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Umxholo

• Izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe
• Bagcina “inzuzo yenkundla yasekhaya”
• Basondela ngokukhawuleza okukhulu
• Bayakuvumela uthethe kuqala
• Bajija iinyani
• Bazibandakanya nokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni
• Bazibandakanya nokuxhatshazwa kwabasemagunyeni
• Benza uzive uxolile ngokuvakalisa inkxalabo
• Banciphisa iingxaki zakho kwaye badlala ezabo
• Benza njengomfeli-nkolo
• Basoloko "beqhula nje" xa bethetha into ekrwada okanye enentsingiselo
• Abathathi uxanduva
• Bahlala bekunye
• Basoloko bekugxeka
• Basebenzisa ukungazithembi kwakho nxamnye nawe
• Basebenzisa iimvakalelo zakho nxamnye nawe
• Basebenzisa iihambo zokuziva benetyala okanye iziphelo
• Banoburharha nje
• Bakunika impatho ethe cwaka
• Bathetha okanye benze into baze kamva bayiphike
• Bahlala "bezolile kakhulu," ngakumbi ngamaxesha obunzima
• Bayakushiya ubuza impilo yakho
• Kwenziwe ntoni
• Imbonakalo

Izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe

Abakhohlisi beemvakalelo bahlala besebenzisa imidlalo yengqondo ukubamba amandla kubudlelwane.

Eyona njongo iphambili kukusebenzisa loo mandla ukulawula omnye umntu.

Ubudlelwane obuphilileyo busekwe kukuthembana, ukuqonda, kunye nokuhloniphana. Oku kuyinyani kubudlelwane bobuqu, kunye nobungcali.

Ngamanye amaxesha, abantu bafuna ukuxhaphaza ezi zinto zobudlelwane ukuze bazuze ngendlela ethile.

Iimpawu zokukhohlisa ngokweemvakalelo zinokungabonakali. Zisoloko kunzima ukuzichaza, ngakumbi xa zisenzeka kuwe.

Oko akuthethi ukuba lityala lakho - akukho mntu ufanele ukuqhathwa.

Unokufunda ukuqaphela ubuqhetseba kwaye uyeke. Unokufunda nokukhusela ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuzithemba.

Siza kuphonononga iindlela eziqhelekileyo zokuxhaphaza iimvakalelo, indlela yokuziqonda, kunye nento onokuyenza ngokulandelayo.

Bagcina “inzuzo yenkundla yasekhaya”

Ukuba kwikhaya lakho lasekhaya, nokuba likhaya lakho lokwenyani okanye ivenkile nje oyithandayo yekofu, kunokuba kukuxhobisa.

Ukuba abanye abantu bahlala befuna ukuhlangana kwindawo yabo, banokuzama ukudala ukungalingani kwamandla.

Babanga ubunini belo sithuba, esikushiya ungenzanga nto.

Umzekelo:

• “Yiya eofisini yam xa unakho. Ndixakeke kakhulu ukuba ndingaya kuwe. ”
• “Uyazi ukuba kukude kangakanani ukuqhuba kum. Yiza apha ngobu busuku. ”

Basondela ngokukhawuleza okukhulu

Abakhohlisi beemvakalelo banokutsiba amanyathelo ambalwa kwinqanaba lokwazi ngokwesiko. "Babelana" ngeemfihlo zabo ezimnyama kunye nokuba sesichengeni.

Into abayenzayo ngokwenene, nangona kunjalo, izama ukukwenza uzive ukhethekile ukuze uveze iimfihlo zakho. Bangazisebenzisa ezi mvakalelo ngokuchasene nawe kamva.

Umzekelo:

• “Ndivakalelwa kukuba sidibene nje kwinqanaba elinzulu ngokwenene. Zange khe yenzeke le nto ngaphambili. ”
• "Andikaze ndibenomntu owabelana ngombono wabo nam njengokuba nawe unawo. Senzelwe ukuba sibe kule nto kunye. "

Bayakuvumela uthethe kuqala

Eli licebo elithandwayo nolwalamano oluthile lweshishini, kodwa kunokwenzeka nakwezobuqu, nazo.

Xa umntu omnye efuna ukumisela ulawulo, banokukubuza imibuzo enokubangela ukuba wabelane ngeengcinga zakho kunye nezinto ezikukhathazayo kwangethuba.

Nge-ajenda yabo efihliweyo engqondweni, banokusebenzisa iimpendulo zakho ukwenza izigqibo zakho.

