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• Ukuqala uMzabalazo omde wokungachumi
• Ukuqala kwenkqubo ye-IVF
• Ukuba noNyana wethu-kunye nokujongana neMiceli mngeni engakumbi
• Ukuqhubela phambili nge-Outlook entsha
• Uphengululo lwe

Ubomi bam bonke bendisazi ukuba ndizakuba ngumama. Ndikunqwenela ukuba neenjongo kwaye bendihlala ndibeka umsebenzi wam ngaphezu kwayo yonke into. Ndandineminyaka eli-12 ubudala xa ndandisazi ukuba ndifuna ukuba yincutshe yomdanisi kwisiXeko saseNew York, yaye xa ndandisiya ekholejini, amehlo am ayethe ntsho ekubeni yiRadio City Rockette. Ke, ndenze loo nto iminyaka eliqela ngaphambi kokuba ndiyeke ukudanisa. Ndibe nethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndijikeleze ikhondo lam lomsebenzi kumabonwakude, kwaye ndaqhubeka ndabelana ngesimbo kunye neengcebiso zobuhle kwimiboniso kubandakanya UWendy Williams, Oogqirha, QVC, Uphawu, OKWENENE, kwaye USteve Harvey. Konke oku kuthetha ukuba, engqondweni yam, ukuba ngumama yayiyeyona njongo ilandelayo ukuyifezekisa. Into ebendiyidinga yayikukuyifanela nobomi endandibusebenzele nzima ukubakha.

NgoNovemba 2016, ndandineminyaka engama-36 ubudala, kwaye mna nomyeni wam ekugqibeleni sasikwindawo apho sasiziva ngathi lixesha lokuqala ukuzama. Ngoku "zama" ndithetha ukuba besonwabile nyani kwaye sibona apho uhambo lusibeke khona. Kodwa kwiinyanga ezintandathu, sasingekakhulelwa kwaye sagqiba ekubeni sibonisane ne-ob-gyn. Ngokukhawuleza ugqirha walilahla igama elithi "ukukhulelwa kokubeleka," igama (i-IMO, elidlulileyo) kubantu abakhulelweyo abangaphezulu kweminyaka engama-35. Ugqirha ucebise ukuba siqhubeke nokuzama.

Yiza nge-Agasti ka-2017, sasingekakhulelwa, saya kwikliniki yokuzala. Sasingazi, yayikukuqala kohambo olude kakhulu nolubuhlungu oluya kubuzali. Nabani na ondaziyo uyazi ukuba ndihlala ndizele luvuyo nolonwabo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, kuya kufuneka uthethe ngezinto ezimnyama ukuze ungene ekukhanyeni.

Ukuqala uMzabalazo omde wokungachumi

Emva komjikelo wokuqala wovavanyo, ndaxelelwa ukuba ndine-hypothyroidism, imeko apho idlala lengqula lakho lingavelisi ngokwaneleyo iihormone ezithile ezibalulekileyo. Amanqanaba asezantsi ezi hormone anokuphazamisana ne-ovulation, echaphazela kakubi ukuzala, ngokutsho kweKliniki yaseMayo. Ukulungisa oku, ndafakwa kumayeza e-thyroid ngoSeptemba 2017. Okwangoku, ndabuzwa ukuba ngaba ndinezinye iimeko ezingaphantsi ezinokuchaphazela ukuzala kwam. Ekuphela kwento endinokucinga ngayo kukuya exesheni.

