Ingelosi eyayisakuba yiVictoria eyimfihlo u-Erin Heatherton ngoyena mntu useMzimbeni uQinisekileyo esiMaziyo

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Mhlawumbi uyabazi ubuso bemodeli u-Erin Heatherton ovela kwiVictoria's Secret runway okanye kwiibhodi ezinkulu ezingaphezulu kobomi kumthengisi weempahla zangaphantsi. Ngo-2013, emva kokusebenza ngophawu malunga neminyaka emithandathu, bohlukana ngeendlela. Emva koko kudliwanondlebe luka-2016 kunye ne-TIME, waxoxa ngesinye sezizathu zokuba: uxinzelelo lokwehlisa ubunzima kwaye ajongeke ugqibelele kumgaqo weenqwelo-moya wawuwohloka umfanekiso wakhe womzimba, umshiya “edandathekile” kwaye ezibuza ngesiqu sakhe. (Ungomnye weeselebs ezininzi ezivulekileyo malunga nokuba ukunciphisa umzimba akuzange kubenze bonwabe.)

Sibambe uHeatherton kumdlalo we-NFL wakutshanje (ungumdlali opheleleyo wezemidlalo), kwaye ugxininisa ukuba yayingeyi-VS okanye amava akhe ngophawu olushiye incasa emuncu emlonyeni wakhe; yayiyimpixano yakhe yangaphakathi nomfanekiso ogqibeleleyo awayewubeka phaya.

Uphuma, ethatha ikhondo lomsebenzi wakhe kwicala elitsha (kubandakanya ukuphinda uqokelele ingqokelela yeengubo zeNFL yaBasetyhini, ukuvela kuyo UManyano kwaye Abantu abadala 2) uye wamnceda ukuba aphinde acacelwe ukuba ungubani kanye kanye nokuba luhlobo luni lomzekelo afuna ukuwumisela kumabhinqa namantombazana.

Isiphumo: Unobulumko obuninzi bokwabelana malunga nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuthanda umzimba wakho. Funda ngezantsi, kwaye uzilungiselele zonke #bodylove uziva.

1. "Ndicinga ukuba amantombazana analo mbono wokuba ukufezeka kuya kwenza ubomi babo buphelele, kwaye bubuxoki obupheleleyo. Ngenxa yokuba ndikhona, kwaye akuzange kundivuyise."

UHeatherton uyavuma: uneqela lonke labalandeli kwaye akasiqondi ngokupheleleyo isizathu. Kodwa ekubeni enabaphulaphuli, uza kubaxelela kanye oko afuna bakuve—nokuba yintoni na yena kufuneka ukuva: "[Ukubonakala uphelele] akongezi kumandla akho. Ndikuxelela ngenxa yokuba ndiyazi. Yiba nempilo, kodwa ube ngumntu, "utsho. "Isazisi sam sikukuba ndiyakuthanda ukwahluka. Andifuni ukufana nabanye abantu. Iyadika ke loo nto ... ungumnini weeyantlukwano zakho, yiba yinto yakho." (Inyathelo elinye kwicala elilungileyo: iimodeli ziyaphuma ziye kwi-runway nge-acne.)

2. "Ukuzithemba kwam kusekelwe ekuzihloneleni. Ndiyawuhlonipha umzimba wam kwaye akukho namnye umntu oza kuwuthatha kum."

UHeatherton wakhula eyintombazana epheleleyo yezemidlalo: ukudlala ibhola ekhatywayo, ukuqubha, umkhondo kunye nebhasikithi. Akayikhathaleli impumelelo yakhe kukutya okuphambeneyo okanye ithamsanqa elimsulwa; uyayincoma ekwakheni isimo sengqondo somdlali weqela kunye nomlinganiswa ohloniphekileyo ngemidlalo. “Ibhola yebhola ekhatywayo ifana nokuba usesetini,” utshilo. Into ekufuneka uyiphumelele nokuba kukokunye: uqeqesho, ukusebenza nzima, ukujonga iinjongo kunye nokusebenzisana. (Kwaye yena yenza sebenza nzima ukuze uhlale umile: jonga nje ukutya kwakhe kunye neengcebiso zokuqina komzimba.)