Umzekelo:

• “Gosh, andizange ndeva izinto ezintle ngale nkampani. Athini amava akho? ”
• "Kulungile uzakundichazela ukuba kutheni undiqumbele futhi."

Bajija iinyani

Abakhohlisi ngokweemvakalelo banobuchule ekuguqukeni kwinyani ngobuxoki, imicu, okanye ingxelo engeyiyo ukuze bakudide.

Banokuzibaxa izinto ukuze babonakale ngathi babuthathaka.

Banokuyijongela phantsi indima yabo kungquzulwano ukuze ufumane uvelwano.

Umzekelo:

• "Ndibuze umbuzo malunga neprojekthi weza kum, ekhala ngendlela endingazange ndenze nto ukumnceda ngayo, kodwa uyazi ukuba ndiyayenza, akunjalo?"
• "Ndakhala ubusuku bonke kwaye andizange ndilale ngamehlo."

Bazibandakanya nokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni

Ukuba umntu othile ukugqithisile ngezibalo, i-jargon, okanye iinyani xa ubuza umbuzo, unokufumana uhlobo lokuxhaphaza ngokweemvakalelo.

Abanye abakhohlisi bacinga ukuba yingcali, kwaye banyanzelisa "ulwazi" lwabo kuwe. Oku kuqheleke kakhulu kwiimeko zemali okanye zentengiso.

Umzekelo:

• "Umtsha kule nto, andinakulindela ukuba uyiqonde."
• "Ndiyazi la manani maninzi kuwe, ke ndiza kuphinda ndihambe kwakhona kancinci."

Bazibandakanya nokuxhatshazwa kwabasemagunyeni

Kwimeko yeshishini, abakhohlisi beemvakalelo banokuzama ukukuthwalisa uxwebhu, iphepha elibomvu, iinkqubo, okanye nantoni na enokukuthintela.

Oku kunokwenzeka ngakumbi xa uveza uhlolo okanye ubuza imibuzo ebonisa iimpazamo okanye ubuthathaka babo.

Umzekelo:

• Le nto iya kuba nzima kuwe. Ndiza kuyeka ngoku ndizisindise. "
• "Awunalo nofifi lwentloko ozenzela yona."

Benza uzive uxolile ngokuvakalisa inkxalabo

Ukuba ubuza imibuzo okanye wenze isindululo, umntu ophethe iimvakalelo uya kuphendula ngomsindo okanye azame ukukutsalela kwingxabano.

Esi sicwangciso sibavumela ukuba balawule ukhetho lwakho kunye nefuthe kwizigqibo zakho.

Banokusebenzisa le meko ukukwenza uzive unetyala ngokubonisa inkxalabo yakho kwasekuqaleni.

Umzekelo:

• "Andisiqondi isizathu sokuba ungandithembi nje."
• “Uyazi ukuba ndingumntu nje oxhalabileyo. Andikwazi ukunceda ndifuna ukwazi ukuba uphi ngalo lonke ixesha. "

Banciphisa iingxaki zakho kwaye badlala ezabo

Ukuba unosuku olubi, umphathi weemvakalelo unokuthatha ithuba lokuzisa eyabo imicimbi.

Injongo kukungavisisani nento ohlangabezana nayo ukuze unyanzeleke ukuba ugxile kubo kwaye usebenzise amandla akho eemvakalelo kwiingxaki zabo.

Umzekelo:

• “Ucinga ukuba kubi? Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ujongane necube-mate ethetha emnxebeni ngalo lonke ixesha. "
• “Bulela ukuba unomnakwenu. Ndaziva ndindedwa ubomi bam bonke. ”

Benza njengomfeli-nkolo

Umntu olawula iimvakalelo zabantu unokuvuma ngokuzithandela ukunceda ngento ethile kodwa ajike arhuqe iinyawo zakhe okanye akhangele iindlela zokuphepha isivumelwano sabo.

Banokwenza ngokungathi kugqityiwe ukuba ngumthwalo omkhulu, kwaye baya kufuna ukuxhaphaza iimvakalelo zakho ukuze uphume kuyo.

Umzekelo:

• “Ndiyazi ukuba uyayifuna lento kum. Ininzi le nto, kwaye sele ndidandathekile. ”
• “Inzima le nto kunendlela ebonakala ngayo. Andiqondi ukuba ubuyazi loo nto xa undibuza. ”

Basoloko "beqhula nje" xa bethetha into ekrwada okanye enentsingiselo

Amagqabantshintshi anokuthi afihlwe njengoburharha okanye impoxo. Banokwenza ngathi bathetha into ehlekisayo, xa eyona nto bazama ukuyenza kukutyala imbewu yokuthandabuza.