Amaxesha am abe buhlungu ngokude ndikhumbule. Ndandisoloko ndicinga ukuba ndine-endometriosis, kodwa andizange ndiyihlole. Inyanga nganye, ndandivele ndikhuphe iqela le-Advil kwaye ndiqhubele phambili. Ukukuthintela oku, oogqirha bam bathathe isigqibo sokwenza utyando lwe-laparoscopic, apho babeka khona ikhamera ende, ethe tyaba esiswini sam ngendlela yokujonga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ngaphakathi ukulungisa eyona ngxaki. Ngexesha lenkqubo (le ibingoDisemba 2017) bafumene izilonda ezingenakubalwa kunye neepolyps kuyo yonke indawo yesisu kunye nesibeleko, uphawu lokuxela lwe-endometriosis, imeko eyaziwa ngokuba nefuthe elibonakalayo ekuchumeni. Umonakalo wawumkhulu kangangokuba kuye kwafuneka ndenziwe utyando apho oogqirha "bakususa" konke ukukhula kwisibeleko sam. (Inxulumene: Injani Ukulwa ne-Endometriosis, Friza amaqanda akho, kunye nokuNgachumi kobuso kwiminyaka engama-28 ubudala nongatshatanga)

Kwathatha ixesha elide ukuba umzimba wam uphile emva kotyando. Njengoko ndilele ebhedini yam, ndingakwazi ukuphakama ndedwa, ndikhumbula ndicinga ukuba le nto yayingeyiyo yonke into endandiyifanekisela indlela eya ekukhulelweni ukuba ibe njani. Sekunjalo, ndandithembele emzimbeni wam. Ndandisazi ukuba ayizukundiphoxa.

Ekubeni kwakunzima ukuba ndikhawule ngokwemvelo ngaphezu konyaka, inyathelo elilandelayo kuthi yaba kukuqalisa ukufakwa kwi-intrauterine insemination (IUI), unyango lokuzala oluquka ukufaka amadlozi ngaphakathi esibelekweni somfazi ukuze kube lula ukuqhama. Senze iinkqubo ezimbini, ngoJuni nangoSeptemba 2018, kwaye zombini zasilela. Okwangoku, ugqirha wam ucebise ukuba nditsiba ngqo kwi-vitro fertilization (IVF) kuba ii-IUIs ezininzi bezingazukusebenza- kodwa i-inshurensi yam ayizukuyigubungela. Ngokusekwe kwisicwangciso sethu, kuye kwafuneka ndenze ubuncinci iinkqubo ezintathu ze-IUI ngaphambi kokuba "ndiphumelele" kwi-IVF. Nangona ugqirha wam wayeqinisekile ukuba enye i-IUI ayizukusebenza, andizange ndivume ukuya kuyo ngengqondo engalunganga. Ukuba bendikhe ndanikela ingqalelo kwizibalo kwaye ndizivumela ukuba zindinqande ekwenzeni izinto, ngekhe ndibekho ndawo ebomini bam. Ndandisoloko ndisazi ukuba ndandiza kuba ngowahlukileyo, ngoko ndalugcina ukholo. (Idibeneyo: Iindleko eziPhakamileyo zokungabikho komntwana: Abafazi basengozini yokuchithwa koMntwana)

Ukunyusa impumelelo yethu, sagqiba ekubeni siqiniseke ukuba i-endometriosis ayizukuba yingxaki- kodwa, ngelishwa, ibuyile. Ngo-Novemba ngo-2018, ndaphinda ndenziwa olunye utyando ukuze kususwe ii-polyps ezininzi kunye nezicwili ezibomvu ezazifumene esiswini sam. Nje ukuba ndichache koko, ndiye ndenza inkqubo yam yesithathu neyokugqibela ye-IUI. Kangangendlela endifuna ngayo ukuba isebenze, ayisebenzi. Nangona kunjalo, ndibambelele kwinto yokuba i-IVF iseyinto ekunokukhethwa kuyo.

Ukuqala kwenkqubo ye-IVF

Siye sangena kwi-2019 sikulungele ukuntywila kwi-IVF ... kodwa bendiya kuba ndiyaxoka ukuba ndithe andiziva ndilahlekile. Ndandifuna ukwenza yonke into endinokuyenza ukuze ndinyuse amathuba am okukhulelwa, kodwa ukuthontelana kolwazi malunga nento endifanele ukuyenza nendingamele ukuba ndiyenze yayindoyikisa. Bendinoluhlu olungapheliyo lwemibuzo koogqirha bam, kodwa kuninzi kuphela onokuthi uhlawule kwidinga lemizuzu engama-30. I-intanethi nayo ayisiyondawo iluncedo kakhulu kuba yenza nje ukuba woyike kwaye uzive ulilolo ngakumbi. Ke, ndathi ndlela-ntle yokuGogling zonke izinto ezinxulumene nokungachumi kunye ne-IVF kuphela ngoxolo lwengqondo.

