Ayikokuphela Ukudinwa: Xa ukuba ngumzali kubangela iPTSD

Umxholo

• Kuqhubeka ntoni apha?
• Unxibelelwano phakathi komzali kunye ne-PTSD
• Ngaba unayo iPTSD emva kokubeleka?
• Ukuchonga izinto zakho ezibangela
• Ngaba ootata banamava e-PTSD?
• Okukwintsusa: Fumana uncedo

Bendifunda kutshanje malunga nomama oziva ukuba wonzakele-ngokoqobo-ngokuba ngumzali. Uthe iminyaka yokuhoya abantwana, usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa kunye nabantwana abancinci ibisenza ukuba abe neempawu zePTSD.

Nantsi into eyenzekileyo: Xa umhlobo wakhe emcelile ukuba agcine abantwana bakhe abancinci kakhulu, ngephanyazo wazaliswa kukuxhalaba, ukuya kwinqanaba lokuba angakwazi ukuphefumla. Uye walungiswa kuyo. Nangona abantwana bakhe bebekhulile, ingcinga yokuhanjiswa kwakhona ukuba nabantwana abancinci kakhulu yayanele ukumthumela kwinqanaba lokuphakuzela kwakhona.

Xa sicinga nge-PTSD, igqala elibuyela ekhaya lisuka kwindawo yemfazwe linokufika engqondweni. I-PTSD, nangona kunjalo, inokuthatha iindlela ezininzi. IZiko leSizwe lezeMpilo yeNgqondo lichaza i-PTSD ngokubanzi: Sisifo esinokuthi senzeke emva kwawo nawuphina umcimbi othusayo, owoyikisayo, okanye oyingozi. Inokwenzeka emva kwesiganeko esinye esothusayo okanye emva kokuvezwa ixesha elide kwinto ethile ebangela ukubhabha okanye ukulwa nesifo emzimbeni. Umzimba wakho awunakho ukuqhubekeka umahluko phakathi kweziganeko ezingenabungozi kunye nezoyikiso zomzimba ngoku.

Ke, usenokucinga: Ngaba into entle njengokukhulisa umntwana inokubangela uhlobo lwePTSD? Nantsi into ekufuneka uyazi.

Kuqhubeka ntoni apha?

Kwabanye oomama, iminyaka yokuqala yokuba ngumzali ayifani nemifanekiso emihle, emihle esiyibonayo kwi-Instagram okanye ebhalwe kwiimagazini. Ngamanye amaxesha, baba lusizi ngokwenene. Izinto ezinje ngengxaki yezonyango, ukuhanjiswa okhawulezileyo kokubeleka, uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka, ukuba wedwa, umzabalazo wokuncancisa, i-colic, ukuba nesizungu, kunye noxinzelelo lwabazali banamhlanje banokubangela ingxaki enkulu koomama.

Into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyiqaphele kukuba ngelixa imizimba yethu ikrelekrele, ayinakukwazi ukwahlula phakathi kwemithombo yoxinzelelo. Ke nokuba uxinzelelo sisandi sokudubula kompu okanye usana olilela iiyure ngeenyanga, impendulo yoxinzelelo lwangaphakathi iyafana. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba nayiphi na imeko eyoyikisayo okanye enoxinzelelo olungaphaya inokubangela i-PTSD. Oomama abasemva kokubeleka ngaphandle kwenethiwekhi yenkxaso eyomeleleyo ngokuqinisekileyo basemngciphekweni.

Unxibelelwano phakathi komzali kunye ne-PTSD

Kukho inani leemeko zokuba ngumzali kunye neemeko ezinokukhokelela kwifom ye-PTSD emnene, emodareyithayo, okanye enzima, kubandakanya:

• I-colic eqatha emntwaneni ekhokelela ekulahlekelweni bubuthongo kunye nokusebenza kwe-syndrome "yokubaleka okanye yokulwa" ubusuku nobusuku, imini nobusuku
• umsebenzi onzima okanye ukuzalwa
• iingxaki zasemva kokubeleka ezinjengokopha okanye ukonzakala okungapheliyo
• Ukuphulukana nokukhulelwa okanye ukuzala umntwana ofileyo
• ukukhulelwa okunzima, kubandakanya iingxaki njengokulala, i-hyperemesis gravidarum, okanye izibhedlele
• I-NICU esibhedlele okanye ukwahlulwa kubantwana bakho
• Imbali yokuxhatshazwa ibangelwa ngamava okuzalwa okanye ixesha lokuzala

