Kutheni iAnorexia Nervosa ingayichaphazela iDrive yakho yeDrive kunye nento onokuyenza ngayo

Umxholo

• Ukungondleki kuchaphazela ukusebenza kwengqondo
• Ngamanye amaxesha kuthethwa ngokudakumba, endaweni yokuphazamiseka kwindlela otya ngayo
• Imbali yokuxhatshazwa inokuba buhlungu
• Imizimba engeyiyo yenza ukuba isondo sibe nzima
• Isenokuba yile nto uyiyo
• 'Ukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo' yingxaki kuphela ukuba yingxaki kuwe

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Nazi izizathu ezi-5 zokungazithembi ezinokuchaphazela ukuqhuba kwakho ngokwesondo.

Ekwindla ka-2017, njengoko ndandizimisele ukwenza udliwanondlebe ngesini kwabasetyhini abane-anorexia amanosa kuphando lwam lwethisisi, ndenze njalo ndisazi ukuba abantu basetyhini bazakubonisa amava ngesondo eliphantsi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uphando lubonisa ukuba abahlali bathambekele ekuthinteleni, ekukhuleni nasekuziphatheni okubi ngokwesini.

Into endiyenzileyo hayi lindela, nangona kunjalo, kwakungaphi ukuba abafazi babe nexhala lokuba la mava ahlukile.

Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, iimvakalelo zokungaqhelekanga zaziza kuvela kwezi ncoko. Elinye ibhinqa lazibiza ngokuba "lihlazo kwaye linoburharha," kwaye lide lide lithi ukungabi namdla kwezokwabelana ngesondo kumenza "umntu ophambeneyo." Omnye, emva kokuchaza amava akhe, wabuya umva, esithi, "Andazi nokuba iyavakala njani okanye isebenza njani."

Ndixakile Lelona gama abafazi lalidla ngokusetyenziswa ukuzichaza.

Kodwa nantsi into: Ukuba une-anorexia kwaye unamava esini esisezantsi, uyiyo hayi mangalisi. Awunguye engaqhelekanga, ubundlobongela, okanye uphambene. Ukuba kukho nantoni na, ngokwenene umndilili.

Ukuphononongwa koncwadi ngo-2016 kuqatshelwe ukuba, nangona uphando olukhangela isini kwabasetyhini abane-anorexia, lincinci, phantse zonke izifundo zifumene ukuba abo bafazi babenomsebenzi ophantsi wesini.

Ngamafutshane: Abafazi abane-anorexia, isini esisezantsi sokuqhuba siqhelekile, siqhelekile.

Ke ukuba ufumene ukuba une-anorexia nervosa kwaye ufumane ukuba isondo lakho liqhuba liphantsi, nazi izizathu ezihlanu zokuba kutheni oku kunokuba njalo kwaye unokwenza ntoni ngayo.

Ukungondleki kuchaphazela ukusebenza kwengqondo

Masiqale kwinkcazo yomzimba. Yintoni eyenza i-anorexia iyingozi ngakumbi kukuba indlala ikhokelela kukungondleki-kwaye nengqondo engondlekanga iphulukana nokusebenza. Xa ungasebenzisi iikhalori ezaneleyo ukugcina amanqanaba afanelekileyo ombane, umzimba wakho uqala ukuvala iinkqubo zokugcina.

Impembelelo yendlala kwimpilo yomzimba ibandakanya i-hypogonadism, okanye ukusilela kwama-ovari ukuba asebenze ngokufanelekileyo. Amanqanaba ancitshisiweyo ehomoni ahambelana nokusebenza ngokwesondo- kubandakanya i-estrogen kunye neprogesterone, eveliswa zii-ovari- inokuchaphazela ukuqhuba kwakho ngokwesondo. Sihlala sicinga ngale nto ngokunxulumene nokwaluphala kunye nokuyeka ukuya exesheni, kodwa ianorexia inokudala umphumo, nawo.

Yintoni ekufuneka uyazi Ngethamsanqa, kukho indlela eya phambili ukuba uyasokola, okanye uyachacha kwi-anorexia nervosa. Izifundo zibonisa ukuba ukubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo-ngokukodwa, ukuba lo ibingumba wakho-unxulunyaniswa nokwanda kokusebenza ngokwesondo. Njengokuba umzimba wakho uphilisa, kukwanjalo nangokwesini sakho.

Ngamanye amaxesha kuthethwa ngokudakumba, endaweni yokuphazamiseka kwindlela otya ngayo

Izizathu zokwehla kwesondo ayixhomekekanga ekuphazamiseni ukutya ngokwakho, kodwa ke ezinye izinto ezihamba nesifo sokutya. Uxinzelelo, umzekelo, ngaphakathi kwako, kunokuba nefuthe elibi ekusebenzeni ngokwesondo.