NgoJanuwari waloo nyaka, ndaqalisa inkqubo ye-IVF, nto leyo eyayithetha ukuba ndiqalise ukuzitofa ngamahomoni ukuze ndikhulise imveliso yeqanda lam. Emva koko ndafumana kwakhona iqanda ngoFebruwari. Ngandlela thile, bendinamaqanda asempilweni ali-17-anele ukusebenza nawo, oogqirha bandiqinisekisa. Kwiveki elandelayo yayingumdlalo wokulinda. Onke amaqanda am adityaniswa afakwa kwizitya zePetri ukuze ajongwe. Ngamnye komnye, baqalisa ukufa. Yonke imihla ndafumana umnxeba undixelela, "Amathuba akho okufumana umntwana avele asuka kwi-'x '% ukuya kwi-x' yeepesenti" - kwaye loo manani ahlala ehla. Khange ndikwazi ukuyiphatha, ndiye ndaphambukisa iifowuni ndaya kumyeni wam. Eyona nto yayindilungele yayikukuba ndingazi nto. (Related: Uphononongo luthi inani lamaqanda kwi-ovari yakho ayinanto yakwenza namathuba akho okumitha)

Ngandlel’ ithile, ekugqibeleni ndafumanisa ukuba ndineembumba ezisibhozo. Ke, ngokulandelayo kwafika inkqubo yokumiliselwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu banamaqanda ambalwa anempilo, kwaye i-embryo enye okanye ezimbini ezisebenzayo ezinamathuba okufakelwa. Ke, bendizibona ndinethamsanqa kwaye bendizingca ngomzimba wam. Ekupheleni kukaFebruwari, ndafakelwa iqanda lokuqala, laza lahamba kakuhle. Ukulandela inkqubo, oogqirha bakuxelela ukuba ungathathi uvavanyo lokukhulelwa, kuba kusekutsha kakhulu ukuxelela ukuba ukukhulelwa kuya kubambelela. Ndenze ntoni ke? Ndithathe uvavanyo lokukhulelwa- lwabuya luchanekile. Ndikhumbula ndihleli kwigumbi lokuhlambela ndedwa ndilila ngokungalawulekiyo nekati yam, ndithatha imifanekiso yemigca emibini ekudala ilindelwe, sele ndiceba ukubhengezwa kokukhulelwa. Kamva ngobo busuku, xa umyeni wam wabuyela ekhaya, senza olunye uvavanyo kunye. Kodwa ngeli xesha, yabuya imbi.

Onke amaqanda am achunyiswa afakwa kwizitya zasePetri ukuze zijongwe. Omnye nomnye, baqala ukufa.

UEmily Loftiss

Imithambo-luvo yam yadutyulwa. Ngosuku olulandelayo sabuyela kwikliniki yokuzala kwaye emva kovavanyo oluncinci bandiqinisekisa wayenjalo ndikhulelwe, kodwa babefuna ndibuye emva kweveki ukuze ndiqiniseke. Loo veki isenokuba yayiyeyona inde ebomini bam. Mzuzwana ngamnye uziva ngathi ngumzuzu kwaye yonke imihla uzive ngathi yiminyaka. Kodwa entliziyweni yam, ndandikholelwa ukuba yonke into izakulunga. Ndingayenza le nto. Ndize kude kakhulu kwaye umzimba wam ubungene kakhulu. Ngokuqinisekileyo inokuyiphatha le nto, nayo. Ngelo xesha, ndandisandula ukufumana umsebenzi wamaphupha eQVC kwaye ndandiqeqeshwa. Okokugqibela, emva kwayo yonke le minyaka, usapho kunye nomsebenzi babehlangana ngokudibeneyo. Konke kwakungaphaya kwamaphupha am amabi. Kodwa ndathi xa ndibuyela kwagqirha kamva evekini, safumanisa ukuba ukukhulelwa kwam bekungenakwenzeka kwaye kuphele ngokuphuma kwesisu. (Idibeneyo: Ukuhanjiswa kwam kwe-IVF ekudala kulindelwe kuye kwarhoxiswa ngenxa yeCoronavirus)