Umzekelo:

• “Geez, ubonakala udiniwe!”
• "Kulungile ukuba ungavuka kwidesika yakho uhambehamba, ngekhe uphume umphefumlo ngokulula."

Abathathi uxanduva

Abakhohlisi ngokweemvakalelo abanakuze balwamkele uxanduva ngeempazamo zabo.

Baza kuzama ukufumana indlela yokwenza uzive unetyala ngayo yonke into. ukusuka kumlo ukuya kwiprojekthi engaphumelelanga.

Usenokuphela ucele uxolo, nokuba ingoyena uphosakeleyo.

Umzekelo:

• "Ndiyenzile kuphela kuba ndikuthanda kakhulu."
• "Ukuba ubungakhange uye kwinkqubo yamabhaso omntwana wakho, ngewuyigqibile iprojekthi ngendlela eyiyo."

Bahlala bekunye

Xa unemincili, bafumana isizathu sokususa isibuko kuwe. Oku kunokwenzeka nakwimo engeyiyo.

Xa ukhe wehlelwa yintlekele okanye wabuyela umva, umntu ophethe iimvakalelo unokuzama ukwenza ukuba iingxaki zabo zibonakale zisiba mbi okanye zicinezela ngakumbi.

Umzekelo:

• "Unyuso lomvuzo wakho lukhulu, kodwa ukhe wambona omnye umntu enyuselwe ngokupheleleyo?"
• “Ndiyaxolisa ukuba utatomkhulu wakho uphumelele. Ndilahlekelwe bobabini ngootatomkhulu noomakhulu kwiiveki ezimbini, ke ngoko ayonto imbi kangako. ”

Basoloko bekugxeka

Abakhohlisi ngokweemvakalelo banokukugxotha okanye bakuthobe isidima ngaphandle kokuhanahanisa okanye ukuhlekisa. Amagqabantshintshi abo ayilelwe ukukhupha ukuzithemba kwakho.

Benzelwe ukuhlekisa nokukujongela phantsi. Rhoqo, umlawuli ohanahanisayo uqikelela ukungazithembi kwabo.

Umzekelo:

• “Awucingi ukuba loo lokhwe ityhila kancinci kwintlanganiso yabathengi? Ndicinga ukuba yenye yeendlela zokufumana iakhawunti. "
• "Yonke into oyenzayo yitya."

Basebenzisa ukungazithembi kwakho nxamnye nawe

Xa besazi iindawo zakho ezibuthathaka, banokuzisebenzisa ukukwenzakalisa. Banokwenza amagqabantshintshi kwaye bathathe amanyathelo ayenzelwe ukushiya uzive usengozini kwaye ucaphukile.

Umzekelo:

• “Uthe awusoze ufune ukuba abantwana bakho bakhulele kwikhaya eliqhekekileyo. Jonga le nto ubenza yona ngoku. "
• “Abaphulaphuli balukhuni. Ndingaba novalo ukuba bendinguwe. ”

Basebenzisa iimvakalelo zakho nxamnye nawe

Ukuba ucaphukile, umntu okuqhubayo unokuzama ukukwenza uzive unetyala ngeemvakalelo zakho.

Banokukutyhola ngokungabinangqiqo okanye ngokungabinamali ngokwaneleyo.

Umzekelo:

• "Ukuba ubundithanda ngokwenyani, ngekhe undibuze."
• “Andikwazi kuwuthatha loo msebenzi. Bendingafuni ukuba kude nabantwana bam kakhulu. "

Basebenzisa iihambo zokuziva benetyala okanye iziphelo

Ngexesha lokungavisisani okanye ukulwa, umntu oguqukayo uya kwenza ingxelo e-ethe-ethe eyenzelwe ukukubeka kwindawo enzima.

Baza kujolisa kubuthathaka beemvakalelo ngeengxelo ezivuthayo ukuze bafumane uxolo.

Umzekelo:

• "Ukuba uyandishiya, andifanelwanga kuphila."
• "Ukuba awunakuba lapha kule mpelaveki, ndicinga ukuba ibonisa inqanaba lokuzinikela kwakho kule ofisi."

Banoburharha nje

Umntu onolwazelelelo usenokukuphepha ukudibana nabantu. Basebenzisa abantu abakungqongileyo, njengabahlobo, ukunxibelelana nawe endaweni yoko.

Banokuthetha ngasemva kwabo usebenza nabo.

