Ezi BFF zingqina ukuba unamandla kangakanani uBuddy wokuzilolonga

Umxholo

• Kadie + Megan
• UCessie + uStephanie
• UDonna + uLauren
• Leslie + Kristen
• Gabbey + Elle
• URachael + uLisa
• UJenna + Becca
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Ukubila kunye nomhlobo wokuzilolonga kuneengenelo ezininzi. Kwenye, ngokucacileyo iyindlela emnandi ngakumbi kunokusebenza wedwa. Kukwakhona into yokuphendula: Ukuphuma uye kulolonga uqeqesho uzive usisiqhwala xa umntu elinde kuwe ukuba ubonakale. Xa kufikwa ekusebenzeni ngaphandle, kukho ukhuseleko kumanani. Kwaye uphononongo lubonisa ukuba ukusebenza kunye kuneenzuzo ezinkulu zokwandisa ubunzulu kunye nobude bomsebenzi wakho.

Umzekelo, kuphononongo luka-2016, abaphandi beYunivesithi yaseAberdeen eScotland bafumanisa ukuba ukuba neqabane lokuzilolonga kuphakamisa umthambo rhoqo ngenxa yenkxaso yeemvakalelo kunye nenkuthazo enokunikezelwa ngamaqabane omsebenzi. Uphononongo olukhankanyiweyo ngokubanzi oluvela kwiYunivesithi yaseKansas State eyaseta iimvavanyo kunye nabasetyhini abaneminyaka yobudala beekholeji kwiibhayisikile ezimileyo zafumanisa ukuba abasetyhini abazilolonga neqabane ababona ukuba banomdla kwezemidlalo bandise ixesha labo lokuzilolonga kunye namandla ngo-200 (!) . Ku, olunye uphononongo olupapashwe kwi Unxibelelwano lweNdalo eqhutywa sisikolo soLawulo lweMIT Sloan, izazinzulu zilandele ngaphezulu kweembaleki ezizigidi ezi-1 kwisithuba sonyaka omnye, zivavanya iimpembelelo zenethiwekhi yoluntu. Bafumanise ukuba abantu bathambekele ngakumbi ekusebenzeni emva kokubona umntu okwinethiwekhi yabo ekwenza oko kuqala, ukomelela kwakusosulela.

Ngamathuba amaninzi okuba sempilweni yeqela kwezi ntsuku-ukusuka kwiiklasi ukuya kwimithambo yangaphandle ukuya kwiiklabhu ezibalekayo-kwakhona kuza ithuba lokwakha ubuhlobo obutsha obudlulela ngaphaya kweendonga zomthambo (BTW, nantsi isizathu sokuba kube nzima ukwenza abahlobo njengomntu omdala). Ukusebenza kunye ikwayindlela entle yokuchitha ixesha nabahlobo bakho bangoku-yithi, endaweni yokubamba ii-cocktails emva komsebenzi, uphakamisa ezinye iidumbbells kunye endaweni yoko. "Sibona ngakumbi nangakumbi amalungu ethu ebambela uHatha ngeyure yokonwaba kunye neenkampu zebhutsi," utshilo uDara Theodore, intloko yezempilo eClassPass, ebandakanya izinto zentlalo ukubhukisha nokuzimasa iiklasi nabahlobo.

Kodwa njani, ngokuchanekileyo, ukuguqula ukuhlangana okungaqhelekanga kunye nabasetyhini kwisimo somzimba sibe bubuhlobo bokwenene, ngaphandle kokuziva ungonwabanga okanye ungoyiki? Impendulo yile ikunikwe ngumama wakho malunga nesoka lakho lokuqala: Thatha kancinci.

"Qalisa nje ngokuba nobuhlobo kwaye ujonge incoko yemizuzu emithathu ukuya kwemihlanu, ubuza ukuba uyithathe phi iblukhwe yakhe ye-yoga okanye ubuze ukuba usebenze ixesha elingakanani phaya. Ekupheleni kwencoko emfutshane, zazise kwaye utshintshisane ngamagama ukuze ngekamva onokuthi kuye kuye ngegama, ucebisa uShasta Nelson, ingcali kwezobuhlobo kunye ne-CEO yeGirlFriendCircles.com.