Kwaye ngenxa yokuba malunga neepesenti ezingama-33 ukuya kuma-50 zabantu abane-anorexia amanosa baneziphazamiso zemood-ezinje ngoxinzelelo-ngamanye amaxesha ebomini babo, inokuba sisizathu sokuba kutheni ukuqhuba kwakho ngesondo kungaphantsi.

Unyango loxinzelelo lunokudlala indima nayo. I-serotonin reuptake inhibitors ekhethiweyo (i-SSRIs) -iklasi leziyobisi ezisoloko zisetyenziswa njenge-anti-depressants kunye nonyango lweengxaki zokutya- ziyaziwa ukuba zinomsebenzi wesondo. Ngapha koko, iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga eziqhelekileyo zinokubandakanya ukunciphisa umnqweno wesini kunye nobunzima bokufikelela kwi-orgasm.

Into onokuyenza Ngethamsanqa, iingcali zonyango kunye nezempilo yengqondo ziyazi kakuhle iziphumo zesondo ze-SSRI. Kuya kufuneka bakulungele ukusebenza nawe ukufumana unyango, kubandakanya amayeza- nokuba yeyiphi na i-SSRI okanye amayeza ahamba nayo-anokunceda ekuphuculeni umgangatho wobomi bakho. Kwaye khumbula, ukuba ugqirha wakho akakuthathi nzulu ukwaneliseka kwakho ngokwesondo, ugqibelele kwilungelo lakho lokufumana umboneleli okhathalelayo wezempilo owahlukileyo.

Imbali yokuxhatshazwa inokuba buhlungu

Xa ndenza uphando lwam dissertation, ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha sabathathi-nxaxheba abane-anorexia nervosa bachaza amava ngokuxhatshazwa ebomini babo-nokuba zezesondo, ezomzimba, okanye ezemvakalelo, nokuba kubuntwana okanye ebudaleni. (Kwaye oku kuyinyani nakum, njengoko ndiba nengxaki yokutya ekuphenduleni kubudlelwane neqabane elibuhlukumezayo.)

Ngaphaya koko, abo bathathi-nxaxheba bathethe malunga nendlela la mava abanefuthe elibonakalayo ngayo kwisini sabo.

Kwaye oku akumangalisi.

Uninzi lwabasetyhini abanengxaki yokutya banamava adlulileyo ngoxinzelelo, ngakumbi ukwenzakala ngokwesondo. Ngapha koko, amaxhoba odlwengulo asenokwenzeka ukuba ahlangane neendlela zokuqonda isifo. Olunye uphando oluncinci luka-2004 lufumanise ukuba iipesenti ezingama-53 zabantu abangama-32 abasindileyo ababa nengxaki yokutya, xa kuthelekiswa neepesenti ezi-6 kuphela zabasetyhini abangama-32 abangenayo imbali yokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo.

Into onokuyenza Ukuba ulwa nesini emva koxinzelelo, awuwedwa-kwaye likho ithemba. Ukuphononongwa koqwalaselo lweemvakalelo, ukuzibandakanya okubandakanya kancinci (re) ukwazisa ukuthinta inkanuko ebomini bomntu ngendlela enabom, kunokuba luncedo. Oku, nangona kunjalo, kufanelekile ukuba kwenziwe ngoncedo lwe-sex therapist.

Imizimba engeyiyo yenza ukuba isondo sibe nzima

Kwabafazi abaninzi abane-anorexia, ukungavumi kwabo ukuba neentlobano zesini kungaphantsi kwesithintelo somzimba, kwaye ngakumbi kwengqondo. Kunzima ukubandakanyeka kwisini xa ungonwabanga nomzimba wakho! Kuyinyani nakumabhinqa athi sukuyenza baneengxaki zokutya.

Ngapha koko, olunye uphando olwenziwe ngo-2001 lwafumanisa ukuba, xa kuthelekiswa nabasetyhini abanemibono emihle ngemizimba yabo, abo bafumana ukungoneliseki emzimbeni baxela rhoqo ngesondo kunye ne-orgasm. Abasetyhini abanemizimba engathandekiyo emzimbeni nabo baxela intuthuzelo encinci:

• Ukuqala umsebenzi wesondo
• ukhulule phambi kweqabane labo
• ukulala ngesibane
• ukuphonononga imisebenzi emitsha yesondo

Nokuba kuvavanyo lweCosmopolitan luqaphele ukuba malunga nesinye kwisithathu sabasetyhini baxela ukungakwazi ukwenza i-orgasm kuba bagxile kakhulu kwindlela abajongeka ngayo.

