyo, kodwa isenokungafumaneki iziphumo ozilindeleyo. Ukunikezela ngesifuba okanye ibhotile emva ukukhala kuyenyuka ngamanye amaxesha kukhokelela ekufuneni nasekulungelelaniseni ukuncanca.

"Ukuba usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa lufikelela kwinqanaba lokuba ulile ngenxa yokuba ulambile, sele ulibele," utsho uHill.

Khangela imikhondo yokuba umntwana wakho aqale ukulamba: Olunye uphawu kuxa bemunca ezandleni zabo okanye ngamandla bejikeleza ingono. Ukuthintela ukukhala okungathuthuzelekiyo - kunye nokuphazamiseka, okuhlala kungaphumeleli, ukondla oku kulandelayo - nikeza isifuba okanye ibhotile ngelixa bezolile.

Chonga ukukhala komntwana wakho

Ngokubanzi, ukukhwaza ngequbuliso, okude, nokuphakama okuphezulu kuthetha intlungu, ngelixa isikhalo esifutshane, esisezantsi esiphakamayo nesiwa sibonisa indlala. Kodwa ukuthetha ukukhala okuthile kuthetha into enye konke iintsana azinakwenzeka.

Ukulila kukodwa ukusuka kusana ukuya elusaneni, kwaye kuninzi okunokuthanani nobushushu. Ukuba umntwana wakho wokuqala wayepholile kakhulu, kwaye olu sana lusandul 'ukuzalwa, ewe, hayi kakhulu, unokuzibuza ukuba kukho into engalunganga ngayo.

Akukho nto iphosakeleyo, utshilo uHill. Ezinye iintsana zinoburharha obunobuthathaka ngakumbi kwaye, ke ngoko, ziyothusa ngakumbi ekukhaleni kwazo.

Ukuba ujonga kwaye umamele usana lwakho yonke imihla, uya kuqala ukwahlula izandi ezahlukeneyo zokukhala kwabo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uyakhala xa elambile, mamela oko kulila nokuba kunjani eyahlukileyo kwabanye.

Kuyanceda ukucinga ukuba ufunda ulwimi lwangaphandle. (Sithembe.) Ukuba uzithathela ingqalelo izikhalo, ekuhambeni kwexesha, wena nosana lwakho niyakuthi nizenzele isigama.

Qaphela ukuba 'uxelele' umntwana wakho

Kukho ezinye, ubuqili, imikhondo ebonelela ngokujonga into efunwa lusana lwakho, kwaye ukuzifunda kunokuthintela ukukhala.

Imbinana icacile, njengokuthambisa amehlo okanye ukuzamla xa bediniwe.

Eminye ayicacanga kangako, njengokuthintela ukujonga kwabo xa benemvuselelo eyaneleyo. Jonga usana lwakho ngokusondeleyo- ukuhamba komzimba, isikhundla, ukubonakala kobuso, kunye nezandi zezwi (ezinje ngokuntywizisela) - ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo emini ukuze ufunde ezi zinto.

Khumbula, lonke usana lwahlukile. Kungenxa yokuba umntwana wakho wokuqala amunce isandla sabo xa belambile oko akuthethi ukuba owesibini uya kuthanda. Endaweni yoko, eli nyathelo linokuthi, "Ndifuna ukuzola."

Zibeke kwimeko yabo

Ukuba ukukhala komntwana wakho okanye izikhombisi zakhe azibonakalisi ukuba yintoni emhluphayo, cinga ngento eza kukukhathaza wena ukuba ubunguye. Ngaba iTV ingxola kakhulu? Ngaba ukukhanya kwentloko kukhanya kakhulu? Ngaba ungadikwa? Emva koko thabatha inyathelo elifanelekileyo.

Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho unesithukuthezi, ubathwale ngeenxa zonke kumphathi ojonge ngaphambili okanye ubathathe ngaphandle kumhambi uhamba notshintsho olwamkelekileyo lwendawo.

Ukufihla izandi zekhaya kwaye uphinde uvale ukuva usana lwakho olusandul 'ukuzalwa esibelekweni, ukubonelela ngengxolo emhlophe ethuleyo, njengokuvula ifeni okanye isomisi sempahla.

Cinga ngezinye iindlela zokunceda

Ukuba unobangela wokulila useyimfihlakalo, zama:

• ukumngcangcazelisa umntwana esihlalweni okanye ezingalweni zakho (intshukumo encinci ekhawulezileyo ilungele ukuzola)
• ukugoba usana lwakho (buza ugqirha wabantwana okanye umongikazi njani okanye ujonge indlela yokwenza ngayo)
• uzibeke kumjikelo womoya
• ebanika ibhafu eshushu
• becula kubo

Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho usezintlungwini, jonga izandla, iinyawo, kunye nelungu lobufazi ukuze ufumane “ukhenketho lweenwele” (iinwele ezisongelwe ngokuqinileyo emnweni, eminweni, okanye kwilungu lobudoda), enokuthi ngokuqinisekileyo imise umntwana wakho.