Ukusuka apho, yiba nomonde kwinkqubo. Tshintshisanani ngemizuzu embalwa yencoko ngalo lonke ixesha nibona omnye nomnye-buza into ayenzileyo kwimpelaveki edlulileyo okanye zeziphi iiklasi aza kuzo kamva evekini. “Injongo kukuba ube nobuntu obuhle, ube nobuhlobo, kwaye ungaguquguquki ekuhambeni kwexesha njengoko ngamnye efumana kancinci kancinci omnye komnye,” utshilo uNelson.

Xa uziva ulungile, mmeme ukuba enze okuthile nawe ngaphambi okanye emva kweklasi ngexesha elithile-mhlawumbi ubambe ikofu okanye i-smoothie esecaleni komnyango, okanye ujonge indawo yokutyela entsha kunye. Nje ukuba wenze umtsi wokuhlala ngaphandle kwamava akho okuqina, uya kuba nexesha elingakumbi lokuthetha kwaye nazane ngokwenene.

Esinye isibonelelo sokwenza abahlobo ngokwasempilweni yinto yokuphindaphinda: Iiklasi okanye ukusebenza okucwangcisiweyo rhoqo kunika ithuba lokuhlala ubona abantu abafanayo, nabo banokwabelana ngexabiso lakho elifanayo lezempilo ukuba babonisa rhoqo. UNelson uthi: “Ubuhlobo bumele buphindaphindeke ukuze buphele, ngoko ukuba sibona abantu abafanayo rhoqo, ngoko siqalisa ukuziva siqhelene ngakumbi omnye nomnye.

Ngapha koko, amava okwabelwana ngawo athambekele ekwakheni amaqhina awomeleleyo. "Ukutshintsha umzimba wakho kungokweemvakalelo, ngakumbi kwabasetyhini," utshilo uKate Lemere, umqeqeshi wobuqu oqinisekisiweyo we-NCSF eBarry's Bootcamp eChicago. "Kwaye ke, abantu obanxibelelana nabo ngelixa belandela ngenkuthalo olu tshintsho lulwalamano olukhethekileyo ngokwenene-alufani nolunye."

Ngaba ufuna ukhuthazo olungakumbi ukuze wenze inyathelo lokuqala? Thatha inkuthazo kwaba bahlobo bangalinganiyo, abo bafumene ubuhlobo ngokuzomelela ngeendlela zabo. (Kwaye ukuba la mabali amnandi akakuqinisekisi, funda ukuba kutheni abahlobo besona sitshixo sempilo engapheliyo nolonwabo.)

Kadie + Megan

Malunga neminyaka emine eyadlulayo, uKadie wabonisa indawo yakhe yengingqi yePure Barre yomxholo weHalloween kwi Mna Ndiyamthanda uLucy iindleko. Xa umqeqeshi, uMegan, waphawula isinxibo sakhe, wathi "kufuneka babe ngabahlobo." UKadie uthi ukukhuthazwa rhoqo kukaMegan ngokuzilolonga (kwaye engamenzi azive esisidenge ngokunxiba) yayisisizathu sokuba aqhubeke ebuyela eklasini-kwaye ekugqibeleni waba ngumhlohli ngokwakhe. Xa uKadie wayefuna ukuqala iklabhu yesidlo sangokuhlwa kwisixeko sabo saseMontgomery, AL, uMegan wayengomnye wabantu bokuqala awabamemayo, kwaye ubuhlobo babo bakhula. Ngoku bahlanganisana rhoqo kwiiklasi, ubusuku bamantombazana, iklabhu yesidlo sangokuhlwa, okanye ii-tailgates zebhola.

UCessie + uStephanie

Xa uCessie waqala ukufudukela eNew York, wafumana iCrossFit awayeyithanda e-Eastside ngeClassPass. Ngenye imini, waya kuStephanie, owayehlala esiqhelo, kuba waqaphela ukwehla okukhulu kubunzima bakhe, kwaye wabuza ukuba wenza ntoni ukuze abonakale emhle kangaka. Baqala kancinci kancinci ukuhlangana ngaphandle kwendawo yokuzivocavoca kwaye bafumanisa ukuba bahlala iibhloko ezimbini kuphela omnye komnye. Ngoku bayathanda ukusebenza ngaphandle ngaphandle kunye, nokuba kungokuhamba intaba okanye ukukhetha i-apile-kunye neetacos / itequila ebusuku eziphoselweyo.