Andizange ndibe nenzondo kumntu okhe waqhwanyaza wakhulelwa. Kodwa xa unengxaki yokungachumi kwaye ubeke umzimba wakho kwiintlungu kunye nosizi ngethemba lokuba ngenye imini ubambe usana lwakho, ufuna nje ukuthetha nabantu abasemseleni nawe. Ufuna ukuthetha nabantu abaye balala phantsi kwaye balila ngokungathuthuzelekiyo kwizandla zamaqabane abo. Ngethamsanqa ndandinabahlobo ababekhwele kwisikhitshane esinye, yaye ngabo endandibatsalela ebusuku xa ndandingalali. Ngamanye amaxesha, ndandiziva ngathi andikwazi ukuphefumla, kuba ndandilahlekile. Ngeli xesha, ndakhawuleza ndabakhupha abantu ebomini bam ababezicingela bodwa, benetyhefu, kwaye becinga ngeziqu zabo kuphela, endicinga ukuba yayiyintsikelelo yokuzifihla, kodwa yandenza ndaziva ndindodwa.

Ngo-Epreli, saqala umjikelo wethu wesibini we-IVF. Kwakhona, ndafakwa kumayeza e-hormone ukukhuthaza ukuveliswa kweqanda xa oogqirha bam bagqiba kwelokuba baphinde bajonge i-endometriosis yam kwakhona. Olunye uphononongo lubonisa ukuba ukonyuka kwe-estrogen ngexesha lenkqubo yokuvuselela iqanda kunokubangela ukuba i-endometriosis ivuthe, nto leyo yayiyinyaniso elusizi kum.

Kwakhona, ndagcwaliswa zii-polyp, ngenxa yoko kwafuneka siyeke unyango lwenzala ukuze senze utyando lwesithathu. Amayeza okuchuma akwenza uzive ugcwele yonke indawo ngokweemvakalelo. Uziva ungalawuleki- kwaye nengcinga yokuba kufuneka uyeke uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uzive uziva ngathi ungaphandle kolawulo-kwaye ingcamango yokuba kufuneka uyeke kwaye uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uhlaziye. Kodwa besifuna ukuba umzimba wam ubanjelwe ngokukhawuleza ukubamba ukukhulelwa, ke utyando lwaluyimfuneko. (Inxulumene: Yintoni i-Ob-Gyns enqwenela ukuba abantu basetyhini bazi malunga nokuchuma kwabo)

Zakuba zisuswe iipolyps zam, ndaza ndachacha, saqala umjikelo wesithathu we-IVF. NgoJuni, bafaka iimbumba ezimbini kwaye enye yazo yaphumelela. Ndaphinda ndakhulelwa ngokusemthethweni. Ndizamile ukungonwabi kakhulu ngeli xesha, kodwa sihlandlo ngasinye singena kwi-ofisi kagqirha, amanqanaba am e-hCG (amanqanaba e-hormone yokukhulelwa) ayephindaphindwe kathathu. Kwiiveki ezintandathu emva kokufakelwa, ndaqalisa ukuziva ndikhulelwe. Umzimba wam wawutshintsha. Ndizive ndidumbile ndabe ndidinwe ndiyimfe. Ngeli xesha, ndandisazi ukuba le yayisebenza.Sakuba siphumelele amanqaku eeveki ezili-12, kwaba ngathi ubunzima behlabathi bunyusiwe emagxeni ethu. Sinokuthi ngokukhwaza nangokuzingca, "Sinomntwana!"