Ungayichazanga le nto, uHeatherton uthi waqala waba nomdla wokutya okunempilo kunye nokukhathalela umzimba wakhe njengendlela yokunyusa intsebenzo-hayi eyamampunge. Oku kwamnika isiseko esiluqilima apho angazijonga khona-njengembaleki. "Uthando lwam ngomzimba wam luqale ngezemidlalo kunye nokusebenza kwaye ndibone nje izinto ezintle endinokuzifeza," utshilo. "Kwaye ndiza kuhamba irekhodi ndisithi ilizwe lezemidlalo liyazi kakhulu malunga nempilo kunye nomzimba kwaye kufuneka sijongwe njani kunaye nawuphi na umntu."

3. "Ndiayikhathali nokuba injani na yonke into ibukeka igqibelele ... ayitshintshi ubuwena, ixabiso lakho, okanye ubuhle bakho bokwenene, obuvela ngaphakathi. "

U-Heatherton uphelele #realtalk xa kuziwa kwinto efana nokubukeka kakuhle ebomini: "Ndibeka onke amandla am kunye nexesha lam kule nto inye, ekhangeleka ishushu. Kwaye ngexesha elithile, ndicinga ukuba: ndingazalisa ingqondo yam kwaye ixesha lam nezinye izinto ezininzi ezinokundenza ndifane nabantu endibathandayo, utshilo.

"Eli nqanaba lokugqibelela ndiziva liyingozi. Alongezi kwimpawu yakho, ayongezi kwiimpawu endizithandayo kwabanye abantu," utshilo. "Kufuneka sikhathalele impilo yethu, sisebenze nzima, kwaye sicele umngeni ngokwethu, kodwa ungayenzi yonke isazisi sakho kwaye ungancami ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nengqibelelo ngenxa yoko."

4. "Into abantu abakuxelela yona ayisiyiyo le uyicingayo ngawe."

Njengemodeli ezininzi, bekukho amaxesha kwikhondo likaHeatherton xa umntu efuna ukuba abonakale ngokwahlukileyo: "Kunzima kakhulu xa kusenzeka kuwe kunokuba uve amabali abanye abantu kule meko ... bekukho ifolokhwe endleleni: izakundidiliza, okanye izakundipolisha? "

Kodwa uHeatherton uthe waqonda ukuba olu ngquzulwano lwangaphakathi ayisiyonto yena okanye abantu abakushishino lwakhe abajongana nayo-yinto efunyanwa ngabo bonke abafazi kunye namantombazana. "Umzi mveliso wam upapashwa ngokubanzi kwaye ujongwa ngabasetyhini abaninzi abancinci, ndikhusela ngokwenene amantombazana amancinci kuba ndijonga ngendlela ethile ngoluhlobo, zange ibekho kwi-radar yam ... eli nqanaba lokugqibelela ndiziva liyingozi." (Kwaye ayinguye yedwa owala imfezeko: jonga nje iphulo likaGigi Hadid #PerfectNever kunye noReebok.)

5. "ULziqwalasele kwaye uthi, 'Umhle kakhulu.' Akukho mntu unokuyithatha loo nto kuwe.

Nangona uthando lomzimba kaHeatherton lwaqala ngemidlalo, njengomntu omdala konke malunga nokuba namandla kunye nolonwabo: "Ndicinga ukuba iimpazamo zam zihle. Ziyandihlekisa. Sizibiza ngokuba ziziphene, kodwa ndiyakuthanda ukuba ndim. Ndiyathanda ukwazi ukuba ndiya kuhlala ndamkele,” utsho. "Ewe, ndinokuphucula, kodwa andizange ndilahlekelwe luthando nentlonelo ngam." Uyaluva uthando okwangoku?

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