UDonna + uLauren

Emva kokuba uqeqesho lomntu omnye lubiza kakhulu, uDonna wajoyina iiklasi zeqela lomqeqeshi wakhe eTampa Bay, FL, apho wadibana noLauren. Umqeqeshi wayenabo kwisicwangciso sokutya esingqongqo ngelo xesha, kwaye badibana "nobunyani" babo -uDonna wachaza ukuthanda kwakhe ii-Ritz crackers kunye ne-cream cheese, ngelixa u-Lauren ethanda umlutha wakhe we-M & M. Ukuvuma iziphene zabo omnye komnye kwakha umanyano olomeleleyo. Iincoko zabo zaqala ngexesha lokulinda koomatshini ngexesha loqeqesho kwaye zaphuhliswa kukuhamba kunye, ukuqala iklabhu yeencwadi, kunye nokuhlangana kunye noonyana kunye nabayeni babo.

Leslie + Kristen

U-Leslie no-Kristen bobabini bazibophezele kwi-Stairmill yesiqhelo kwindawo yabo yokuzivocavoca eChicago, kwaye nangona babehlala benyuka ecaleni komnye nomnye, zange bathethe de uLeslie ngenye imini enze inyathelo lokuqala. Incoko encinci yaba yinkqubo yabo nanini na xa begilana, kwaye bafumanisa ukuba bobabini babezama ukukhulelwa (kungekho nto). Okwangoku ubudlelwane babo bajika baba bubuhlobo, utshilo uLeslie, ngumhla awafumanisa ngayo uKristen ekhala kwigumbi elitshixwayo ngenxa yomzabalazo wakhe wenzala- "ngela xesha sasisuka ekubeni ngabahlobo bokuzivocavoca saya kubahlobo babahlobo," utshilo. Namhlanje, uLeslie uneentombi ezimbini kwaye uKristen wazala unyana wakhe wesihlanu.

Gabbey + Elle

Umnyhadala weTone It Up eLas Vegas-boot camp elandelwa yi-boozy brunch-yajika yaba lilishwa likaGabbey no-Elle, "abacofe nje" umzuzu abadibana nawo, utshilo uGabbey. Ekuqaleni, u-Elle wayengenguye ohamba rhoqo eklasini, kodwa ngoku aba babini bayabathanda, kwaye bahlala bedibana ukwenza into esebenzayo veki nganye. Xa omnye wabatshakazi bakaGabbey engalindelwanga kwafuneka aphume emtshatweni wakhe, uGabbey wacela uElle ukuba athathe indawo yakhe. Uceba ukucwangcisa iyoga okanye iiPilates zikaGabbey ngeveki yakhe yomtshato ukuze amnciphise.

URachael + uLisa

Xa uRachael noLisa badibana ngokungacwangciswanga kwi-bar e-LA ngokusebenzisa abahlobo bobabini, bahleka xa befumanisa ukuba bayazisana ngaphambi kokuba uRachael abe ngumqeqeshi wokuqina komzimba eklasini lokuzilolonga umzimba awayehamba rhoqo noLisa kwiYunivesithi yaseOhio. Kungekudala baqala ukucwangcisa imihla esebenzayo kunye, njengokunyuka kusasa kwiindlela zaseHollywood Hills ngaphambi kokusebenza, emva koko basebenze indlela yabo ukuya kumdyarho we-5K kunye ne-10K kunye. Ubuhlobo babo baneminyaka eli-12 ubudala kwaye bomelele, kwaye uRachael uthi akukho nto yokomelela abangakhange bayenze.

UJenna + Becca

Ibali laba bahlobo babini libuyela umva: UJenna noBecca badibana beneminyaka eli-8 neli-9 ngelixa babekhuphisana neqela labo lokuqubha laseMichigan. Ukubeka kwi-10 ephezulu kulungelelwaniso yaba ngumzuzu wokuqala omkhulu ekwabelwana ngawo kunye, kwaye njengoko bobabini beqhubeka kwiqela lokuqubha kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, basondelelana kakhulu, bade bathandana nabahlobo babo ababalaseleyo kwaye baziwa njenge "quad squad". Ngoku bahlala kwilizwe liphela omnye komnye, kodwa bahleli rhoqo "ngeyona veki yabahlobo" - uhambo lwabo lokugqibela lubandakanya ukuhamba ngebhayisikile yeemayile ezingama-40 kunxweme lwaseCalifornia, iziphu, ukunyuka intaba kwaye, ewe, ukuqubha.

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