Ukuba noNyana wethu-kunye nokujongana neMiceli mngeni engakumbi

Ndandithanda yonke imizuzwana yokukhulelwa. Ndandijikeleza nje, ndonwabile njenge-clam encinci, kwaye yayiyeyona ntokazi ikhulelweyo yonwabileyo okhe wayibona. I-Whatsmore, ikhondo lam belihamba kakuhle. Njengokuba bendisiya kumhla wokufika kwam, bendiziva ndonwabile kangangokuba bendiceba ukubuyela emsebenzini emva kweeveki ezine kuphela ndifikile. Ndacwangciselwa umsebenzi owawuluhlobo "lwendlela yokuhamba" kwilizwe leTV, kwaye andinakukwazi ukuwudlulisa. Umyeni wam wandilumkisa ukuba kwakamsinyane kwaye uninzi lwezinto lunokuhamba gwenxa, kodwa ndandingqinile.

Bendiphuphile ngalo mzuzu xa ndinokuthi, "Uyeza umntwana!" nokuba oko kuthetha ukuba amanzi am aqhawukile okanye ndiqale ukuxhuzula. Kodwa endaweni yoko, kwakufuneka ndinyanzelwe kuba oogqirha babenexhala malunga nenqanaba lokudumba endinalo. Bendingazukufumana i-aha yam! Okomzuzwana, kodwa bendilungile kuloo nto. Kungekudala, ndandiza kumbamba unyana wam ezandleni zam kwaye yiyo yonke into ebalulekileyo. Kodwa ke, i-epidural ayizange isebenze. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ukuzala bekungandiyolisi kum kwaye ingeyiyo le nto bendiyilindele - kodwa bekufanelekile. Nge-22 kaFebruwari, 2020, unyana wethu uDalton wazalwa, kwaye wayeyeyona nto ilungileyo endakha ndayibona.

Ngexesha simzisa ekhaya, ubhubhani we-COVID-19 wawusanda. Emva kweveki, umyeni wam ebemnkile ehamba nohambo lweentsuku ezimbini ndaye ndahlala ekhaya nosana nomama. Kamva ngala mini, wajongana neTimTim ukuba ndingene kwaye into yokuqala awayithethayo yile: "Yintoni f * * k engalunganga ebusweni bakho?". Ndididekile, ndibeke usana phantsi, ndaya esipilini, kwaye lonke icala lasekhohlo lobuso bam belikhubazekile kwaye lijingxile. Ndakhwaza umama, ngelixa umyeni wam endikhwaza ukuba ndiye kwi-ER ngefowuni kuba ndingabethwa yistroke.

Ke, ndiye ndancoma u-Uber yedwa, ndishiya usana lwam oluneentsuku ezisixhenxe kunye nomama, bexhalabile ngale nto yenzekayo kum. Ndingena kwi-ER bawling kwaye ndaxelela umntu ukuba andikwazi ukushukumisa ubuso bam. Kwimizuzwana nje engephi, ndabalekiselwa egumbini, abantu abayi-15 babendijikelezile, bekhupha iimpahla zam bendixhuma koomatshini. Ngeenyembezi zam, bendinaso nesibindi sokubuza ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni. Emva kwento ebonakala ngathi yeyure, abongikazi bandixelela ukuba andibethwa sistroke, kodwa ndineBell's Palsy, imeko apho ufumana ubuthathaka ngequbuliso kwimisipha yobuso bakho ngezizathu ezingaziwayo. Andizange ndive ngayo, kodwa ndaxelelwa ukuba olu hlobo lokukhubazeka ebusweni ngamanye amaxesha lunokwenzeka ngenxa yokukhulelwa kwaye ihlala ibangelwa luxinzelelo okanye umothuko. Ngenxa yokuhanjiswa kwam okubuhlungu kunye nayo yonke into umzimba wam ebekuyo kule minyaka mithathu idlulileyo, oko kwavakala kulungile.