Kodwa okuchaseneyo kuyinyani: Abasetyhini abanemifanekiso emihle yomzimba baxela ngokuzithemba okukhulu ngokwesondo, ukuzithemba ngakumbi kunye nokuqhuba ngesondo okuphezulu.

Into onokuyenza Ukuba umzimba wakho ungena kwindlela yobomi obonelisayo, ugxile ekuphiliseni olo lwalamano kunokukhokelela kuphuculo. Nokuba usebenza kumfanekiso womzimba kunye nemiba yokuzithemba kwindawo yonyango, uhamba indlela yokuzinceda ngeencwadi ukukunceda ukuba uhlahle inzondo yomzimba (Ndicebisa uSonya Renee Taylor's Umzimba awusilo uxolo), okanye ukuqala kancinci ngokwahlula i-Instagram feed yakho, ubudlelwane obonwabileyo kunye nomzimba wakho bunokukhokelela kubudlelwane obusempilweni kunye nesondo.

Isenokuba yile nto uyiyo

Ubuntu sisihloko esiphikisanayo: Ngaba yindalo? Ngaba kukhuliswa? Siba njani yile nto siyiyo-kwaye ngaba ibalulekile loo nto? Kule ncoko, iyenza. Ngenxa yokuba iimpawu zobuntu ezifanayo ezinxulunyaniswa nokuxilongwa kwe-anorexia zinokudityaniswa nokungathandeki kwisini.

Ku, abaphandi babuza isampulu yeeklinikhi ukuba zichaze izigulana ezinengxaki yokutya. Abasetyhini abane-anorexia bachazwe njenge- "prim / efanele" kwaye "bethintelwe / belawulwa ngaphezulu" -kwaye obu buntu baxela kwangaphambili ukungakhuli ngokwesini. Ukuqwalaselwa (ukuzixakekisa ngeengcinga kunye nokuziphatha), ukuthintela, kunye nokugqibelela ziimpawu ezintathu zobuntu ezine-anorexia, kwaye banokufumana indlela yomdla kwisini. Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokuziva kungcolile. Ingaziva ingalawuleki. Inokuziva iyonwabisa. Kwaye oku kungakhokelela kwisini ukuziva ungamenywanga.

Oko kwathethi, into ekufuneka uyikhumbule malunga nokuqhuba ngesondo kukuba iyahluka ngokwendalo kumntu kumntu. Abanye abantu banesakhono esiphakamileyo somdla wesondo, kwaye abanye abantu banesikhundla esisezantsi. Kodwa siqinisekile kwinkcubeko yethu ye-hypersexual ukuba ukuba kwisiphelo esisezantsi akulunganga okanye akuqhelekanga - kubalulekile ukukhumbula, nangona kunjalo, ukuba akunjalo.

Ukwabelana ngesondo ngamava asemthethweni Kweminye, ukuqhuba ngesondo esisezantsi kunokuba ngenxa yokuwela kwibala le-asexuality-elinokuthi libandakanye yonke into ukusuka kwinto encinci ukuya kuthi ga kumdla othile kwisini. Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba la ngamava asemthethweni ezesondo. Akukho nto ngokwemvelo gwenxa nawe ngoba awunamdla kwisini. Isenokuba kukukhetha kwakho. Yintoni ebalulekileyo kukunxibelelana oku namaqabane akho, ulindele ukuba ahloniphe iimfuno zakho, kunye nokuphuhlisa intuthuzelo ngokuphelisa ubudlelwane obungahambelani ngesondo.

'Ukungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo' yingxaki kuphela ukuba yingxaki kuwe

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule malunga "nokungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo" -igama elixhalabisayo ngokwalo-kukuba yingxaki kuphela ukuba yingxaki wena. Ayinamsebenzi indlela uluntu olukujonga ngayo "okuqhelekileyo" ngokwesini. Ayinamsebenzi into efunwa ngamaqabane akho. Ayinamsebenzi into eyenziwa ngabahlobo bakho. Yintoni ebalulekileyo nguwe. Ukuba uxinezelekile malunga nenqanaba lakho lomdla kwisini, kufanelekile ukuba uphande ngalo kwaye ufumane izisombululo. Ndiyathemba ukuba eli nqaku likunika indawo oza kuqala kuyo.

UMelissa A. Fabello, PhD, ngutitshala olwela amalungelo oluntu omsebenzi wakhe ugxile kwezopolitiko zomzimba, kwinkcubeko yobuhle, nakwingxaki yokutya. Mlandele phambili Twitter kwaye I-Instagram.