Ubomi bam ngaphambi nasemva kweMetastatic Breast Cancer

Umxholo

• Iinguqu ezinkulu nezincinci
• Ukufunda ukuxabisa izinto ezincinci
• Ukuthatha

Xa iziganeko ezibalulekileyo zisenzeka, singohlula ubomi bethu bube ziinxalenye ezimbini: "ngaphambili" kunye "nasemva". Kukho ubomi phambi komtshato nasemva komtshato, kwaye kukho ubomi ngaphambi nasemva kwabantwana. Kukho ixesha lethu njengomntwana, kunye nexesha lethu njengomntu omdala. Ngelixa sabelana nabanye ngezi zinto zibalulekileyo, kukho ezinye esijamelana nazo sisodwa.

Kum, kukho umgca omkhulu, omile okwe-canyon ebomini bam. Kukho ubomi bam ngaphambi kokuba ndifunyaniswe ndinomhlaza webele we-metastatic (MBC), kunye nobomi bam emva. Ngelishwa, akukho lunyango lwe-MBC. Nje ukuba umfazi azale, uyakuhlala engumama, kanye nje ukuba ufumanekile une-MBC, ihlala ihleli kuwe.

Nantsi into etshintshileyo ebomini bam emva kokuchongwa kwam, kwaye ndifunde ntoni kwinkqubo.

Iinguqu ezinkulu nezincinci

Ngaphambi kokuba ndifunyaniswe ndine-MBC, ndandicinga ngokufa njengento eza kwenzeka kwikamva elikude. Kwakukho kwi-radar yam, njengokuba kunjalo kuwo wonke umntu, kodwa yayingacacanga kwaye ikude. Emva kokuxilongwa kwe-MBC, ukufa kuya kwangoko, kunamandla, kwaye kufuneka kulawulwe ngokukhawuleza. Isikhokelo sangaphambili kunye nentando yam yayikuluhlu lwezinto endiza kuzenza ixesha elithile kamva ebomini, kodwa emva koxilongo lwam, ndabagqiba kwakamsinya emva koko.

Bendihlala ndijonge phambili kwizinto ezifana nezikhumbuzo, abazukulwana, nemitshato ngaphandle kokungxamiseka. Zaziza ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Kodwa emva kokuxilongwa kwam, kwakusoloko kukho ingcinga yokuba andizukubakho kumsitho olandelayo, okanye ikrismesi elandelayo. Ndiyekile ukubhalisela iimagazini kunye nokuthenga iimpahla ngaphandle kwexesha. Ngubani owaziyo ukuba ndiza kuzifuna?

Ngaphambi kokuba umhlaza uhlasele isibindi nemiphunga yam, ndandiyithatha lula impilo yam. Ukuqeshwa kukaGqirha yayiyinto yokucaphuka minyaka le. Andiboni nje kuphela oogqirha ababini ngenyanga, ukufumana i-chemo rhoqo, kwaye ngokunyanisekileyo ukuqhuba ukuya kwiziko lokunyusa ebuthongweni bam ngoku, kodwa ndiyazi amagama abantwana be-tech scanning tech.

Ngaphambi kwe-MBC, ndandingumntu omdala osebenzayo, ndiziva ndiluncedo emsebenzini endiwuthandayo. Ndonwabile ukufumana umvuzo kunye nokuthetha nabantu imihla ngemihla. Ngoku, zininzi iintsuku endisekhaya, ndidiniwe, ndisezintlungwini, kunyango, kwaye ndingakwazi ukusebenza.

Ukufunda ukuxabisa izinto ezincinci

I-MBC yabetha ubomi bam njengenkanyamba, ivuselela yonke into. Emva koko, uthuli lwazinza. Awazi ukuba kuza kwenzeka ntoni ekuqaleni; ucinga akukho nto iyakuze iphinde ibe yinto eqhelekileyo kwakhona. Kodwa into oyifumanayo yeyokuba umoya uye wakhupha izinto ezingabalulekanga kude, ushiye umhlaba ucocekile kwaye ukhanya ngokuqaqambileyo.

Yintoni eseleyo emva kokuxakaniseka ngabantu abandithanda ngokwenyani nokuba ndidiniwe. Uncumo losapho lwam, ukujijiswa komsila wenja yam, ingcungcu encinci iphunga kwintyatyambo - ezo zinto zithathe ukubaluleka ebekufanele ukuba babenawo onke amaxesha. Kuba kwezo zinto, ufumana uxolo.

Kuyinto encinci ukuthetha ukuba ufunda ukuhlala usuku olunye ngexesha, kwaye kunjalo kuyinyani. Umhlaba wam ulula kwaye uzolile ngeendlela ezininzi. Kuye kwalula ukuxabisa zonke izinto ebeziza kuba yingxolo yangasemva ngaphambili.

Ukuthatha

Ngaphambi kwe-MBC, ndaziva ngathi wonke umntu. Bendixakekile, ndisebenza, ndiqhuba, ndithenga, kwaye ndikude nembono yokuba eli hlabathi lingaphela. Bendinganikeli ngqalelo. Ngoku, ndiyaqonda ukuba xa ixesha lifutshane, loo mizuzu mincinci yobuhle ekulula ukudlula kuyo lelona xesha libalulekileyo.

Bendihlala ndigqitha kwiintsuku ndingakhange ndicinge ngobomi bam nokuba kwenzeka ntoni. Kodwa emva kwe-MBC? Zange khe ndonwabe ngolu hlobo.

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