Emva kweeyure ezine ndisesibhedlele, bandithumela ekhaya namayeza athile baza bandixelela ukuba ndivale iliso lam rhoqo ebusuku xa ndisiya kulala ekubeni lalingayi kuvala ngokwalo. Amaxesha amaninzi, ukukhubazeka okuza ne-Bell's Palsy okwethutyana, kuthatha ukuya kwiinyanga ezintandathu ukuze uphinde uchache, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, umonakalo usisigxina. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, oogqirha abakwazanga ukundixelela ukuba le yinto ekwakuza kufuneka ndiphile nayo ngonaphakade.

Ndonwabe kakhulu ekugqibeleni ndakuba nomntwana wam wamaphupha kodwa, kwangaxeshanye, ndaziva ngathi luvuyo lolo luhluthwa ezandleni zam.

UEmily Loftiss

Ndilapha, ndingakulungelanga kwaphela ukushiya usana lwam olusandul 'ukuzalwa, ndinobisi phezu kwam, kwaye ngoku, isiqingatha sobuso bam sikhubazekile. Okwangoku, umyeni wam uphumile edolophini, umhlaba uyabhuduzela malunga nobhubhane wehlabathi, kwaye kuya kufuneka ndibuyele emsebenzini kumabonwakude kwiiveki ezine. Kutheni lento ibisenzeka kum? Ngaba esi yayisisahluko esilandelayo sobomi bam? Ngaba umyeni wam uya kuhlala endithanda ukuba ndijongeka ngoluhlobo unaphakade? Ngaba umsebenzi wam uphelile?

Ndonwabe kakhulu ekugqibeleni ndakuba nomntwana wam wamaphupha kodwa, kwangaxeshanye, ndaziva ngathi luvuyo lolo luhluthwa ezandleni zam. Ndandinomfanekiso wokuqala komama ukuba ndihleli ekhaya, ndizalele, ndithande unyana wam, kwaye ndibengumama. Endaweni yokuba bendikhangela iindlela zokunyanga i-Bell's Palsy. Ndeva ngomdiliya ukuba iacupuncture inokuba luncedo, ke ndayiqala loo nto. Ukutya kweMeditera kubonise izibonelelo ezithile, ke ndizamile oko. Kwakhona ndandikwiPrednisone, i-steroid eyanciphisa ukudumba kwemithambo-luvo yobuso kwizigulana ezineBell's Palsy. Sekunjalo, malunga neveki emva kokuxilongwa, ubuso bam babungekaphucuki kangako. Kwakungekho ndlela ndandizakubekwa ngayo kwiiveki ezimbalwa, ke ndaye ndafakwa endaweni yomboniso ebendiphupha ndibukho kuwo. (Idibeneyo: Kutheni Kulungile ukukhathaza umfazi owayekade ungaphambi kokuba ngumama)

Ngandlela thile, nangona kunjalo, kuye kwafuneka ndiyiyeke nditshintshe izinto eziza kuqala. Umsebenzi wam wawuyinxalenye enkulu yobomi bam, kodwa kwafuneka ndifunde ukulalanisa. Kwafuneka ndizibuze ukuba yintoni eyona nto ibalulekileyo kum kwaye emva kokuzihlolisisa kakhulu, ndandisazi ukuba umtshato ophilileyo nokuba nomntwana ophilileyo, owonwabileyo.

Ukuqhubela phambili nge-Outlook entsha

Ngethamsanqa lam, njengokuba iveki nganye idlula, ubuso bam buthe chu bubuyela esiqhelweni. Lilonke, kuthathe ngaphezulu kweenyanga ezintandathu ukuba ndiphinde ndiphile ngokupheleleyo kwi-Bell's Palsy, kwaye inokubuya ukuba andizukulawula uxinzelelo noxinzelelo lwam. Ukuba imeko indifundise nantoni na, kukuba impilo yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini bakho. Ukuba awunampilo, awunanto. Ibali lam bubungqina bokuba yonke into inokutshintsha kwangoko. Ngoku, ekubeni ngumama, ndiyazi ukuba ukuzinyamekela ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo akunakuxoxiswana, kungekuphela kwam kodwa kunyana wam.

