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Ukuba ungomnye weebhiliyoni zabasetyhini abenza iipesenti ezingama-50 zabemi behlabathi, mhlawumbi uye wafumana uhlobo oluthile lokuxhatshazwa ebomini bakho bemihla ngemihla. Nokuba uluhlobo luni lomzimba wakho, ubudala, ubuhlanga, okanye into oyinxibileyo––isini sethu sodwa sisenza sibe sesichengeni sokutsalwa, ukujongwa kunye nezimvo ezijoliswe kubafazi esitratweni. U-Erin Bailey, i-Blogger eneminyaka engama-25 ubudala yaseBoston, akanjalo.

UBailey ubizwe kaninzi ngelixa besebenza, kwaye uyadinwa. Ukusuka kwiipaki zikawonkewonke ukuya ekubalekeni ecaleni kwendlela, u-Bailey uchaza amanye amava akhe amabi kunye nabaxhaphazi kwiposti yebhlog yamva nje, kwaye amabali afundeka kakhulu-aqhelene nabanye abafazi.

"Amagophe endinawo ayakhiwa ngeeyure, iinyanga neminyaka endayichitha ndisebenza ejimini," uvula. Unxiba ibhulukhwe encinci ye-Nike xa esebenza kuba "impahla ye-baggy ingena kwindlela yam yokuzilolonga," eqondakalayo isizathu esifanayo sokuba akhethe ukunxiba ibhodi yezemidlalo ngelixa ebaleka. "Zidigri ezingama-85 nge-50% yokufuma kwaye ndiqeqeshela isiqingatha semarathon kwaye ke i-7-10 yeemayile kobo bushushu ngamanqanaba acace gca," utshilo. Besikhona sonke.

Nangona iimpahla azinxibayo zingafanelekanga, uBaley ukhetha ukuveza ezo nkcukacha ngaphambi kokuchaza ngamanye amaxesha ukuba wayehlukunyezwa ezitalatweni.

"Ndaya kwipaki yendawo ... ukuze ndiqhubele kwinkampu yangaphandle ye-boot camp ndandivavanya ngeveki ezayo yeeklasi endizifundisayo," ubhala. "Kwakukho umfana oza kum eze phesheya kwepaki kwaye aqala ukuthetha nam ukusuka kwiinyawo ezimbalwa. Ndikhuphe ii-headphone zam ndicinga ukuba undibuza into, endaweni yoko iindlebe zam zazizele zizinto ezingcolileyo" awayefuna ukuzenza. mna".

Kwesinye isiganeko, ukhumbula umgcini wegaraji yokupaka embiza emva kokuba emncumele engenabungozi ngelixa ebaleka. Ngesinye isihlandlo, indoda ethile yazama ukumlandela ezantsi esitalatweni emva kokuba eyivulele ucango kwindawo ye-7/11 yasekuhlaleni, apho wayeye kuthenga i-ice cream.

Ukubalisa ngeziganeko ezininzi apho athe wenziwa ixhoba kwaye wajongelwa phantsi ngabantu angabaziyo-kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, ephuma nabahlobo bakhe, okanye ehamba nje esitratweni-uBailey ubeka umbuzo obalulekileyo kubafazi angoogxa bakhe: yintoni esiyifunayo? Emva koko uphendula athi:

"Kusifanele ukuba singaziva sivale umlomo sisikhalo sakho. Sifanele ukuziva sinamandla okuziphucula. Sifanele ukuziva sinomtsalane eluswini lwethu ngaphandle kokuziva ngathi silapha ukuze sikuthiye. Sifanele ukugwetywa ngokweemfanelo zethu, hayi indlela esiziva ngayo. Isinxibo sethu. Sifanelwe ngaphezulu. Okungaphezulu kakhulu."

I-Harassment yasesitalatweni ikhona ngaphandle kwempahla yamaxhoba okanye inkangeleko yabo––kwaye akukho mntu uyifaneleyo, ixesha. Isithuba sikaBailey sithetha kubo bonke abantu basetyhini abajongana nokuziphatha gwenxa mihla le, abachaswayo ngalo lonke ixesha bebanjwa. Ndiyabulela kuBailey, amawaka abantu abagqabaza sele bephefumlelwe ukuba baxelele amabali abo, kwaye impendulo ixhasa kakhulu.

Funda yonke iposti yebhlog ethi "Sifanelwe yintoni" kwiwebhusayithi yakhe, kwaye ujonge i-Hollaback! Ingcebiso ngokulwa ukuphathwa gadalala ezitalatweni.

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