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Ukuzinyanga ngokwakho kwifilimu eyedwa "umhla" unokuziva utyhafile ekuqaleni, kodwa ukuba i-celeb inokuyenza, kutheni ungenakukwazi? Ewe, i-TMZ ibike ukuba u-Justin Bieber wazibonakalisa yedwa kwi-movie ye-movie ngoMvulo (kakuhle, wayesenabalindi bakhe), wayala i-nachos, kwaye wayenobusuku obuthandekayo ehleli yedwa. Kuvakala ngathi bubusuku obuhle kakhulu, kwaye yasenza sazibuza: Kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba uzihlalele ngamanye amaxesha? (Kwakhona, yenza ezi ngcebiso ngobusuku bomhla obunempilo kwi.)

Ukuphuma, ukuzixhoma wedwa kunokuba "lixesha elikhethekileyo apho unokungena khona ngaphakathi, uzibonakalise, kwaye ubeke phambili ukuzinyamekela," utshilo uSamantha Burns, ongumcebisi wezempilo yengqondo kunye nombhali Thanda ngempumelelo: Iimfihlo ezili-10 ekufuneka uzazi ngoku. Ixesha olichitha wedwa nokuba uye kwiimuvi, ubambe isidlo kwindawo yokutyela oyithandayo (ukutya wedwa akufanele kunkwantye!), Okanye nokuba uziphekele isidlo sangokuhlwa ngebhotile enkulu yewayini kubalulekile kuba inokukuzisela ingcaciso malunga nayo yonke into. ukusuka kubudlelwane ukuya kumsebenzi wakho. “Amaxesha amaninzi ugqagqana no-autopilot usuka emsebenzini uye kwiindibano zoluntu ukuya kuthandana neqabane lakho (ukuba unalo), kwaye awunalo ithuba lokumamela kwaye ujonge indlela oziva ngayo,” utshilo uBurns. Ngokwenene ukuzinika ixesha lokucinga malunga nezinto-ezenzekayo okanye ezingalunganga ebomini bakho ngoku-zingakunika kanye uhlobo lokuqonda olufunayo.

Okona kubaluleke ngakumbi, "ezi zihlandlo zodwa zingakukhumbuza ukuba ungubani, izinto othanda kakhulu, kwaye zivuselele ingqondo yakho yokuzimela kunye nokuzithemba," utsho. (Ufuna ukuthatha i-adventure yokwenyani ngokwakho? Jonga ezona ndawo zingcono zokuzilolonga kwabasetyhini abahamba bodwa.) Uninzi lwabantu mhlawumbi alunalo ixesha lokwenza usuku lokuma ngeveki nabo, kodwa uBurns uthi xa uqhubeka Utshintsho olukhulu kubomi (mhlawumbi uya kwinto efana ne-Biebs ufumanisa ukuba i-ex Selena Gomez inokudlulela kwi-Weeknd), licebo elilungileyo ukwenza ixesha kwishedyuli yakho ukonwaba wedwa. Utshintsho lomsebenzi, njengokulahlekelwa okanye ukutshintsha umsebenzi wakho, ikwalithuba apho unokuxhamla kwixesha elithile lokubonisa, khumbula ukuba kutheni ulungile, kwaye ucinge malunga neenjongo ezintsha onokufuna ukuzibekela zona. (Apha, fumana ngakumbi ngokuzibekela iinjongo ezinkulu.)

Ukuba awuziva ukhululekile ukuchitha ixesha uwedwa esidlangalaleni kwiindawo apho kuhlala kuhlala abantu (ibhar, okanye indawo yokutyela exakekileyo), iBurns ayifuni ukuba uphephe nje ezo ndawo. Endaweni yoko ucebisa ukuba uzibuze ngoba uziva ngolo hlobo. "Cela umngeni kwiingcinga zakho ezimbi okanye zokuzibetha ngokuzibuza ukuba kutheni ukhathalele kangaka ukuba umntu ongamaziyo ukugweba ngokuhlala wedwa," utshilo. Khumbula ukuba into ecingwa ngabasemzini inakho unothi ifuthe kubomi bakho. Ukuba zonke ezinye ziyasilela, yiza nencwadi ukuze uziphazamise xa uziva unzima. "Lixesha lakho lokuphumla kwaye uhlangabezane neemfuno zakho, ekufuneka zikwenze uzive uzingca kwaye uzithembile, ungazithembi kwaye ulilolo." Ke qhubeka wenze into ekwenza uzive wonwabile-akukho zihlobo okanye liqabane lifunekayo.

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