Yenza into ibe nye ngexesha

Ukuyekisa i-pronto ekhalayo, abazali baya kuhlala beqokelela iqhinga elinye kwelinye, ngokulandelelana ngokukhawuleza.

“Abazali bahlala bebambe, bethula, bethula, becula, bephatha, betshintsha indawo - bonke ngaxeshanye! Kananjalo baya kuzama ukutshintsha ilweyile, batye, kwaye ekugqibeleni badlulele komnye umzali ithuba. Amaxesha amaninzi zonke ezi zinto zenzeka kwimizuzu embalwa. Inye kuphela le nto iyenzayo kukogqitha usana, ”utsho u-Ideran.

Endaweni yoko, yenza isenzo esinye ngexesha-njengokugungqa nje, ukubetha nje, okanye ukucula nje-kwaye unamathele kuyo kangangemizuzu emi-5 ukubona ukuba umntwana wakho uyahlala na. Ukuba akunjalo, zama enye indlela yokunceda.

Idilesi yecolic

Ukuba ugqirha wakho uqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho une-colic, okokuqala khumbula ukuba ayinanto yakwenza nezakhono zakho zokuba ngumzali.

Ukunceda ekunciphiseni ukukhala, u-Ideran ucebisa ukuba uzame ukuba uthambise usana oluthile olwenzelwe iintsana ezinesifo somzimba. Kuyanceda ukuzola, ukulala, kunye nokwetyisa, kwaye kuyanceda ukwenza ubudlelwane phakathi kwakho nosana lwakho.

Kukho iividiyo zikaYouTube zokuthanjiswa kwe-colic kwindawo. Okanye ungamfumana umqeqeshi wokuthambisa usana ukuze akufundise ukuba ungalunceda njani usana lwakho olungqongqo.

Bayeke bakhale (ngaphakathi kwesizathu)

Usana lwakho luyondliwa luze lutshintshwe. Baye baqhuzulwa, baphathwa, baculwa, kwaye bounced. Udiniwe, ukhathazekile, kwaye ukhathazekile. Bonke abazali bosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa bebekhona.

Xa usondela kwindawo yokuqhekeka, kulungile ukubeka umntwana wakho kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, enje ngesitya sakhe, kwaye uphume kwigumbi.

Ukubiza iqabane lakho okanye ilungu losapho elithembekileyo okanye umhlobo oza kuthatha indawo kunokuba yinto onokukhetha kuyo. Ukuba akunjalo, qaphela ukuba ukushiya umntwana wakho ukuba "akhale" ngexeshana elincinci akuyi kwenza monakalo ongapheliyo.

“Siyazi ukuba ukuvumela abantwana ukuba bakhale abanye akubonakalisi emphefumlweni. Oku kufundwe amaxesha amaninzi. Yimalini? Kuxhomekeke kuwe nosana lwakho, kodwa ngaphezulu kwexesha elide, unokuziva ulungile malunga nokuvumela umntwana wakho akhale ukuba ufuna ukukhala ukuya kutshintsho ukusuka kwimeko yokuvuka uye kwimeko yokulala, kwaye nangakumbi ukuba ubetha Umda weemvakalelo zethu, ”utsho uHill.

Kwelinye icala, ukuqhubeka nokuzama ukuthuthuzela usana lwakho olungathuthuzelekiyo xa usezingqondweni zakho UCanzibe wenze ububi obungapheliyo. I-Shaken baby syndrome ihlala isenzeka xa umzali engalali ngokwaneleyo, ekhathazekile engasakwazi ukulila kwakhona.

Xa uziva umda wakho, thatha umphefumlo onzulu, nyathela kude okwemizuzu embalwa, kwaye uyazi ukuba le gig yobuzali nzima.

Ukuthatha

Ingabonakala ingenakwenzeka kuwe ngoku, kodwa ukukhala Ngaba ekugqibeleni yehlisa isantya.

Ngokophando lwe-2017, kwiiveki zokuqala emva kokuzalwa, iintsana ezisandul 'ukuzalwa zikhala malunga neeyure ezi-2 ngosuku. Isikhalo siyanda kwaye sinyusa iiyure ezi-2 ukuya kwezi-3 yonke imihla ngeeveki ezi-6, emva koko siyancipha (haleluya!) Ngokuthe chu. Ngexesha umntwana eneenyanga ezi-4 ubudala, ukukhala kwabo kuya kuthi kongezwe ngaphezulu kancinci kuneyure eli-1 ngosuku.

Okuqinisekisayo nangakumbi: Ngeli xesha uya kuba sele ufumene amava amaninzi ekufundeni imikhondo kunye nokulila komntwana wakho, ke ukujongana neemfuno zabo kufanele kuthintele ukukhala okungathuthuzelekiyo okwakuphawuleka kwiiveki zabo zokuqala. Unayo le.