Ngaphezulu, olunye uphando kwiJenali yeAmerican Heart Association lufumanise ukuba abazali babantwana abaneziphene zentliziyo basengozini yePTSD. Iindaba ezingalindelekanga, ukothuka, usizi, ukuqeshwa, kunye nokuhlala ixesha elide kwezonyango kubabeka kwiimeko zoxinzelelo olukhulu.

Ngaba unayo iPTSD emva kokubeleka?

Ukuba awuzange uve ngePTSD yasemva kokubeleka, awuwedwa. Nangona kungathethwanga malunga nokudakumba emva kokubeleka, iseyinto yokwenyani enokwenzeka. Iimpawu ezilandelayo zingabonisa ukuba ufumana iPTSD emva kokubeleka:

• egxile ngokucacileyo kwisiganeko esibuhlungu esidlulileyo (njengokuzalwa)
• oonombombiya
• amaphupha amabi
• ukuthintela nantoni na ezisa iinkumbulo zomsitho (njenge-OB yakho okanye nayiphi na iofisi kagqirha)
• ukucaphuka
• ukuphuthelwa
• ixhala
• uloyiko
• ukuziqinisa, ukuziva ngathi izinto aziyiyo "yokwenene"
• ubunzima bokudibana nosana lwakho
• ukuthanda kakhulu nantoni na enxulumene nomntwana wakho

Ukuchonga izinto zakho ezibangela

Andiyi kuthi ndinePTSD emva kokuba nabantwana. Kodwa ndiza kuthi ukuza kuthi ga namhlanje, ukuva usana olukhalayo okanye ukubona usana luchwethelwa kubangela ukuba ndenze okuthile emzimbeni. Sasinomntwana oyintombazana owayenesifo esibuhlungu esine-acid, yaye wachitha iinyanga ekhala engayeki kwaye etshica ngamandla.

Kwakulixesha elinzima kakhulu ebomini bam. Nangona iminyaka kamva kufuneka ndixelele umzimba wam phantsi xa uxinzelelo lucinga emva kwelo xesha. Ndincede kakhulu ukuba ndibone into endiyenzayo njengomama. Kukho izinto ezithile zangaphambili zam ezichaphazela ukuba ngumzali kwam namhlanje.

Umzekelo, ndichithe iminyaka emininzi ndindodwa kwaye ndilahlekile kuxinzelelo kangangokuba ndingothuka ngokulula xa ndindedwa nabantwana bam. Kufana nomzimba wam ubhalisa "imo yokuphakuzela" nangona ingqondo yam isazi ngokupheleleyo ukuba andisenguye umama wosana kunye nomntwana omncinci. Inqaku leli, amava ethu okuba ngumzali kwangoko abumba indlela esiba ngumzali ngayo kamva. Kubalulekile ukukuqonda oko kwaye uthethe ngako.

Ngaba ootata banamava e-PTSD?

Nangona kunokubakho amathuba amaninzi okuba abasetyhini bahlangabezane neemeko ezibuhlungu emva kokufumana umsebenzi, ukuzalwa, kunye nokuphilisa, i-PTSD inokwenzeka nakwamadoda. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele iimpawu kwaye ugcine umgca ovulekileyo wonxibelelwano kunye neqabane lakho ukuba uziva ngathi kukho into engekho.

Okukwintsusa: Fumana uncedo

Musa ukuba neentloni okanye ucinge ukuba i-PTSD ayinakwenzeka kuwe "nje" ukusuka kubuzali. Ukuba ngumzali akusoloko kuhle. Kwaye, ngakumbi xa sithetha ngempilo yengqondo kunye neendlela ezinokubakho zokuphazamiseka kwimpilo yethu yengqondo, kokukhona sonke sinokuthatha amanyathelo okukhokelela kubomi obunempilo.

Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungaludinga uncedo, thetha nogqirha wakho okanye ufumane izibonelelo ezongezelelekileyo nge-Postpartum Support Line kwa-800-944-4773.

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