Iselfowuni Isiyobisi Ngaba abantu bokwenyani baya kuRehab ngenxa yaso

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Sonke siyayazi intombazana ebhala ngeentsuku zesidlo sangokuhlwa, ngokunyanzelwa ukuba itshekishe i-Instagram ukuze ibone ukuba bonke abahlobo bayo batya ntoni kwezinye iivenkile zokutyela, okanye iphelisa yonke impikiswano ngokukhangelwa kuGoogle-ngomnye wabo bantu babotshelelwe kwiiselfowuni zabo kangangokuba ayikaze iphume yokufikelela kwengalo. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba loo mhlobo ngu...wena? Isiyobisi seSmartphone sisenokuvakala ngathi sisiqalo sokuqala ekuqaleni, kodwa iingcali zilumkisa ukuba yingxaki yokwenene kunye nekhulayo. Ngapha koko, i-nomophobia, okanye uloyiko lokuba ngaphandle kwezixhobo zakho eziphathwayo, ngoku ibonwa njengengxaki enkulu ngokwaneleyo ukuba kujongwe kwindawo yokubuyisela kwakhona! (Fumanisa ukuba omnye uMfazi woyise njani isiyobisi sakhe.)

Enye yezo ndawo kukuphinda uqalise, iziko lokubuyisela iziyobisi eRedmond, WA, elinikezela ngenkqubo yonyango ekhethekileyo yokulungiswa kweselfowuni, ngokuthelekisa umlutha we-smartphone kukuthenga okunyanzelekileyo kunye nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha. Kwaye ababodwa kwinkxalabo yabo. Uphononongo oluphuma kwiYunivesithi yaseBaylor lufumanise ukuba abafundi basekholejini ababhinqileyo bachitha umndilili weeyure ezilishumi ngosuku benxibelelana neeselfowuni zabo-ingakumbi besebenzisa i-intanethi baze bathumele iitekisi ezili-100 ngosuku. Lixesha elingaphezulu lee kunelokuxela ukuchitha kunye nabahlobo. Okothusayo kukuba ama-60 eepesenti abantu ekwenziwa kubo uphando bavuma ukuba bangamakhoboka ezixhobo zabo.

Kuyamangalisa, utshilo umphandi uJames Roberts, Ph.D. "Njengokuba imisebenzi yeselfowuni inyuka, ukubakho kwezi zinto zibonakala zingabalulekanga kubuchwephesha buya buba yinto enokwenzeka."

Isizathu sokuba ii-smartphones zibe likhoboka kakhulu kungenxa yokuba zibangela ukukhutshwa kwe-serotonin kunye ne-dopamine- "zivakalelwa ziikhemikhali ezilungileyo" kubuchwephesha bethu-ekunikezeleni ukwaneliseka kwangoko njengezinto ezikhobokisayo, utshilo ingcali yezonyango kunye noPaul Hokemeyer, Ph.D. (Beka phantsi ifowuni kwaye uzame i-10 Habits yaBantu abonwabileyo endaweni yoko.)

Kwaye uthi olu hlobo oluthile lweziyobisi lunokuba luphawu lweengxaki ezinzulu. "Ukujonga ngokunyanzelekileyo kunye nokusetyenziswa okunyanzelekileyo kwe-smartphone luphawu lokuziphatha kunye nemicimbi yobuntu," ucacisa. "Yintoni eyenzekayo kukuba abantu abajongene nemiba efana nokudandatheka, ukuxhalaba, ukuxhwaleka, kunye noluntu olucelomngeni kwintlalo-ntle yokuziphilisa ngokufikelela kwizinto ezingaphandle kwabo ukulawula ukungonwabi kwabo kwangaphakathi. Ngenxa yokuba iteknoloji idlala inxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bethu. ii-smartphones ngokulula ziyeyona nto bayithandayo. "

Kodwa oko kubonakala kusisisombululo ekuqaleni kukhulisa iingxaki zabo ekuhambeni kwexesha. “Bakhetha ukufikelela kwiifowuni zabo ngaphezu kokuphilisa ukunxibelelana nabantu ababalulekileyo,” uyacacisa uHokemeyer. Ukwenza njalo, nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzakalisa umsebenzi wakho kunye nobomi bakho bomntu, singasathethi ke ngokubangela ukuba uphoswe zizo zonke izinto ezimnandi ezenzeka ebomini bokwenyani. (Fumana ukuba iSelfowuni yakho iLonakalisa njani ixesha lakho lokuphumla.)