Xa ndijonga emva kwento efunekayo ukuba nonyana wam, ndiza kuyenza kwakhona. Ndifundile ukuba ukwakha usapho lwakho lwamaphupha kusenokungahambi ngqo ngendlela ofuna ngayo, kodwa uya kufika kwindawo oya kuyo yokugqibela. Kuya kufuneka uzimisele ukuya kunye namahla ndinyuka kunye ne-roller coaster. Nabani na ohlangabezana nobunzima bokungachumi okwangoku, eyona nto ndifuna uyazi kukuba awuwedwa. Ukuba unengxaki yokufumana iindlela zokumelana nayo, eyona nto ilungileyo kum yayikukwabelana ngentlungu yam nesizwe sabafazi abayiqondayo into endijongene nayo. Ndibe nethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo lokuba nabahlobo kwisangqa sam sobuqu ababekhona kum, kodwa ndaye ndanxibelelana namakhulu amanina kumajelo onxibelelwano emva kokwabelana ngohambo lwam kunye nabo.

Kwakhona, zama ukuyeka uloyiko lokuba uza kuphazamisa into ethile. Ndiyazi ukuba kulula ukutsho kunokuba kwenziwe, kodwa ndikhumbula ukukhathazeka ngayo yonke into ukuya kwinqanaba elonakalisayo: Ngaba kufuneka ndenze umsebenzi? Ngaba iya kuwanciphisa amathuba am okukhulelwa? Ngaba ndiwathatha ngokuchanekileyo amayeza am? Ngaba ndenza konke endinokukwenza ukuze ndikwazi ukwenza oku? Imibuzo enjengale yayisoloko ijikeleza engqondweni yam, indenza ndingalali ebusuku. Ingcebiso yam iya kuba kukuzinyanga ngobabalo, ungoyiki ukuhambisa umzimba, kwaye wenze izinto ekufuneka uzikhathalele impilo yakho yengqondo. Into eye yandenza ndagcina iso lam kumvuzo, kwaye ibhaso yayingunyana wam. (Eyeleleneyo: Indlela yakho yokuzilolonga inokukuchaphazela njani ukuchuma kwakho)

Namhlanje, umxholo wam kukuleqa uvuyo. Sisigqibo ekufuneka ndisenze yonke imihla yobomi bam.

UEmily Loftiss

Ukuba nobuso okhubazekileyo obuvela kwiBell's Palsy kwanceda ukubeka izinto ngokukhawuleza kwaye kuyafana nokuba ngumama. Zonke izinto ebendizikhathaza ngazo kwaye bendinexhala ngazo bendiziva zingabalulekanga ngoku. Ngubani okhathalayo ukuba andizange ndibuyele kumzimba wam wangaphambi komntwana? Ngubani okhathalayo ukuba kuye kufuneke ndibeke iinxalenye ezithile zomsebenzi wam? Ubomi bungaphezulu kakhulu kunoko.

Ewe kukho amaxesha apho ubomi bunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu, kwaye kufuneka uhlale neemvakalelo zakho, kodwa kuya kufuneka uzikhuphe kuloo mngxunya umnyama. Okukhona uhlala ixesha elide, kuyakuthatha ixesha elide ukuba uphume. Yiyo loo nto namhlanje, isaci sam sikuleqa uvuyo. Sisigqibo endimele ndisenze yonke imihla yobomi bam. Ungasoloko ufumana into onokumbombozela ngayo okanye unokujonga izinto eziza kukonwabisa. Inokuba yinto encinci njengesmoothie emnandi okanye ukukhanya kwelanga ngaloo mini, kodwa ukukhetha ukonwaba yonke imihla kukutshintsha umdlalo. Nangona ungenakugqiba ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kuwe, unokwenza isigqibo malunga nendlela oza kuhlangabezana ngayo nayo.

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