Umzekelo:

• "Ndingathetha ngale nto, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba uxakeke kakhulu."
• "Ndicinge ukuba kungcono ukuba uyive komnye umntu, hayi mna kuba sisondele kakhulu."

Bakunika impatho ethe cwaka

Abaphenduli kwiifowuni zakho, ii-imeyile, imiyalezo ethe ngqo, okanye nayiphi na enye indlela yonxibelelwano.

Basebenzisa ukuthula ukufumana ulawulo kwaye bakwenze uzive unoxanduva lokuziphatha kwabo.

Bathetha okanye benze into baze kamva bayiphike

Obu buchule benzelwe ukuba ubuze kwimemori yakho yeziganeko.

Xa ungasaziva uqinisekile ngento eyenzekileyo, banokukhomba ingxaki kuwe, bakwenze uzive unoxanduva lokungaqondani.

Umzekelo:

• “Khange ndiyithethe loo nto. Ucinga izinto kwakhona. ”
• “Andizukuzibophelela kuloo nto. Uyazi ukuba ndixakeke kakhulu. ”

Bahlala "bezolile kakhulu," ngakumbi ngamaxesha obunzima

Abantu abenza izinto ngokungekho semthethweni bahlala benempendulo ngokuchasene nomntu abamxhaphazayo.

Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi kwiimeko ezihlaselwe ngokweemvakalelo. Yiyo loo nto banokusebenzisa impendulo yakho njengendlela yokwenza uzive ubuthathaka kakhulu.

Emva koko ulinganisa impendulo yakho ngokusekwe kubo, kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuba uphume emgceni.

Umzekelo:

• Ubonile ukuba wonke umntu uzolile. Ucaphuke kakhulu. ”
• "Bendingafuni kuthetha nto, kodwa ubonakale ungaphaya kolawulo."

Bayakushiya ubuza impilo yakho

Ukukhanyisa igesi yindlela esebenzisekayo apho abantu bazama ukukwenza ukholelwe ukuba awusenakuthembela kwimvakalelo yakho okanye kumava akho.

Benza ukuba ukholelwe ukuba izinto ezenzekileyo ziingcinga zakho. Ulahlekelwa yinto yokwenene.

Umzekelo:

• Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ayisebenzi njalo.
• “Khange ndifike emva kwexesha. Ulibele nje ukuba bendisithi ndiza kubakho nini. ”

Kwenziwe ntoni

Kungathatha ixesha ukuqonda ukuba umntu othile uyakuxhaphaza ngokweemvakalelo. Iimpawu zobuqili, kwaye zihlala ziguquka ngokuhamba kwexesha.

Kodwa ukuba ucinga uphathwa ngolu hlobo, zithembele kwithuku.

Cela uxolo ngecala lakho, emva koko uqhubeke. Ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe ufumane uxolo, kodwa akufuneki uhlale kulo. Yeyakho ngokwakho into oyaziyo ukuba uyenzile njengenyaniso, kwaye ungathethi nto ngezinye izityholo.

Sukuzama ukubabetha. Abantu ababini akufuneki badlale lo mdlalo. Endaweni yoko, funda ukuqonda izicwangciso ukuze ulungiselele ngokufanelekileyo iimpendulo zakho.

Beka imida. Xa umntu oxhaphazayo eqonda ukuba baphulukana nolawulo, amaqhinga abo angakhula ngakumbi. Eli lixesha lokuba uthathe izigqibo ezinzima.

Ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba ubekufutshane naloo mntu, cinga ukubasika ebomini bakho ngokupheleleyo.

Ukuba uhlala nabo okanye usebenza kunye ngokusondeleyo, kuyakufuneka ufunde iindlela zolawulo.

Unokukufumanisa kuluncedo ukuthetha nengcali yezonyango okanye umcebisi malunga nendlela yokujongana nale meko.

Unokufumana kwakhona umhlobo othembekileyo okanye ilungu losapho ukuba likuncede uchonge indlela yokuziphatha kunye nokunyanzelisa imida.

Imbonakalo

Akukho mntu ufanele ukufumana omnye umntu abaphathe ngolu hlobo.

Ukunyanzelwa ngokweemvakalelo akunakushiya amanxeba emzimbeni, kodwa kunokuba nefuthe elihlala ixesha elide. Ungaphilisa kule nto, kwaye ungakhula kuyo, nayo.

Umgqirha okanye umcebisi unokukunceda uqaphele iipateni eziyingozi. Banokukunceda ufunde iindlela zokujongana nokuziphatha kwaye unethemba lokukuyeka.

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