Uyayithanda ifowuni yakho kodwa awuqinisekanga ukuba ubudlelwane abunampilo? Ukuba uziva wonwabile xa uchwetheza kwaye uswayipha (okanye uyikhuphe ngokupheleleyo ukuba ayikufuphi kuwe), yisebenzise kangangeeyure ngexesha, uyijonga ngamaxesha angafanelekanga (njengaxa uqhuba okanye usentlanganisweni), uphoswe ngumsebenzi okanye izibophelelo zentlalo ngenxa yokuba ulahlekile kwihlabathi lakho ledijithali, okanye ukuba abantu ababalulekileyo ebomini bakho baye bakhalaza malunga nokusetyenziswa kwefowuni yakho, ngoko uHokemeyer uthi umdla wakho usenokuba likhoboka lekliniki.

"Ukuba ucinga ukuba unengxaki, kukho amathuba aphezulu okuba uyawenza," uyacacisa. "Ukuziphatha okuluthayo kugutyungelwe zizixhobo ezininzi zokukhusela ingqondo kunye neemvakalelo ezingasixeleli ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo kwaye ukusetyenziswa kwethu akukho nto inkulu." Kodwa ukuba iyaphazamisa ebomini bakho ngokuqinisekileyo yinto enkulu.

Ngombulelo, uHokemeyer akacebisi ukuba uzihlole ngqo kwi-rehab (okwangoku). Endaweni yoko, ucebisa ukuseka imithetho ethile yokusetyenziswa kwefowuni yakho. Okokuqala, misela imida ecacileyo neqinileyo ngokucima ifowuni yakho (eneneni icime! hayi nje indawo ekungafikeleli kuyo ingalo) ngexesha elimiselweyo ubusuku ngabunye de kube lixesha elimisiweyo kusasa (ucebisa ukuba uqale ngentsimbi yeshumi elinanye kunye neyesibhozo kusasa). Okulandelayo, gcina ilog apho ulandela khona ixesha olichithayo kwifowuni okanye kwithebhulethi yakho ukukunceda ujongane nenyani. Emva koko, setha ialam ukuze uzikhumbuze ukuba uyibeka phantsi imizuzu eli-15 ukuya kwengama-30 ngexesha qho kwiiyure ezimbalwa. Okokugqibela, ucebisa ukuphuhlisa ingqiqo malunga neengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Nika ingqalelo kwiimvakalelo zakho eziphambili kwaye uqaphele indlela okhetha ukuziphepha ngayo okanye ukujongana nazo. (Kwakhona, zama la manyathelo asi-8 okwenza iDetox yedijithali ngaphandle kwe-FOMO.)

Ukuba likhoboka le-smartphone yakho kungavakala kusisiyatha, kodwa iifowuni zizinto eziyimfuneko kwezi ntsuku-ke sonke kufuneka sifunde ukuzisebenzisa ngokufanelekileyo ngaphandle kokubayekela bathathe ubomi bethu. "Iifowuni zingangumlo wokugqibela," utshilo uHokemeyer, esongeza ukuba kufuneka sijongane nabo ngendlela esiza kujongana ngayo nomhlobo wethu ongasoloko enomdla kuthi: ngokumisela imida eqinileyo, ukubonisa umonde, nokungawavumeli ukuba asenze silibale eyona nto ibalulekileyo kuthi.

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