Impembelelo ka-Elly Mayday Usweleke kwi-Ovarian Cancer-Emva kokuba oGqirha baqale bagxotha iimpawu zakhe

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Imodeli yokuqina komzimba kunye netshantliziyo u-Ashley Luther, owaziwa kakhulu njengo-Elly Mayday, usweleke eneminyaka engama-30 emva kwedabi elinomhlaza we-ovari.

Usapho lwakhe lubhengeze iindaba kwi-Instagram kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo kwiposti ebuhlungu.

"U-Ashley wayeyintombazana yasemaphandleni entliziyweni eyayinomdla wobomi obungenakuphikiswa," babhala kwiposi. "Uphuphe esenza igalelo kubomi babantu. Uye wakufezekisa oku ngokudala u-Elly Mayday owamvumela ukuba akwazi ukunxibelelana nani nonke. Ukuxhaswa kwakhe rhoqo nothando lwabalandeli bakhe belubambe indawo ekhethekileyo entliziyweni yakhe."

Ngelixa uLuther wayesaziwa njenge-activist-positivity activist, loo ndima njengempembelelo yaya ngaphaya kokuzimela. Uvulelekile malunga nendlela oogqirha abazityeshela ngayo iimpawu zakhe iminyaka ngaphambi kokuba amchaze ngokusesikweni ukuba unesifo somhlaza, ke waqala ngamandla ukukhuthaza impilo yabasetyhini. Uye wathi uziva ukuba xa umntu emmamele, ngebebambe umhlaza kwangoko.

Uhambo lukaLuther luqale ngo-2013 xa wayesiya kwigumbi likaxakeka emva kokuva iintlungu ezibuhlungu kumqolo ongezantsi. Oogqirha bayigxotha intlungu yakhe, besithi kufuneka anciphise umzimba kwaye konke kuya kuba kuhle, ngokuka Abantu. (Ngaba ubusazi ukuba oogqirha ababhinqileyo bangcono kunamagqirha angamadoda?)

"Ugqirha undixelele ukuba ndisebenze undoqo wam," uxelele Abantu Ngo-2015. "Sijongelwe ekubeni sibancinci, singabafazi. Ndiqale ndaqonda ukuba akukho mntu uza kundinceda ngaphandle kokuba ndizincede."

Iihambo ezintathu ezingakumbi ze-ER kamva, uLuther uxelela i-mag ukuba wayesazi ukuba kukho into engalunganga, ngoko ke wafuna ukuba oogqirha bakhe benze iimvavanyo ezingakumbi. Kwiminyaka emithathu emva kohambo lwakhe lokuqala esibhedlele, i-CT scan yaveza ukuba une-ovary cyst-kwaye emva kwe-biopsy, wafunyaniswa enesifo somhlaza wenqanaba lesithathu.

ULuther uqhubeke nokumodela ngelixa wayesilwa nomhlaza we-ovari kwaye wabonakala nakwimikhankaso emva kokulahleka kweenwele zakhe kwi-chemotherapy kwaye wenza utyando olwashiya umzimba wakhe uneziva.

Kwanangaphambi kokuba axilongwe, uLuther wayenza into yokuba acele umngeni kwiingcinga ezikhohlakeleyo. Wayethathwa njengenye yeemodeli zokuqala zegophe ukungena kwindawo ebonakalayo kwaye waqalisa umsebenzi onempumelelo nangona wayexelelwe ukuba akayi kuba yimodeli ye-pin-up ngenxa yobukhulu nobude bakhe. Wasebenzisa loo mava ukukhuthaza abasetyhini ukuba bawole imizimba yabo njengoko injalo kwaye bangabahoyi abantu abathiye.

ULuther wenziwa utyando kunye ne-chemo. Kwaye okwexeshana, umhlaza wakhe wabonakala ngathi uxolile. Kodwa ngo-2017, yabuya kwaye emva kwelinye idabi elide, elinzima, ekugqibeleni lathatha ubomi bakhe.

Ngelishwa, amava kaLuther ayisosiganeko sokuma sodwa. Kambe ke, zikho iingcinga ezikhohlakeleyo zabantu ababhinqileyo "abangacacanga" okanye "abadlamkileyo" xa kusiziwa entlungwini- kodwa ezinye zezo zinto zisaqhubeka nanamhlanje, nasezibhedlele nasezikliniki.

Inqaku elinje: Uphando lubonisa ukuba abasetyhini banamathuba okuba axelelwe ukuba iintlungu zabo zi-psychosomatic, okanye baphenjelelwa luhlobo oluthile lwengxaki yeemvakalelo. Akunjalo kuphela, kodwa bobabini oogqirha kunye nabongikazi banikezela amayeza angaphantsi kweentlungu kubasetyhini kunamadoda emva kokuhlinzwa, nangona abafazi bechaza amanqanaba amaninzi kunye neentlungu ezinzima.

Kutshanje, umdlali weqonga uSelma Blair, one-multiple sclerosis (MS), uthe oogqirha khange bazithathe ngokungathandabuzekiyo iimpawu zakhe kwiminyaka ekhokelela ekufumanekeni kwakhe. Walila iinyembezi zovuyo xa ekugqibeleni bamxelela ukuba yintoni ingxaki yakhe.

Yiyo loo nto kwakubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uLuther akhuthaze abasetyhini ukuba babe ngabameli bempilo yabo kwaye bathethe xa besazi ukuba kukho into engalunganga ngemizimba yabo.

Kwisithuba sakhe sokugqibela ngaphambi kokuba asweleke, uthi “usoloko ekhangela elo thuba lokunceda abantu,” kwaye kwafumaniseka ukuba ithuba lakhe lokwenjenjalo kukwabelana ngedabi lakhe lomhlaza kunye namava akhokelela kulo.

“Ukhetho lwam lokuba esidlangalaleni kwaye ndizame ukwabelana ngamandla am lwalusemnyango,” ubhale watsho. "Ukunceda yindlela endilichaza ngayo ixesha lam elichithwe kakuhle. Ndinethamsanqa lokuba ndikwazi ukudibanisa kunye nomsebenzi wobumnandi wokumodareyitha, ngoba ikwayiyo nam (hah ayothusi). Ndiyabulela wonke umntu ondixelela ukuba Ndenze umahluko, ngengcebiso yam, ukwabelana kwam, iifoto zam kunye nendlela yam eqhelekileyo kwimeko enzima yokwenyani. "

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