Ukuphulukana nokuKhulelwa kwasekuqaleni kukuziva ngathi

Ndicele umama ukuba eze neetawuli ezindala. Weza kunceda, ukugcina umntwana wam eneenyanga ezili-18 ubudala, nokwenza ukutya. Ubukhulu becala wayeze kulinda.

Ndayithatha ipilisi ngobusuku obudlulileyo, njengoko ugqirha we-OB-GYN wacebisa. Ndafaka enye kwilungu lobufazi. Ndaye ndalala ke. Ndaza ndalinda.

Ipilisi yayiyi-RU486 - {textend} ipilisi emva kwentsasa. Yayimiselwe emva kokuba ndinee sonograms ezininzi ezibonisa "izinto zemvelo" ezijikeleza esibelekweni sam.

Ndizama ukumitha. Ndandikhulelwe. Kwenzeke ngokukhawuleza. IUD yaphuma ngoJuni 30. Ngo-Agasti, ndandikhulelwe. Sasinemincili. Ndibalile umhla obekiweyo - {textend} ngokuchanekileyo kusuku loMama.

Okwenzekayo emva koko kwaqala, njengoko ndijonga emva kwayo ngoku, ndinethuku. Kwakungekho nto yayingalunganga, kwaye ndandingatsho ukuba kutheni.

Kodwa kwiiveki ezintlanu, ndandisele ndiyazi. Andazi ukuba njani. Izinto zivakala nje. Khange ndixelele mntu kwaye ndiye ekliniki apho benza khona ii-sonograms zasimahla. Kule kliniki, ubukhulu becala into abayenzileyo yayikukucebisa nokuqhomfa.

Kweli gumbi lokulinda, umoya wawunzima, ubuso buzimisele. Ulutsha oludala. Umfazi phakathi kweminyaka engama-30. Amadoda, abazali, izihlobo.

Ndinencwadi.

Kwafika ixesha lam. Isikrini sasimpunga. Kubonakala ngathi kukho ibhloko. Abantu ababini abakwiminyaka yabo yama-20 bangena. Akukho namnye owayebonakala eqinisekile ukuba bajonge ntoni.

Ukusuka emotweni yam kwindawo yokupaka, ndibize umbelekisi wam, owacebisa ukuba kuvavanywe igazi, kwaye ndakwenza kwangoko.

Ubomi buqhubekile. Ndamxelela umama ukuba ndikhulelwe. Ndixelele abahlobo bam abasondeleyo. Ndaya emsebenzini.

NgolwesiHlanu emva kwemini, mna nonyana wam sasihamba singanxibanga zihlangu engceni xa kukhala umnxeba wam. Iziko lokuzalwa labiza ukuba amanqanaba wam e-FSH ayehla kwaye hayi apho kufanele ukuba babe khona malunga neeveki ezintandathu bekhulelwe. “Uxolo,” watsho umbelekisi.

"Nam ngokunjalo," ndatsho. "Enkosi."

Kwiintsuku kamva, oogqirha bayiqinisekisa. “Izinto zemfuza” zazikwisikrini. Ndiyayazi into esingayiboniyo. Akukho ndawo ichazayo yokubetha kwentliziyo. Akukho mbotyi incinci yelima.

Senza ntoni?

Okwangoku, andiziva ndilahlekile. Singayisombulula njani le "nto yemfuza" esibelekweni sam?

“Masizame iipilisi.” Senze njalo ke. Ndiyibeke ixesha lokuthatha ipilisi ngobusuku bangoLwesithathu. NgoLwesine ibilusuku lwam lokuphumla.

Ngentsasa leyo, ndaziva ndisiba necramp, ndaziva ngathi kufuneka ndichame. Ndohlika etoilet ndasondela ngasesinkini.

Inyathelo elinye kunye nokukhululwa.

Igazi elijiyileyo. Gooey. Kwaye bendifikelela kwiitawuli ezindala. Ndizifumene ngexesha lokuba ndibambe iglobhu yesibini - {textend} ngokungathi inezingxobo zegazi. Kwakukho igazi kumgangatho wekhonkrithi kunye nethontsi kwityali yokuhlambela beige.

Silinde intsasa yonke nangaphezulu ngokufanayo nomzimba wam uchithe "izinto zemvelo." Ngalo lonke ukhululo, ndaziva ngathi sisondele koku.

Kwakufana nokuba nawo onke amaxesha onyaka ngentsasa enye.

Kwi-OB-GYN yokuqeshwa kusuku olulandelayo, sijonge kolunye ujikelezo lweeonograms. Ezinye "izinto zemfuza" zazisabambelele ngaphakathi kum.

Ndingomnye weepesenti ezi-3 zabafazi i-RU486 engasebenziyo.

"Senza ntoni?" Ndibuzile.

Impendulo yaba ngu-D no-C. Ndiyazi ukuba le yindlela abanye abantu abachaza ngayo ukuqhomfa. Kodwa ngaba sasingekakwenzi oko?

Inkqubo ibandakanya ukwanda komlomo wesibeleko ukuze wandise kwaye uvumele izixhobo kwisibeleko, kunye nonyango - {textend} lokukhuhla iindonga zesibeleko.

Ngomnye uLwesine, enye inkqubo. Lo wayengalaliswanga esibhedlele. Mna nomama besishiywe lixesha. Umyeni wam upake imoto. Abongikazi babelunge kakhulu. Ndazibuza ukuba inoba bacinga ukuba ndikhupha isisu, okanye ndiphunyelwa sisisu?

Ugqirha we-anesthesiologist wayene-lanyard ye-USC njengoko wayeze kuthetha nam. Ndikhumbula ndihamba ngamavili egumbini kwaye kwakubanda kakhulu. Ukuvuka kwam, ndafumana ii-ice chips ndaza ndafuna iikawusi kunye nokubila kwam okuluhlaza.

Umyeni wam wasiqhuba sagoduka njengoko ndiphulaphule ii-voicemails zomsebenzi kwaye ndizama ukungabonakali ngathi ndinamava.

Kwakugqityiwe.

“Andisakhulelwanga,” nditsho kubahlobo bam abasondeleyo, ndibalumkisile bangathethi ngokuphuma kwesisu.

Akumangalisi ukuba ukuphuma kwesisu kukhuphe ixesha elincinci lokulila. Ndandinenjongo yokuhamba kuyo: ukuqeshwa, iinkqubo, kunye neesonograms. Khange ndifune ukuthula okanye ukuvalelisa.

Andiqinisekanga ukuba le nto ingena njani ebomini bam. Okwangoku andikayisebenzisi ngokupheleleyo kwaye ndinomsindo kumhlobo wam owathi, "Silahlekelwe yintombazana yethu. Yayiyintombazana yakho leyo. ”

Ukuba uchukumisekile nangayiphi na indlela ngokuphuma kwesisu, yazi oku: Okokuqala, yenzekile, kwaye ibalulekile.

Abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho basenokungayazi. Okanye basenokungabuzi. Okanye basenokungacingi ukuba kubalulekile. Yenzile.

Yiyihloniphe loo nto. Yeka. Zila. Cinga. Yibhale phantsi. Yabelana. Thetha. Nika umhla negama nendawo. Ukufunda ukuba ukhulelwe kuzisa iimvakalelo kunye nokulindela.

Ukufunda ukuba awuzisi gagasi elikhulu nangaphezulu. Musa ukujika. Musa ukukhawuleza ukuya kwinto elandelayo.

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