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Usenokuba ukhe weva ukuba uLizzo kutsha nje wabanga impikiswano emva kokwabelana ngokuba wenza isuti yeentsuku ezili-10 yokucoceka "ukuseta" isisu sakhe kulandela uhambo oluya eMexico.Nangona wathi waziva "emangalisa" emva kokucoca, imvumi yafumana ukubuyela umva ebantwini abaziva ukuba iiposti zakhe zikhuthaza imiyalezo engenampilo malunga nomzimba.

Emva kwexesha, imvumi yaphendula ngokugxekwa ngokuchaza ukuba usekwinkqubo yokufumana ulungelelwaniso olusempilweni kwaye usebenza nzima ukulungisa ubudlelwane bakhe nokutya kunye nomzimba. Ngaphezu kwako konke, uLizzo uthe ufuna abalandeli bakhe bazi ukuba ungumntu kwaye unelungelo lokuhamba yedwa.

Ngelixa abanye besesocingweni malunga nokucocwa kwe-Smoothie ka-Lizzo, umlingisi uDanielle Brooks weza ukuzithethelela kwimvumi. Kwiposti ye-Instagram esuka entliziyweni, uBrooks wathi ukuba sesichengeni kukaLizzo kwamnika isibindi sokuthetha ngendlela alwa ngayo nomzimba wakhe okoko waba ngumama. (Eyeleleneyo: UDanielle Brooks uba nguMzekelo woCeleb awayesoloko enqwenela ukuba unaye)

"Njengomntu owayila eli binzana #voiceofthecurves Ndiye ndathula ilizwi lam iinyanga ezimbalwa ngoku ngenxa yeentloni," uBrooks, owazala intombi yakhe uFreeya ngo-Novemba ka-2019, wabhala ecaleni komfanekiso wakhe omnyama nomhlophe. "Ndaziva ndineentloni zokufumana ubunzima. Nangona ndizise wonke umntu emhlabeni, ndaziva ndiziva ndineentloni kuba andikwazi ukugcina ubunzima bam bomzimba obuqhelekileyo emva kokukhulelwa."

U-Brooks uthe ekuqaleni wayehlala "ethule" kwimidiya yoluntu ngethemba lokuba uya kufikelela kwinqanaba apho "angathumela khona isithombe sakhe njengabantu abaninzi abadumileyo ngokungummangaliso" emva kokuba nomntwana. “Kodwa ayilobali lam elo,” uqhubeke watsho kwiposti yakhe. "(Idibeneyo: Yonke into ekufuneka uyazi malunga nokuPhulukana nobunzima bomzimba emva kokubeleka)

Inyaniso yile, intabalala yabantu abanayo "ifoto emangazayo" yokubhala kwi-Instagram emva kokubeleka. Ngapha koko, baninzi abantu abasebenzisa imithombo yeendaba zentlalo ngokukodwa ukukhumbuza abanye ukuba ukulahleka kwesisindo somntwana kuthatha ixesha kwaye kubalulekile ukwamkela amanqaku olulekileyo, ulusu oluvulekileyo, kunye nolunye utshintsho lwendalo kunye nolwasemzimbeni oluqhelekileyo olwenzeka emva kokubeleka. (Idibeneyo: UTia Mowry unomyalezo wokuXhobisa oomama abatsha abaziva benyanzelekile ukuba "Babuyele umva")

Kodwa kuyinyani ukuba kuninzi lokuhanahanisa kunye nendumiso kwabo yenza "snap back" emva kokukhulelwa, ngakumbi abadumileyo. (Bona: uBeyoncé, uKate Middleton, uChrissy Teigen, kunye noCiara, ukubala nje abambalwa.) Xa ezi nguqulelo zisenza imixholo kwaye zizukisiwe kwimidiya yoluntu, inokubangela abanye abantu, ngakumbi abo banokuziva bengakhuselekanga ngokwabo umzimba wasemva komntwana. (Inxulumene: Lo Mphembeleli uyigcina eyinyani malunga nokungena kwigumbi elifanelekileyo emva kokuba nomntwana)

Ngokubhekisele kwi-Brooks, uvumile kwiposti yakhe ukuba uzame "zonke iintlobo zokutya [kwaye] ucoce" kuhambo lwakhe lwasemva kokubeleka-hayi kuba engazithandi, wabhala, kodwa ngenxa yokuba yenza azithande, umzimba wakhe, nengqondo yakhe, kwaye uzama ukuzikhathalela.

"NjengoLizzo, kunye namanye amantombazana 'atyebileyo' kufanele ukuba sivunyelwe ukuba senze ukhetho olusempilweni esidlangalaleni ngaphandle kokwenza ukuba sizive ngathi sinobuqhetseba ngokuzama ukuba sempilweni," uqhubeke uBrooks kwisithuba sakhe. "Ndivakalelwa kukuba kubalulekile ukwabelana ngohambo, njengesikhumbuzo sokuba asodwa, asihlali sihlangene, kwaye SONKE sisebenza ngokuqhubekayo." (Eyeleleneyo: Uyenza njani iNdawo eBandakanyiweyo kwiNdawo yokuPhila)

Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, iiBrooks zifuna ukuba abantu bazi ukuba ukulahleka kwesisindo, emva komntwana okanye akunjalo, akunjalo kwaye uvumelekile ukuba wenze iimpazamo apha endleleni. "Kulungile ukubonisa phakathi kokukhula," ubhale watsho, evala umyalezo wakhe. "Akufuneki ukuba ube nayo yonke indlela kunye."

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